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the organic process of emotional growth, manipulating your feelings in a most negative and destructive way, with 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
that stem from the misconception that your real feelings will get you into trouble -- guilt, resentment 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
in which you withdraw from your organic, natural feelings, stunting them deliberately, as it were. Once you 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
either forcing love or withdrawing from your natural feelings are not the only ones will stop the 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
liberating results. If there are no warm, loving feelings to begin with, just see what feelings are 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
loving feelings to begin with, just see what feelings are there. You will find all the negative 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
When you understand them sufficiently, the warm, natural feelings of affection are bound to come out eventually 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
bound to come out eventually. For these loving feelings are already in you. They do not have 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
you harbor the simple misunderstanding that your natural feelings should not be experienced. Since this misunderstanding is 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
proceed. If you truly experience the flow of feelings as they come up, you will probably go 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
causes the deliberate cutting off of naturally arising feelings; this in turn results in guilt, fear, uncertainty 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
severe. You have to fully experience all these feelings and confusions before you can actually feel the 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
not dare to let yourself feel your natural feelings, for fear of being despised by the people 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
is especially strong when you have natural, warm feelings for someone you are convinced you should reject 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
the simple act of discouraging your natural, warm feelings and artificially producing toughness. Again, all this is 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
of the type I discussed before, who represses feelings. The two types often get into conflict with 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
they must allow themselves to experience all the feelings as they come up in the process of 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
will find a reason for prohibiting their real feelings for affection and loving. This may be so 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
to be loved which they confuse with genuine feelings of affection for others. The latter are much 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
self-centered, the way the need is. These mature feelings exist, but they have been prohibited from developing 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
then do would be to further manipulate your feelings and superimpose attitudes that are not genuinely yours 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
through action, or just by communicating your true feelings. QUESTION: In the past you discussed the close 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
motive. Yet, their backgrounds that led to these feelings, that led to this action, as well as 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
guards, your shames, your embarrassment, your resistance against feelings. As you do so, this stream will be 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
yourself apart! Do not be miserly with your feelings! You are wrong; you sin against the vital 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
have to start from your own consciousness of feelings and reactions. At first, they may appear to 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
attitude toward life is correct and positive, his feelings will be right also, and consequently his actions 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
how dangerous perfectionism, self-condemnation, moralizing, and false guilt feelings are. You see, my dearest friends, to the 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
ineffectiveness, and a lack of self-respect that causes feelings of insecurity and inferiority. Consequently you make your 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
us about certain activities that cause justified guilt feelings. How can we atone for these real guilts 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
of it, you cannot experience the other person's feelings, or even intellectually consider them. The other person 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
inner lack of awareness, the deliberate numbing of feelings, just as the superimposed faith and hope cover 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
merely be in expressing your thoughts and changed feelings. What counts is your inner understanding and your 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
your good deeds, your productive attitudes, your genuine feelings affect all those who are open, who do 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
detect the reaction of fright, or anxiety, or feelings of loss, or merely the unwillingness to look 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
conscious in you at the moment, or these feelings may not be linked with the recognition that 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
from the telling of the story. The adult's feelings have a much stronger influence on the child 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
I should like to hear your differentiation between feelings and emotions. ANSWER: There is a difference between 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
this I do not wish to imply that feelings do not change. I do not mean that 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
do not change. I do not mean that feelings are permanent in time, but they are so 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
person, are emotions. The real self sends forth feelings. Hence, a feeling is something much more substantial 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
see all the blocks in you that prohibit feelings and intuition. A feeling always reacts to reality 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
subjectively, produces an emotion and not a feeling. Feelings are based on objectivity, emotions on subjectivity. In 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
or emotional involvement, of expressing one's emotions when feelings too, are meant. But the words do not 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
itself to deeper exploration. Constructive, realistic, and positive feelings do not conflict with time, because time is 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
changes in your own state of mind and feelings, even though you deliberately try to deny them 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
moment you may discover that how your thoughts, feelings, or words in a conversation appear is more 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
as real and not. Even the most vital feelings, thoughts, and inner experiences are often shifted this 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
that your attitude about your actions, thoughts, and feelings is governed by the idea of, If only 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
to manipulate others, yourself, and your vital natural feelings. By this very process the self cannot evolve 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
to reach the surface. All human attitudes and feelings can be compared to streams. They move in 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
you do not like, or even fear, certain feelings and attitudes in yourself, you block awareness of 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
them. This amounts to obstructing the stream of feelings that should flow freely. Use the analogy of 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
this temptation. The warm, positive, generous, loving, unselfish feelings must follow eventually, and the negative feelings will 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
unselfish feelings must follow eventually, and the negative feelings will no longer be detrimental to you. Not 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
breaks it down will render you helpless. The feelings will swamp you and you will not understand 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
what is inherent in it, and face those feelings that you would rather evade -- doubts, aggression 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
you. Since you consist of many attitudes and feelings, there are many streams. A few of them 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
The prohibition against allowing the flow of all feelings into your conscious mind is due to, first 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
similarly as a child. Then synchronize these two feelings. But it is necessary to have made some 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
demands, and many more. You struggle against these feelings just as you struggle against the fear. Very 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
person has adopted and explains his or her feelings and emotions, attitudes and inclinations. In other words 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
will not paralyze your faculties and freeze your feelings into fear and distrust, such as happens with 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
will free you from limitation and from frozen feelings. When religious teachers preach about the importance of 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
and so you cannot feel the productive warm feelings of love that create a benign circle connecting 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
responses you still react according to the same feelings. Only by working through this lecture on a 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
not require the complicated mechanism of perceiving the feelings of another. They do not disapprove or criticize 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
God is through inner growth and liberation of feelings, perception and determination. If God is not an 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
become more whole, better equipped to deal with feelings, with others, better able to expand, then introversion 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
a mistaken concept that only heavy thoughts and feelings indicate a depth of personality. It may seem 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
finding the true values, constructive inclinations, thoughts and feelings that you hold down artificially because you erroneously 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
not be feared. You often artificially encourage negative feelings, though the real you is free of them 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
being in, or not seeing, reality. Warm, outgoing feelings of affection, concern, understanding are an outcome of 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
is the case, the less can such productive feelings be replaced by a false and weakening sentimentality 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
and weakening sentimentality. When fear of true deep feelings vanishes, the psyche no longer needs to produce 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
psyche no longer needs to produce falsely positive feelings. Such fear is a result of self-centeredness which 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
is therefore responsible for creating false, unreal good feelings. This is another angle that shows you how 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
your shame, your inhibitions and your daily disharmonious feelings. Each private session gives you an opportunity to 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
how you strive to reproduce not only your feelings about what you did not have, but also 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
to the degree you felt unloved, the conflicted feelings of love and guilt will have damaged you 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
life, which is always flexible, always in motion. Feelings are movement, too. When feelings are prohibited, or 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
always in motion. Feelings are movement, too. When feelings are prohibited, or manipulated so that they cannot 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
your ability to experience must suffer. When your feelings are distorted and one-sided, it is because you 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
and the minimum of pain. For the former, feelings must be moving; for the latter, consciousness must 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
life. Harming oneself also arises from unjustified guilt feelings and eventually is bound to harm others also 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
emotions only if you learn to face these feelings, to understand their origin and reason. If you 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
not, you may not appear to harbor such feelings, but you will harbor them nevertheless. They manifest 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
exactly the same with the forbidden immature sexual feelings. They, too, must be faced, reexperienced, come to 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
to grow harmoniously and fulfill itself. These forbidden feelings are frequently on a layer below hate and 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
But they are often more acceptable than pleasurable feelings in connection with one's own family. Therefore, such 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
connection with one's own family. Therefore, such pleasurable feelings are kept even more securely locked than hate 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
path investigate his or her primitive, heretofore untouched feelings in this regard. They must be lifted out 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
for example, to enhance the ego, to diminish feelings of inadequacy, to feel wanted and desired because 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
only by looking deeply into your hidden primitive feelings in connection with your early environment. This is 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
and healthy for these limited periods. But such feelings are labeled sinful and perverse. The child soon 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
intended effect. The child would naturally outgrow these feelings, but guilt, shame, and fear fixate them in 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
to others without the influence of these early feelings. Then layers of destructive, artificial emotions cover up 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
that powerful emotions are involved. The most powerful feelings are those connected with the pleasure principle. If 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
growth. Do not be afraid of facing these feelings. Encourage them! You have nothing to fear in 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
will truly liberate yourselves. Be particularly watchful when feelings seem problematic because there is too much blind 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
and again the adult will battle against these feelings. The healthy longing of the soul may occasionally 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
Try to detect the hidden fear of your feelings that stems from humanity's strong separation of general 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
be so completely separated. Your fear of your feelings cramps you and makes you manipulate them in 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
come to terms with these heretofore hidden primitive feelings, when you overcome your unreasonable fear and shame 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
and the curbing of its selfish instincts. The feelings may be lacking, but at least by gesture 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
the truth without the burden of destructive guilt feelings, showing a way to truly absolve yourself from 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
significance: that is, displacement, substitution, and superimposition of feelings and needs. This topic deserves careful scrutiny and 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
absolute sign that some emotional needs or specific feelings have been shifted into different channels or superimposed 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
shifted into different channels or superimposed by other feelings. No matter how deep a problem, how severe 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
in its original form, without displacing the genuine feelings, substituting others, or superimposing other feelings over the 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
the genuine feelings, substituting others, or superimposing other feelings over the genuine ones. As you know from 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
rich life expresses a variety of needs and feelings -- not just a few. The more integrated 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
prevent it -- or numbness and impoverishment of feelings in other areas, are frequent indications of inner 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
will not be too difficult to synchronize the feelings of the original, denied need with the feelings 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
feelings of the original, denied need with the feelings of the substitute need. Doing so will bring 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
specific friendship into which you shift all the feelings and needs. It does not suffice to be 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
just as one might displace, or transfer, the feelings one originally had for a parent onto another 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
within yourself. The identical mechanism works with displaced feelings and needs. Are there any questions now? QUESTION 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
can be sure only by deeply examining one's feelings and ascertaining the parallels, the similarities of reactions 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
when being alert to oneself, but usually spontaneous feelings for the new person also exist, which may 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
between you and others, look at your naked feelings by asking yourself what you expect of the 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
If you look at confused, disturbed, and disharmonious feelings, you must dare to let out the irrational 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
daring step to own up to your unreasonable feelings and requests, your unfair demands, and your childish 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
If it were so many of your reactions, feelings, and expressions, as well as the effect you 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
can come only when you look at the feelings that keep you from happiness at this moment 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
childhood lessons. You will now detect the destructive feelings in the service of the no-current: fear, guilt 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
no-current: fear, guilt, anger, frustration, hostility, etc. These feelings continue to smolder, but they may be artfully 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
human language. The concise formulation of previously vague feelings is invaluable and needs to be learned in 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
part of you. But none of the half-conscious feelings, reactions, and concepts are clearly formulated into concise 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
these questions, through steady observation, formulation of vague feelings, and meditation exercises, cannot be a permanent one 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
review; of formulating confusions, unanswered questions, vague uneasy feelings in a concise way and tackling them as 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
the details of daily living, reactions, thoughts, and feelings. This detail work is the most important aspect 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
in those healthy areas vastly differ from your feelings and expectations in the unfulfilled areas. Making such 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
a difference between talking about the problem, your feelings and reactions, and talking all of them out 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
at a certain point, appears to aggravate negative feelings. I know that you know some answers to 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
humiliation and shame. Needless to say, all these feelings are unconscious. The no-current is used to avoid 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
in you no trace of doubt or uneasy feelings; rather, it gives you the peaceful knowledge that 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
provided you clear the confusion of your present feelings, thoughts, and moods. You do not even have 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
confusion, depression, and stagnation, and you face these feelings fully, formulating their existence without the slightest evasion 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
also acknowledge that the very presence of such feelings indicates error -- and you simultaneously wish the 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
wish the truth to manifest within, the negative feelings dissolve and truth begins to enter. Being in 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
of infinite possibilities and changes of outlook, attitudes, feelings, and thoughts. Your tendency to petrify a pleasant 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
judgement that you should no longer have negative feelings, cause you to struggle away from the now 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
conscious, when it can be denied and unpleasant feelings ascribed to other factors having nothing to do 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
self-government and accountability for one's actions, thoughts, and feelings are seen as prerequisites for the greater intelligence 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
comes into you when you fully acknowledge your feelings and assert the fact that some of these 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
and assert the fact that some of these feelings are an outcome of illusion, although you are 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
illusion to truth, while acknowledging all your negative feelings -- the outcome of your illusion -- will 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
soul movements. Truthful concepts create relaxed, warm, positive feelings and flexible, harmonious, rhythmic, organic soul movements. For 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE

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