| Self-beating................2 | |
| to stay within the narrow confines of neurotic self-beating, hopelessness, and morbid capitulation, which always cover unexpressed | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| its knowledge and resources. Observe this habit of self-beating, hopelessness, and capitulation in yourself and counteract it | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| Self-belittling.............1 | |
| the other or of yourself, without self-doubt and self-belittling, then you have indeed grown up. Perhaps you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| Self-betrayal...............4 | |
| When you find that, you will find your self-betrayal. By finding the wrong concepts and then, little | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| to sell your soul. Needless to say, this self-betrayal is bound to make you more egocentric and | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| best in you. Your frustrated striving and your self-betrayal create a forcing-current. The forcing-current may manifest in | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| identification with negative role models and hence to self-betrayal. All parents are prototypical figures to their children | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| Self-blame..................12 | |
| can happen by associating this concept with unhealthy self-blame, guilt, and inferiority feelings. In other words, the | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| parties. One alternately blames the other, or assumes self-blame. It takes time and understanding, as well as | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| doing exactly the same. For this kind of self-blame is only a disguise for violent hate and | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| your misfortune on the one hand, and distorted self-blame and a sense of not deserving the best | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| this time unmarred by suffering, guilt, fear, and self-blame, the world opens up before you with such | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| without using the defense of annihilating guilt and self-blame, which of course eliminates any possibility of really | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| justifications, rationalizations -- and even with your acute self-blame which may easily be confused with self-acceptance, but | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| also be less blaming and accusing of others. Self-blame and self- accusation may seem to have increased | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| often seem mysterious to the parties involved. Confusion, self-blame, deadness of feelings, are examples of responses which | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| caused it? -- thus fluctuating between blame and self-blame. Neither leads to any solution. But the moment | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| moment you do so all guilt, self-rejection and self-blame disappear. You know this, for you have all | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| and camouflaging or whitewashing must have stopped; exaggerated self-blame must be relinquished. What is necessary is to | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| Self-blaming................1 | |
| yourself, but do not wish to see this self-blaming behavior. The more you blame yourself, the more | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| Self-castigation............2 | |
| to remain unaware of the pain of such self-castigation. The inability of living up to the idealized | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| you to pursue gratification compulsively. Under the accompanying self-castigation, the urgency becomes even more potent and therefore | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| Self-caused.................3 | |
| truly realizes that nothing happens that is not self-caused will ever indulge in self-pity! If you are | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| provocation, and unjustified indignation due to unreal or self-caused provocation. Only extensive work on this path will | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| what one's talents are, will be sensed as self-caused and self- wanted, sometimes wisely, sometimes destructively. Exactly | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| Self-centered...............44 | |
| the pseudo-security of separateness. Even an otherwise thoroughly self-centered person may be able to make a sacrifice | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| is objectivity, among many other things. Subjectivity is self-centered, and love and self-centeredness cannot exist side by | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| child operating in you. And that child is self-centered and ignorant. Out of this self-centeredness and ignorance | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| as you are still in the state of self-centered separateness. The transition from self-centered isolation to the | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| the state of self-centered separateness. The transition from self-centered isolation to the state of union with all | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| entire inner and outer outlook. From a separate, self-centered being you are bound to become, little by | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| but due to your basic inner state of self-centered separateness they are turned back. After the initial | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| toward the greater aim: the transition from the self-centered state of isolation into the state of union | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| begin to recognize the symptoms of your old, self-centered, isolated way of life, you are bound to | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| use the forcing current in the most blatantly self-centered way. You simply try to make a bargain | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| to love in return. It is ultimately a self-centered, one-sided desire. The effects of this entire attitude | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| you from annihilation. It will, therefore, cease being self-centered. Your own capacity to love will combine power | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| you with your missing self- respect. Genuine, not self-centered love will then no longer interfere with healthy | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| into your consciousness. Since both distortions are intrinsically self-centered, the personality also becomes self-centered. Self-centeredness brings frustration | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| distortions are intrinsically self-centered, the personality also becomes self-centered. Self-centeredness brings frustration, anxiety, tension, compulsion, guilt and | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| tragic because the psyche falsely believes that being self-centered will preserve its safety, or satisfy its craving | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| things you cannot control. If you are not self-centered, you can afford to be flexible, however. You | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| deep within yourself. Both soul currents, being utterly self-centered, prohibit you from experiencing and dealing with defeat | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the underlying core may be a ruthless selfishness, self-centered pride and superiority, excessive demands and often even | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| But your lack of acceptance makes you blind, self-centered, and fearful. Only in learning acceptance can you | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| isolation. You are too fearful and selfish, too self-centered in a negative sense, to break down the | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| less urgent, much calmer emotions, not at all self-centered, the way the need is. These mature feelings | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| final analysis, arrested growth is always life-defeating and self-centered, but the emphasis may not be on selfishness | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| do not go through and face the impure, self-centered form of love you are now capable of | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| being. Genuine self-searching will never make a person self-centered and withdrawn. If this is the effect, the | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| of instincts which are as yet unproductive and self-centered in their immature state, but are destined by | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| its demands and the demands of the primitive, self-centered child you still harbor within, you are torn | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| fight between the superimposed conscience and the primitive, self-centered, destructive child is a tragic one -- tragic | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| that comes from not being reconciled with the self-centered child. It continues to make unfair demands you | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| grow. Only in its immature manifestation is it self-centered. Society's emphasis on its sinfulness so often causes | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| so often causes this creative instinct to remain self-centered, in hiding and, if expressed at all, to | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| expressed at all, to come out in a self-centered way, while the person feels guilty and sinful | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| However, experience of the pleasure principle is naturally self-centered and undeveloped -- which does not make it | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| only entirely a physical creature, but also utterly self-centered. The same condition exists in any form of | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| up, which know better. But while this selfish, self-centered and limited infant dwells within, it must always | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| made them more responsible for others and less self-centered. Humanity thus began to form a society for | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| mode of survival by taming the primitive and self-centered instincts. If the child were self-sufficient and independent | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| the child were self-sufficient and independent while possessing self-centered drives, you may imagine what would happen. It | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| to control and manipulate others, one will be self-centered in the sense of living out of the | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| degree you let go and give up a self-centered, selfish, self-pitying, or self-destructive attitude, fear of self | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| regulate your expression -- not in a miserly, self-centered, vain way, not due to lack of generosity | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| difficult one because it may easily mislead childish, self-centered, falsely selfish, separating personalities, who may desire to | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| end. Introspection can be productive and growth-bringing or self-centered and separating. Its opposite, concern for others, can | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| yourself is not in the least selfish or self-centered. In fact, it increases your perception and understanding | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| Self-centeredness...........36 | |
| work in you through the basic misconception that self-centeredness will protect you from hurt or bring you | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| easy, because you are unaware of your emotional self-centeredness. You may be aware of your fears without | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| But if you want to rid yourself of self-centeredness because you sincerely consider the other person, because | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| goal for unity. You all know that selfishness, self-centeredness, is contrary to Divine Law. Since humanity on | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the one hand, the guilt of selfishness and self-centeredness which makes loving an unprofitable, disadvantageous adventure. There | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| other things. Subjectivity is self-centered, and love and self-centeredness cannot exist side by side. This is an | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the product of the forcing current and of self-centeredness. Only when liberated from this, can you have | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| child is self-centered and ignorant. Out of this self-centeredness and ignorance selfish motives arise, unconsciously or sometimes | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| a liberation from the confining wall of isolating self-centeredness. You will feel a deep purpose in life | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| old world behind will increase. When I say self-centeredness I do not use the word in a | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| are intrinsically self-centered, the personality also becomes self-centered. Self-centeredness brings frustration, anxiety, tension, compulsion, guilt and insecurity | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| your unconscious conviction, safety lies in non-self-centeredness. In self-centeredness, you need to be given love, admiration, approval | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| it creates the real guilt of the intrinsic self-centeredness, pride, and pretense that all these attitudes really | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| positive feelings. Such fear is a result of self-centeredness which is the opposite of love. And the | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| is the opposite of love. And the same self-centeredness is therefore responsible for creating false, unreal good | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| real evil, they would emphasize all forms of self-centeredness as being destructive and stress the need to | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| gaining true independence through giving up childish, limited self-centeredness. Hence, self-centeredness and dependency are interconnected. You cannot | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| independence through giving up childish, limited self-centeredness. Hence, self-centeredness and dependency are interconnected. You cannot have the | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| insist upon as a result of your infantile self-centeredness and subjectivity in outlook. As you mature, you | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| spiritual truth, my friends: lack of selfhood means self-centeredness. Full selfhood means concern for others, fairness in | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| a remedy for inherent and hidden selfishness and self-centeredness. But it does imply a sense of fairness | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| selfhood, no awareness of itself, accompanied by utter self-centeredness and complete dependency on stronger beings. On the | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| matter of inner feeling. The transition from utter self-centeredness to concern for others is a crucial period | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| by knowing truth. A similar confusion exists concerning self-centeredness versus other-centeredness. Self- centeredness can be childish self-importance | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| self. It is self-alienation. The right kind of self-centeredness is the opposite of self-alienation. It finds the | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| expense of being untrue to the self. Healthy self-centeredness is at one end of the scale; healthy | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| the deep experience and perception of right, healthy self-centeredness and other-centeredness; as well as right, healthy control | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| You still do not wish to give up self-centeredness and isolation and accept a new way of | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| traits that impede coping with frustration are greed, self-centeredness, blindness, and fear. The person who believes himself | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| untruthfulness and role playing, all cowardly defenses, all self-centeredness that makes me treat others differently from the | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| former kind. One must see where selfishness, cruelty, self-centeredness, greed, dishonesty exist, if only in minute form | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| of the experience. When you give up the self-centeredness of the infant -- and, at the same | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| your rights. No childish greed must rationalize your self-centeredness. You must see and overcome both tendencies; you | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| I want to shed all falseness, all selfishness, self-centeredness, negativity, and destructiveness, no matter how hard this | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| be beauty and love without humor. QUESTION: Competitiveness? Self-centeredness, wanting to be the center of attention? ANSWER | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| wanting to be the center of attention? ANSWER: Self-centeredness is a direct distortion of seeking your inner | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |