| self. This might not always be accurate. The child exists between a superimposed, or partly superimposed, intellectual | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| from the level where you know better, the child is inner. When considered from the point of | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| real self in the endeavor to teach the child the truth. The outer maturity must not be | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| talked about. In order for the stubborn, lost child, in its full irrationality and ignorance, to grow | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| you have experienced it within yourselves. The little child at birth does not yet possess an ego | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| when the person is no longer a helpless child, this, in the smallest measure, is the beginning | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| certain hurts and pains you endured as a child. Some of you have begun to grasp, if | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| profoundly comprehended. In less crass cases, when the child experiences not so much outright cruelty, but vague | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| this. There are, for example, situations where a child experiences partial acceptance and partial rejection. Then the | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| were rejected. ANSWER: Of course not. But the child uses the pleasure principle to make the negative | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| current with the painful event. QUESTION: And the child wishes to reproduce this rejection? ANSWER: Not consciously | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| of functioning made life more bearable for the child. Do you understand that? QUESTION: I don't quite | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| within every individual. In a young person, a child, it manifests as a very vulnerable spot. Its | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| -- that is, a mature ego -- the child cannot handle this soft, malleable live center in | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| live center from its consciousness. However, when the child grows into an adult, when the ego becomes | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| the condition it was when you were a child, it is not yet in a position to | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| only after integration with the ego. In the child state, the inner center is just alive, full | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| the live center. It is not only the child who misinterprets what happens around it. Where the | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| who misinterprets what happens around it. Where the child has done that is precisely where the adult | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| -- as in the vulnerable state of a child, who has not yet integrated these energies and | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| apparently paradoxical balance: the more egocentric the little child within a person is, the more one-sidedly it | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| go to the other person as a begging child, you will know your strength and your potential | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| humble, to relinquish the egocentricity of the frightened child, to allow others to be free no matter | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| essence, unhampered by false ideas. Anyone observing a child can see this natural quality of joyful outreaching | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| not alter its real threat to you. The child in you is governed by this misconception, and | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| awareness. It is also quite true that a child in the lowest grade of school cannot understand | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| beyond the individual neuroses and personal difficulties the child experiences that later cause inner conflicts and misconceptions | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| as much if not even more, because the child has been made to understand that they are | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| growth stunted. It is true that the helpless child depends on receiving all its needs from others | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| two extremes: either to remain the greedy, selfish child, demanding to receive exclusively and not being disposed | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| but it did begin when you were a child. Later on, when you ceased being a child | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| child. Later on, when you ceased being a child, your reaction to what took place, to the | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| loving you, as it seemed to the little child. You want to repay all women for not | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| obstacle stems from the fact that, as a child, you would not have been accepted had it | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| known, you would have been gravely punished. The child had to deny them to remain safe and | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| contrary to one's own inner, momentary truth. The child makes such demands on the parents, it wants | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this. I have tried those dialogues with the child in me, and that has helped me a | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| on the outside and just speak to the child inside. ANSWER: Yes, that is a very good | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| remind all of you: Do not repress that child. Nor do you need to completely identify with | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with it, for you are not only this child. Therefore, encounter it and talk with it. See | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and, perhaps, first even frightening -- that the child shies away from it, preferring the pseudo-safety of | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this area of the personality has remained a child. The child does not yet know that the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| of the personality has remained a child. The child does not yet know that the whole of | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| that this is no longer true. The young child is dependent on its parents for all the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| from the passive, weak dependency of the small child. The thoroughly adult person uses his or her | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| It can only come through personal growth. The child is incapable of achieving this balance. It is | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| its need. The same applies to pleasure. The child must have the parents' permission to establish and | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| deep within itself. Through the parents' permission the child will develop the strength and security to make | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| you are still in the position of the child or infant. I repeat, this never implies that | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| not know that you are no longer a child dependent on others for being allowed to activate | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| and spirit, is to deny life. When a child suffers such denial, its psyche receives a shock | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| fact that a crying, demanding, angry, and helpless child still exists within you. Your adult believes that | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| entirely. Yet on the unconscious level where this child exists, you are unaware that you have grown | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| ignore this fact and where does your inner child ignore the rights and powers of your adult | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| real self from those that come from the child inside. The fact that your need is not | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| onto another person in the way of a child, denying the adult you are, you enslave yourself | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| the feelings. Only when you are not a child yourself will you see it in that way | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| strive unconsciously for the limitless expansion as the child strives for magical omnipotence because the personality fears | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| it appear more desirable to be a recalcitrant child. All this is even more misleading because, as | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| right balance of letting the destructive, ignorant, irrational child in you express itself, without falling into the | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| up to a sort of shock reaction. A child responds to a protracted painful situation or a | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| correctly ascribed to God and misinterpreted by the child who has an inner knowledge of his or | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| responsible for the neurotic patterns of your own child. Excessive guilt for your child's problems is based | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| for your own distortions that might affect the child. Thus, dwelling on the childhood experience alone can | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| to reward you for having been a good child who now deserves it, but because you begin | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| the degree you insist on being an irresponsible child -- wanting to make others pay for your | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| unhealthy way, as a reward to the good child from an authority figure one depends on. You | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| gravity, and the world around it. Once the child learns to walk the disunity disappears. What was | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| conscious knowing and willing; (2) the unconscious egotistical child level, with all its ignorance, destructiveness, and claims | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| capable of allowing the egotistical, irrational, outright destructive child to manifest in the inner awareness, and acknowledges | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| capable of seeing new aspects of the destructive child in you, the second part of the process | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| way to accept and change your destructive inner child. This gradual change enables you to accept all | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| its instructions to and dialogue with the ignorant child, and on the intervention and guidance of the | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| to change the consciousness of the negative inner child by wanting this and committing itself to it | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| dialogue and calmly but firmly instructing the ignorant child. The other is a more passive, patient waiting | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| feel how unhappy you really were as a child, and for a long time you believed just | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| the feeling that your past suffering as a child is due to your being unacceptable and unlovable | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| within you. Current psychology often says that a child is incapable of reacting differently to pain than | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| deadness. It is false to generalize that no child can help but react in this self-numbing way | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| came across the needs you had as a child whose unfulfillment caused most of your painful, and | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| have not experienced fully your past as a child, you must attract similar experiences later in life | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| the unfulfillment of your legitimate needs as a child. As I discussed in the earlier lecture, the | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| period. What is a real need for a child is not at all a real need for | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| need. Let us take a specific example. A child needs to be taken care of, needs solely | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| uniqueness. If these needs are not fulfilled, the child must suffer. If this suffering is accepted and | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| perfect according to the notions of the deprived child, for the adult all this giving, coming from | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| the original unfulfillment. Let yourself go into the child state, and allow the irrational, destructive reactions of | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| and allow the irrational, destructive reactions of the child in you to express themselves now. When you | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| with ease. The destructive, demanding, punishing, and spiteful child usually manifests in a very obscure way, which | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| where your non- recognized, legitimate needs as a child created fear and pain which you were unwilling | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| is not maintained, the personality feels threatened: the child equates giving up the resistance with capitulation, with | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| pain. When the infant grows into a young child, it begins to be capable of inferring cause | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| when they occur close together. Suppose the small child touches fire and burns itself. It will comprehend | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| on the road of human development. This same child cannot yet comprehend cause and effect relationships which | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| further removed from one another. But an older child can realize, for example, that a tummy-ache is | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| wish to be a greedy, demanding, and unreasonable child. On the other hand, you are equally often | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| first, by your parents when you were a child, and later by others. You have learned to | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| what was missing in your life as a child? Was it your parents' inability to give more | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| infant, closeness is an entirely passive experience: the child takes in, receives, soaks up nourishment and affection | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| Let me give you an example. A small child believes that it is omnipotent. Psychology designates this | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| To the degree that the parents and the child are healthy and purified souls, the child identifies | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| the child are healthy and purified souls, the child identifies with their positive aspects. The child will | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| the child identifies with their positive aspects. The child will recognize what traits in the parent, and | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| and what traits are to be rejected. The child can do this only to the degree that | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| often have proclaimed something as good for the child that really proved not to be so. At | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| is only halfway accomplished. Let us assume a child is angry and impatient, guilty and self-rejecting because | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| of commemorating the birth of your eternal Christ child within, commit yourself to accepting every part of | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| why I'm so afraid of being considered a child. ANSWER: Maybe you are afraid because you think | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| bad or inferior or dumb to be a child. But that is not so at all. Is | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| And that you also believe that as a child you are helpless, that you are dependent, and | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| exclusively to the parental situation: you, as a child, still want to have a father and a | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| next major phase of expansion occurs when the child is ready to leave home and go to | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| expansion, a step out into the world. The child unfolds its inherent potential to cope with others | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| as well as benign love and justice. The child, the lower self in you, may blindly rebel | 227 CHANGE FROM OUTER TO INNER LAWS IN THE NEW AGE |
| body, the whole appearance change from infant to child to adolescent to adult to old age, after | 230 THE UNIVERSALITY OF CHANGE -- REINCARNATIVE PROCESS IN THE SAME LIFE SPAN |
| another level of consciousness, little by little the child learns to discover the language of the divine | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| divine reality within just as you do. The child will learn to listen, to perceive, and to | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| be discerned when its laws are understood. The child needs to learn the laws and also the | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| self, on purification of the lower self. The child will learn how to distinguish one from the | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| come. You must cultivate the curiosity of the child to make learning intensely interesting and fascinating. Unfortunately | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| an answer, say so. But also tell the child that school is the place to find the | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| the place to find the answers. Encourage the child to ask again, and perhaps make note of | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| and truthful answers and come back to the child with them. The spirit of the child reaches | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| the child with them. The spirit of the child reaches forth to explore the world in order | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| directions. Answer them again and again as the child grows older and can take in more. Schools | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| they do not say so, will affect the child in a similar way. An attitude that assumes | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| guarantee a hatred of learning even in a child who is eager to learn. The necessity of | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| other out, they inevitably transfer it to the child, if not in words then in their attitude | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| clear to children without any difficulty whatsoever. A child is very capable of understanding that the outer | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| that is waiting in reserve only. If the child does not respond to the freedom of learning | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| the outwardly imposed discipline is essential for the child as well as for the community. Children who | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| consciousness of those who teach is instrumental. A child can understand that the creative, free-flowing process can | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| into the creativity of the soul of each child. New avenues will be consciously and deliberately created | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| where keys of understanding are handed to the child. Children will experience school as a privilege they | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| and the relinquishing of some immediate pleasures. The child will rejoice in discovering all the things he | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| thought were the expectations of the greedy little child turn out to be the will of God | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| come forth and tell you, No, no, my child, it is not that bad, it is all | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| enjoy all the pleasures, including sexual pleasure. QUESTION (Child): I want to know why I hurry through | 239 CHRISTMAS LECTURE 1975 |
| be much easier to reeducate the willful, tyrannical child inside you, and you will be able to | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| made it his or her own. As the child grows older, more abilities emerge to make more | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| make more new experience accessible. The older the child grows, the more independent he or she becomes | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| the more independent he or she becomes. The child gains more experience and therefore more fulfillment. The | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| freedom and a range of experience that no child could ever possess. This is a very normal | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| You would say that an adult and a child are equal as far as their innate value | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| This is truly the behavior of an unruly child who needs a parent to discipline it. Do | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| indeed abusive or whether you react like a child. If your total surrender to God is genuine | 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| return to the personal reactions of a Christian child who grew up with this confused perception and | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| a rigid, life-denying structure. The other alternative the child has is to openly and consciously rebel against | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| I said before about the terror of the child that his parents can be wrong -- that | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| pedagogic and treats the individual as an unruly child -- though it is surely not your true | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| away. It takes a while until mother and child are truly separate entities. And I do not | 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE |
| terms of independence and self-sufficiency, for obviously the child is not able to fend for himself for | 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE |
| another person in a significant way. Similarly, a child in an early stage of development does not | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| understanding. If this awareness were articulate in the child, it would be a relatively small step to | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |