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and reality, in perfection and purity. But the feelings of the real self function in perfection relative 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
of all compulsions, will you trust in your feelings because they will have an opportunity to mature 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
will have an opportunity to mature and grow. Feelings will become every bit as reliable to you 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
you feel so impatient, so irritated, that your feelings can snowball into fury and wrath at yourself 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
and rejection -- both real and imagined. These feelings create insecurity and lack of self-confidence, which the 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
idealized self-image demands such power and independence from feelings and human emotions as no human being can 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
the withdrawn type is entirely unaware of such feelings, and whenever they come to the fore is 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
work, you learn to become increasingly aware of feelings of utter threat, even though your reason knows 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
to give you security by trying to elicit feelings you think they ought to have for you 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
of behavior and attitude; it freezes ideas and feelings as long as the basic distortion is not 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
perhaps out of insecurity. Then another set of feelings erupts that spell anger. Between these two sets 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
that spell anger. Between these two sets of feelings -- one forgiving and understanding, the other angry 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
know which is the right feeling, provided both feelings are genuine. Of course, it may be that 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
eventually weaken, so that the other set of feelings will become genuine and dominant. Often, if goodwill 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
what you described as the first set of feelings may not even be forcefully superimposed. It may 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
compulsive aspect and does not allow the true feelings to guide you. Due to some instances in 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
in some way, even anger or other strong feelings? Our emotions will not be as strong anymore 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
you may believe your lack of strong negative feelings is a sign of spiritual progress and emotional 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
in turn cause anxiety and frustration, among other feelings. Since both instincts exist in equal strength in 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
reactions. You will unlearn the repression of forbidden feelings and will acknowledge them without censorship. Only then 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
pseudo-solutions. This should absolve you from destructive guilt feelings about the original pseudo-solution you have clung to 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
and bad. This would only strengthen your guilt feelings. It would also strengthen the exaggerated demands and 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
applied more to actions and thoughts than to feelings, to your inner life. In order to spotlight 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
your inner life. In order to spotlight the feelings without courting the dangers of self-judgment, more substantial 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
be right, good, true, and loving. However, since feelings cannot be controlled by an effort of will 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
ANSWER: The obvious answer would be self-punishment, guilt feelings, fear of success. But such answer will not 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
very pleasant time. But if you analyze your feelings, you will find that the goal of your 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
of your conflicts proportionately influences your activities, thoughts, feelings, and motives. This may occur through the subtle 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
self-image. QUESTION: How should I regard my guilt feelings over the joy I feel about the assassination 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
fully acknowledge, accept, understand, and follow through these feelings, you are bound to grow out of these 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
indicative of all, self-pity. Once you ascertain these feelings, it will not be so difficult to find 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
more proportionate relationship between your words and your feelings. Again, the remedy is not to use self-discipline 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
help but feel, you are busy hiding such feelings from yourself and others. How can you receive 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
neither feel nor express the occasional glimpses of feelings that the still healthy part in you strives 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
through an organic process of emotional growth wherein feelings will naturally change their direction, their aim, their 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
their place, but you will simply repress existing feelings. You will bury them and deceive yourself that 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
unaware of what exists underneath. Then you superimpose feelings that you think you ought to have but 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
operate -- some more, some less -- with feelings that are not genuinely yours, with feelings you 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
with feelings that are not genuinely yours, with feelings you think you ought to have but do 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
in times of extreme crisis do these actual feelings reach the surface. Then you believe it is 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
and the purposeful activity of reexperiencing all the feelings that once existed in you and that still 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
will also learn to discriminate between genuine good feelings and the false good feelings that you superimpose 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
between genuine good feelings and the false good feelings that you superimpose out of the need to 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
out your personal involvement in the world of feelings. After you see this clearly, you will comprehend 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
necessary will first experience a host of negative feelings. But after these are dealt with and properly 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
are dealt with and properly understood, mature, constructive feelings will evolve. You will feel warmth, compassion, and 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
negative view arising from certain negative instincts or feelings causes an inordinate fear. The more you fear 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
their significance, you will not only find negative feelings you had been unaware of, like the moralizing 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
repress and displace the true origin of your feelings and so move away from reality. You no 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
was not discussing action. When it comes to feelings, your own emotional attitude toward yourself, the prerequisite 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
you distinguish between this conscience and, say, guilt feelings? ANSWER: In a past lecture I discussed two 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
the idealized self-image speaks, many of these negative feelings will be present. You will feel guilty about 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
created needs of the idealized self create guilt feelings, but just as often the healthy, normal, and 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
every healthy human being cause equally strong guilt feelings. This is due to the influence of the 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
relinquish is the most basic factor in your feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. The destructive defense mechanism 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
this serves your own interest. Only when such feelings accompany the point of relinquishing have you truly 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
upon close analysis of the various emotions and feelings will it become clear that the submitter rejects 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
the crass term of sin. Your self-destructive guilt feelings on the one hand, and your moralizing tendency 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
it up with the very opposite trends, thoughts, feelings and attitudes. Yet there is a part of 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
so when you are aware of your own feelings and you are aware of the depth of 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
that the person ask where there may be feelings of helplessness, weakness, self-pity, of being subjected to 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
that point of view. Try to observe your feelings and see what they really say. Translate your 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
always, it is important not to force such feelings away and deceive yourself into a serenity that 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
through understanding your emotions' origin, before the positive feelings, coming from your real self, follow suit. Here 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
a solid wall many of your productive, genuine feelings whose guidance you need in order to fully 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
depth and not owning up to your real feelings -- with its resultant boredom is sadness. Be 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
the very decided difference between these entirely contrary feelings: sadness, and self-pity mixed with futility. When you 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
all that it brings, without cringing from your feelings. Please, let us go into whatever is not 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
you are so unaware of your reactions and feelings. You have so many subterfuges, so many hidden 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
this. Since you recognize many of your conscious feelings as imperfect, you try to forcefully superimpose inauthentic 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
progress in this work, to observe how your feelings are not allowed to function naturally. Tampering with 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
function naturally. Tampering with the free flow of feelings can happen in many subtle ways. A forceful 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
forceful overemotionalism, overdramatization, exaggeration, talking yourself into stronger feelings than you actually have, is an example. You 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
Sit back, so to speak, and allow your feelings to reach the surface of your consciousness. This 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
mean to act on them, but when the feelings show themselves in their natural intensity, or their 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
high or low points, and how your real feelings, when they are not manipulated by unconscious needs 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
in you. The actual discovery of your genuine feelings, as opposed to the manipulated emotions, will come 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
you relax by yourself and allow your true feelings to surface. When you review how you reacted 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
responsible for your tampering with your natural genuine feelings? The truth about your feelings cannot ever be 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
your natural genuine feelings? The truth about your feelings cannot ever be ascertained by anyone but yourself 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
As you condition yourself to observe your real feelings without manipulation one way or another, a new 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
will arise out of you, because these real feelings, unmanipulated, come from your real self. But this 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
not willing to sit back and let your feelings come to the fore and ask yourself pertinent 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
main reason for exaggerating the intensity of your feelings. It is a measure of forcing another. So 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
with the pseudo-solution of power. The repression of feelings is connected with the pseudo-solution of withdrawal, false 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
may say that the one who exaggerates his feelings and makes them stronger than they actually are 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
not that different from your inner reaction, your feelings are simply dulled and you react in a 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
in you says, I should not have these feelings of aggression. I should know better because he 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
you superimpose the hard and much more unpleasant feelings of aggressiveness. Once you become aware of the 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
element, it is easier to cope with your feelings, and soon the hurt will dissolve and make 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
dissolve and make room for even more genuine feelings which are still closer to the real you 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
impoverishes your life, your capacity to experience real feelings, and necessitates repression and self-deception. QUESTION: In a 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
they can, without the awareness of their deeper feelings, they do the most they can. On the 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
connected with your idealized self-image, your self-glorification, your feelings of inadequacy and your lack of self-confidence. There 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
in a way that exactly opposes your deep-rooted feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. You correct your undesirable 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
your inner actions and reactions, your thoughts and feelings, your motivations, your soul and spirit. It means 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
will you have the reward of good, constructive feelings. About this we shall talk in greater detail 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
the lack of them, for my thoughts and feelings or for the lack of them. I may 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
that would amount to a manipulation of your feelings, and, in the last analysis, this would be 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
moments capable of having all sorts of other feelings, the necessary strength to defend yourself would be 101 THE DEFENSE
are constantly on the defensive, however, the predominant feelings are fright and anger. I hardly need to 101 THE DEFENSE
moment. Remember that the whole range of your feelings is reduced to fright and anger precisely because 101 THE DEFENSE
safety. Such concentration does not leave room for feelings of love, warmth, affection, understanding, and compassion. Therefore 101 THE DEFENSE
concerns. In moments of actual danger such positive feelings would be detrimental. When the danger is over 101 THE DEFENSE
feeling all the warm, good, outgoing, and outreaching feelings. The same is true about your creativity, another 101 THE DEFENSE
guard against, you limit the range of your feelings. You also limit the potentials of your creativity 101 THE DEFENSE
such criticism, you will readily see that your feelings say, I am in danger. Now, let us 101 THE DEFENSE
think truthfully or reasonably. You do not feel feelings of warmth, affection, and understanding. Therefore, you are 101 THE DEFENSE
to this work, to voicing one's impressions and feelings about others, the truth of the matter cannot 101 THE DEFENSE
is predominantly intellectual and who deliberately dull their feelings, still have certain feelings. The more defensive human 101 THE DEFENSE
who deliberately dull their feelings, still have certain feelings. The more defensive human beings are, the more 101 THE DEFENSE
and potentials of thought, and the range of feelings in every human being. Every human being has 101 THE DEFENSE
effects. Briefly: pride is always a compensation for feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. That the effects of 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
causes negative effects, while owning up to your feelings does not. Hurt, free from anger, cannot negatively 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
outer behavior, while thought influences thought, and unconscious feelings influence unconscious feelings. The contagious actions, at least 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
thought influences thought, and unconscious feelings influence unconscious feelings. The contagious actions, at least in their crassest 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
On the other hand, if you repress these feelings and desires out of fear and guilt, the 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
to be. But if you freely admit your feelings and desires, if you acknowledge them in yourself 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
us use the words warmth and understanding. These feelings can even be felt for people who do 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
a personality that has no personal involvement and feelings, so that one first realizes that love has 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
time like this, as you describe it, the feelings I spoke about before, the awe of God 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
depends on the motivation, on the kind of feelings you do have, and on the will and 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
that if the motivation is sincere and if feelings of affection, respect, liking for the other human 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
just look at yourself, how genuine, warm, constructive feelings can never be forced on you, either by 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
you, either by others or by yourself. Genuine feelings are always spontaneous and come of themselves. They 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
not only confuses you, but also increases your feelings of insecurity and self-doubt, injustice and victimization. Let 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
to let go, when to have warm human feelings of sympathy and understanding, with no demand. But 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
more compulsive in trying to eliminate these destructive feelings that are evidently responsible for the child's fear 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
you want to get rid of the destructive feelings, the more you have to pretend to feel 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
the compulsion and the impatience, and the imperfect feelings of hostility will be less harmful than the 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
do not apply it to the everyday little feelings which you let go by without becoming aware 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
to transform them through understanding them. Innately, your feelings are constructive, but how can you come to 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
at his real motivations; by allowing his actual feelings to come to the surface; by questioning them 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
mentioned here, in addition to many more indescribable feelings, comprise prayer in the highest sense. It is 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
There is no doubt that pure thoughts and feelings, pure intent, must have an effect. Not necessarily 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
learn more and more to bring out your feelings. Learn to observe your own reactions. Observe your 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
how you approach yourself, your daily experiences, reactions, feelings. Keep up this self-observation, no matter what. Do 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
depression is absent. You may believe that your feelings of sadness and pain are purely normal and 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
outer circumstance may be the same, but your feelings of pain are, to quite an extent, due 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
very well that the real explanation for one's feelings is other than those of which one arduously 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
the purpose of freeing you of very unpleasant feelings, but above all it liberates faculties which will 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
you permit yourself to become aware of these feelings, to that degree will you find a few 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
tell everyone everything. Thus you may share your feelings indiscriminately and jeopardize yourself, in the misunderstood idea 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
will never completely grow out of their inferiority feelings. But by recognizing this, they will learn that 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
out of that well of wise guidance warm feelings of love and affection and understanding, without your 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
people who take advantage of such warm, loving feelings? If I do not guard myself and allow 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
covering it even more thickly when you prohibit feelings, you do not open the well of truth 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
demands of others is by curbing your natural feelings, thereby cutting off the love current from within 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
if you were to allow yourself these natural feelings, you would be forced to give in. You 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING

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