| Self-rejectingly............1 | |
| Sustain the painful feelings -- not masochistically, not self-rejectingly, not in the spirit that this is what | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| Self-rejection..............32 | |
| their lower self can lead people to such self-rejection and self-disgust that they break down. All of | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| of love and therefore establishes a pattern of self-rejection. How does one work through this, even if | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| one stage of your development to heal this self-rejection is to know beyond a shadow of doubt | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| a child is set in this pattern of self-rejection and has lived his life in this way | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and they all have to be experienced. If self-rejection can be cured by other insights, and destructive | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| reality, you will no longer need to practice self-rejection. You were attached to it only because the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| unworthy, you no longer have to cherish your self-rejection. Do you understand? QUESTIONER: I will try. ANSWER | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| understand intellectually now how this could change your self-rejection. Just approach it from the spirit of truth | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the sting of fear, resentment, self- negation, and self-rejection will vanish. And that is the real honor | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| through, you will automatically understand the tendency of self-rejection called masochism. To recapitulate briefly, I would say | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| masochism. To recapitulate briefly, I would say that self-rejection may in some personality structures create a more | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| structures create a more active process of masochism. Self-rejection in itself is masochistic. But it is a | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| this person, the afflicted area causes even greater self-rejection, increasing the fear of finding these areas, and | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| sustain pleasure. There are two basic reasons for self-rejection. All self-rejection falls into either one or the | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| There are two basic reasons for self-rejection. All self-rejection falls into either one or the other category | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| or the other category. The first kind of self-rejection is based on a very exacting mechanism in | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| the self and life. The second reason for self-rejection is imaginary violation, according to illusory standards of | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| very simple, but it is not. For hidden self-rejection and the even more hidden reasons for it | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| avoid falling into the danger of destructive guilt, self-rejection, and self-contempt? This is a deep-rooted conflict, and | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| about. Others, who have not yet recognized their self-rejection, will have to come to this awareness gradually | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| still indicates self- rejection. All these manifestations indicate self-rejection, self-dislike. It should not be too difficult to | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| yourself to let it ruminate in habitual negativity, self-rejection, and needless limitation. But once you decide to | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| traits. Paradoxical as this may seem, the total self-rejection, the destructive kind of guilt under discussion is | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| souls who cannot thrive in a climate of self-rejection. People also ignore that all the religious commands | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| the beauty of the universe, secret cheating and self-rejection exist. Within the larger vicious circle, a smaller | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| takes over. This eliminates the need for total self-rejection, which is the outcome of totally identifying with | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| caught in a battle of blame, self-justification, helplessness, self-rejection and self- doubt. You cannot help but hook | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| truthfully. The moment you do so all guilt, self-rejection and self-blame disappear. You know this, for you | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| is never any need to hate, to feel self-rejection or to reject others. The answers and revelations | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| his weakness always comes from guilt, and his self-rejection is always a denial of the integrity of | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| old protective illusion that your painful feelings of self-rejection are caused by something or someone outside. In | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| of guilt, confusion, and an emotional climate of self-rejection. No matter how you try to talk yourself | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| Self-reliable...............1 | |
| realizing that it has to grow into its self-reliable and self-regulating nature, it is bound to produce | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| Self-reliance...............7 | |
| love and true faith come out of strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility. All these are attributes of emotional | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| attributes of emotional maturity. And only with strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility are true love, involvement, and faith | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| realism is a consequence of the strength and self-reliance you have acquired on the way, and of | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| your resistance to the process. The strength, the self-reliance, and the capacity to live fully with all | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| effects and of the sense of strength, independence, self-reliance, and justice that this understanding gives to an | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| will become richer, not only in spirit, maturity, self-reliance, and self-respect, but richer in your human relationships | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| In a healthy personality it is the basic self-reliance that enables the person to spend time with | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| Self-reliant................1 | |
| it upon yourself to become whole, strong, and self-reliant. You have to determine not to allow this | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| Self-renewal................2 | |
| pleasure are the simultaneous forces of life, health, self-renewal and regeneration. Therefore health and longevity result from | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| can you give yourself safely and thus find self-renewal in the giving of the self. Each step | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| Self-renewing...............7 | |
| being which is so pleasurable and so constantly self-renewing. My friends, when you can come to this | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| enlivens you. Fear blocks the opening through which self-renewing life flows into the outer organism. As I | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| it in all directions, spontaneously and wondrously forever self-renewing. Its life pulsates vibrantly; it is movement itself | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| your body. The universal, unlimited abundance of ever self-renewing life will become a part of you -- | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| your own spiritual essence. That essence is constantly self-renewing; it is constantly conciliating apparently insoluble conflicts. Your | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| and fall apart and recreate themselves in every self-renewing, perpetuating, extending patterns of interacting spiral configurations. Each | 215 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS CONTINUED -- PROCESS IN THE NOW |
| question about coming into your forever changing and self-renewing and ongoing now point, unless you stop that | 215 PSYCHIC NUCLEAR POINTS CONTINUED -- PROCESS IN THE NOW |
| Self-reproach...............1 | |
| just start where you left off without any self-reproach, being mentally and emotionally as relaxed as possible | 36 PRAYER |
| Self-respect................78 | |
| it will make up for the lack of self-respect you can never truly possess unless you fulfill | 31 SHAME |
| this is very important -- your lack of self-respect is not due to your faults, weaknesses, shortcomings | 31 SHAME |
| takes place, you must develop true and justified self-respect long before the faults in you have disappeared | 31 SHAME |
| constructive attitude toward your imperfections. The more your self-respect is established, the less you will crave for | 31 SHAME |
| As I said before, the more you lack self-respect, the more important the respect of others becomes | 31 SHAME |
| and love to assuage their own lack of self-respect, absent because they too do not have the | 31 SHAME |
| step. Only then will you have security and self-respect. For as long as you hide behind a | 31 SHAME |
| many weaknesses you still have that determines your self-respect. Self-respect -- and as a result of it | 31 SHAME |
| weaknesses you still have that determines your self-respect. Self-respect -- and as a result of it also | 31 SHAME |
| the more victory, the more happiness, the more self-respect, and the more inner joy and peace will | 31 SHAME |
| by yourself. But if you have no healthy self-respect and do not love your greater being, which | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| never truly love others. The right kind of self-respect and self-love can only come forth if you | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| matter how unflattering in itself it is. The self-respect you must be lacking as long as your | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| seek the wrong remedy. For the lack of self-respect -- the proper kind of self-love -- you | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| of your inferiority feelings and your lack of self-respect; not before. Until then, you cannot break your | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| shortchange life -- you will gain a well-founded self-respect. From then on you will love yourself in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| masochistic, because in not considering yourself with healthy self-respect, you are denying to yourself as much right | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| dependent on others. It depends on my own self-respect which I can further and live up to | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| at one with yourself, the security that only self-respect can offer. To do something wholeheartedly gives added | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| can offer. To do something wholeheartedly gives added self-respect that is a decided advantage manifesting in many | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| being at one with yourself, you gain the self-respect which reduces the very inadequacy and self-contempt that | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| It eliminates your self- assurance, your self-confidence, your self-respect. It is responsible for the deepest roots of | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| can rely upon deep within yourself. By gaining self-respect, you become less and less dependent on approval | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| that true love means to give up your self-respect and dignity. You think you have to give | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| intuition, your discrimination, your awareness, and therefore your self-respect. It will eliminate uncertainty so that when the | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| your intuition as a growing force. It means self-respect, trust in others with discrimination, and, consequently, more | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| yourself at a disadvantage, losing your dignity and self-respect. All this is covered with the rationalization of | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| find your true self, to find serenity and self-respect, and to live your life fully. There is | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| therefore brings on an ever greater lack of self-respect. I indicated before that there is always a | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| obtain for yourself. And this will give you self-respect and security. While you cling to a stronger | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| therefore keeps you from liking yourself. Without this, self-respect is impossible. All this can be found in | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| accept yourself. This will do more for genuine self-respect than all the forceful, insincere strivings for an | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| thus you are secure. When you based your self-respect and self-liking on standards that were unrealizable, impossible | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| can still be quite happy and still have self-respect. This is the ability to take frustration with | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| own emotional attitude toward yourself, the prerequisite of self-respect can be based only on truth. Now the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| learn to do so, a new strength and self-respect will evolve that will be a great experience | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| give you strength, self- confidence, and a healthy self-respect that nothing else could give you. And just | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| to obtain gratification for your real needs. But self-respect must be established first. Without it you are | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| then feeling false self-satisfaction, as opposed to real self-respect. The point of relinquishing simply means discovery of | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| the consequences that sap your energy, strength, and self-respect, influences your ability to relate and to react | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| richer, not only in spirit, maturity, self-reliance, and self-respect, but richer in your human relationships. But, again | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| another is a subsequent lack of self-confidence and self-respect. To atone for not loving, one often does | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| compulsively as a substitute for loving, lack of self-respect -- create confusion and make you incapable of | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| are? To emulate such immaturity cannot ever produce self-respect and certainty in your personality. All it can | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| of weakness and ineffectiveness, and a lack of self-respect that causes feelings of insecurity and inferiority. Consequently | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| insecurity and inferiority. Consequently you make your damaged self-respect depend upon others. This dependency has a weakening | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| psychological aspects of your real and false guilt. Self-respect and self-assurance can not exist when you hide | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| a sense of integrity that leads inevitably to self-respect. The process will give you a power you | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| by which you try to re-establish your impaired self-respect. If you ignore the fuller impact of and | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| shoving them aside, disregarding their needs, impairing their self-respect and dignity. All this may be very subtle | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| depend on your inner resources, your self-confidence and self-respect will, indeed, be strengthened. Outside help might be | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| self-confidence, your self- reliance, your independence, and your self-respect. So reach inside. Realize that the universal laws | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| circles and inner conflicts destroying your happiness and self-respect. Very few people are reconciled to the existence | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| you do not give yourself the chance. Healthy self-respect can come only from your real self, from | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| situation makes you grow; it inevitably increases your self-respect, self-liking, and gives you a sense of security | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| have the resources to live in dignity and self-respect and are not wholly dependent on any event | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| assuming responsibility for them, thereby increasing integrity and self-respect. But this requires the labor of consciously taking | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| the best you can be. This impairs your self-respect. It may not be a crass outer manifestation | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| is harmful for obvious reasons. It impairs relationships, self-respect, and inner peace. I shall now discuss frustration | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| of the specifics that impair integrity and therefore self-respect. Any path of self-realization must deal with the | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| you will find many possibilities and reasons for self-respect. You will feel the transformation from anxiety to | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| need in the way of pleasure, safety, and self-respect. The forcing-current says, you must, and you make | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| through it if it cannot be helped. The self-respect and self-like that come from such an attitude | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| through which you hope to gain your selfhood, self-respect and happiness, you cannot comprehend the messages of | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| seem, it leaves you with a lot more self-respect, integrity, and hope than the helpless resignation to | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| you vindictive and unloving and nevertheless maintain your self-respect? How can you avoid falling into the danger | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| apparent risk to do this, and thus establish self-respect, courage, honesty, strength, and positive energy patterns. If | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| give you a measure of the peace and self-respect you lacked as long as you held others | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| surprise the contrary of their apprehensive expectation: their self-respect and self- liking will increase. So this is | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| of you in this spirit. This builds great self-respect, my friends. The ability to handle your self-produced | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| good as you choose to make it. The self-respect thus gained will then make you want to | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| familiar you. What good do joy, fulfillment, pleasure, self-respect, and abundance accomplish if they can only be | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| the most important attitudes to acquire for proper self-respect and self-acceptance is the ability to admit being | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| all parts of the self deserves your greatest self-respect, which you can pay when you stop projecting | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| may have to work hard to establish real self-respect -- and this approach is a sure way | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| the distortion and inversion of the unity of self-respect and total self-honesty. So what you need is | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| that attitude of total dedication to self-confrontation and self-respect, self-love and self-forgiveness in true proportion. You can | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| to forge ahead and reestablish your self-acceptance and self-respect. Yet this can be done only when you | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |