| gradual process and happens only when you truly want and cultivate it. Before such awareness is cultivated | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| This is a painful process, my friends. I want to say to all of you who do | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| think you have answered both tonight. Would you want to say a further word about this? ANSWER | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| feeling that you have to obey, whether you want to or not. The idealized self-image serves the | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to provide you with what you need and want, to lead you by the hand, to make | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| this doesn't apply to you. If you really want to find the truth you will. You always | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| life. You can help yourself if you really want to, if you are ready to sacrifice something | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| ready to sacrifice something. Let us say, you want happiness in a certain direction -- and this | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| find how you can really get what you want out of your own creativity. God is in | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| investigate your emotional reactions and find that you want companionship out of fear of being alone, then | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| least partly, from a poor motive. If you want to be alone out of fear of involvement | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| fail to convey your message. ANSWER: Such people want only a qualified answer; that is, an answer | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| answer compatible with their defenses. They do not want an answer that they find unpleasant. This would | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| try to force the issue. The more you want to penetrate the resistance, the more frustration and | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| unrealizable hope that you can have what you want without meeting the necessary conditions to get it | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the necessary conditions to get it. If you want happiness you must be willing to give it | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| necessary to do so because you did not want to be hurt, you did not wish to | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| imperfect. It falls considerably short of what you want to appear to be. You hold on to | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| Therefore, it is wise on your part to want to look at, to face, and to acknowledge | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| this without tending to your emotional growth. You want to believe that the one is possible without | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| up your mind as to whether you really want emotional growth or you still want to cling | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| you really want emotional growth or you still want to cling to the childish hope that spiritual | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| need not be dangerous, if you do not want them to be. If inner anger is not | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| taken care of, not being given all you want. Once you are aware of the reason for | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| from your attitude about yourself. You will always want to find the final solution at once. And | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| point to your fallibility, which you do not want to accept. Something in you, deep down, knows | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| be heedlessly and ruthlessly destructive, and another to want to be a saint; to be superhuman and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| quietly, you will see it. I do not want to be too repetitious now. Let me repeat | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you are not yet as perfect as you want to be. If you cannot accept yourself as | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| view of your discovery in this respect. You want to hear me say that you moralize so | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| feel bad that you cannot accomplish what you want instantly. Instead of pressuring yourself into a state | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| motivations, moralizing, and the idealized self happen to want the same thing as the higher self. You | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your aims. You feel that just because you want it, it cannot be valid. The repression of | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| own decisions based on their own evaluations, they want to adhere to a dead ruling. Then they | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in that way. You will not need, nor want, to skip a full life-experience under the well-sounding | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your aim is communion with God. If you want this, there is a fear in you to | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to meet life full face and you therefore want to avoid it. True spiritual states of elation | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| I know that motives are important. I may want to worship God, which is probably not existent | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| probably not existent in me. Or I may want it for the idea of getting something, which | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| something, which is in me. Or I may want it for an intellectual comprehension. I think there | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| need which you disregard and do not even want to recognize. But for the moment, the motives | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| what you are doing and why. You will want to do so because you will fully understand | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| makes you even more impatient with yourself. You want to speed yourself on in order to free | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| have to face and eventually change, that you want to see the truth, that it depends on | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| not forfeit your dignity when you no longer want to fulfill those needs through a pseudo-solution. You | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| finally, one part of you is beginning to want to give up childhood. When this movement is | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| The effect is wonderful for what you really want, or for what you think you want? QUESTION | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| really want, or for what you think you want? QUESTION: For what I think I want. If | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| you want? QUESTION: For what I think I want. If I follow through with a defense to | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| and live a constructive and full life and want to realize most of your potentials, then you | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| In short, it is your struggle. If you want to become happy, to lead a fruitful, rich | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| words, the pain of not having what you want is much less than the additional factor of | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| the issues and what it is you really want. Consider where you can change things and where | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| way? will always yield results, if you fully want to find the answer. As long as the | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| hint as to how to find it. I want to show you a certain rhythm of development | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| yourself when you reach the point when you want to change a pattern because you have made | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| are unhappy in the old way and you want to change, yet in doing the right act | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| development. In fact, this is the development you want so badly. Every step on the path of | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| to be willing to give up what you want to gain through pretense if you cannot have | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| difficult to risk the change. You do not want to stand on your own feet. You want | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| want to stand on your own feet. You want to continue using the crutches that have once | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| tired of myself in this way. I don't want to go on and on like a broken | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| you are concerned, what matters is what you want, think, feel, as well as how you experience | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| do I feel this way? Why do I want what I want? What productive effect does it | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| this way? Why do I want what I want? What productive effect does it have on others | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| to you that, at first, you do not want to know. Go to the trouble of deciphering | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| the other person and thus convey what you want. Then words will be just one of the | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| additional words I spoke tonight. I do not want to repeat too much. I can only summarize | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| Full awareness of what you really feel and want is your first aim. Sit back, so to | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| QUESTION: It is a very subtle thing I want to ask and it is very hard to | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| everything you wanted. There are things you did want and which you attained, so that you are | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| purpose of what you do or what you want. Does your purpose include other people, or is | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| their lives in the here and now. They want complete control of circumstances, which they can have | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| make others behave, feel, and react as they want, and the reality, which is often different and | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| are displaced fears. They are the fears you want to have rather than the basic fear you | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| on to a hated image. Why would you want to do that? It may be your very | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of people in your early environment because you want to see them with a mature attitude and | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| are so wonderful. If you are willing to want to understand what made them the way they | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| you do not really mean, I do not want to. Even if you think you cannot, make | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| understand why it will help me, I just want to see the truth as far as I | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| on, one clings to it and does not want to give it up. Healthy pleasure seems hopelessly | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| meaningful part. Only by tackling what you most want to shy away from will you find the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| an unrealistic, shortsighted remedy this is. You will want to change and would rather welcome the pain | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| others and withhold from them the love you want to give them and that they want to | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you want to give them and that they want to receive from you. By submitting, you do | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| cringe away from, however. You also do not want to take upon yourself mature self-responsibility. This may | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| other person, which that other also does not want to see. Maybe one is stronger and the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| yourself, because you believe that having what you want would give you happiness, when, in fact, happiness | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| perhaps unconsciously -- of the very thing you want most. You may have desires and be unaware | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| isolation. It is the childish attitude of I want to have, to get, without a true spirit | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| last analysis, arise only because you do not want to come out of them and change -- | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| unbearable that the very unhappiness finally makes you want to face it and change. If the will | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| is not half as great as human beings want to believe. This happens especially when not committing | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| and do the very opposite of what they want to do merely to show that they are | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| do the very opposite of what they really want to do. But it is also possible that | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| seems, gives love very easily and certainly would want something in return. If a person is, let's | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| on your ability to love. Since you do want to be loved, your main concern has been | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| for the failure of relationships that you would want to work out. It takes considerable insight to | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| more than you give, or less than you want to give. If this happens without contempt, resentment | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| 1) When you are unaware of what you want, even if what you want is in itself | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| of what you want, even if what you want is in itself healthy and productive, the very | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| once was deliberate, really amounts to self-deception. You want something, yet you feel that what you want | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| want something, yet you feel that what you want is wrong, so you try to believe that | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you try to believe that you do not want it. Outwardly you pretend to yourself and to | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| and to the world that you do not want what you want inwardly. And it is this | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| world that you do not want what you want inwardly. And it is this self-deception that causes | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| connotations that is responsible. Thus you do not want what you want. You are so unsure of | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| responsible. Thus you do not want what you want. You are so unsure of yourself and of | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| withdrawn, become apathetic and are too fearful to want to lead a meaningful life; if you do | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you do not feel, even though you may want to. But you need your will to observe | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| grow together into one stream. If you truly want good relationships, you must want to have them | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| If you truly want good relationships, you must want to have them, but without straining and without | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| of who you really are and what you want at any given time will free you of | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| do not quite understand what it is you want to know. QUESTION: If my childish desire and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| for the child's fear. The more compulsively you want to get rid of the destructive feelings, the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| being, in awareness. They often realize that they want something more than a life of material satisfactions | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| you really are, as opposed to who you want to be. All the products of thought process | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| yourself as you happen to be now, and want to be different already. You run away from | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| dependency on public opinion. Find out why you want to resolve your problem. Then be aware that | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| yourself as you are, and not as you want to be does lead to self-knowledge, yes. But | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| use your will for the purpose of I want to know myself, that is good, constructive, and | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| disciplinary action has made them into what you want them to be, has made you into what | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| to be, has made you into what you want to be. But you are not. If you | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| not have to repeat it here. I only want to add this: Channeled emotions are negative emotions | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| best to another person; that you do not want him to suffer; that you would do what | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| one of the greatest assets you will not want to miss under any circumstances. The progress of | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you do not see yourself. You do not want to expose yourself. This will undoubtedly improve, as | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| selfishness cannot be successfully eliminated. If you truly want to contribute to the good of general conditions | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| as unhappy and confused now as before? I want to remind you of two things. One is | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| between domination, rebellion, submission, appeasement and resentments. Both want something from each other that neither is willing | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| always free. QUESTION: Between two human beings who want to relate, but both, for various reasons manipulate | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| blurring the realistic perception of others. If you want to disregard and bypass the inner noise of | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| be forced to do something you do not want to do if you allow yourself to feel | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| need. All they can see is what they want, or what they fear will happen to them | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| the difference between pity and compassion, I now want to present an explanation indicating why one feels | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| them. The human error is always that you want to deny the barrier's existence and push against | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| against it, which only strengthens the block. You want to remove it without seeing what that obstacle | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| unearth this particular guilt, but if you truly want to find it, you will. As long as | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| respect. How? You will know if you truly want to. You must expiate this inner guilt, which | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| your will. To quite some degree, if you want to remain sane, you have to go through | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| then such a weariness is the outcome. You want things done for you. You do not want | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| want things done for you. You do not want to cope with decisions, with the strain of | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| it without false moralizing and justification, you will want to change. Mature responsibility also requires love and | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| demands are justified or not. It does not want to deal with obstructions, frustrations, criticism. It will | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| come to that, my friends, if you really want to become healthy and strong. Let us now | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| the time will come when you will truly want to make good, even though it may mean | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| way. But as long as you do not want to face the pain you have inflicted, you | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| the pain you have inflicted, you cannot truly want to make good for it. Moreover, because you | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| good for it. Moreover, because you do not want to become aware of the pain you have | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |