| of it, but because his defense against being hurt is to be arrogant, rejecting, superior, and fearful | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| in the open. This does not mean more hurt, but less, my friends. When you appease or | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| you will discover and become aware of being hurt, of feeling rejected. Your shame and fear of | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| of aggressiveness. Once you become aware of the hurt, which is a more genuine element, it is | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| to cope with your feelings, and soon the hurt will dissolve and make room for even more | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| yourself whether it is not a distortion of hurt. Then own up to the hurt. This way | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| distortion of hurt. Then own up to the hurt. This way you may find the answer much | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| be the same. For instance, a truth may hurt, at least temporarily. To a spiritually developed person | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| aspect of a whole person. When you feel hurt or angry about one or both parents, do | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| as one who is invulnerable and cannot be hurt, just because he or she hurt your vulnerability | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| cannot be hurt, just because he or she hurt your vulnerability? This phantom creates havoc in your | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| being. You cannot understand those traits that have hurt and affected you unless you see the wholeness | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| person. The understanding will dissolve the still hidden hurt and anger, setting you free, and unclogging the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| bad in your eyes, then the slight and hurt he or she has inflicted on you becomes | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| therefore let go of your insistence that the hurt inflicted on you was unjust in the extreme | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| you may have to become aware that a hurt exists. What if the parents are no longer | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| experience your parents, and how you have been hurt, although on the surface you may have a | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| it was never you who was rejected. The hurt inflicted upon you, due to their blindness, irresponsibility | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| irresponsibility, and undiscovered powerful currents of frustration and hurt, had absolutely nothing to do with you, but | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| difference, in the last analysis, because if you hurt someone else, you must eventually hurt yourself. And | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| if you hurt someone else, you must eventually hurt yourself. And if you hurt yourself, you must | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| you must eventually hurt yourself. And if you hurt yourself, you must eventually hurt someone else. This | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| And if you hurt yourself, you must eventually hurt someone else. This is so because this current | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| from living, it is a defense against being hurt. Only after considerable insight into yourself will you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| that part of their human nature, and thus hurt them. By the aggressive solution, you push people | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| aggressive solution, you push people away and openly hurt them with false superiority. In all instances, you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| them with false superiority. In all instances, you hurt others and thus inflict further hurt upon yourself | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| instances, you hurt others and thus inflict further hurt upon yourself. The hurt you inflict cannot help | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| and thus inflict further hurt upon yourself. The hurt you inflict cannot help but bring consequences, and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| of that is bound to bring you pain, hurt, frustration, unfulfillment. You chose a way out of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to love, and live in fear of being hurt, if you do not wish to take the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| are self-alienated and perfectionistic, you cannot help but hurt others. When the pretense of your idealized self | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you and for your surroundings. Whenever you are hurt, you erroneously believe yourself to be under attack | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| to your safety. Thus you immediately repress the hurt -- your primary reaction -- and you substitute | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| say, you are no longer in truth. The hurt you experienced, unpleasant as it may have been | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| elaborate defenses, infinitely more damaging than the original hurt could ever be. Also you are no longer | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| you are no longer aware of the original hurt, but only of the secondary reaction -- the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| its permanent existence. You not only defend against hurt as a supposed mortal danger, but also against | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| permanently defensive because you believe, erroneously, that any hurt or frustration, any criticism or rejection is a | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| institute the very patterns which cause others to hurt and frustrate you again and again because you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| against an unreal danger. Such dangers are emotional hurt, rejection, frustration of your will, and criticism. When | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| Are you really endangered or threatened because of hurt, frustration, or criticism? You, yourself, will have to | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| which you believe might bring rejection, frustration, and hurt. At that moment, it becomes more important for | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| fear and dislike others. So does the erroneous hurt you suffer when something is brought out which | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| lie. The original feeling is often one of hurt. If you owned up to the original feeling | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| to inferiority, you feel humiliated when you are hurt because you give someone else the power to | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| because you give someone else the power to hurt you. Therefore, you substitute anger for the original | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| you find yourself in -- that of being hurt. In pride, you lie about your real feeling | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| while owning up to your feelings does not. Hurt, free from anger, cannot negatively affect others: therefore | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| self. If the primary emotion -- pain or hurt -- is no longer conscious, or if it | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| no difference. When you admit that you feel hurt, you do not cut off the bridge to | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| can you penetrate deeper and find the underlying hurt or pain. I might also add that many | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| Whoever reaches out takes the risk of being hurt and accepts this risk as worth while. When | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| I have discussed. In your fear of being hurt, you defend yourself by becoming lazy and indifferent | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| is not only due to fear of suffering, hurt, and disappointment. The three aspects to be considered | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| refusal to comply with a demand cannot really hurt another, provided you love. Therefore to disagree or | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| you observe your oversensitivity and see how easily hurt you are, and how you give in to | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| pamper yourself by the very strong reaction of hurt you produce, then you have an indication of | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| you produce, almost artificially, an overreaction of despair, hurt, self-abasement, or a feeling of injustice. You forget | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| I mean the attitude of discovering your disproportionate hurt at any suggestion of certain negative trends, and | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| You are ignorant of how you may have hurt others with it, belittling them, shoving them aside | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| conscience, but because you actually experience the other's hurt, bewilderment, unfulfillment, belittling. And this increased awareness comes | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| an oversensitivity. It is a reaction of being hurt due to the hurt one has unconsciously inflicted | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| a reaction of being hurt due to the hurt one has unconsciously inflicted upon others. Ruthless indifference | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| further insight. If this advice is followed, the hurt will diminish, while a genuine regret will remain | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| that people often build a defense against being hurt. But now we go a step further and | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| a step further and learn to observe that hurt as such can be a defense. You artificially | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| yourself against insight and change by being so hurt. Only after such discoveries can you learn why | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| what you withhold from others can also cause hurt! And now to the part of your question | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| may not only exist due to fear of hurt and disappointment, but also due to the fear | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| short, everything in you that belongs to the hurt child in you. Why do people resist becoming | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| differently, the resistance is a defense against exposure, hurt, and vulnerability. It is of the utmost importance | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| self-finding only in those areas that do not hurt, that do not create anxiety in me? If | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| may be manifold: hostility, humiliation, pride and shame, hurt, arrogance, self-importance, self-pity, insistence on unreasonable demands, and | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| parents, you elaborately build a defense against this hurt, trying later to correct it. You have found | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| it to be true that this actual childhood hurt need not burden you for life, but your | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| of humiliating helplessness. She erroneously feels that being hurt and being helpless against it is femininity and | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| unresolved problems. This applies not only to inflicted hurt, but equally to pleasurable overindulgence. It too will | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| inability to repeat what one once had causes hurt, anger and hostility. The insistence on having the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| condition, what it experiences. If the child is hurt, it may suffer from it, rebel against it | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| as unaware of the damage as of a hurt. PARTICIPANT: If a girl loves her father very | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| person is sick, he will be disappointed and hurt when the love is not forthcoming. At the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| hate is due not only to rejection and hurt, but equally to what seems forbidden love. In | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| perpetual starvation you expose yourself to. Any unfulfillment, hurt, rejection or disappointment causes an infinitely deeper suffering | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| insecure. Every little slight, or apparent slight, will hurt much more than if you were aware of | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| fulfillment occur. However, unfulfillment of needs does not hurt half as much as believing, consciously or unconsciously | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| accept a no without becoming an angry or hurt child within yourself, then your independence and self- | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| causes deep shame. Whether you are frightened or hurt, your sense of being isolated with a guilty | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| you because they rightly feel you may be hurt and may not wish to accept what they | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| in the false assumption that disappointment will then hurt less. Apart from the fact that this is | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| hostility? ANSWER: Yes. It is hostility, it is hurt, and it is at times a kind of | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| to love lies a non-love born of fear, hurt, and illusion, then in the way of finding | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| and evil becomes quite clear. Children who feel hurt, rejected, and helplessly exposed to pain and deprivation | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| level, to be so indifferent. The desire to hurt others may exist merely as an emotion, without | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| slightly, that at the moment when you were hurt a specific process took place. The erotic, or | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| principle, was put in the service of your hurt, your suffering, your pain. All the emotions arising | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| pain. All the emotions arising from this original hurt, according to character and temperament, also combine with | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| transform. For it is a misapplied and misunderstood hurt that has created this condition. Cruelty without the | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| will be no anxiety, no befuddlement, no bitter hurt. All this can be avoided only with the | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| a tender and soft center. When children are hurt and puzzled -- when they misunderstand the events | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| interpret events which seem to call for the hurt and defenses -- and as long as you | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| Let us consider together whether or not the hurt is justified. Is it really the way you | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| question the reality of your experiencing slight and hurt, you have a firm foundation from which to | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| all their psychological consequences of misunderstanding, misjudgment, and hurt, which, in turn, create further negativity. Let us | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| Whenever I come to see the pain and hurt in another person, I immediately bring out the | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| presents itself that you are more vulnerable to hurt when you love. And yet, when you say | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| contains a much greater terror than any live hurt, pain, or unhappiness ever could. You see, my | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| as pretended fulfillment or a denied unfulfillment. Anger, hurt, suffering may all be dramatized and clung to | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| feelings do exist, real anger, real fear, real hurt. But they never rob the person of peace | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| is not so with false emotions. A real hurt mellows and makes a wiser person; it makes | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| grow and expand your horizons. A false, dramatized hurt can never accomplish this. Any superfluous emotion always | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| two fundamental defensive reactions: either the desire to hurt or the sense of being hurt which are | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| desire to hurt or the sense of being hurt which are inevitable byproducts of the contact. Since | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| the pleasure becomes negative. Since contact appears to hurt, pleasure manifests either in hurting or in being | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| pleasure manifests either in hurting or in being hurt, to a greater or lesser degree. The connection | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| a greater or lesser degree. The connection between hurt and pleasure engenders a vicious circle. The more | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| personality. Negative contact manifesting in the desire to hurt expresses itself in quarrelsomeness, hostility, aggression. On the | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| is sadistic. Negative contact that manifests in being hurt, expresses itself in a tendency to be taken | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| not reciprocate in kind, who will reject and hurt and take advantage. These may indeed be valid | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| -- and still is -- the wish to hurt. It is a response, an automatic reflex reaction | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| more you will genuinely lose the urge to hurt. It must be that way, because this is | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you diminish the force of the impulse to hurt. You understand that such impulses are conditioned reflexes | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| an apparent freedom from cruelty, the wish to hurt, violence or vindictiveness, and the genuine freedom from | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| benign circle. When you no longer wish to hurt, you will no longer take for granted that | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fear of others with the secret wish to hurt, the less this wish will exist. Do you | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| friends who asked the previous questions wish to hurt the female sex out of anger, frustration and | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this urge. Thus sexuality and the wish to hurt have temporarily melded into one stream. In your | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| if I have pleasure, or if I am hurt or disappointed. These are illusory fears. I do | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| other emotions you had denied -- perhaps rage, hurt, sadness. When these emotions are fully experienced in | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| hundredfold. You need to look at everything that hurt and upset you in the past, as far | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| depressed or anxious or hopeless or angry or hurt or fatigued, you are content to call a | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| Let us say, for example, that you feel hurt. In many instances, you completely deny the hurt | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| hurt. In many instances, you completely deny the hurt, even to yourself. You often manipulate it into | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| using distorted facts about the perpetrator of the hurt. But this can be at best only a | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| reality behind the elaborate, reasonable-sounding explanations. The denied hurt turns into anger, which is also denied. You | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| theorizing make it impossible to really experience the hurt. And when you deny an actual experience, you | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| on top of this structure a false, exaggerated hurt -- the game of, See what you have | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| See what you have done to me? My hurt now will force you to act differently. This | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| to act differently. This kind of artificially exaggerated hurt results from all the false layers that separate | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| layers that separate your consciousness from the original hurt. The false hurt creates an unbearable pain that | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| your consciousness from the original hurt. The false hurt creates an unbearable pain that leads to desperation | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| and never to a satisfactory conclusion. The real hurt is a gentle, soft experience, never unbearable, always | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| If you can let yourself feel such a hurt, simply and without adornment, stating the fact and | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| true identity. If you can endure your real hurt and let it be -- even if you | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| honestly register and endure your feelings. The gentle hurt first appears more difficult to bear than the | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| saying no to the real, much more gentle hurt. No destructiveness will arise when the soft and | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| will arise when the soft and gentle original hurt is accepted. Out of it soft and gentle | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| so that no one, including yourself, will be hurt by the effect -- all the while knowing | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| distress a human being can experience is not hurt -- it is lack of feeling, inner deadness | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| produces inner fight and self-division. When you fear hurt, disappointment, frustration, you fear experience per se. If | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| with your feelings. Perhaps you fear rejection, ridicule, hurt, but whatever your fears may be, you must | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| your sense of wasting yourself and life, your hurt and your pain, are all direct effects of | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| will to be hating, unforgiving, punishing, resentful, and hurt. You will become aware of your attempt to | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| commit myself to seeing it, regardless of the hurt to my vanity. I want to be aware | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| such, unnecessary. In this sensitive state, everything must hurt and penetrate you. If you do not repeatedly | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| experience, and thus increase the accumulated pain and hurt. More of this reexperiencing must still be done | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| you delude yourself that avoiding the feelings will hurt you less than exposing them. There are many | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| are afraid of pain, loneliness, or of a hurt to your pride or a rejection, or frustration | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| one substitutes for those who caused the original hurt in childhood: You must now give me all | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| your strong reaction to an unfulfillment, to a hurt, a criticism, or a frustration. It is then | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| is an unreal need to assume that being hurt will harm you. It only harms you when | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| from the pain of a real unfulfillment, a hurt or a deprivation. The moment these difficulties are | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| are: fear of the unknown, fear of being hurt and humiliated, fear of and refusal to experience | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| not only unloving, but you actually deprive or hurt others. This may not take place on the | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| of their own defenses, they will experience the hurt because they are aware. They will experience it | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| leave them unscathed. It will be a momentary hurt, and it will not add to the repressed | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| the thought, I do not want to be hurt -- whether this hurt is actual or imagined | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| not want to be hurt -- whether this hurt is actual or imagined. The resistance may be | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| to self-will that says, I must not be hurt; to pride that says, I will never admit | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| I will never admit that I can be hurt; or to fear that says, If I am | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| or to fear that says, If I am hurt I must perish. The resistance expresses distrust of | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| resistance expresses distrust of the universe. In reality, hurt must pass, for it is no more an | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| stronger you are. The more you admit your hurt, the more dignity you have, regardless of the | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| are never healthy reactions. Though feeling anger and hurt can be justified, as long as you do | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| work against you in a way that will hurt and deprive you, for you are driving a | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| those of commission. Have you not been deeply hurt by what was missing in your life as | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| imitation and perpetuation of the very attitude that hurt you most. If you are crushed by the | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| hurting others, just as these attitudes must inevitably hurt you. For there is no conceivable difference between | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| aware of your negativity, only dimly sensing the hurt that it inflicts on others, you are caught | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| not give it up. Others are out to hurt, to victimize, to exploit you. If you open | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| But I do not allow you to feel hurt, because although I want to hurt you, I | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| to feel hurt, because although I want to hurt you, I do not want to be made | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| to be made to feel guilty by your hurt. Just imagine how this would set you free | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| not having your way, the pain of being hurt a little, the pain of having to give | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| without hurting them, because the hidden motive to hurt others so pervades your energies and affects your | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| constructive way, and still the other person is hurt -- maybe because he or she insists on | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| frustrated. But if you can deal with the hurt that arises in you from this reaction, you | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| you speak the truth because you need to hurt but do not wish to admit it, the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| show up in a sexual inclination to be hurt, humiliated, or rejected. There are innumerable possibilities and | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| know the consequences of your negativity, of the hurt you inflict on yourself and others. You do | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| you fight against their imperfections and immaturities that hurt you, it is only because you do not | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| them in a framework where no one gets hurt by these expressions. But you feel stumped because | 214 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS |
| to be perfect and never do things to hurt you. The purpose of your illusion itself is | 215 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS CONTINUED -- PROCESS IN THE NOW |
| not know does not exist and will not hurt you. You deny that you miss out on | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| others do wrong by you. You may be hurt or angry, but in an entirely different way | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| not to say that you would not be hurt by hostile judgments, unfairness and the intent to | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| a world of difference between the kind of hurt that can never shake your foundation and the | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| that can never shake your foundation and the hurt that does shake your foundation. If you operate | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| how you are judged and how it may hurt you, you experience the unshakable truth of your | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| words cannot convey the enormous difference between the hurt of being misjudged when you do not lose | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| not lose your being from it and the hurt that destroys you -- or the difference between | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| your expressions and your attitudes are. They can hurt, they can influence, they can harm -- or | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| will not love, love is dangerous, it will hurt me. It is another word of untruth that | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| rather than with the attitude of being rejected, hurt and misjudged. When you listen for the truth | 239 CHRISTMAS LECTURE 1975 |
| of being very aware of how my judgments hurt me and poison my life. Yet I can't | 239 CHRISTMAS LECTURE 1975 |
| This must include the willingness to be temporarily hurt, rejected, or put at a disadvantage. It must | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| the tools of cruelty and the intent to hurt. Disconnection from deeper reality will blind you to | 248 THREE PRINCIPLES OF THE FORCES OF EVIL -- PERSONIFICATION OF EVIL |
| when someone wounds you, hates you, wishes to hurt you. The confusion of not quite understanding what | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| be classified as pain of being wounded and hurt. There is more to it than that. It | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| the obvious fear of being less protected from hurt and disappointment without the secrets. This fear is | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| development does not really know that it is hurt or lonely, that it needs more love, attention | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| a new connotation that will free you of hurt and shame, as well as the need to | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| shame, as well as the need to put hurt and shame on others. Yes, my friends, this | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |