| are in harmony with the stream of life, giving yourself up to it, whatever comes your way | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| stand for? Has anyone of you an idea? Giving. Friendship. Action. Taking. ANSWER: Taking and giving. Yes | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| idea? Giving. Friendship. Action. Taking. ANSWER: Taking and giving. Yes. All that. Action includes all that -- | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| life, refreshment and cleansing to everything it reaches; giving endlessly, and thus finding fulfillment. Wherever is felt | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the healthy way of coping with death. The giving up of the wish itself is really an | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| personality. Only the generous freedom which comes from giving oneself up and going into the unknown, without | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| When you make the very first steps toward giving up the idealized self, you will feel a | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| Then you will gain the great freedom of giving yourself to life because you no longer have | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| to give you what they are incapable of giving. You are then much more dependent than you | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| such resistance, deep down you all battle against giving up the glory of your idealized self. You | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| is supposed to solve all problems. Being nonassertive, giving in, can be damaging by leaving one open | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| combine the needs for pleasure and safety. In giving in, you believe you will receive what you | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| withholding outgoing forces and being unwilling to risk giving of yourself. Such an attitude robs a vital | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of false religion. This distortion is promoted by giving to falsehood the appearance of truth. If you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| aggression. This battle is caused by resistance to giving up the cherished self-image of the good person | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| produce this God-image. In the transitional state between giving up false religion and embracing true religion, there | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| that unconsciously you fight tooth and nail against giving up what seems to you a vital protection | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| feeling and allow it to lie dormant without giving it the opportunity to grow. Let us examine | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| To the extent that you are incapable of giving mature love and affection, you will have a | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| find once you take the courageous step of giving up the false values of the idealized self | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| feel thoroughly good, even if it does mean giving up a shortsighted childish advantage, even if it | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| an unhealthy passivity? Does it contain elements of giving up inner or outer action? Does it mean | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| -- not by attempting perfect action, but by giving up the resistance to face what is usually | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| healthy, natural needs, will you become capable of giving up the false needs. Do not even attempt | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| there will be no sense of loss, of giving up something precious. Neither will you feel especially | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| do that which you can do. It means giving up an illusion to which you had clung | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| negative experience, something in you still fights against giving it up. This must mean that a part | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| battle with yourself which heightens the fear of giving up a precious defense. The impatience is caused | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| is the answer of why you battle against giving up the sick, the erroneous solution -- whether | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| its subsequent manifestations, but will lead to finally giving up the twisted, damaging defense mechanism. Do you | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| streak of submissiveness, you may confuse submissiveness with giving up your false superiority, just as you will | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| said, a part of you is afraid of giving up the protection. For you, the key question | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| subtly. Relinquishing may not require outer or material giving up, but rather letting go of an attitude | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| find that you do not sacrifice anything by giving up whatever it was you thought you could | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| you could not live without, but are only giving up an illusion, a forcing current, a false | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| manifesting in tolerance and understanding; the charity of giving material things; the charity of feeling with and | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| of selfishness. Therefore you rebel and cannot accept giving up even the kind of selfishness that is | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| exist, but with emphasis on further self-facing, on giving account of what you really feel and why | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| the apparent nothingness without these pretenses, only by giving up their false security, do you have a | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| your fear is based on change itself, of giving up the crutches of childhood. This, in itself | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| us suggestions for interpreting dreams? ANSWER: I am giving them constantly, but let me just say a | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| to be yourself, even at the expense of giving up approval. All of this signifies your having | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| of being in joy, and thus capable of giving it on in your now imperfect life, within | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| on the other hand, may indicate an inner giving up. To determine accurately whether it is one | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| the best possible way, even if this means giving up a selfish aim, then that person creates | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| have ever known. Therefore, to your unconscious mind giving up the glorified image of the parent is | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| hopelessly unattainable. In other words, masochism is a giving up. If the ego is too weak to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| a very wrong, unhealthy, self-defeating, and life-defeating way. Giving in and going with the stream, as well | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| percent mature and gets this wonderful feeling from giving love, then it seems that the object of | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| who loves most. It is a deep personal giving, a most interesting feeling. You feel as though | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| and Fear 103. HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES Greetings, my | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| wants to possess can be as destructive in giving more than what is wanted as in giving | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| giving more than what is wanted as in giving too little. To love too much when it | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| establish a human relationship, whereas your greedy egocentric giving destroys it. Let the other person be, allow | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| is aware of it, will either react by giving in due to fears, needs, and dependency, and | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| anger, resentment, helpless rage, and confused fluctuation between giving in too much and being too severe. You | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| even destructive. The forcing current prohibits a free giving of love. In its own devious way it | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| devious way it causes an inner no to giving in a relaxed and calm way. It grabs | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| what the other needs and wants. Therefore the giving is not free, nor is it genuine. This | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| if the demands parade under the guise of giving. Those who are starved and therefore terrified by | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| have shortchanged, the cultivation of the ability of giving your best -- rather than deliberately hampering it | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| Not necessarily. QUESTION: How does this combine with giving up your wish to the will of God | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| I would also like to know about healthy giving up for the sake of others. Is there | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| you may overcome the risk of loving and giving of yourself. This lack of a healthy robustness | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| sacrifice occurs out of a free spirit of giving, and not in order to appease, whether someone | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| increased insight can often be very helpful in giving renewed impetus to your work on the path | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| with the line of least resistance and the giving in to one's destructive instincts. Before you have | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| part: wanting the advantages of close relationships without giving in the real sense of the word, although | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| preposterous, but this is the best way of giving you an idea of what the soul-body may | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| teaching, but it is often understood as meaning giving up or giving in, not asserting your rights | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| is often understood as meaning giving up or giving in, not asserting your rights. You feel you | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| too long used the superimposed conscience, instead of giving yourself the chance to finally contact the inner | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| experience the meaning of gaining true independence through giving up childish, limited self-centeredness. Hence, self-centeredness and dependency | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| may then be superimposed with a false, compulsive giving which - - just because it is superimposed | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| matter how forcefully and artificially you may practice giving in order to squelch the gnawing guilt. This | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| displacement and substitution. To recapitulate: unfree, compulsive, problematic giving is often the result of denying a need | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| is faced with the unsatisfactory alternative of either giving and resenting it or receiving and feeling unfree | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| receive. If this conflict is worked through, your giving will be freer, and so will be your | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| opposite extreme. Whether it concerns the aspect of giving and receiving, or any other natural, legitimate need | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| rigid stubbornness with strength. He constantly wavers between giving in at the wrong time and place -- | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| angle. A woman fears the apparent helplessness of giving herself up, of surrendering herself. She thereby defeats | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| apparent helplessness -- and therefore shame -- of giving over to a force greater than your little | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| you safe. You are under the misapprehension that giving yourself over to the love force is the | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| dignity and selfhood can be gained only by giving up pride and self-will. The fear of losing | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| influence one's attitude to death. Dying ultimately means giving up self-direction -- and this surrender, strange as | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| resolve this erroneous duality, particularly the conflict between giving up the self and full possession of the | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| path of self-realization only to become capable of giving yourself up to union with the other sex | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| full possession of yourself, yet without fear of giving up self-possession. This is the great experience that | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| determine how, when, in what way, you are giving. In reality you cannot determine all that. Reality | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| in essence, conveyed something new to you, thus giving you a new incentive and motor force to | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| troubled area is like the fleeting pleasure of giving in to any destructive impulse. The real relief | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| well. You would be saved. The idea of giving them up seems like a tremendous danger, utterly | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| feel they must pay for this stimulation by giving up their peace of mind. If they want | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| than your own can guide you. You fear giving up the small self will and its selfishness | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| the wishful thinking of the child incapable of giving up the desire for utopia. Why do we | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| up what he wants to gain. In this giving up lies the necessary soul movement for being | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| particular wish can bring happiness. In the relaxed giving up lie all the emotions which are a | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| I speak about mastery over the universe and giving up control in order to gain it in | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| choosing one's views and taking the risk of giving up control by standing alone and risk the | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| and heretofore unused faculties begin to manifest, first giving you still deeper understanding, and then strengthening you | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| change lies in doing your best, rather than giving the best impression. If you look at all | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| light, you can determine the vast difference between giving the best impression, so that the best will | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| the sake of a loved one, without forever giving up all your rights and advantages. It is | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| major inner transition, and the result is the giving up of the limited choice. It means knowing | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| you to establish that you are afraid of giving up the doubt. Needless to say, this is | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| is necessary to establish first that you fear giving up the doubt and, second, the specific wrong | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| commitment, because you falsely believe that it demands giving up your intelligence, your rights, your self-preservation, your | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| entrusting oneself to what seems the unknown, by giving up the tense holding. Such letting go eventually | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| upon to have that which is most desirable. Giving up control -- the little selfwill -- will | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| This will prevent stagnation and the possibility of giving up in despair and confusion. In order to | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| tired, depressed and hopeless, at the point of giving up your efforts because your struggle does not | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| such a possibility would infer overestimation of yourself, giving yourself airs that you do not deserve. The | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| misconceptions and false fears clog up the channel. Giving a full chance means deliberately reaching inside to | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| concept of yourself is by insisting, by not giving up and letting go. The weakness creates fear | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| them all. Your distrust now prevents you from giving yourself up, from letting yourself be. You must | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| This was the essence of this lecture. The giving up of the ego can happen only when | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| punishment, and also fear of and resistance to giving up what causes the guilt in the first | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| basic problem. The self-punishment is a substitute for giving up the guilt-producing attitudes. By doing so, you | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| because conceding always appears like a submissive, humiliating giving in. It is only through love that this | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| often find themselves in an interim state between giving up the armoring that has covered this foreign | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| us combine control through the inner being with giving up the unconscious deliberate numbness. The way to | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| sex. In these cases, a semi-conscious resistance to giving up this fantasy life exists out of fear | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| satisfying as the fantasy. Hence, one assumes that giving up the fantasy means giving up the pleasure | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| one assumes that giving up the fantasy means giving up the pleasure. So one does not wish | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| your potential. Conversely, your greatest pain is not giving to life and to others according to your | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| and frustrations derive from the pain of not giving out what is within, just as all other | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| as all other satisfactions and pleasures flow from giving oneself to life without restriction. The refusal to | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| emotions. If I encounter an inner distaste for giving up such destructive feelings, I shall neither deny | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| topic of the very lecture I just gave: giving up the frantic struggle to guard your inner | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| the personality forces and pushes, letting go and giving in to the superior force within the self | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| understands the process of love without danger, of giving love and freedom and therefore of receiving love | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| ego-mind find the balance between self- assertion and giving in, between giving and receiving, or between active | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| balance between self- assertion and giving in, between giving and receiving, or between active and passive participation | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| the other, there is no more conflict between giving and receiving. There is no more refusal to | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| is dangerous, contact with others is dangerous, and giving one's self up to the bliss of union | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| destructive aims could take over and threaten annihilation. Giving up control must appear as death, as the | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| up control must appear as death, as the giving up of selfhood and safety, as long as | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |