| Self-confident..............2 | |
| that the more egocentric you are, the less self-confident you can be. The idealized self believes just | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| does exist, you are liberated, free, strong, and self-confident. So what I am saying here sounds indeed | 254 SURRENDER |
| Self-confrontation..........50 | |
| the inner source. Apart from this path of self-confrontation, is there an additional way to help you | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| by their actions and by their work of self-confrontation. May this be the case now. May you | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| the peaceful experience as a yardstick. Whenever a self-confrontation does not, in the end, produce an uplifting | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| own efforts: this is the conscious process of self-confrontation. Waiting until nature takes its course means that | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| around in circles. Undirected or misdirected methods of self-confrontation often bring this about. In such a case | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| If this is the effect, the work of self-confrontation is somehow off. Then the person needs guidance | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| you tackle the issue? Take it into your self-confrontation, by yourself, and probe deeply, bringing out the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| of you who make such valiant efforts in self-confrontation realize how meaningful and significant these efforts are | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| insight which comes as a result of relentless self-confrontation truly sets you free. It liberates you from | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| already experienced this phenomenon. After thorough exploration and self-confrontation about a problem in which you are involved | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| to the individual who finds the pathwork and self-confrontation becoming easier as more of his or her | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| are already deeply involved in this path of self-confrontation I say: may your progress continue. And may | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| the outside life what seems like a terrifying self-confrontation. Hence the projection cannot yield peace and liberation | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| very quiet and relaxed during the periods of self-confrontation is, as you know, essential. But if you | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| your illusion is further illusion. The work of self-confrontation gradually leads to this attitude. If you take | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| expression, happening as an organic, natural result of self-confrontation. QUESTION: In that case, would you permit physical | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| for their fulfillment or frustration. This is why self-confrontation and seeing what one actually thinks, feels, and | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| areas cannot be changed without deep and honest self-confrontation. First the realization must be made that a | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| circumstances, be glossed over or neglected in your self-confrontation. It is necessary that you put precisely into | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| and why. People who follow a path of self-confrontation are bound to discover their ingrained, heretofore unconscious | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| who goes deeply enough in their path of self-confrontation cannot help but find this truth, no matter | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| in an utterly truthful way, by self-revelation and self-confrontation. Nothing dangerous can ever happen, provided all illusions | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| Before one embarks on any intensive path of self-confrontation, one does not know that one really fears | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| fear of being, as such. It takes considerable self-confrontation, as you all know, to be aware of | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| you are on a meaningful path of honest self-confrontation. Now, using your will and reason for honest | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| your will and reason for honest and humble self-confrontation, you can safely allow yourself to feel what | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| you find false guilt in the course of self-confrontation, you must never let it go at that | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| more aware of yourself in the course of self-confrontation, you also begin to detect those subtle little | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| once you have practiced a certain degree of self-confrontation without clinging to the old patterns of self-delusion | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| is no longer confused with self-indulgence, and honest self-confrontation need not bring self- loathing. You can find | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| of seclusion are necessary for inner concentration and self-confrontation, however. But these periods should always alternate with | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| are very actively engaged in your work of self-confrontation, every so often overlook how and where your | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| involved in your own intensive work of self-development, self-confrontation, and growth -- in short, the path. I | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| essential this is on any path of self-knowledge, self-confrontation, and purification. The majority of humankind is totally | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| a path such as this, in which deepest self-confrontation on all levels takes place, can possibly do | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| in addition to or in conjunction with the self-confrontation which you want to avoid at all costs | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| you could only gain as a result of self-confrontation and deep honesty, then you will risk, and | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| is an important aspect of personal development and self-confrontation. The greatest pain and dissonance in the human | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| with all its apparent hardship of self-revelation and self-confrontation will make you increasingly aware of the spiritual | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| others and yourself, sincerely wanting to change through self-confrontation, is entirely different from self-devastating guilt or shame | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| ready to follow such a demanding path of self-confrontation and growth, but resist your experiences and states | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| deny the value of a spiritual path of self-confrontation, although possibly not the existence of God, this | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| suspicions, in order to avoid the discomfort of self-confrontation, you create a greater split between you and | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| independently found through the process of self-search and self-confrontation, but lazily accepted on the surface in order | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| through, in the well-practiced attitude of self-observation and self-confrontation, your limited beliefs and to truly think about | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| applied to your personal development, your growth, your self-confrontation, and your immediate microcosm. If you use great | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| to learn self-forgiveness on the one hand and self-confrontation on the other. Yet the connection is extremely | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| that approach, that attitude of total dedication to self-confrontation and self-respect, self-love and self-forgiveness in true proportion | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| level, possibly without your knowing it. Only deep self-confrontation can yield the answer. By contrast, appearance values | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| of laborious inner work -- the work of self-confrontation and purification -- which leads to finding deeper | 253 CONTINUE YOUR STRUGGLE AND CEASE ALL STRUGGLE |
| Self-consciousness..........8 | |
| in a state of being without awareness, without self-consciousness. Primitive man was only little removed from this | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| in the upward scale of life that possesses self-consciousness, awareness of itself in varying degrees. People such | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| infancy. An infant lacks ego-consciousness. There is no self-consciousness, no sense of self. All a baby experiences | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| lost consciousness gradually works toward a state of self-consciousness. This state needs structure to protect it from | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| identify. To the degree the personality awakens and self-consciousness is gained, such decisions and choices of attitude | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| are states of consciousness, but not states of self-consciousness. Take for example the life of a plant | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| may have some awakening power of thinking, but self-consciousness, in the sense I have described, is completely | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| timeless state of being, but they are without self-consciousness, self-determination, a self-propelling initiative. The human state of | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Self-consideration..........1 | |
| point mentioned before. Those who were taught that self-consideration is selfishness are completely confused. They assume that | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| Self-constructed............1 | |
| have of the situation. It may spoil your self-constructed idea, or it may not correspond to your | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Self-contained..............1 | |
| of the inability to be by oneself. Being self-contained is the other side of the coin. In | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| Self-containment............3 | |
| real companionship. If you fear companionship, you prevent self-containment. So it goes on and on. The great | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| be different? ANSWER: The divine original aspect is self-containment, self-sufficiency, impartiality, serenity. In every healthy life there | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| and outer nature. Then the fruits of this self-containment can be given out again. That would be | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| Self-contempt...............30 | |
| you must be lacking as long as your self-contempt is hidden will automatically vanish, at least to | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| he covers up a very different emotion of self-contempt; perhaps what I mentioned at the beginning of | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| for an imagined personal advantage, which increases your self-contempt, though this is usually quite unconscious. I might | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| must ultimately be at the root of your self-contempt, of your feelings of inferiority. Nothing else really | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| in the last analysis only contributes to your self-contempt. The act of giving up the intention to | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| rebel against your own lack of self-love, your self-contempt, and choose the sick overcompensation. Actually, your rebellion | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| did not use the word self-hate, I used self-contempt. I explicitly said that to the measure that | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the self-respect which reduces the very inadequacy and self-contempt that make you weak and fearful toward others | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| longer fear self-responsibility, because you have lost your self-contempt and mistrust in yourself, you will no longer | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| limitations, by others, or by life. Recognize the self-contempt that underlies the anxiety or depression. When you | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| on the individual by such self-denial results in self-contempt and self-dislike. Since this is painful, aside from | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| symptoms of all sorts. Anger, fury, shame, frustration, self-contempt, and self-hate exist for two reasons. They exist | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| a feeling of inadequacy, and therefore frustration and self-contempt. Let us now consider the third divine attribute | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| demand, the person is outraged. The fury and self-contempt are so strong that they have to be | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| exists, it reacts to such self-effacing submissiveness with self-contempt and guilt of a different nature. On the | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| This has the additional crippling effect of causing self-contempt and shame, which in turn often has to | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| and responsibility, you cannot help feeling self-hate and self-contempt, and you become weaker and more helpless. Such | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| will become capable of observing such emotions without self-contempt and therefore without repression and without self-moralizing. The | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you are not disliking yourself for them. Such self-contempt is connected with expecting too much and therefore | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| yourself, you will also become aware of your self-contempt. Unconsciously you had shifted this self-contempt to the | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| of your self-contempt. Unconsciously you had shifted this self-contempt to the existence of the needs. But you | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| You will see that the real reason for self-contempt is your inner unwillingness to relinquish. And as | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| repression, discontent, anxiety, a sense of failure, and self-contempt. This is often projected onto others. As long | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| The stronger your tendency to submit, the more self-contempt you beget, and therefore the stronger is the | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| to letting go is the strongest cause of self-contempt, guilt, weakness, unfulfillment, and many outer frictions and | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| your personality. All it can do is create self-contempt and guilt, which must rob you of the | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| wrong. Consequently, he emasculates himself. His weakness causes self-contempt and resentment toward others, whom he blames for | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| the results of both are loneliness, resentment, self-pity, self-contempt, and frustration. When two people involved in a | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| guilt, or with hostile aggression to assuage your self-contempt for your uncertainty. Whatever you did, however you | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| into the danger of destructive guilt, self-rejection, and self-contempt? This is a deep-rooted conflict, and most human | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |