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| first, without being sure, my pride might get hurt, I might be injured, the other could cause | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| being afraid that their little pride might be hurt or that they may encounter some disadvantages, will | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| remove the crust with which you protect your hurt, and only then can you be a real | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| includes all human beings, even those who have hurt you and whom you may not be able | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| further spiritual development, it will never humiliate or hurt in an unpleasant way. On the other hand | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| whom you might have difficulties. They might have hurt you and you cannot get over it or | 12 THE ORDER AND DIVERSITY OF THE SPIRITUAL WORLDS-THE PROCESS OF REINCARNATION |
| I have explained here. With this understanding the hurt will leave you and then the understanding for | 12 THE ORDER AND DIVERSITY OF THE SPIRITUAL WORLDS-THE PROCESS OF REINCARNATION |
| so terribly important, whose own little pains and hurt vanities do not matter so much, who do | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| feelings, what will people think? I might be hurt or I might jeopardize something, they who truly | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| your counterpart in the spirit world will be hurt or jealous because of the love you may | 20 GOD: THE CREATION |
| fear, without self-pity, without being afraid of being hurt. And only those who can do so are | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| you want to improve and will not be hurt or angry with them even if they say | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| may also, for that matter, be even more hurt if a truth is told to you. Even | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| reaction of your lower self, your ego, your hurt, your vanity that become involved when you are | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| the distance between the real you and your hurt little ego, and you can humor it a | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| yourself, also includes being able to accept a hurt, and perhaps learn from it. But you must | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| distinguish when to keep still after a personal hurt or injustice and quietly forgive, and when to | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| be gratified, or that your pride may be hurt. If you had no pride, you would not | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| not have to fear that it could be hurt. If you had no self-will, you would not | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| you! If you yourself are humiliated, you are hurt; if the other person is humiliated in the | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| trying to muster up the same feelings of hurt vanity as though another human being were humiliated | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| that I do so to avoid completely unnecessary hurt feelings. In learning to become aware of these | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| help. This realization will prevent you from being hurt unnecessarily, for people who are in any deviation | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| of spiritual law and are therefore suffering often hurt others, because they think hurt is a means | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| therefore suffering often hurt others, because they think hurt is a means of protection. The other person | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| bringing the blessings you seek. You may be hurt. The person in frustration often turns to God | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| From human beings I experience only disappointment and hurt. Now this, my friends, is the wrong way | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| you may sincerely wish well those who have hurt you. Outside of prayer, you cannot do so | 36 PRAYER |
| your view is subjective; perhaps your vanity was hurt, or you have unwittingly hurt the vanity of | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| your vanity was hurt, or you have unwittingly hurt the vanity of the other person, and emotional | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| and feelings that have probably been influenced by hurt pride. Show your own good sides in sincerity | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| a misunderstanding, the ways that you both were hurt, and why there is a dislike. Always both | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| so many times you have reason to be hurt, but it is not true! Take your courage | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| heart to the person who you think has hurt you. Bad feelings and bad thoughts add to | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| fear of life and love. To risk the hurt and bear your fear that your desires will | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| fears of life, of love, and of being hurt. Is that clear? COMMENT: Yes. QUESTION: What about | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| is that human beings are afraid of being hurt, afraid of things going against their will. Because | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| but the pain that is unavoidable will not hurt half as much. Remember that, my friends, and | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| high state of relaxation that what would ordinarily hurt badly does not hurt anymore. It is exactly | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| that what would ordinarily hurt badly does not hurt anymore. It is exactly the same with pain | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| 2) Find out about your fear of being hurt. Realize that this causes all your misery. This | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| images, my friends. You are so afraid of hurt that you create forms in your soul that | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| befall you without your imagined defenses. My friends, hurt has to be accepted not because God gives | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| dog is burned by a fire and gets hurt. Whenever he sees fire afterward, he will be | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| against it whenever you are resentful, angry, and hurt. Mostly these feelings are so superfluous, so unfounded | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| a shakeup, and a painful awakening that will hurt deeply is often unavoidable. Actually, it is not | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| other person who will then have disappointed and hurt you, but your own past deliberate blindness. In | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| whom you idealize. When you become angry and hurt inside, this should be a sign that you | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| the other direction. Instead of becoming defiant and hurt, turn inside, turn around, no matter how wrong | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| my friends, when you feel unjustly treated or hurt, and you will see that your very own | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| basic misconception that self-centeredness will protect you from hurt or bring you a reward. If you can | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| your own person and your fear of being hurt. You withhold from others your outgoing love and | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| will bring me reward, will protect me from hurt. In what way have I been selfish? In | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| the other hand, is justified guilt? When you hurt other people in your ignorant belief that selfishness | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| that selfishness is your protection -- whether you hurt them actively or passively, by commission or omission | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| own little ego. I admit that I have hurt other people by this attitude and I am | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| am now willing to learn exactly how I hurt them. It makes no difference whether I inflicted | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| It makes no difference whether I inflicted the hurt by deed, word, thought, or emotional reaction; by | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| right way: Feel with the person you have hurt, take the justified guilt upon yourself, wish to | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| loving. This attitude is healthy and constructive. The hurt you feel when you realize the hurt you | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| The hurt you feel when you realize the hurt you have unwittingly inflicted -- unintentional hurt because | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| the hurt you have unwittingly inflicted -- unintentional hurt because it was committed out of your wrong | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| the justified guilts. Find where you might have hurt others by your wrong conclusions, directly or indirectly | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| matter of degree. But wherever fear of being hurt, fear of disappointment, or fear of life's risks | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| you are afraid to love or risk being hurt, and thus you withhold love from others. Therefore | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| And the price of living includes an occasional hurt or disappointment. The mature person knows this, expects | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| feelings, either, because you will accept an occasional hurt. You will risk expressing your positive feelings rather | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| in your life when it is inevitable to hurt others; these situations arise from your former ignorance | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| for enlightenment about which decision will bring less hurt all around. As you hear the voice of | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| unaware of how much and how often you hurt the other person. If you can keep this | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| more you concentrate on how you have been hurt, the more difficult will it be for you | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| to you by the very people who have hurt you. If you, my dear friends, who are | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| can give up the slight satisfaction in being hurt and wronged -- yes, there is a satisfaction | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| detachment. It means that you consider your own hurt vanities, advantages, goals no differently from those of | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| yourself. QUESTIONER: I am not afraid of being hurt, but I would like to learn to stand | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| based entirely on selfless motives -- another person's hurt, a higher cause or whatever -- or whether | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| at the same time is a disadvantage or hurt to another can in reality never be fruitful | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| good and evil, white and black. Decisions can hurt people. Realize that the person who is hurt | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| hurt people. Realize that the person who is hurt does not always have to be you, although | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| a decision in which anyone has to be hurt, you or another, you face the final outcome | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| child and occasionally also later, when experiencing a hurt, disappointment, frustration, or rejection, wishes to die. When | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| When analyzing this thoroughly, we find that the hurt is seldom so deep that the wish to | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the other person is, forgetting your own little hurt and the apparent injustice? That will be the | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| so painfully experienced as a victim. Therefore the hurt is double. The betrayal would not be half | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| injustice has been done to you and your hurt will be alleviated to a considerable degree. Also | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| repentance. If you recognize that you have unwillingly hurt others by one of your wrong tendencies and | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| their childhood. When they feel how much it hurt not to get what they desired and how | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| what they desired and how they suppressed the hurt, making the compulsive need all the stronger, they | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| because otherwise I would expose myself and be hurt. When you find that, you approach the core | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| much less determined by the fear of being hurt and disappointed than by the parental circumstances disclosed | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| often based less on your fear of being hurt and disappointed than on the elements I am | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| selfishness. Neither is it the fear of being hurt and disappointed. Yes, all these also contribute, but | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| in the sense that sorrow, unhappiness, darkness, disappointment, hurt are each a little bit of death whenever | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| riches kept for the owners thereof to their hurt. Matt. 6:19: Lay not up for yourselves | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| realize that with these very weaknesses you inadvertently hurt and disappoint them just as often as others | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| disappoint them just as often as others inadvertently hurt and disappoint you due to their weakness. You | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| have it. Recognize your fright of every little hurt and disappointment. As you focus your inner view | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to allow the unhealthy instincts of others to hurt you is proof of your real love. But | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be rid of the illusion that every slight, hurt, or disappointment is a tragedy to guard against | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in fear of giving love because of the hurt that may result. In the process of growth | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| she said and did will actually be a hurt. But as long as you remain focused on | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| ignore the reason behind it, you will remain hurt. The moment you fully understand, it is impossible | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you fully understand, it is impossible to be hurt any longer. I am certain that every one | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| if it actually exists, is but an illusory hurt. And you cannot be certain of yourself as | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| the justified or unjustified disapproval will no longer hurt. In this attitude you will not fear criticism | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| see all that. What used to be a hurt will cease to be one. When you suffer | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| for it throughout life unless this lack and hurt is recognized and properly dealt with. If not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| wrong attitudes, absorbed by the child, will cause hurt and unfulfillment. In children of the strict parents | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| as far as possible. As long as the hurt, disappointment, and unfulfilled needs of your early years | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| which prevents you from forgiving them for the hurt. You can only forgive and let go if | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| let go if you recognize your deeply hidden hurt and resentment. As an adult human being you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| represent the parent who has particularly disappointed and hurt you, the one more resented or despised and | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| my friends, to reexperience the longing and the hurt of the crying child you were once, even | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| happy aspects of your childhood, but that which hurt deeply and that certain something you greatly longed | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Behind all these reactions you will find the hurt of not being loved. When you experience the | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| of not being loved. When you experience the hurt of not being loved in your current dilemma | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| dilemma, it will serve to reawaken the childhood hurt. While you face the present hurt, think back | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the childhood hurt. While you face the present hurt, think back and try to reconsider the situation | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| it. You will find that this must have hurt you when you were a child, but you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| a child, but you may have forgotten this hurt on a conscious level. Yet it is not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Yet it is not forgotten at all. The hurt of your current problem is the very same | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| of your current problem is the very same hurt. Now, reevaluate your present hurt, comparing it with | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the very same hurt. Now, reevaluate your present hurt, comparing it with the childhood hurt. At last | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| your present hurt, comparing it with the childhood hurt. At last you will clearly see how it | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| because of your desire to correct the childhood hurt. But at first you only have to feel | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| parents and the people who have caused you hurt or are causing you pain now. Experiencing these | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| of the unconscious desire to recreate the childhood hurt, the frustrating uselessness of it. You will survey | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the superficial one, the reason why you were hurt in the first place and therefore provoked, according | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| tonight's lecture you will no longer regard this hurt as disastrous. You will have a different reaction | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| You will have a different reaction to the hurt, and, as a consequence, the hurt will diminish | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| to the hurt, and, as a consequence, the hurt will diminish automatically. Therefore, you will no longer | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you will become less withdrawn and you will hurt others less and less so that they will | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you gain a different view on your own hurt, understanding its real origin, you will gain the | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| one hand you accuse them and are inordinately hurt by them because you do not understand yourself | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you refuse to become aware when you are hurt. This seems paradoxical yet is not. As you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| be true. While sometimes you may exaggerate a hurt, at other times you do not allow yourself | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you because you are unaware that you are hurt and why you are hurt. Just think of | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| that you are hurt and why you are hurt. Just think of times when you are really | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| times when you are really aware of a hurt without anger and without feeling hostile. You may | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| to be sad, so you suppress the real hurt. But the hostility has to be hidden, too | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| and the hostility results from unconscious and suppressed hurt. Go your way, my dearest ones, and may | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| is recognized by the one involved, the personal hurt will be removed; the feeling of personal rejection | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| you. And then, when they react, you are hurt because you have been rejected. Yes, my dear | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| an effect on them. Then you misunderstand and hurt each other -- and reject each other. The | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| disappointments and failures, which in reality would not hurt half as much as they now imagine. They | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| cover for the procedure, If there is a hurt anyway, I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| a hurt anyway, I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than be hurt by someone else. ANSWER: Yes | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than be hurt by someone else. ANSWER: Yes, that may often | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| question was: If there is to be a hurt anyway, I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a hurt anyway, I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than be hurt by someone else. ANSWER: In | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| I'd rather have a self-inflicted hurt than be hurt by someone else. ANSWER: In part, I have | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this contributes greatly to the unconscious desire to hurt oneself before anyone else has the chance. But | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in your adult years to overcome a childhood hurt, if you use all your unconscious energies in | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| aware of this -- the tendency to inflict hurt upon yourself rather than taking the chance of | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| yourself rather than taking the chance of being hurt by others can be much better explained. Unconsciously | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with life, this feeling of pointlessness, you must hurt yourself. You must even want to hurt yourself | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| must hurt yourself. You must even want to hurt yourself, for then, at least, you have a | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| inability to let go is that a particular hurt exists which you do not acknowledge to yourself | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| For some childish reason, you think the real hurt is inadmissible, therefore you keep it under lock | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you really and truly want to find this hurt, you will be able to let go, just | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| instance. You found that what you thought had hurt you was not really so. After this discovery | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| assumed the role -- it is bound to hurt and reject others. This may not manifest in | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will no longer need to protect yourself from hurt and disappointment when you do love, nor will | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| fear and withdrawal into isolation, protection against being hurt. The hurt of course would not be necessary | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| withdrawal into isolation, protection against being hurt. The hurt of course would not be necessary if you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| similar way, you reject love, fearful of being hurt, not getting it, or losing it again. You | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| motivations may be similar -- fear of getting hurt and disappointed, fear of being dependent on others | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| expose you to the risk of rejection and hurt. Emotional or sensual pleasure, on the other hand | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| you admit this to yourself. So you become hurt and angry and rebellious. You then either turn | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| much more painful, but indirect way. The bitter hurt of isolation, of loneliness, of the gnawing feeling | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| they exist in you now. When you were hurt as a child, your reactions were anger, resentment | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| so because you did not want to be hurt, you did not wish to experience the pain | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| reason for such occasional hate is always a hurt. If you are hurt, know it. Know why | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| hate is always a hurt. If you are hurt, know it. Know why. It will not harm | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| that your own lack of understanding causes the hurt and therefore the hatred. Then the next step | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| understanding and therefore you will no longer be hurt and will not hate. If, for the moment | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| feel guilty. You will know that you are hurt and why and therefore you will be able | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| it, but I also hate because I feel hurt. As you grow in the way of this | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and that you hate only because you are hurt. You need not expect of yourself that you | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| that. But it can gradually come, very gradually. Hurt will grow less and therefore love will grow | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| take it for granted that someone meant to hurt or reject you, when in reality no such | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| also always contains the supposed remedy for the hurt. Since the image is unreal, so must be | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| first impact, you begin to repress the original hurt that caused you to form an image. You | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| form an image. You not only repress the hurt, so that you are no longer aware of | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| without having to take a risk of being hurt or humiliated again. Since this cannot happen, your | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| it do not work. This increases the original hurt of the experience which brought the image into | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| only a new frustration; it is the same hurt from childhood experienced all over again, but it | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |