| Hurtful.....................14 | |
| that at first will seem entirely unjust and hurtful to you. You may also, for that matter | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| imperfect at this stage and the guilt of hurtful self-will. Being imperfect should not in itself make | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| honest with oneself, one can detect that little hurtful truths come from a personal fault or weakness | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| set up to prevent constant heavy impacts causing hurtful dents on the soul-substance, which are experienced as | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| anger away by theorizing about what caused the hurtful action. All the explanations and theorizing make it | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| stop denying your feelings by agitatedly fitting the hurtful event into fixed images and theories. Let it | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| determined to experience the fear of deep, painful, hurtful, frightening feelings in you. I have often said | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| to what is most difficult and contorting and hurtful for your soul is senseless, because one day | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| indirectly. The hurts of omission are no less hurtful than those of commission. Have you not been | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| and your negative intentionality, it may indeed be hurtful for your pride, but truly for nothing else | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| stopped, you feel dead. When the movement is hurtful, raw, edgy or pointed, you feel anxious, upset | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| of sharp, cutting edges which are pointed and hurtful. Both wanting and not wanting can be harmonious | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| the individual's self-honesty and goodwill to abandon dishonest, hurtful, and destructive patterns. If you are hampered, inhibited | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| have done and still do -- then a hurtful imbalance comes about. This is why your path | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| Hurting.....................10 | |
| there is a dislike. Always both parties are hurting. If you can be honest and detached from | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| therefore destructive? Can you indulge in it without hurting others? And does the reality principle stand for | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| objections, they will come out in a very hurting way. Your refusal to comply with a demand | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| with subsequent action -- it will relieve a hurting heart, heal a festering sore. Beware of undertaking | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| contact appears to hurt, pleasure manifests either in hurting or in being hurt, to a greater or | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| your cruelty, your need to derive pleasure from hurting others, you may reverse it and direct it | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| of your personality or the motives for the hurting act. There is thus no longer any reality | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| an overt act, has the dire consequences of hurting and depriving not only yourself, but also others | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| of negative intentionality, you cannot help depriving and hurting others, just as these attitudes must inevitably hurt | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| able to tell the truth to others without hurting them, because the hidden motive to hurt others | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| Hurts.......................109 | |
| may say so, is to give financially. It hurts least and it means the smallest sacrifice. Everyone | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| is a means of protection. The other person hurts back and a vicious circle is set in | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| much? Am I afraid of all the little hurts and disadvantages? A searching inquiry is not being | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| no cause for disharmony. All misunderstandings and all hurts are merely imaginary, my friends. They are the | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| pool and finally are responsible for all the hurts of this world, for crime and injustice and | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| actions and reactions will protect you against the hurts of life. Now how can you find your | 38 IMAGES |
| way to begin is by thinking about your hurts, conflicts, and problems. Regard your wrong inner attitudes | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| is important. Only after having tasted voluntarily the hurts connected with desire will you be able to | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| organic growth that spiritual development always is, the hurts will become less, not because you fear and | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| if and when you are completely fearless of hurts and disappointments is the time ripe, my dear | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| in your soul that bring you more needless hurts than would befall you without your imagined defenses | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| several times. The image has formed that fire hurts, the conclusion made that all fire hurts. Another | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| fire hurts, the conclusion made that all fire hurts. Another dog may experience fire only as something | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| them, perhaps, as an imagined defense against the hurts of life, against the fact that his wishes | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| into your surroundings regardless of your own possible hurts, then the motive is pure and you will | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| make you feel guilty. But the guilt for hurts you inflict on others -- no matter how | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| I must clearly see the direct or indirect hurts my attitude has inflicted upon others. Then, think | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| has inflicted upon others. Then, think about the hurts you inflicted on other people. Ask God to | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| three possible wrong reactions as you recognize the hurts you have inflicted on others: hopelessness about yourself | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| the courage to be truly sorry for the hurts you have unwittingly inflicted on others, if you | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| always determined first and foremost by whether it hurts others. There may be situations in your life | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| the blindness of others. The blindness of others hurts you, and in your own blindness you are | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| cannot be attained by escaping life and its hurts, as some people want to believe, by misinterpreting | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| ideas. Quite the contrary. Only by facing life's hurts in the right spirit, by not being so | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| through it. As long as you fear the hurts, you do not become detached from them. Because | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| aspects. If you are so much afraid of hurts that you force strict measures on yourself to | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| order to protect a higher cause or prevent hurts? ANSWER: My answer cannot and must not be | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| is you yourself who inflict difficulties, conflicts and hurts on you, no matter how much the other | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| you. And it is actually the injustice that hurts you more than the disappointment in a particular | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| me, my friends, whenever you experience something that hurts and that you do not understand, whenever you | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| can collect unhappy incidents, injustices, injuries, wrongs, and hurts. Once you recognize how you have provoked all | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| them. On the other hand, when someone displeases, hurts or disappoints you -- or you believe so | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| or her negative side due to your own hurts and resentments. In its own fashion, this kind | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| take a common and simple example. If someone hurts you, what he or she said and did | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you come to understand others. Understanding eliminates the hurts because it brings you into truth, or reality | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| God. 73. COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS Greetings, my dearest friends. God bless all of | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Now, how can you manage to reexperience the hurts of so long ago? There is only one | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| that this pain is present and that it hurts infinitely more as long as they have not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the reality of your imperfect self, the resulting hurts will no longer be so serious and tragic | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| yourself. You concentrate on all sorts of other hurts which are only a subterfuge or cover for | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a subterfuge or cover for that which really hurts you. Because of your ignorance of what really | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you. Because of your ignorance of what really hurts, you are also unable to find your own | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| key. Thus you superimpose and artificially exaggerate other hurts. As your work progresses, you sometimes see it | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it. At other times, you feel the superimposed hurts are sufficient reasons to maintain your resentment. In | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| needing it so much that the non-fulfillment really hurts. COMMENT: May I add something here? I think | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| that starve these needs even more. Since this hurts, you will produce a defense against such hurts | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| hurts, you will produce a defense against such hurts which will prevent the fulfillment you crave even | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| how an image comes into existence. The childhood hurts and frustrations, which every child experiences at least | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| the less is it possible to avoid the hurts that you have unconsciously labored so hard to | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| But you go on repressing your needs, your hurts, and your disappointments. Perhaps you experience them to | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| almost never with the understanding of what really hurts you and why. The repeated pattern not only | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| is a defense, not so much against outer hurts, but against your own submissiveness. You find yourself | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| them what they were, what were their own hurts, fears, and frustrations? Understand them as one mature | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| By trying to understand their problems, your own hurts are bound to diminish. First, however, you may | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| think that the weak person is harmless and hurts others less than the outright domineering and aggressive | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| Whenever you feel frustrated and the anger personally hurts, it always hides something that you have not | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| do not wish to face -- be they hurts, resentments, envies, or wrongs committed by you or | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| and this must be made conscious. Repeated unfulfillment hurts so much more than it needs to because | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| unconsciously inflicted upon others. Ruthless indifference to inflicted hurts is not as different from deep suffering about | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| that, I have committed these sins, but it hurts me too much to face it. Such an | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| little if the attitudes that have involuntarily inflicted hurts are not changed. And don't forget that what | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| not looking at the debris of your past hurts and their subsequent destructive tendencies, you accumulate them | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| barricade serves as a supposed defense against the hurts of life. This is too general. One hidden | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| of touching the afflicted areas where the past hurts are. Because the psychic forces have tended toward | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| to shed attitudes that supposedly protect one from hurts; and, third, insistence on remaining a child because | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| interesting, speculation. Do not ever forget the childhood hurts that you have not yet come to terms | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| in destructive patterns, inner fear, and insecurity. These hurts cause you to struggle in the wrong direction | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| experience of comprehension of all your outer problems, hurts, unfulfillments, frustrations as a result of your inner | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| and deviations come, as you know, from childhood hurts and frustrations -- real or imaginary. When you | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| hostility -- the result of an accumulation of hurts which he cannot cope with. So he often | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| for creating psychic conditions damaging to your self-unfoldment. Hurts and frustrations in childhood have been recognized as | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| many problematic conditions in the child's psyche as hurts and frustrations do. If parents are not sufficiently | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| pseudo-love enjoyed in childhood, is connected with the hurts and frustrations suffered. In other words, just as | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| took considerable insight into yourself to uncover the hurts and frustrations. A child is apt to take | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| already done in the past, pertaining to the hurts and pain during childhood, will now prove useful | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| slightest real or imagined rejection in your career hurts infinitely more than a real rejection in your | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| relationships become fraught with friction, with misunderstandings, with hurts, with real or imagined rejections. This must lead | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| a dark curtain fell away from you. Misunderstandings, hurts, fears, must cease to exist. You will see | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| but refuses to see the truth where it hurts most, where the person still misses liberation. Are | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| self must discover the truth that even what hurts is never quite what one fears. You all | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| matter, with all its distortions, negative emotions, pains, hurts, and hostilities, takes on many forms even while | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| is confusion, misconception, illusion. It is these misinterpreted hurts and pains which are responsible for the foreign | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| who are on this path have found certain hurts and pains you endured as a child. Some | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| it when it remains unfulfilled because the frustration hurts the soul. And you fear it when it | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| cruel impulses. As you do so, acknowledge what hurts you; what you would want to be different | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| problems. You may begin by expressing exactly what hurts you and why. You will come to certain | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| also in these moments that truth never really hurts, nor does it destroy or endanger you. But | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| actual loss or absence of a desired good hurts much less when one does not see this | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| together in the same psyche. One hangs onto hurts, which may be just as illusory as pretended | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| of a subtle spitefulness. The spite comes from hurts you have misinterpreted; it was originally directed against | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| childhood experiences, from misinterpretations of childhood events, from hurts and fears you have not properly understood and | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| absent from the contact. The fear produces defenses, hurts, anger -- all these enter the contact and | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| to yourself the unfulfilled longings, your discontent, your hurts and fears, your real desires. Once this is | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| without adornment, stating the fact and why it hurts you, you create a new pattern. You learn | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| if you do not know or understand what hurts you -- you will not have to become | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| your reservations about becoming involved, exposing yourself to hurts, to honest, deep interaction, to giving up pretenses | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| an inner one. The objectively more traumatic event hurts sometimes less than the objectively less traumatic one | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| longer connected with its source and therefore it hurts more. When you make up your mind, however | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| can now be more directly concerned with the hurts and sufferings you have endured in your early | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| is cleanly experienced when someone perhaps damages or hurts you, it will resolve itself. Other people's denial | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| magnificent game of life. This is what really hurts and pains you now. You must start with | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| ego clings to what it hates and what hurts it most. It lacks the discipline and the | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| are forging with your negative attitudes and the hurts you inflict with them, either directly or indirectly | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| inflict with them, either directly or indirectly. The hurts of omission are no less hurtful than those | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| be corrected when you learn to feel the hurts you have inflicted and still inflict without feeling | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| consequently suffer a special kind of confusion that hurts more than physical pain. The benefit of this | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| way. By the same token, others' negative intentionality hurts and hinders you and they are responsible for | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| example when you love a person dearly who hurts and angers you. You do not wish to | 215 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS CONTINUED -- PROCESS IN THE NOW |
| and it is not wanted, not taken, it hurts. But when the other takes it, this person | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |