| Self-choice.................3 | |
| the selfhood you simultaneously deny when you refuse self-choice and self-responsibility. Only it does so by choosing | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| standards of conscience in the free spirit of self-choice or acts in blind obedience. The words may | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| explicit proof that the theory of self-determination and self-choice is true. One of our group members was | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| Self-chosen.................4 | |
| they had once possessed. Only after tasting the self-chosen medicine for a considerable time, that is, experiencing | 21 THE FALL |
| been a good child. Your action must be self-chosen for its own sake, regardless who seems to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| divine reality. The emotional loneliness that is the self-chosen lot of so many people gradually begins to | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| for it will in most instances be truly self-chosen. New-age schools will be infiltrated energetically with a | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| Self-coddling...............1 | |
| the one hand, and, as an apparent antidote, self-coddling and self-indulgence and denial of the lower self | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| Self-command................1 | |
| part, primitive. You are still imbued with the self-command you have learned throughout many existences: I must | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| Self-concern................12 | |
| self-love. Cowardice is nothing but self-pampering, self- pitying self-concern. Courage ascribes as much importance to a cause | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| organically as you remove the obstacles. Your inherent self-concern and subjectivity is one of the greatest blocks | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| yourself and an awareness of your childish, immature self-concern that prohibits a true recognition of the situation | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| and shame which are always a manifestation of self-concern and pride. You withdraw your real self in | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| be selfishness, or it may be a childish self-concern. Yet there is another part of the psyche | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| you come to see this basic selfishness and self-concern as unhealthy. Sloth is one of the defense-mechanisms | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| changing the conditions that prevent fulfillment, namely childish self-concern and selfishness. Since both sloth and gluttony come | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| yourself from others through this process of apparent self-concern, but you will in fact lessen the isolation | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| must become acutely aware of its often preposterous self-concern to the exclusion of all else. In this | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| self and no such childish, preposterous selfishness and self-concern should have a place in you. Thus you | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| so much out of love as out of self-concern, the fear becomes increasingly persistent and disturbing. If | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| own interests, regardless of the effects of such self-concern on the rest of the world. Not that | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| Self-concerned..............2 | |
| attain the same results but is rigid, impatient, self-concerned. The interaction -- action and reaction between people | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| is unable to develop. It remains childish and self-concerned. If it does manifest, it is patently destructive | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| Self-condemnation...........11 | |
| error of picturing yourself as all bad. Exaggerated self-condemnation is connected with the second condition we shall | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| but cannot. The mere wish will not cause self-condemnation. If, however, society proclaimed that everyone who does | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| start justifying, warding off the brunt of the self-condemnation. Finding excuses and explanations would be a cover-up | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| and explanations would be a cover-up for the self-condemnation. Now, separate these two aspects. Become aware of | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| degree, experienced the peace of true self-awareness, without self-condemnation or self-justification, as rarely as this may happen | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| the other hand, I emphasize how dangerous perfectionism, self-condemnation, moralizing, and false guilt feelings are. You see | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| dearest friends, to the degree that perfectionism and self-condemnation exist, to that degree you cannot accept your | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| their false guilt. They are still hindered by self-condemnation, by weaknesses and the paralysis of their faculties | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| and concepts, and even by the opposite of self-condemnation, namely, self-justification. They are caught in their accusations | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| and facing these aspects, calmly and proportionately, without self-condemnation or self-justification, yet fully taking responsibility for any | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| important to remember not to whip yourself with self-condemnation if you do not succeed, but to quietly | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| Self-conditioning...........1 | |
| observations and perpetuates them as long as these self-conditioning processes are not being challenged or questioned. But | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| Self-confidence.............47 | |
| on life. It eliminates your self- assurance, your self-confidence, your self-respect. It is responsible for the deepest | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| trust in life as a whole. But this self-confidence can only come with the solution of inner | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| victories, certain reliefs, having lost certain fears, a self-confidence that they did not have before, shyness they | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| will remove itself from the physical body. 77. SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT Greetings | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| is this hour. The subject tonight will be self-confidence. What is self-confidence? When your real being, your | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| The subject tonight will be self-confidence. What is self-confidence? When your real being, your real self, your | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| reacts this way, and when this occurs, genuine self-confidence is automatically established. For it is only when | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| unreality. Is it surprising then that you lack self-confidence? Your innermost self knows perfectly well that on | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| willing to trust them. How can you have self-confidence if the only thing that can truly give | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the offensive. QUESTION: Yes, but it also gives self-confidence and self-trust. ANSWER: Actually, it does not give | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| self-trust. ANSWER: Actually, it does not give you self-confidence if you resent another person and you are | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| handle them anymore. This does not make for self-confidence. But in your unreality you may believe it | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the idealized self-image serves to supply the missing self-confidence and to thereby gain pleasure supreme. At least | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| truth. In truth and reality, healthy and genuine self-confidence is peace of mind. It is security and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| human relationships with healthy interdependence. But since the self-confidence established through the idealized self is artificial, the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| what you desperately wanted -- life, happiness, security, self-confidence. The awareness of this false front began to | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| self, and this robs you of the false self-confidence you falsely tried to establish with the creation | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| been called into existence in order to attain self-confidence and therefore, finally, happiness, pleasure supreme. The stronger | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| originally did. It is therefore obvious that genuine self-confidence can be established only when you remove the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| tyrant, your idealized self. Yes, you could have self-confidence if the idealized self were really you; and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| purely egocentric reasons, and this very egocentricity makes self-confidence impossible. The great freedom of coming home, my | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| imagined. These feelings create insecurity and lack of self-confidence, which the person seeks to overcome, unfortunately often | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| aware of. Then a feeling of strength and self-confidence will make you see life and yourself in | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| processes, you must be insecure and lacking in self-confidence. You try to make up for this by | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and ill humor. The former disproportionately raises your self-confidence; the latter disproportionately lowers it. There are many | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| a foundation the inevitable outcome is real, secure self-confidence and self- respect, not their counterfeits. Rigid, perfectionistic | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| it, you build on sand. Your security and self-confidence are based on these alternatives. To observe these | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| your dependency on others and consequently increases your self-confidence. You will find trust in your own strength | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| as of positive goals, a futility, lack of self-confidence, and therefore the fear of coping with life's | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| cannot come into selfhood, you cannot develop true self-confidence, which cannot be gained in any other way | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| grasping. Be aware that the peace, strength, and self-confidence deriving from selfhood can be attained only through | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| your feelings of inadequacy and your lack of self-confidence. There isn't a human being who does not | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| will you find your sense of adequacy and self-confidence. The psychic law that says that running away | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| valid. This is a great relief and joy. Self-confidence begins to blossom. But this is only a | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| loving, and another is a subsequent lack of self-confidence and self-respect. To atone for not loving, one | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| has built up as a substitute for true self-confidence; if you have freed yourself from real as | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| When you depend on your inner resources, your self-confidence and self-respect will, indeed, be strengthened. Outside help | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| momentarily pleasant, but it will not increase your self-confidence, your self- reliance, your independence, and your self-respect | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| stemming against it. That alone will give you self-confidence. If you can accept not having whatever you | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| thinking; foresight; the ability to make mature decisions; self-confidence; the ability to love and be loved; the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| between one's needs and one's fears. Love and self-confidence are inevitably interdependent. Where love is lacking, the | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| your road toward self-realization, you gain strength and self-confidence. Where you felt uncertainty and guilt as you | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| and creative act. The self-determining, voluntary act expresses self-confidence and knowledge of one's divine nature. The going | 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS |
| The ability to handle your self-produced pain gives self-confidence and strength. How can you not respect yourself | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| try all sorts of artificial ways to instill self-confidence in yourself, but it will never work unless | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| according to your selfwill. This attitude gives immense self-confidence and self- reliance that constant obedience to your | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| yourself and improved your life circumstances, gained new self-confidence and a sense of your own value, learned | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |