| others. Grace is all around you. If you want it, you can partake of it. If you | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| can partake of it. If you do not want it, if you desire in some corner of | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not be accessible to you. But those who want it will constantly be affected by it. It | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your psyche you still hope that what you want can happen through your illness, or that you | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| privacy and free will. That person may not want to be understood by another human being and | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your possible selfishness will jeopardize obtaining what you want, because you don't deserve it. Needless to say | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| it is right, and not compulsively, because you want to receive a reward, whether in the form | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| or not you act unselfishly because you truly want to or because you think you have to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| As long as the conviction that makes you want to is lacking, you have to continue the | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| do it in order to change, you don't want to do it compulsively. But you get so | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| inner conviction, and really out of compulsion. You want to be good and unselfish, but you still | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| to become completely aware that you do not want to do the unselfish act, and why. You | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| do not wish to offend people because you want their approval. Further investigation will show that, apart | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| wanting approval or love, but perhaps that I want to try a new way. ANSWER: Perhaps you | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| a new way. ANSWER: Perhaps you do not want approval or love so much, although you may | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| not first aware of what it is you want. When you find that out, you will often | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| mere fact that you now know what you want and what it is that really disturbs you | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| these doubts, but since they are there, I want to cover them with the actual and true | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| have to find out why you do not want to let go of the failing. You will | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Rather try to find out whether you really want to give up what makes you feel guilty | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fact that you are unaware of what you want and that your aim is unrealizable because certain | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| and therefore you live without sin, if you want to use this expression. Evil and sin are | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| I do not know. I do not even want to know. But I trust enough in myself | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| on the whole, everything is interconnected. QUESTION: I want to ask about hypnotism. There has been a | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| applies to people who cannot, even if they want to. Now, as I said, for most people | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| it is that you do not dare to want or to do. By freeing yourself of your | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| not slide unnoticed into background thought. If you want to think something -- whether constructive or unconstructive | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| If the cosmic laws were made as you want to imagine them, namely that trouble would cease | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| shall not go into at present. I only want to state that this law does not work | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| summer, I presented the general ideas. Now I want to give some specifics which are universal and | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| are fighting for something you do not really want and that you can never get commensurately to | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| seems the ultimate shame to you that you want love in the first place, and that you | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| the compulsion to prove whatever it is you want to prove at any given instance. When you | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| necessarily desire the love of the people you want to be approved by; there may not be | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| will not make you unpleasant. Inwardly, you constantly want to force others to love you. The outer | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| the approval, but in the last analysis you want to force people to love you. And forced | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| and disappoint you due to their weakness. You want to be understood and loved in spite of | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| When there are so many things we all want to ask, why is it such an agony | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you will see that not getting what you want -- and you won't get it all the | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| that you will give me the admiration I want. The dramatization can take many forms, but it | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| inside yourself you cannot love, you do not want to love, and you do not know why | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| seems the only way to achieve what you want. Since certain outer aspects of such submissive behavior | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| even though you do not get what you want. To do that, you have to find first | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| see what really is, because you do not want to see what really is, how then can | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| You do not see because you do not want to see. Therefore you do not trust your | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| By giving up a little of what you want -- most often unconsciously -- you are willing | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| for the ability to give up something you want freely and without hostility, but also because then | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| is true, and not merely believe what you want to be true. As you learn to trust | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| to see what is, rather than what you want, will heighten your intuition, your discrimination, your awareness | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| flexibility appears as a threat to people. They want the fixed pseudo-safety of a stone wall on | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| of finding the maturity you really need and want. In not demanding to be loved as a | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| to come to awareness now, if you really want to proceed in inner growth. You have to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| never clearly saw before -- you did not want to see it. You will find that this | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| half-consciously. You are unclear as to what you want in life, or in a particular area of | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| is your purpose in life? What do you want it to be, apart from developing yourself to | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| of your ability? Then see what you really want. Why do you want it? Beware of the | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| see what you really want. Why do you want it? Beware of the error that one motivation | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| for unfulfillment or lack of success, if you want to call it that. If you then realize | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| your motives and establishing those that you really want, and not those in accord with what you | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| accord with what you believe you ought to want. Keep such established motivations conscious and clearly defined | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| you imagine. You have to settle down to want to do it. Clarify your questions concisely. Even | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| may otherwise be disinclined to be competitive. You want to compete with the person who brings this | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| out if someone is faithful to you? I want to say first of all that the same | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| manifestation, which is unimportant and secondary when we want to consider the root of the problem. It | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| person finds himself thus betrayed -- if you want to use this word -- it may often | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| speaks: the child in you who does not want to give up childhood, who wants to be | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| you may suffer a great deal. I do want you to know that my words are not | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| a strong, grasping forcing current, loudly proclaiming, I want! In order to get what I want, I | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| I want! In order to get what I want, I either submit and allow myself to be | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| of truth or religion because it does not want to understand. It wants to lean on dogma | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| the isolated life, in which, at best, you want to share your life with a few chosen | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| many times before and I do not ever want to be misunderstood on that subject. No one | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| simple. If you pray for things because you want them merely because they are pleasant and that | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| promise you. But on the other hand, I want to make it quite clear that everyone who | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| to go to the other side and they want to avoid this. It is as though their | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| I will have enough time over there. I want to remain on this plane now. If the | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| they are not able to. Great religious teachers want to set an example. This is very important | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| You should then discuss it. And, incidentally, I want to say that your discussion after the last | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| or a concept in abstract terms. If you want to convey an idea to a child, if | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| convey an idea to a child, if you want to tell a story to a child, you | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| on the misconception that not getting what you want means terror, darkness, and unhappiness. Simultaneously, the evolving | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| realized that you cannot always get what you want and this creates an additional element of conflict | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| it were possible to always get what you want. This is why you often have much less | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the means employed to always get what you want cause you to get less than you would | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| concerns your fear of not getting what you want, or even the conviction that you never will | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| that you must either always get what you want, or that you can never get it, as | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| your soul in order to get what you want. Nor do you have to defend yourself against | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| happy, will you be free of the I want current. And only when that is gone will | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| be yours, but not always the way you want it, and when you want it. In reality | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the way you want it, and when you want it. In reality it does not make you | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| happy only if everything happens the way I want it when I want it. The other alternative | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| happens the way I want it when I want it. The other alternative is, Since so many | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| encountered the tense nucleus which loudly claims, I want will feel my words; you will derive a | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| at the same time wavering current of I want. Find also all the means you resort to | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| you try to appease the other person, you want something. In fact, you grab for it, not | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| their conviction that they must get what they want in order to be happy. Their way is | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| they protect themselves by pretending they do not want anything from others, life, or the world. They | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| no longer know what you really feel and want, and who you really are. Your feelings are | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| of the forcing current, the current of I want on the one hand, and I fear that | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| fear that I will not get what I want on the other. Once you are clearly aware | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| dissolve the fearful and tense inner clamoring, I want, I must. When the tension is relaxed, you | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| then let go of the forcing current, I want. This work is a path within the path | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| forcing current in me. I know that I want certain conditions, while I intellectually know that I | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| yourself specific questions. What is it that I want? Why? A clear and precise answer to these | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| questions is of utmost importance. Know what you want in any given moment, and why. Moreover, why | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| yet evaluate. QUESTION: Isn't it that sometimes we want to nurse our resentments for certain people and | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| This is a very constructive question. When you want to have resentments, the most obvious and first | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| would be, why? Once you realize that you want to have such resentments, it will not be | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| this saying are, of course, symbolic. If you want me to, I shall explain the meaning of | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| look to past incarnations, for if you really want to, you can always find in yourself, in | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not do unto others what you do not want to be done unto you. This is similar | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| pointlessness, you must hurt yourself. You must even want to hurt yourself, for then, at least, you | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| mistaken impression that you will get what you want by feeling, reacting and being in a way | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| QUESTION: We are on this path because we want to develop ourselves, whether or not we can | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for reasons of your own, you do not want to face. That is the key to the | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| really bothers you. If you really and truly want to find this hurt, you will be able | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| think, are despised by those whose attention you want so much. Often this is a subtle thing | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| which is to sabotage the very thing you want most, and which you should indeed have in | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| you fail even to realize that you do want communication. Rejections have made you so cautious that | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| all these measures either to gain what you want, or to protect yourself against the disappointment and | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| disappointment and frustration of not getting what you want. Since such false protection automatically precludes the fulfillment | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| get to the meaning? ANSWER: If you really want to know the truth about your dreams, and | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| will need help. But in case you really want to know about your innermost self, you will | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| to dream interpretation. But most people do not want to know about themselves. They put out of | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| out of fear are examples of those who want to avoid confronting the reality of death on | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| bring you so much nearer to what you want to avoid, and you forfeit that which you | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| to experience that you do obtain what you want eventually. You cannot help but become aware also | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| sense another dimension behind time. I do not want to use the word eternity. This other dimension | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| disturbed, find out what it is that you want, and what it is that you fear. Go | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| to the point of asking, Why do I want this? Why do I fear not getting it | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| try to convince yourself that you do not want love. The same happens when you inwardly try | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| try to convince yourself that you do not want life because you know that one day life | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| your fear of not getting what you really want, you deliberately choose what you don't want, you | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| really want, you deliberately choose what you don't want, you create an unhealthy, deadening condition within your | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| not honestly acknowledge to yourself that you really want love and life and that you really fear | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| by the seemingly commendable attitude that does not want to let down or weaken the disciples. But | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| from the inherent fear of physical death. People want to believe in a physical continuation of life | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| for immortality. Neither wants to let go; they want to hold onto life. They cannot give up | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| ungenuine religious person does. The latter says, I want to believe because I am afraid of death | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| I am afraid of death. I do not want to let go, to give up. And the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| question its validity. But isn't it right to want to be always decent, loving, understanding, never angry | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the individual, whether or not you can or want to learn a lesson. But as to the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of love: If I cannot have love, I want to have things instead. The compulsion to eat | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| many repercussions occur within the psyche. I don't want you to misunderstand me as saying that a | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| then you, in turn, could be as you want to be, or think you ought to be | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| into increased self-deception, the very same self-deception you want to uncover instead of avoiding. This should be | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| end result. The near goal would be, I want to become aware of what really is in | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| goal in view. The distant summit you eventually want to reach may take days and weeks of | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| for love, are not also present. Also, I want to repeat that what I say here presents | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |