| responsibility without the pride of destructive wrong guilt feelings that make you exaggerate your own badness and | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| hopelessness about yourself -- the negative, destructive guilt feelings that make you despair of yourself; self-justification -- | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| maturity you will no longer fear your positive feelings, either, because you will accept an occasional hurt | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| occasional hurt. You will risk expressing your positive feelings rather than withholding them from others, because enveloping | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| soul. There you will find many trends and feelings diametrically opposed to your conscious beliefs about yourself | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| would act and live out all these unruly feelings. Discover the difference between suppressing these emotions and | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| healthy in body, soul, and spirit, in your feelings and in your mind. Be grateful for any | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| only unnecessary but sickly. It fosters wrong guilt feelings and seeks to punish the self for them | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| quite clearly by now. One of the conflicting feelings is the need for self-punishment, yet, on the | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| live up to your high standards. All inferiority feelings in human nature can be reduced to this | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| not felt and experienced, you cannot shed inferiority feelings. You have to uncover the whole vicious circle | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| Whatever rationalizations you use to explain your inferiority feelings, they are never the real cause. Others may | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| This never is the real reason for your feelings of inadequacy and inferiority! This truth is borne | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| successful, most beautiful people often having worse inferiority feelings than others who are less brilliant, less successful | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| a child you were justified in having certain feelings, attitudes, needs and incapacities which are now obsolete | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| tortured or wronged just to satisfy your guilt feelings. Accept another's wrong in a healthy attitude of | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| another if you hold other people's opinions. Inferiority feelings are another reason for not having your own | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| by God, is a personality and therefore has feelings, reactions, and opinions. But they differ greatly from | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| does not feel and react, too. But the feelings are refined and much wiser. The aim is | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| and right in itself, was done without your feelings sustaining it. You have actually done the right | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| opposite extreme and give vent to the crude feelings. Having performed a right act out of wrong | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| face it without the wrong kind of guilt feelings -- and you should all be able to | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| loved. All these attitudes cause self- contempt and feelings of inferiority. You always despise yourself because in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| at the root of your self-contempt, of your feelings of inferiority. Nothing else really is. All the | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| things you may find to explain your inferiority feelings are but symptoms and rationalizations. To the extent | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| you come to the root of your inferiority feelings and your lack of self-respect; not before. Until | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| what I say seems evident, than to your feelings. They should reach the emotions coming to the | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| to you like a big bundle of confused feelings. With the help of my words you will | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| will be able to make something of these feelings. Without understanding them, they would completely suffocate you | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| personality. Hence they cannot integrate sexuality with love feelings. This creates a vicious circle. The more the | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of your subconscious, you will find that your feelings seldom agree with your intellectual knowledge on this | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| which is nothing but an inferiority feeling. Such feelings are rarely based on what you consciously think | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| do not even know why you have such feelings of inferiority. They may not coincide at all | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| you, my friends, that you never have inferiority feelings because of something that you cannot change. No | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| push you into the despair triggered by inferiority feelings -- provided your attitude about it is healthy | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| Remember this. The real reasons for your inferiority feelings are the little deviations that result from your | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| inferiority. That is why one loses one's inferiority feelings as one finds one's unconscious deviations and comes | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| may be unaware of, will then cause inferiority feelings in you, even though the very goal of | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| goal of this desire is to eliminate these feelings. In other words, you seek the wrong remedy | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| my friends, that the only reason for inferiority feelings is self- deception about your motives: why you | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| this concept with unhealthy self-blame, guilt, and inferiority feelings. In other words, the opposite happens of what | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| self-responsibility to nourish your guilt and your inferiority feelings. You might say to yourself, Since I am | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| bless this hour. We have often discussed inferiority feelings and their true origin. This is an important | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| by now that the real reasons for inferiority feelings are hidden. Subconsciously you do register your imperfections | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| in the eyes of the world, your inferiority feelings will vanish; that when others agree with what | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| and this, more than anything else, causes inferiority feelings. Often, you cannot both please the world and | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| the way I described. Try to put your feelings into precise words. That in itself will be | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| in order to convince yourself that your inferiority feelings are unjustified. You believe, deep in your heart | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| that my actions are right? No, my friends. Feelings are actions too, although they do not manifest | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| in the belief that it will alleviate your feelings of guilt and inferiority. And the more you | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| infant still exists in you with its desires, feelings, and reactions, and focus your attention on this | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the first desire. This, in turn, causes acute feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, of regret and guilt | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| failure causes additional despair and guilt, increasing the feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. There is also another | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| your reactions right now, you will find similar feelings in you, although you may never have had | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| in trying to force yourself into something your feelings cannot yet follow. Forcing it may have a | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| follow it through in reality would increase your feelings of failure and guilt. This, in turn, would | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| is the proper interpretation of your reactions and feelings in certain incidents, on certain occasions. Now we | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| attitude, doubt, and any number of other destructive feelings? Superficially one may say that this simply displays | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| But by going to the core of your feelings, you will find a hidden corner where you | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| unhappiness -- is the result of deep-rooted guilt feelings. This is only partly true. It is much | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| is at the root of all other guilt feelings. All the feelings of guilt and shame you | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| root of all other guilt feelings. All the feelings of guilt and shame you have found so | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| The proof of this is that the guilt feelings you have unearthed and acknowledged still linger on | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| said. It is necessary that you find these feelings now. If you find them, experience them, lift | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| you. You all know, my friends, that thoughts, feelings, attitudes and convictions create forms -- forms that | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| an abyss. You may never have translated these feelings into such terms. But, if you analyze your | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| into such terms. But, if you analyze your feelings, you will see that this is so. There | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| and full of anxiety. If you analyze these feelings, you will discover that it amounts to feeling | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| right approach there is no room for guilt feelings. The very nature of a guilt feeling, which | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| Could one be ashamed of something without guilt feelings? ANSWER: Yes, of course. This is always a | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| not superficially by restraining the action, while the feelings continue in that direction. That I do not | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| see what they mean. Translate them from vague feelings into concrete language. Then you do the most | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Speak out your most irrational and seemingly senseless feelings. Pronounce what you feel, why you feel low | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| ineffective because the motives are wrong, the underlying feelings are unhealthy. One may even resist an untruth | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| truth of my words if you examine your feelings and reactions in the proper light. Each one | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| The outer will is often motivated by immature feelings, desires, reactions, and reasonings. The inner will comes | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| with that a renewed doubt in yourself. The feelings of inadequacy and inferiority are thus fed anew | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| will not have too much trouble confirming similar feelings in yourself. I venture to say that this | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| case, the important thing is to recognize your feelings, motives, and reactions; your inner, and often unconscious | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| you are not fully aware of all your feelings, unconscious conclusions and thoughts. You may not yet | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| problem. Then there is another alternative regarding guilt feelings: One often feels guilty when that feeling is | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| withheld the love and the free giving of feelings, love must be something shameful one has to | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| guilts. Only the other day we discussed guilt feelings, and I spoke about how often people create | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| you less -- at least, according to your feelings -- that betrayal darkens your outlook on life | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| responsible for the deepest roots of your inferiority feelings. You do not trust yourself with this betrayal | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| your parents. You may be transferring the same feelings to other people, who in some remote way | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| possible mishaps in life. Put these thoughts or feelings into concise words. You will find a more | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| of self-knowledge, of understanding one's innermost motives and feelings -- especially the responsible people. It is coming | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| but can see how this entire complex of feelings constantly operates in you, you can begin to | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| them, you will be able to translate such feelings into clear-cut language. You will then see how | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| case, the inner key does not apply to feelings he experiences in Europe or America, but rather | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| wrong, test your emotions. As you analyze these feelings and discover that the child in you is | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| reach for the great goal with all these feelings present is not only unrealistic but unfeasible, and | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| that impatience, whenever felt, is accompanied by such feelings as tension, anxiety, inner pressure -- all of | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| And the way you manage your emotional reactions, feelings, and instincts determines your emotional maturity or lack | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| with yourself and acknowledge your hidden motivations and feelings, you will then understand why other people react | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| time and resort to superimposing another set of feelings upon your real reactions. These may be other | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| insight into and understanding of your reactions and feelings that cause provocation will weaken the habit of | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| where you have either manifest problems, or inner feelings of anxiety or disharmony. Then check out what | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| don't know what it is. There are merely feelings. ANSWER: Formulate the feelings. Try to bring them | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| is. There are merely feelings. ANSWER: Formulate the feelings. Try to bring them into concise thought. That | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| of the situation in question and the true feelings of your partner. I will be more specific | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| have to be applied either to one's own feelings or to the other person. Such forceful measures | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| life, unless outer conditions become too unbearable. One's feelings will usually fluctuate in this period between masochistic | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| resentment on the other. Underneath both sets of feelings is a strong, grasping forcing current, loudly proclaiming | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| state of experiencing life. Yet, in your real feelings, this is how you experience life as long | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| since the world of matter began, all these feelings -- good or bad, positive or negative, joyful | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| state you will know deeply that all things, feelings, emotions, thoughts and experiences already exist and that | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| from you, with all their disturbances and contradictory feelings, tune into negative currents, which are just as | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| what creates fear of success usually is: (1) feelings of inadequacy; (2) lack of self- responsibility, even | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| from this level does not express your real feelings. Your real feelings come from your real self | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| does not express your real feelings. Your real feelings come from your real self, which is right | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| drive is necessary, and use instead your real feelings, your intuitive nature will emerge. After some constructive | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| forcing current. Your real self and your real feelings are the same as creation, God, life, fate | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| can no more function in reality than real feelings can in a world of unreality. Is it | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| trying to cope is by crippling your real feelings. This also happens with the three attitudes described | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| three attitudes described before. You never allow your feelings to function freely or naturally. Either you whip | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| not allow either your intuition or your real feelings to guide and carry you safely through the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| you artificially cramp, prohibit, and squash your natural feelings. Maybe your real self would cause your real | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| Maybe your real self would cause your real feelings to recede too in a particular situation. But | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| your innermost self from evolving. You prevent your feelings from maturing, from manifesting. All this you may | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the implications of the artificial manipulation of your feelings, either making them bigger or making them smaller | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| prohibit the growth of a living organism, for feelings are that. Any living organism not left alone | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| This is what you do with your real feelings. You do so when you exaggerate and dramatize | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| and want, and who you really are. Your feelings are the expression of your being. If you | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| your being. If you constantly prohibit your real feelings from functioning and substitute artificial ones, you cannot | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| you are bound to become aware of the feelings of your real self which slowly rise to | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| substituted. You will clearly distinguish between the real feelings underneath and the compulsive manipulations, drives, and impulses | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| drives, and impulses which you confuse with your feelings. The real feelings are calm. They do not | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| which you confuse with your feelings. The real feelings are calm. They do not mind being patient | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| to you -- your real self, your real feelings -- is not allowed to function, and if | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| Once you reach that state, you will experience feelings which are almost impossible to convey in words | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the importance of your wish fulfillment and your feelings still remain as tense and unfree as before | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| You will see that the intensity of your feelings is out of proportion with your intellectual view | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| between the issue and the intensity of your feelings. When you realize this, you may be quite | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the aggressive force to overcome your insecurity, your feelings of inadequacy. You use it to gain respect | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| positive but also negative emotions on your genuine feelings. You produce artificial feelings because you are under | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| emotions on your genuine feelings. You produce artificial feelings because you are under the impression that this | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are supposed to feel. You cultivate these artificial feelings for a long time, until they become part | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| out the moment the subterfuges, the superimposed, compulsive feelings are shed. And this, in turn, can only | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for instance. Has the destructiveness of thoughts and feelings any reference to this commandment? ANSWER: Of course | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| consciously think so, but when you examine your feelings of disappointment or frustration, you will find their | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| and believe them with your mind, but your feelings may deviate completely. The only way you can | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| do on this path, facing and examining your feelings and reactions, and understanding their significance by tracing | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| their roots. Behind all negative, disturbing, and disharmonious feelings must be some original wish and its frustration | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| plan or direct your emotions, nor force your feelings to go in any specific direction. If you | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| by side, as you observe your thoughts and feelings. This may make it easier for you to | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| your capacities. It is flexible and intuitive. Its feelings alone are true and valid even if, for | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |