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its vanity and pride. Then the feeling of unfulfillment, of vague yearning, will disappear, since you are 4 WORLD WEARINESS
in your intellect that the sadness of your unfulfillment exists, but you will also feel it -- 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED
the strong link between the child's longing and unfulfillment and the adult's present difficulties and problems, because 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
absorbed by the child, will cause hurt and unfulfillment. In children of the strict parents, the resentment 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
you learn to look at your problems and unfulfillment from this point of view and follow the 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
unfulfillments now and also the pain of the unfulfillment of your childhood, then compare the two until 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
condition exists, you are bound to have difficulties, unfulfillment and frustration. The difficulties may either be outer 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS
and lack of motivation is directly responsible for unfulfillment or lack of success, if you want to 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS
seeing the degree of frustration and anxiety an unfulfillment creates in us. ANSWER: Yes, that is right 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
that much of this longing comes from your unfulfillment as a child, now manifesting as exaggerated craving 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
it is you who caused this state of unfulfillment, and it is you who can still change 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
to take frustration with the mature attitude that unfulfillment is not an abyss. Only with this attitude 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
then find why and how you caused this unfulfillment. This is a slow process. If you approach 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
and you know nothing else, emotionally. Second, an unfulfillment points to your imperfection, to your vulnerability as 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
repress your real needs, the awareness of your unfulfillment, and the constructive search derived from it. Therefore 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
and the constructive search derived from it. Therefore unfulfillment increases, regenerates itself, and becomes more stringent. Let 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
am imperfect, I have to experience imperfect situations, unfulfillment and frustration. Therefore, I must become perfect in 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
one main image which causes the most important unfulfillment in your life. Because of it you go 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
either the longing and the pain of the unfulfillment, or the erroneous image-conclusion. The unfulfilled need for 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
have not, consider your main problem, your unhappiness, unfulfillment, and then proceed to find it. It will 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
recognize that this defensive wall brings the very unfulfillment you wanted to avoid through the erroneous image 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
is the strongest cause of self-contempt, guilt, weakness, unfulfillment, and many outer frictions and difficulties which are 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
experiences frustration as much more painful than the unfulfillment of the wish or goal itself. In other 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
are acutely aware of the needs and the unfulfillment, while before you were befogged and hazy, experiencing 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
before you were befogged and hazy, experiencing the unfulfillment in an indirect way. The stringent awareness of 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
in an indirect way. The stringent awareness of unfulfillment may, in fact, have entirely different roots than 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
in fact, have entirely different roots than the unfulfillment of the real needs, for the latter will 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
possibly fulfill them and while you consciously experience unfulfillment, is bound to bring relief, harmony and peace 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
of your real needs not only because facing unfulfillment is painful, but more so because unfulfillment means 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
facing unfulfillment is painful, but more so because unfulfillment means proof of your inferiority. Once you have 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
this is your real self. Your problem of unfulfillment in itself recedes into the background in comparison 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
and longing. But as you look at the unfulfillment and bear it, not in false humility and 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
the agonies you suffered before such awareness. The unfulfillment will not weaken you. On the contrary, through 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
happen overnight. After a certain period of conscious unfulfillment of real needs -- as opposed to previous 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
real needs -- as opposed to previous unconscious unfulfillment of real needs and conscious unfulfillment of false 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
previous unconscious unfulfillment of real needs and conscious unfulfillment of false needs -- while you search and 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
old habits. In this alternation between fulfillment and unfulfillment, you have the opportunity to gain a firm 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
energy you generate by being unaware of your unfulfillment. The repression is harmful for two reasons: first 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
healthy and the unhealthy motivations contributed to the unfulfillment, or the failure. You chose the goal out 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
is bound to bring you pain, hurt, frustration, unfulfillment. You chose a way out of pain and 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
experience is much more the present pain of unfulfillment, caused by your unproductive patterns. Consciously you cannot 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
your needs and of the frustration of their unfulfillment, you will find first the stringent need to 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
similarly. It is not only the pain of unfulfillment that you cringe away from, however. You also 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
that running away from the original pain of unfulfillment increases the unfulfillment, and therefore the pain, operates 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
from the original pain of unfulfillment increases the unfulfillment, and therefore the pain, operates here, too. QUESTION 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
respond to your wishes and frustrate you. Such unfulfillment is not half as painful as the error 101 THE DEFENSE
from the causes that brought about the original unfulfillment. In your ignorance, the need -- or lust 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
evolution. It would be unfair to say that unfulfillment is always due to selfishness. It may be 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
turn inward and seek the reason for your unfulfillment. However, there are many wrong ways of striving 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
to yourself? Thus you live in isolation and unfulfillment. You fear death because you let life pass 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
developing and this must be made conscious. Repeated unfulfillment hurts so much more than it needs to 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
fundamentally absolve yourself from accountability for your personal unfulfillment and trouble and refuse to look for the 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
because you actually experience the other's hurt, bewilderment, unfulfillment, belittling. And this increased awareness comes as a 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
to explore within yourself the reasons for your unfulfillment and the difficulties which cause you to strain 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
You now understand why a certain unhappiness or unfulfillment is a result of inner error and confusion 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
themselves factors which at last unquestionably explain discontent, unfulfillment, tension, frustration, and other hindrances to full living 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
the perpetual starvation you expose yourself to. Any unfulfillment, hurt, rejection or disappointment causes an infinitely deeper 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
aware of this original need and its present unfulfillment is bound to cause it to attach itself 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
true significance, the sooner can fulfillment occur. However, unfulfillment of needs does not hurt half as much 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
suffering than would the relaxed admission of an unfulfillment. Let us now consider the possibility of the 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
you find yourself disturbed because of a persistent unfulfillment, you can be sure that both currents must 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
of the fact that all your unhappiness and unfulfillment is not a remote effect of a remote 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
by these soul movements increase the fear of unfulfillment because you then believe it is the outer 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
influence it; (b) the exact cause of your unfulfillment: how you act as a consequence of your 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
the ultimate bliss that knows neither lack nor unfulfillment or frustration. Without an ego these strivings are 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF
will clearly see the exact image of your unfulfillment. You will see why you keep yourself hidden 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS
most certainly contained in the reasons for the unfulfillment itself. This also causes you to overlook the 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY
themselves. Others may be acutely aware of their unfulfillment -- which can be any type of undesirable 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY
viewpoint of their illusions. When you suffer an unfulfillment, you hesitate and often even battle against recognizing 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE
as illusory as pretended fulfillment or a denied unfulfillment. Anger, hurt, suffering may all be dramatized and 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE
you would not ever have to fear frustration, unfulfillment, or emptiness. Since you fear and block the 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION
nature, there is nothing to fear and all unfulfillment ceases. By humility I mean that you know 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES
took place, to the sense of deprivation and unfulfillment in you, made you withdraw from your feelings 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
not search within for the reason of the unfulfillment. You do not see your state as a 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
life. All sorrow and unhappiness, all emptiness and unfulfillment, all frustration and suffering are caused by being 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT
present where there are unresolved problems, imbalance, distortion, unfulfillment. The struggle between the self and the self 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY
afraid of the best in life, there is unfulfillment, which works out with the exactitude of a 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
pain, suffering, and frustration you have to bear. Unfulfillment is not even necessarily a matter of self-punishment 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
hopelessness, and distrust. Moreover, misconception must lead to unfulfillment and therefore frustration and disappointment -- which, in 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
of resist. But what should you accept? Deprivation, unfulfillment, sacrifice? Religion has taught this for centuries, for 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS
to maintain. If you ascribe your frustrations, your unfulfillment, or your pains to society you are completely 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
with your unhappiness, with your difficulties and your unfulfillment. Could you truly feel fulfilled, with all your 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
search for the connection between your suffering, your unfulfillment, your unhappiness, and your inner refusal to give 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
the presence of trust. If you fear frustration, unfulfillment, and their consequences, the tension of your soul 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF)
live in a constant state of frustration and unfulfillment. Physically this creates, of course, all the blocks 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
sensibilities dulled they suffer only indirectly from the unfulfillment. This insensibility is not an advantage. It creates 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL
the needs you had as a child whose unfulfillment caused most of your painful, and therefore repressed 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
fact that the most painful element is the unfulfillment of your legitimate needs as a child. As 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
contrary, the denial of the pain of its unfulfillment perpetuates the need and projects it into a 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
accrued from denying the pain of the original unfulfillment. Let yourself go into the child state, and 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
of your reaction that equates catastrophe with the unfulfillment of your demand to be loved and approved 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
misconception, entrapped in your strong reaction to an unfulfillment, to a hurt, a criticism, or a frustration 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
very different from the pain of a real unfulfillment, a hurt or a deprivation. The moment these 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
it had to be. Wherever there is obstruction, unfulfillment, or an unyielding wall in your life, an 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
you suffer from an overt condition, such as unfulfillment with a mate, or lack of the proper 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
unknown inner factors -- are responsible for your unfulfillment. And so the vicious circle continues. Some of 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
between these two aspects: the withholding and the unfulfillment. This will give you an additional impetus and 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT
bridge between these attitudes and your emptiness or unfulfillment. Therefore you become more embittered and feel more 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
The realization of your own responsibility for the unfulfillment of your needs should not, and must not 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
it causes you and others pain and frustration, unfulfillment, and perpetual guilt and longing. It is extremely 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT
something and yet accept the pain of its unfulfillment? This seems a tall order, my friends. Yet 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE
selfwill mean having to settle for unhappiness and unfulfillment? Is the striving for fulfillment that falls under 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD
to working out the real reasons for your unfulfillment in the usual way you learn on this 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD
progress, my friends, because you consider suffering and unfulfillment of the soul to be the only agents 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK
you really desire and long for, you suffer unfulfillment, for the false goals of appearance values can 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION
word of faith in your own unfoldment and unfulfillment if you secretly believe that you have no 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD
around complaining about this or that unhappiness or unfulfillment, choosing not to connect with those very attitudes 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION
very attitudes. They are the creators of your unfulfillment and frustrations. With your unwillingness to expose yourself 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION
non-existence and meaninglessness that result directly from the unfulfillment of the longing. So it is essential that 243 THE GREAT EXISTENTIAL FEAR AND LONGING
altercations with your environment, or any kind of unfulfillment or frustration, there the underlying cause must be 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
not expose your difficulty in being open, your unfulfillment cannot be alleviated no matter how much you 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE

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