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you grow in this way, you will not give up something rich which you yearn for, it 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
yearn for, it only seems so as you give up your immediate will. Actually, you will become 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
one of those who is constantly ready to give, generously, but perhaps too generously, because out of 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
for yourself, but wait for some authority to give it to you, then you cripple your willpower 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
as your slanted outlook on them, will not give you the freedom of reality. It may prohibit 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
world. Thought and will are temporary tools to give directive to your outer actions and intent. They 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
creative spontaneity that only the real self can give. What you find within yourself may very well 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
used by translators and others who try to give to the world what one person experienced. Such 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
of the real self a few times will give you great strength. But do not expect to 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
our children? At this stage, every standard we give to our children is superimposed. ANSWER: Well, my 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
consequences of his own mistakes. It makes him give up the expectation of being rewarded for being 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
occasionally and in vague glimpses. But this will give you a new approach and relationship to God 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
for inspiration. If there is any way to give strength and consolation, it may come with such 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
also prevent others from relating and do not give what they search for, whether or not they 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
from each other that neither is willing to give. Both claims are distorted and unrealistic. Thus a 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
without grabbing and without urgent demands. You cannot give without fear. When you are willing to meet 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
have no desire to do so or to give in when it is disadvantageous or inconvenient. You 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
these natural feelings, you would be forced to give in. You see no other alternative. Hence, by 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
having to fulfill every demand, without having to give in. Is it not better to be selfish 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
significance of these reactions further, is bound to give you a more comprehensive view, and thus change 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
illusion. This discovery will set you free and give you a strength you cannot envision now. For 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
grabs and demands. Such a person wants to give, but does so compulsively, to have his or 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
which is often disguised by an over-eagerness to give for the purpose of receiving love as a 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
proper attitude? ANSWER: I will be glad to give additional help on this question, if I can 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
inhibits your strength and the help you can give, you can be quite sure that you are 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
them. Pity will transform into compassion, and to give constructive help to suffering people will be possible 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
and my new friends alike. May this evening give you renewed strength, renewed insight into your lives 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
problems, and show you the road. May it give you a glimmer of light if you are 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
misunderstood by the conscious mind. The psyche says, Give up your defenses against loving. Do not hold 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
make you overly submissive, and lead you to give in to the unjustified demands of others. This 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
assert yourself against unjustified demands, and when to give and act unselfishly. Truthfulness with yourself finally helps 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
to do so inwardly and outwardly. You will give up your little fears and misgivings, your imagined 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
greedy child that wants to receive everything but give nothing. Ascertain the selfishness and laziness in this 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
here or there in their souls, which may give them the incentive to start on a similar 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
how easily hurt you are, and how you give in to the temptation to pamper yourself by 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
longer need from others what no one can give you but yourself. The desperate struggle to be 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
best that is in you. Seeing this will give you the incentive to look at the hidden 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
You can inflict pain by not daring to give your best, be it due to fear, cowardice 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
feel the truth of this. If you voluntarily give up your wall of isolation, and thus let 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
that leads inevitably to self-respect. The process will give you a power you have never known to 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
which makes you sell your soul. It will give you the ability to freely express yourself without 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
what you wished to be understood. This will give you a new energy and vitality in your 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
Human beings can have such wishes, and therefore give blessings, only by degrees. The receiver, too, may 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
of which are supposed to protect you. To give up this protection induces fear. To be called 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
experienced as a role. Observing this feeling may give you a very good clue to how unreal 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
spirits who came only once. QUESTION: Can you give us some information about the power of habit 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
to do so, you are not forced to give it up simply because you understand what is 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
seen from a spiritual viewpoint. My words may give my friends a deepened understanding for their further 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
more from others than you are willing to give, no matter how much you may cover up 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
it will be triggered off, or you may give in to the most immature, unjustified demands from 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
fearful of demands, or of your compulsion to give in to them, and so afraid of what 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
of what might happen if you did not give in, that you set up a defense against 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
themselves as against the temptation and compulsion to give in to them. Your inability to discriminate is 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
you strain into the future. Such investigation will give you the best inkling about one side of 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
time and space are two separate factors. I give you a practical example: you find yourself in 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
merely pass through your brain. May they, indeed, give you the incentive to listen deeply within yourself 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
the struggle for existence. If you do not give children love, they do not become better able 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
soul. Reach for these inner resources. They will give you more strength than depending on help from 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
struggle. Various philosophies and religions ask that you give up struggling. This is a true teaching, but 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
This is unhealthy struggle. If only you would give it up, you could easily put the energy 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
for one's needs. One does not want to give up the belief that happiness, fulfillment, and security 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
are afraid of your helplessness and do not give yourself the chance not to be helpless, nor 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
wish to be. You further fear having to give up your childish desire for instant gratification of 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
instead of stemming against it. That alone will give you self-confidence. If you can accept not having 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
accept not having whatever you want, that will give you the trust in yourself you truly deserve 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
to master any situation. May this love also give you strength and wisdom, as well as the 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
pathwork from this angle, your deeper understanding may give you renewed incentive and strength. Let us now 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
more possibilities, more inner and outer resources that give you a greater scope for determination. Even if 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
the things human beings can learn, namely to give to and love other human beings. So it 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
not do any good. It will fail to give substance and meaning to your life. Let me 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
not only to avoid confusion, but also to give more of an impact to our approach and 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
which there are no group activities. It may give you an excellent preparation for our work together 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
secure trust in yourself, because you do not give yourself the chance. Healthy self-respect can come only 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
be loved; the ability to receive and to give; the ability to relate harmoniously and to create 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
greater or lesser degree, a desire not to give up being a child, despite the equally strong 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
were, your parents or the parent-substitutes to belatedly give you what you missed. Thus you perpetuate the 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
various side-effects. QUESTION: Would it be possible to give us a specific example, as sometimes you have 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
at the same time he is reluctant to give up his clinging to childish dependency which may 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
because she fights her passivity and ability to give of herself completely, she has to artificially suppress 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
answer, my dear friend, that I can possibly give you -- and it would apply to this 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
is a further step. This next step will give you a wonderful opportunity to measure your liberation 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
even toward the self. I should like to give specific advice in this respect. First of all 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
you are as yet unwilling or unable to give them up. In this way you touch upon 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
It may be too extreme, or it may give in to apathy and stagnation. On this path 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
was not. The parents had the power to give or to withhold. The basic struggle of the 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
can change it in a way that will give you and others immeasurable happiness. On the other 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
repetitious or impossible to understand. This lecture should give you a great deal of material. If you 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
no more time for questions tonight, I will give you all the time you wish when we 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
with the help of this lecture. This will give you greater understanding and a wider vision of 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
strength to overcome the resistance. But if you give in to the blind, faulty reasoning of resistance 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
offer you a better overall view and will give you much food for thought which will be 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
or denied, its counterpart -- the need to give, as part of a rich, healthy, fulfilled life 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
therefore unable to meld with the need to give and receive love and affection. Consequently, the need 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
need to receive, automatically impairs your capacity to give -- no matter how forcefully and artificially you 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
and quite common conflict between the compulsion to give and the guilt for receiving. These two emotions 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
still being unable to stop the compulsion to give and the guilt for desiring to receive. He 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
that it is a healthy need. When you give aggressiveness a right to exist, you will have 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
expressions of the self. Lack of ability to give the ego its necessary gratification is a result 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
for being needed and important; the need to give and receive; the need to be protective or 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
relationship is disproportionately stronger than the need to give and receive love, affection, pleasure, such an imbalance 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
she must gain the strength and selfhood which give her full security in herself. She finds herself 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
independence and self- respect should consistently grow and give you sufficient security to truly let go to 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
forcing current because you do not wish to give up your will, as well as your capacity 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
ego is not inclined to do, or to give up something which it is unwilling to surrender 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
direct and control; it does not want to give over to any force, even if this force 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
love because it wants all control; it cannot give itself up. It seems to you -- erroneously 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
to death? The truth is that you cannot give up successfully what you have not found, for 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
never really possessed. Only when you can freely give up your selfhood will you gain more selfhood 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
how much precarious temporary satisfaction it appears to give. You always find reasons and excuses outside yourself 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
you to become more aware of this, to give you even more effective tools to discover more 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
to new circumstances? In these circumstances you could give of yourself as you compromise and renounce your 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
one-sided fantasy, you may even be willing to give of yourself, but only because in the fantasy 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
but I still have the feeling.... Can I give an example? I have always wanted to be 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
will make it easier for the patient to give in to relief, instead of fighting against it 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
to you as you listen or read. Do give all other friends the benefit of sharing, and 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
are willing to pay the price and to give. You will then realize that your attitudes in 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
existing yes-current, to correct all faulty impressions, to give you all the insight you need, and to 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
you all the insight you need, and to give you the strength to change and transform yourself 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
a deeper level, and it is possible to give you more material because you are better able 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
that aspect of the life force which can give you access to the vast intelligence which knows 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
of life create the contradictions. The moment you give up resisting, two apparent contradictions unify into one 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
of this path which reiterates the necessity to give up the desire for magic? Whether or not 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
learns to let go of tight currents and give up one's self will and the compulsion to 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
less the person is willing to lose, or give up if need be, the weaker he or 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
is that man has to be able to give up what he wants to gain. In this 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
available abundance will be open to you, will give you all the many fulfillments you cannot even 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
come to a wider understanding, have first to give up their concept of God as a small 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
and prohibits love. It stifles the ability to give and receive pleasure and joy. It limits the 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
fears, and because you are so reluctant to give up appearing to be more than you think 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
created excessive movement. I should now like to give a simple example of the healing value of 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
others' motives -- their truth -- will not give you this faculty. Your merely understanding is certainly 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
you consider unacceptable the best you have to give while the most destructive part may rule you 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
growing, and toward what life is supposed to give you. Observe and pinpoint it. Finding it is 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
see it, I reject it. I do not give in to it. Regardless of what I ignorantly 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
This seems, indeed, like a contradiction which may give rise to puzzlement and confusion. Now, when I 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
that of others, being willing to grant and give it to them. Conversely, the less you feel 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
order to fulfill yourself, for how can you give them the fulfillment that you feel you have 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
assume that it is impossible? If you can give yourself truthful answers to these questions by observing 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
tightness in the mind, as you commit and give yourself fully. Usually a reverse situation exists. The 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
Holding back, you hope that life will first give you a big slice, and then, maybe, you 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
then, maybe, you can muster the willingness to give back a crumb. You may even give much 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
to give back a crumb. You may even give much more than is constructive or helpful to 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
life. If you love truth, you will also give up impatience. You will go step by step 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
impatience. You will go step by step and give it time like a scientist who does the 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
great duality of life and death. This will give you a better understanding of a lecture I 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR
of his or her destiny, the ability to give over in trust to greater forces must be 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR
QUESTION: I can't visualize a sphere. Could you give an example of another sphere? ANSWER: In a 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR
the unconscious false struggle. Now what to do? Give up struggling on a conscious level to force 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION

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