| Shaky.......................6 | |
| immeasurably strengthened. The faith that used to be shaky will now be solid. Now, if you asked | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| rather than in yourself. This is a very shaky trust, for such rules may often be inapplicable | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| universal intelligence? Therefore, whenever you feel insecure and shaky within yourself, anxious and frightened -- when you | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| the illusion. Hence you are afraid and feel shaky and inadequate. But when your own feelings can | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| exhilaration -- but that is built on a shaky ground. When that admiration and approval is withheld | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| your assessment of others' motives will be very shaky. Transparency is a new way of being, a | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Shallow.....................31 | |
| and his or her happiness will never become shallow, or dry out, or die, but will always | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| a fleeting one; it will dry out, become shallow, and eventually dissolve. If you want happiness just | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| with God's world. They live in a flat, shallow and grey world and nothing is really alive | 6 THE HUMAN ROLE IN THE SPIRITUAL AND MATERIAL UNIVERSES |
| bringing the entire universe to unity will be shallow, unsatisfactory, and temporary. It will not be rewarding | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| You may again fall back into the misleading, shallow comfort of false religion. If you develop your | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| from this tendency is always a poor and shallow imitation of the real goodness. Only because you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| The fulfillment of a false need brings a shallow, temporary, and short-lived gratification, often at the expense | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| in order to fully participate in life? The shallow artificiality of superimposed positive emotions lacks real substance | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| believing that your self-pity, bitterness, futility due to shallow living -- no emotional depth and not owning | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| cringe away from sadness, you wind up in shallow living with all its byproducts. Do not expect | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| You live on the periphery, which is the shallow living I discussed earlier. Full awareness of what | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| the love-capacity your life will be empty, meaningless, shallow. You all know, and some of you may | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| It may be pleasant and distracting, but somehow shallow. Your true self is never revealed, and therefore | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| sooner or later cause a disturbance if the shallow relationship is a close one. If the shallow | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| shallow relationship is a close one. If the shallow relationship never becomes close, nothing will happen, but | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| as the idea in itself may be, remains shallow. It lacks the dynamic force of experience. And | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| pathwork. What you have heretofore understood in a shallow way will then be more profoundly comprehended. Always | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| resolve problems by adequate means, not by temporary, shallow ones. You may ponder the question of what | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| All you experience as real are the most shallow, superficial, material outer levels, because you are so | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| or wrong, good or bad, this is a shallow and insufficient evaluation, leaving out many aspects of | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| unconscious destructive aims must fall away. Paying only shallow attention to the self as it manifests in | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| life must be. In fact, you become a shallow, lifeless shell, held together by rigid guards you | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| and even that you do in a cursory, shallow way at best. Thus you almost entirely obscure | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| as well as the distorted version -- as shallow. These and many, many other examples illustrate the | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| pastimes of the mind. I do not mean shallow substitutes and escapes. I mean a state of | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| and widen the rift. If you are in shallow, unsatisfactory relationships which lack depth, gratification and intimacy | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| is not put into practical use remains a shallow intellectual abstraction that fails to permeate the other | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| else. Without some measure of abstinence, fulfillment becomes shallow and is therefore no longer fulfilling. This is | 228 BALANCE |
| friends, pay attention to your words. Observe the shallow ones. Observe the words of untruth, and consider | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| realize that without a loving heart sexuality becomes shallow, unfulfilling, empty, and it will always be guilt-producing | 239 CHRISTMAS LECTURE 1975 |
| your lower self, the momentary triumph is very shallow and covers a deep despair. Your dual nature | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Shallowness.................5 | |
| from living and experiencing. Both alternatives lead to shallowness, and not to real experiences. Offhand, you may | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| conducive to, and results in, self-alienation, and therefore shallowness. Even if you seem to thrive on emotionalism | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| must be the interplay between movement and consciousness. Shallowness is lack of experience. When your feeling-body is | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| truly deep and whole, if there is no shallowness and restrictive compromise. Once the afflictions have been | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| have preferences. This may sound like indifference and shallowness of experience, which are distortions of the state | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| Shalt.......................6 | |
| the Ten Commandments. They deal with actions. Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not lie, and so | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| deal with actions. Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not lie, and so on. This was already | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| of the Kingdom of Heaven, and whatever thou shalt loose on earth shall be bound in Heaven | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| word of God was given to Moses: Thou shalt give life for life, eye for eye, tooth | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| sense. We read in the Ten Commandments, Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image. So | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| would like to know about the commandment, Thou shalt not kill in everyday life, in different emotions | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Shame.......................226 | |
| reasons -- laziness, love of comfort, vanity, or shame -- all of which make him or her | 10 MALE AND FEMALE INCARNATIONS: THEIR RHYTHMS AND CAUSES |
| your fear of your lower self, and your shame of it, and if you learn to live | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| to be, I must first, without fear or shame and vanity, face what is in me. Ask | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| path. Learn to accept yourself without fear, without shame, and without pride. Where you still discover these | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| creatures in the lower spheres. Be blessed. 31. SHAME Greetings in the Name of the Lord. I | 31 SHAME |
| self-development, I will discuss tonight a new subject: shame. There is a right kind and a wrong | 31 SHAME |
| a right kind and a wrong kind of shame. The right kind of shame is true repentance | 31 SHAME |
| wrong kind of shame. The right kind of shame is true repentance. Without this kind of shame | 31 SHAME |
| shame is true repentance. Without this kind of shame, there could never be an incentive for self-development | 31 SHAME |
| would take the path of purification if this shame did not exist within. True repentance is therefore | 31 SHAME |
| constructive and very positive. But there is also shame of the wrong kind. Human beings so often | 31 SHAME |
| beings so often confuse the two kinds of shame that now I want to devote some of | 31 SHAME |
| this subject. What is the wrong kind of shame? We might call it a guilt-complex which, of | 31 SHAME |
| -- when you have the wrong kind of shame? They say: I am hopelessly bad, and there | 31 SHAME |
| of the wrong attitude, the wrong kind of shame that makes you passive where you should be | 31 SHAME |
| deny to yourself the experience of the constructive shame that would make you lift yourself up and | 31 SHAME |
| it is due to your wrong kind of shame. The moment you exchange the wrong shame for | 31 SHAME |
| of shame. The moment you exchange the wrong shame for the right, I can promise you that | 31 SHAME |
| occurred to you that the wrong kind of shame comes from your pride and furthers your pride | 31 SHAME |
| must become. By having the wrong kind of shame, you do escape reality, for what your emotions | 31 SHAME |
| want to be. So the wrong kind of shame means pride, laziness, injustice, and escape from your | 31 SHAME |
| guilty, provided you adopted the right kind of shame in which you accepted yourself in humility as | 31 SHAME |
| long as there is the wrong kind of shame in you, you cannot advance on this path | 31 SHAME |
| to exchange it for the right kind of shame. The wrong kind of shame will create a | 31 SHAME |
| right kind of shame. The wrong kind of shame will create a state of mind that is | 31 SHAME |
| hardest to you, namely to break down the shame and stand up for what you really are | 31 SHAME |
| adjust your emotions from the wrong kind of shame to the right kind, all you have to | 31 SHAME |
| you have the destructive and weakening kind of shame, which will never get you anywhere. For as | 31 SHAME |
| treating. You will learn the right kind of shame and self-acceptance, which brings humility, overcomes pride, and | 31 SHAME |
| in some subtle way. The wrong kind of shame also violates the law of brotherhood. Thus you | 31 SHAME |
| by luciferic powers. It is so also with shame. So I say to you, my friends, when | 31 SHAME |
| so as to develop the right kind of shame about it. Check all your faults and your | 31 SHAME |
| last lecture you talked about the feeling of shame that manifests itself in guilt feelings, and so | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| other person. In a case like this, unconscious shame and guilt is unconsciously absorbed by those around | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| the desire of the person who has the shame and guilt feelings. There is nothing as contagious | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| with these distorted inner images causes you acute shame, even when the image is about something that | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| There might not be any justification for the shame; you would not feel that such behavior deserved | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| you would not feel that such behavior deserved shame if you encountered it in others. Once you | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| will see for yourself how the sense of shame and embarrassment completely vanishes. But before it is | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| still struggling with it, you will feel the shame very strongly. You may have a fault that | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| with a fault or sin causes you acute shame, however, as long as you have not come | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| you in darkness, loneliness, fear, guilt, and false shame. Only in this way can you evolve as | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| of being governed by your false impressions and shame. It takes only a moment of courage to | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| to discover your phantom world of fear and shame that has no reality whatever. Remember that. Thus | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| giving up your pride, going through your apparent shame. When you approach the problem this way, you | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| revolt and anger, without the wrong kind of shame or guilt, as having the courage to be | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| is this hour. There is so much fear, shame and separateness in the human heart! We recognize | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| recognize it again and again. The fear and shame are often hidden away, so that the personality | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| but a phantom, my friends. The fear and shame you are so busily hiding have no reality | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| your parents or others close to you. The shame arose from the mistaken idea that your case | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| had to be hidden away because of the shame. When these processes remain hidden, part of your | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| close to nearing an image-recognition feels a profound shame. You do not feel shame because all of | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| feels a profound shame. You do not feel shame because all of a sudden you discover something | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| around. There is no greater guilt feeling and shame in the human soul than the guilt due | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| I might safely say that the guilt and shame due to provoking unhappiness and collecting miseries is | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| miseries is the mother of all guilt and shame and is at the root of all other | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| guilt feelings. All the feelings of guilt and shame you have found so far are superficial levels | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| yet you do not have this feeling of shame and guilt. You can admit them to yourself | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| faults, but mere attitudes, such as a certain shame, a kind of anxiety or a reaction, may | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| reaction, may give you an acute feeling of shame or guilt. You cannot face it, you look | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| QUESTION: A few times you mentioned guilt and shame. Could one be ashamed of something without guilt | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| of terminology. There is a healthy kind of shame that is constructive and strengthening. You can also | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| you incentive to change, it is good. If shame does not weaken you, but if it strengthens | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| with guilt. So it is indeed possible that shame can exist without guilt. And it is also | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| over and men evade it. Is that the shame of the emotional side? ANSWER: Yes, that is | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| are hidden out of a false sense of shame and guilt, as if to say, I should | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Be in peace, be in the Lord! 66. SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF Greetings. I bring you | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| discussed at length with you the guilt and shame all human beings feel about their lower selves | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| discuss another aspect of the human personality, the shame about the higher self, the best and noblest | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| adventure. There is, on the other hand, the shame of loving. This conflict in itself tears apart | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| or when you detect an acute feeling of shame about showing your heart and exposing your innermost | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| which you hide the real you is the shame of imagined weakness, of being yourself with all | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| true self. Why? As I just explained, the shame of loving and giving causes you to hide | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| becoming aware of the universal conflict around the shame of the higher self, of beginning to feel | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| fear comes mostly as a consequence of the shame of the exposure. By this process you will | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| by your environment. The last lecture about the shame of the higher self is a very general | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| such as outlined in the lecture about the shame of the higher self. Another of these, to | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| either defiance or rebellion; how much fear and shame still lingers in you about this facet of | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| with this universal struggle. In spite of your shame about your yearning for love and your subsequent | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| deeper into your soul. It seems the ultimate shame to you that you want love in the | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| resorting to the false remedy of substitutions. This shame is so great, it is often the real | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| after you have overcome your initial fear and shame. You see, the desire to be loved, in | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| love maturely, by your fears and inhibitions and shame which are always a manifestation of self-concern and | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| be fleeting. Therefore you try to avoid the shame and exposure, the failure and grief by sabotaging | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| up your pride, by going through your apparent shame. When you approach the problem in this way | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| suffering to the full extent, without restriction, without shame in admitting his doubt and fear, pain and | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| and above all, the pretense with its resulting shame, fear of exposure, secretiveness, tension, strain, guilt, anxiety | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| frustration, and compulsion, as well as guilt and shame, are the most outstanding indications that your idealized | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the pressure of your idealized self, of the shame, humiliation, exposure you fear and sometimes feel, of | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| in physical symptoms of all sorts. Anger, fury, shame, frustration, self-contempt, and self-hate exist for two reasons | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| of their idealized self-image and brings on deep shame. Conversely, the submissive type is proud of loving | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| Whatever it does is wrong and induces guilt, shame, a feeling of inadequacy, and therefore frustration and | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| first, because the emotions of anxiety, frustration, guilt, shame, and so on, have to be acutely experienced | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| your security and belief in yourself. They cause shame or humiliation that has to be hidden from | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| true dignity. You will loose your sense of shame, which, after all, is nothing but the reverse | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| impulses toward others. The underlying core always produces shame, which has to be hidden, and is then | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| conflict, and additional conflict arises from the very shame of the underlying tendency that has to be | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| Only after mustering the courage to bring your shame out in the open will its exaggerated character | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| the additional crippling effect of causing self-contempt and shame, which in turn often has to find outlets | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| helplessness also exist, though hidden from awareness. The shame surrounding these tendencies is so great that the | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| God, by life, by human authority, and this shame must be hidden at all costs. Both crude | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| your repressed needs and of your denial and shame of them. Your aggressiveness is a defense, not | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| flexible enough to change. Your haste, and your shame for not being perfect, create a rigid wall | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| aware of being hurt, of feeling rejected. Your shame and fear of these emotions make you superimpose | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| are ashamed -- and where there is such shame, there must be pretense. All this implies a | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| are driven by superimposed standards. As long as shame and pride induce moralizing and justifying, you cannot | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| to something that one has hidden from in shame is prayer. When this proceeds, the state of | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| are accepted, it is no longer a crushing shame to be wrong. Growth, in this respect, often | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| for such perceptions are dulled by your fears, shame, and urgent wishes, and by your defenses, all | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| up your little fears and misgivings, your imagined shame and vulnerability, for the sake of loving. You | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| emotions may be manifold: hostility, humiliation, pride and shame, hurt, arrogance, self-importance, self-pity, insistence on unreasonable demands | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| childish, one-sided egocentricity is hidden in guilt and shame, the less can it grow out of this | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| the nature of your attitude toward it. Your shame and guilt are a result of one of | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| theoretical knowledge of its existence! Due to your shame and guilt about your lower self and the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| again. Be in peace, be in God. 117. SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| shall establish their connection. The first topic is shame. This was discussed in the past in certain | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| the past in certain connections, such as the shame of the higher self, or shame of certain | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| as the shame of the higher self, or shame of certain shortcomings. I now will focus on | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| pretense that is the reverse of your specific shame. Slowly but surely, as your pathwork progresses in | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| the right direction, you learn to admit the shame to yourself, but are not yet able to | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| self-deception has been eliminated. Whatever your personal particular shame, and consequent pretense may be, varies. But whatever | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| point of such self-admission can exactly pinpoint their shame, their pretense, their self-deception. They have indeed reached | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| who are as yet unaware of their own shame and pretense and who therefore believe they are | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| your liberation. How freely can you discuss your shame with your helper? The degree of ease and | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| to another person -- your helper -- the shame that you have finally admitted to yourself. And | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| to be accomplished to gain your freedom from shame and pretense? Come to terms with your restraint | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| shameful, suddenly you will see that your entire shame was an illusion. This is your yardstick of | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| deeply, bringing out the issue that causes your shame. Do not try to find immediate reasons and | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| justifications. Simply admit those aspects that cause you shame. Write down in exact and precise terms what | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| unresolved problems stand in direct relationship to your shame, your inhibitions and your daily disharmonious feelings. Each | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| you touch upon the general area of your shame, without as yet going into details. This may | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| can't get it, then she may have a shame in this respect. GUIDE: This is a good | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| child, but don't feel it. GUIDE: Yes. QUESTION: Shame is always connected with guilt, isn't it? ANSWER | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| Not always. It is also possible to feel shame without guilt, and guilt without shame. PARTICIPANT: When | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| to feel shame without guilt, and guilt without shame. PARTICIPANT: When the child receives an allowance and | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| while not actually deserving it, he later feels shame for receiving a salary. GUIDE: Such a case | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| requires further understanding of why this guilt and shame for having received an allowance exists. PARTICIPANT: I | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| between the damage of pleasurable childhood experience and shame. If a human being wants to reproduce pleasurable | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| well as anger for the frustration, must create shame. This tendency completely contradicts the ideal which is | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| seems a dreadful admission. You cannot discover the shame if you do not envisage the exact opposite | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| It is this opposite which creates the deep shame and which is also connected to both pleasant | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| work by all of you. Look for the shame, and how it also connects to certain pleasurable | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| has the courage to free itself. Fear and shame of disapproved instinctual drives cannot possibly mature them | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| child would naturally outgrow these feelings, but guilt, shame, and fear fixate them in the unconscious psychic | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| feelings, when you overcome your unreasonable fear and shame to do so, you will outgrow them and | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| eventually makes it wrong. Uncertainty, fear, guilt and shame about the existence of a feeling you believe | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| above-mentioned misconception. He substitutes for the weakness and shame its concomitant -- an exaggerated strength. He confuses | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| you fear the apparent helplessness -- and therefore shame -- of giving over to a force greater | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| are not faced, out of a sense of shame that one may really mourn not so much | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| to relief, instead of fighting against it in shame spurred on by a false conscience. This may | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| self-exposure. For wherever the trouble festers, a deep shame exists. Whatever the misconception, the original image with | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| its false premises and negative emotions causes deep shame. Whether you are frightened or hurt, your sense | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| to another person. As one gets started, the shame begins to vanish until it shows itself as | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| to avoid -- often unconsciously -- uncovering the shame. The no-current is at work. When the pressure | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| you are on the road of overcoming the shame of the deepest inner lesions of your soul | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| then know what it means to live without shame, without the need to be isolated, without the | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| danger, utterly exposing you to annihilation, humiliation and shame. Needless to say, all these feelings are unconscious | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| do not say No, a specific inadequacy and shame would have to be tackled. It is, of | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| is, of course, no real inadequacy or real shame, but you unconsciously think so. The No seems | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| second wall, resulting from the first, is your shame about a non-existent and unnecessary deprivation. The third | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| in connection with cruelty. Often the guilt and shame are so strong that the entire fantasy life | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| if it is truly understood, both guilt and shame will be removed. As understanding grows, the pleasure | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| it. Or, you are so inhibited because the shame of the desire for either inflicting or enduring | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| face it and understand it, without guilt or shame, you must learn in the course of growing | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| fantasy, exists. This comes from fear, guilt, and shame, and the belief that one is terrible because | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| will clearly manifest. One of those barriers is shame of what you are now. This shame makes | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| is shame of what you are now. This shame makes you set up a wall of secrecy | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| from others, that you are worse, and the shame of your difference cannot be exposed. This very | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| when you overcome the pride hidden by your shame. The intensely personal work of overcoming your pride | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| seeing that you hold back in fear and shame; they are unnecessary obstacles you use to barricade | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| manifests, the greater the fear, the guilt, the shame, the anxiety, and the tension. Opposition grows, conflict | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| The specific personality I then discussed feels this shame primarily about good qualities, about giving and loving | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| real feelings and ways of being. This strange shame manifests as embarrassment and a sense of exposure | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| by everyone -- and it is not the shame of one's deceits and destructiveness, nor of one's | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| deceits and destructiveness, nor of one's compliance. This shame is on an entirely different level, and of | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| the ego yields to the involuntary processes. The shame is felt most acutely when it comes to | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| find true dignity only when you overcome the shame of being real -- whatever this may mean | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| a lesser evil than the strange sense of shame and the exposure of one's real being. When | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| of one's real being. When you recognize this shame and do not push it away as inconsequential | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| take a tremendous step, my friends. Feeling this shame is the key to finding a numbness that | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| possible, you need to encounter the phenomenon of shame and nakedness. When you meet this momentary real | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| They are responsible for your illusory fear and shame. This shame is just as basic as all | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| responsible for your illusory fear and shame. This shame is just as basic as all the fears | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| exactly the same as the fears themselves. The shame of one's own nakedness in showing one's self | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| acclimatizing after one has become aware of the shame. It takes a path within the path to | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| easy it is to revert back to the shame out of long-standing habit! But once you pay | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| again and again, so that you notice your shame and your hiding and learn to uncover yourself | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| holding of a grudge meaningless; it sees no shame or humiliation in giving up arrogant pride; it | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| corner of the personality usually induces a strong shame, it is kept secret, often even from the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| things give human beings as much pain and shame as this inner, fearful, weak spot which makes | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| helpless and dependent, but also deeply ashamed. The shame is due to the methods you employ to | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| intellectual knowledge refutes such arrogance and even creates shame. Also, admitting such an idea brings you closer | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| with pain and danger, pleasure with humiliation and shame, self-assertion with unacceptable aggression. These are typical examples | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| vanity as well as false self- humiliation and shame disappear. Through the steady activation of the higher | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| and change; by the willingness to expose hidden shame; and the receptive attitude in which the ego | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| nor exaggerating it so that you cringe with shame and fear. All these distortions must disappear, for | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| say that the denial of your vulnerabilities, your shame of feeling helpless, and your feeling of being | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| that the real reason behind the fear is shame and its partner, pride. Denied pride and shame | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| shame and its partner, pride. Denied pride and shame often create fear. The idea that it is | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| to expose. Crossing the barrier of embarrassment, humiliation, shame, and pride will often dissolve fear. You must | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| go into the terror of your fear, your shame, your pain. When you stop fighting this, you | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| gain. All masks and defenses, pretenses and false shame of exposure, embarrassment about real feelings and one's | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| consciousness -- without pride because you overcame the shame -- and if you ask for inner guidance | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| I am not all alone in my hidden shame and guilt. Maybe I can let go. Maybe | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| must first shed the mask that hides their shame of their real feelings. Those who have a | 203 INTERPENETRATION OF THE DIVINE LIGHT SPARK INTO THE OUTER REGIONS - MIND EXERCISES |
| make you truly strong and take away false shame. Concurrently, you will experience a new freedom to | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| fully seen, in all their details; fear and shame of them must be overcome; hiding and camouflaging | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| box full of many other attitudes which create shame, suffering, and many other destructive evil patterns. You | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| this connection, and clarify the difference between guilt, shame, and remorse. I have often referred to justified | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| Now let us see in what way guilt, shame, and remorse differ from one another. When you | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| a realistic or constructive attitude. Now what about shame? Shame is the emotion concerned with vanity and | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| realistic or constructive attitude. Now what about shame? Shame is the emotion concerned with vanity and appearance | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| So there is a difference between guilt and shame. Guilt relates to your inner self; it devastates | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| you exaggerate it, playing a game with yourself. Shame applies to your image, your pretenses toward the | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| has nothing to do with either guilt or shame. It simply recognizes your shortcomings, limitations, faults, impurities | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| self-confrontation, is entirely different from self-devastating guilt or shame. Remorse makes it possible to say, Yes, it | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| amiss. So do make the distinction between guilt, shame, and remorse, and see that guilt is very | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| to the process, they hold back in fear, shame, secrecy and the wishful thinking that this will | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| another. You have lost a considerable amount of shame and resistance to baring yourselves to one another | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| responsibility for your lower self and overcame the shame to admit it, so must you now learn | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| well as because of the hidden guilt and shame of your lower self. So you turn against | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| or in your group. You go through the shame of showing your deficits, you finally desist building | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| deny it, she experienced it with guilt and shame. Today the misunderstandings about sexual guilt and repression | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| contact and live without fear and anxiety, without shame and hiding, without pretenses and facades. The relief | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| connotation that will free you of hurt and shame, as well as the need to put hurt | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| well as the need to put hurt and shame on others. Yes, my friends, this is what | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |