| extended self-alienation. This explains the apparent paradox that giving up control leads to better control, while tightly | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| other, and then there is no conflict between giving and receiving. There can be no conflict of | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| conflict of control. If you do not fear giving, you can fully receive; you can never be | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| you can never be shortchanged. When you fear giving, you cannot be open to receive. It is | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| this fact. To the exact measure you fear giving of yourself, you must be uncomfortable when you | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| best -- and there is a difference between giving what one has and giving what one is | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| a difference between giving what one has and giving what one is -- will experience the great | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| comfortably, painlessly, and joyfully, until the aspects of giving and receiving truly become one. When there is | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| become one. When there is no effort in giving oneself, there will be no effort in receiving | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| becomes utterly superfluous. The control which prohibits your giving your best must perforce also prevent you from | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| unwelcome situations. Even before you are capable of giving up the negative desires, because you do not | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| ways, toward love and understanding, toward consideration, toward giving and receiving. But always there is still this | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| the physical system naturally worked in absolute perfection, giving humans strength and wellbeing. Strangely enough, this is | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| pattern, something stops me. I am afraid of giving up something that I am not able to | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| of being that people fear. Such dissolving and giving up of the little self also exists in | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| trust in the self grows commensurately with the giving up of destructiveness. The destructiveness has to be | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| I let go. Whether the letting go means giving up destructiveness, cruelty, evasion, or any other unproductive | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| and await what comes. It is not a giving up of personality, of individuality or consciousness -- | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| inner actions and transformations. It comes to the giving up of all the negativity that we have | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| still further, letting go of outer control means giving this uncontrolled force free rein. From this point | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| thinking, feeling, and willing, which make you fear giving up the little ego. You will understand clearly | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| to you. It appears as if you were giving yourself up to something dangerous. The other alternative | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| Otherwise all is bad. The second is either giving in to a wrong that you cannot admit | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| are themselves a result of your fear of giving up the egotistical state that alone seems to | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| alone seems to guarantee life. It appears that giving up this ego state means annihilation of your | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| the live center within yourself -- and in giving back to life as an integral part of | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| the unified plane of consciousness so difficult, for giving up this fight against the other appears to | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| will experience this as a danger equal to giving up the fight itself. So every way you | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| misconception, and each misconception represents another burden. The giving up of what first seemed like protection from | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| not mean resignation, nor does it mean fearful giving in or weakness. It means going with the | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| dearest friends. I usually start these sessions by giving a blessing. Now what does the word blessing | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| do not mean it in the sense of giving the ego up but of using it as | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| wholly want to be unselfish since it means giving up what you believe is personal fulfillment and | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| not willing to also give the best. Conversely, giving one's best is impossible when one associates it | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| true, however, that life is benign, liberating and giving; if it is for rather than against you | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| nucleus of power, intelligence, feeling, and harmony by giving it every chance. You must commit yourself to | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| slavery, loss of dignity for the sake of giving in, giving up one's own rights and desires | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| of dignity for the sake of giving in, giving up one's own rights and desires for the | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| believed that not needing to be special means giving up individuality or even accepting mediocrity? The answer | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| force, however, out of the erroneous idea that giving in to it means annihilation. Thus you put | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| said with certainty: the greater the conflict between giving in to the cosmic force and opposing it | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| bring you what you want -- first, by giving you a good feeling about yourself and by | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| which brings you into the pleasure supreme of giving up separateness, you frustrate yourself on the most | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| sake of seeing the truth about oneself, of giving up a specific illusion, of overcoming a barrier | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| as a new vibrant way of experiencing life, giving a new flavor to all one is doing | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| and carry you? It is the misunderstanding that giving up the ego means giving up existence. In | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| the misunderstanding that giving up the ego means giving up existence. In order to get a little | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| existence is therefore associated only with separate existence. Giving up the ego must then appear to the | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| feels this shame primarily about good qualities, about giving and loving. Such people believe they give into | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| They need to be taken very seriously by giving them a great deal of attention with your | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| involve yourself constructively with attention and honesty by giving always the best of yourself: when this discipline | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| yourself, just as fighting it means fighting yourself. Giving in to the fear of the experience makes | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| be in God! 155. FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING Greetings, my dearest friends. May this | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| when the self is totally unafraid of itself. Giving up guardedness seems like annihilation because then something | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| the love forces are feared because they demand giving up the watchful, stilted, premeditated attitudes that make | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| emphasis has been put on the importance of giving out. The frustration resulting from not sufficiently receiving | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| last decades, while the frustration of not sufficiently giving has been very much neglected. It has been | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| worse pain caused by the frustration of not giving what you have. The overemphasis of one psychological | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| they let flow into you. Religion has emphasized giving. It has preached for a long time that | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| It has preached for a long time that giving love is more blessed than receiving it. It | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| the importance of loving -- that is, of giving love, mercy, understanding, and other gifts of the | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| to receive exclusively and not being disposed to giving in the least, or straining for the false | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| yourself. Now, how can a healthy flow of giving and receiving be created when such faulty attitudes | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| most subtle level. The greater the natural, generous giving is, the less masochistic, suffering, and self-depriving the | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| self-depriving the personality becomes. The more the false giving by self-impoverishment and lack of self-assertion takes over | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| meaningless; it sees no shame or humiliation in giving up arrogant pride; it sees no lack of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| be true, that it does not make sense. Giving yourself to this apparently new inner force seems | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| way that refuses life, love, feelings, happiness, unfoldment, giving forth of what you have to give. At | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| movement will fill your being. The pleasure of giving and receiving will become possible. For you cannot | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| the self-imposed restrictions, you not only make your giving impossible, you make receiving equally impossible. A vessel | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| and pleasure of being in the flow of giving and receiving. It is not an esoteric, otherworldly | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| these same people resent the world for not giving to them. The world wants to give to | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| really want to give to them and whose giving they reject, thus depriving themselves even more of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| disconnect themselves from the cosmic, creative flow of giving and receiving, of the constant turnover, the constant | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| require equal attention to the frustration of not giving and not being able to receive. My dearest | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| and flexibility to get along with others in giving and taking. Your adult sense of fairness makes | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| that truly are heavenly. By letting go and giving up your inner forcing-current, you will experience the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| fear of death, fear of pleasure, fear of giving up control, fear of feelings -- fear of | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| sense of self only from the ego faculties, giving up the ego must seem terribly frightening. And | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| you are a separate being. Your fear of giving up this illusion is so tragic because you | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| secret self-evaluation -- that you must choose between giving up your hope for complete fulfillment for the | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| be, at the same time, a totally generous, giving, self-surrendering person. In fact, self-surrender and giving are | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| generous, giving, self-surrendering person. In fact, self-surrender and giving are not only not depriving -- as one | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| of energy is followed. It leads to loving, giving and receiving, uniting, opening up to the forces | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| a cerebral exercise of the mind, but a giving oneself up to the divine, to the intelligence | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| the ego in a healthy, safe, and life- giving way. An ego is healthy only when its | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| to overcome the fear of facing something unpleasant; giving the best in you to find your true | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| sort of frustration, want to get by with giving nothing and receiving all. You certainly know that | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| they want to cheat and get by with giving nothing. In fact, it is a logical connection | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| is not real goodness -- based on free giving of love, on the generous spirit of wanting | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| genuine love, in a free spirit of spontaneous giving. When genuine love is present, the idea of | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| actions and will, using self-discipline to keep from giving in to primitive impulses. You will appreciate the | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| that you do not want to generously risk giving of yourself on the deepest possible level where | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| cannot ever be a substitute for real inner giving of self. In fact, real giving knows no | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| real inner giving of self. In fact, real giving knows no self-deprecation, no martyrdom, no unjust treatment | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| points the way to a crass lack of giving when it comes to real feelings. Oh, you | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| gives you as a result of your not giving to it, the more resentful you become, the | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| And you learn with its help to become giving and positive; to risk investing yourself; to become | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| of the other. You secretly feel that by giving to others you will be impoverished, put to | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| Since you are unwilling to be positive and giving, and do not wish to admit this in | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| for a wish to be outgoing, positive and giving, the fear of self will vanish. Then the | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| that leads to creating and unfolding rather than giving up, as is done so often in a | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| so harmful. What I advise is not necessarily giving up the desire per se. It is giving | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| giving up the desire per se. It is giving up the cramped soul movement that is connected | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| which you feel yourself letting go of something, giving up a certain attitude. Let us take a | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| self-surrender justified and dignified, and enhancing her individuality. Giving up the determining ego will be for her | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| how to let be without indifference, unconcern, or giving up. This is often misunderstood: the blind escape-line | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| builds up new life. This will never mean giving up your efforts; on the contrary. But your | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| God! 171. SPIRITUAL LAWS In the course of giving these lectures, the Guide has often referred to | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| organic development. Its effects might be worse than giving in to the compulsion. Real growth leads to | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| fulfilled. Healthy, openly expressed self- assertion and flexible giving in constitute a balance, which is disturbed by | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| claim to be good-natured and loving by constantly giving in, when he or she is merely refusing | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| you give up the attitude I must without giving up on your happiness? This kind of giving | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| giving up on your happiness? This kind of giving up is so easily confused with negativity, resignation | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| past attitudes and must temporarily accept them without giving up altogether. If you let go in a | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| by different but just as fatal ways as giving vent to those negative instincts. This lecture will | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| let yourself love? According to this false idea, giving of yourself means losing what you give without | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| were true, love would indeed be impossible and giving a folly. Is it now conceivable for you | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| wants the pleasure of feeling love, warmth, and giving of yourself? And can you still foresee the | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| that you do not also receive love. The giving and receiving become so interchangeable that it can | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| loving are the same thing. The misconception that giving is losing causes you to close up and | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| you. Here you have a childish resistance to giving of yourself, a distorted attempt to cheat life | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| aware of your false reasoning when you resist giving of yourself. Thus you create forms of error | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| exploration, for new ways of self-expression and self-finding, giving form to forever more worlds, more experience, and | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| truly self-accepting and self- respecting human being without giving up what truly impairs your integrity. Thus you | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| too great because you still believe that by giving up negativity you create a positivity that is | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| will and commitment to experience pleasure, nor the giving up of destructive, life-inhibiting patterns can exist. Accepting | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| physical level you experience the voluntary hard labor giving way to naturalness when the skill suddenly becomes | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| alternate these two functions. The final step in giving up negativity, as I have suggested, is to | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| yourself safely and thus find self-renewal in the giving of the self. Each step of giving seems | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| the giving of the self. Each step of giving seems to involve the risk of losing. It | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| find that all risk is illusory and that giving yourself to life is the safest, most realistic | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| more subtle level of feelings. Your attitude toward giving of your feelings, as opposed to receiving good | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| you is really undeserved. Life's abundance and generous giving will unfold for you and give you the | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| is not easy in that the ego abhors giving up its pretenses and games. It likes to | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| arising problems, to find balance between self-assertion and giving in, to give and receive and to be | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| willing to involve myself deeply in living fully, giving as much as I wish to receive. I | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| yourself to hurts, to honest, deep interaction, to giving up pretenses and defenses and any kind of | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| it a defense you have no intention of giving up. This is why you deny it. You | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| in again and again to destructive impulses. Such giving in does not necessarily result in action, but | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| if you bypass this confrontation. This approach includes giving voice to the recalcitrant aspect of the egotistical | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| starting out on unaccustomed ways of living after giving up a familiar one. Crisis in any form | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| concern with the inner being as well as giving up pet attitudes and ideas must be cultivated | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| the tension and strain of crisis, not the giving up of the old structure itself. When necessary | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |