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| is the consequence of detesting one's submissiveness and resenting it. This resentment is, of course, projected onto | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the other person. You go through life resenting other people because they do not respond to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| success has unwittingly been forfeited. But instead of resenting the world for not supplying the desired approval | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| state of demanding happiness from life and others, resenting it when not given to you, and disclaiming | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| calmly without moralizing, without justifying, without complaining or resenting, then you do not discipline yourself. You simply | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| while actually suffering from thwarting that need and resenting the necessity to do so -- creates an | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| with the unsatisfactory alternative of either giving and resenting it or receiving and feeling unfree, inhibited and | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| yourself. This may take the form of rejecting, resenting, or despising them, but not then does it | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| the other person ought to be, and then resenting it when he or she is not that | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| it on yourself: to change from blaming and resenting to seeing your own hatred, your own enviousness | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| into the second phase: rebellion against the group, resenting it, avoiding it. You find that part in | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| defend yourself against recognizing this by blaming, accusing, resenting, and closing your heart and your feelings with | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| of concern, your unlovingness, your blaming, and your resenting others for the results of your own ungivingness | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| only the minimal amount of rebelliously executed duty, resenting anything that is demanded by life. Being full | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
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| self- deception. While no hate may be left, resentment is still present; if you have not liberated | 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER |
| we should be aware of the hatred or resentment we feel. But how are we to relate | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| best to use for your problem. Hate or resentment may have different causes or motives in different | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| easy for you, if you do not feel resentment, resistance, or any kind of heaviness within, then | 21 THE FALL |
| wickedness or are now only selfishness, jealousy, envy, resentment, laziness, or whatever else, makes no difference in | 22 SALVATION |
| finally be able to do so without inner resentment. Furthermore, ask yourself: Do I really want to | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are meant all who have no hatred, no resentment, no self-will, and no fear. They will be | 26 FINDING ONE'S FAULTS |
| fear, your self-will, your egotism, or a particular resentment or resistance to a person. To fulfill a | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| them. But there are also negative desires. Whenever resentment, fear, hatred, and the like are in your | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| feel an unpleasant emotion like anger, anxiety, or resentment -- and your days are often full of | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| The only way to do so is when resentment, hate, and fear do not live in the | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| have feelings of rejection, culminating into feelings of resentment? ANSWER: In the first place your vanity is | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| your fear will vanish, and with it your resentment. By giving up, I do not necessarily mean | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| give up the desire current. Whenever there is resentment, it comes from a germ of hatred. Hatred | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| itself as such anymore, but as long as resentment exists, the root of hatred is still in | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| the fact that you cannot change them. Your resentment means that you are breaking a spiritual law | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| these qualities within yourself. As long as hatred, resentment, and intolerance exist in you, you contribute to | 36 PRAYER |
| to determine. Love has turned to hatred and resentment, justice to injustice, beauty to ugliness, harmony into | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| all, depends on how free you are of resentment and of blindness. In some cases it would | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| when its will is done. It knows hatred, resentment, and pain when its will is not done | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| a definite law-breaker to the point of acute resentment, dislike, and intolerance toward this particular authority? ANSWER | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| inferiority feelings, guilt feelings, hostility, hate, aggression, ignorance, resentment, childish selfishness, fear, and a few other obstructive | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| recommended enough that you try to replace hatred, resentment, aggression with love and unselfishness. But before you | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| to feel rejected, which, in turn, causes hatred, resentment, hostility, and aggression. This is the second part | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| can make good for my past hatred and resentment. And since the little voice was at one | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| of detesting one's submissiveness and resenting it. This resentment is, of course, projected onto the other person | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| other person involved, although often indirectly and subconsciously. Resentment directed to the self is masochism. It is | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| self is masochism. It is the very same resentment: in sadism it reaches out to the other | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for granted, although this does not preclude your resentment and rebellion against them. It just never occurs | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| able to take it with equanimity and without resentment toward the person who does not seem to | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| distortions of the first wrong extreme. Rebellion and resentment cease automatically once the personal inner issue is | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| may suppress and hide her aggression, hostility, and resentment for the man behind the facade of a | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| or you believe so -- you will develop resentment and contempt toward that person. What you see | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| unfulfillment. In children of the strict parents, the resentment and rebellion will be open, and therefore more | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| much you may love your parents, an unconscious resentment exists in you, which prevents you from forgiving | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| if you recognize your deeply hidden hurt and resentment. As an adult human being you will see | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| a perfect love from your parents and your resentment against them, you are bound to try remedying | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| confronts you. The next layer might be anger, resentment, anxiety, frustration. Behind all these reactions you will | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| masochistic submissiveness on the one hand and hostile resentment on the other. Underneath both sets of feelings | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| you do so when you talk yourself into resentment and contempt for a person because you believe | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| person and you are helplessly caught in the resentment. Your emotions become so strong that you cannot | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| also applies to negative emotions such as hate, resentment, and contempt. If you look deeply enough, you | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is often unaware of negative emotions, be they resentment, hate, or contempt. As far as valid desires | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| superimposed hurts are sufficient reasons to maintain your resentment. In this way, you go around in circles | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| projected onto others. Such emotions of contempt and resentment in turn contradict the standards of the idealized | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| as the submissive type is ashamed of the resentment and self-assertive qualities that smolder underneath. Power drive | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| bound to reject others, who will respond with resentment in turn. These are only a few general | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of others. They do not see that such resentment is unjustified because they themselves chose this behavior | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| a daily resolution of intent. In this way resentment, guilt, anxiety, animosity, and other negative emotions will | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| outer actions. As you experience this layer of resentment and find what you really feel, rather than | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| about the validity of righteous indignation or justified resentment. I think you have answered both tonight. Would | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| only the clinging helplessness, but also the hidden resentment that God has not come forth to provide | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| hurt as a child, your reactions were anger, resentment, hate -- sometimes to a very strong degree | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the next moment, you may feel hatred or resentment. The fact that you do does not make | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| only definite individual negative emotions, such as hostility, resentment, aggressiveness, and envy, but also certain psychological conditions | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and resentment are bound to decrease until they finally disappear | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you must first become fully aware of your resentment against it. Only when you fully face the | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| against it. Only when you fully face the resentment against imperfection can you begin to accept it | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| your parent may be equated with disrespect, contempt, resentment, or hate -- in your unconscious mind, of | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| understanding has been gained, the sting of fear, resentment, self- negation, and self-rejection will vanish. And that | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| what you really feel. Whether you call it resentment or hostility, anger or hate, makes no difference | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| a positive into a negative feeling. You feel resentment, rejection, pride, and you withdraw either from that | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| want to give. If this happens without contempt, resentment of the other or of yourself, without self-doubt | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| directly connected with the departed one -- guilt, resentment, or what have you -- or whether the | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| feelings will get you into trouble -- guilt, resentment for doing what you now do compulsively as | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| in turn results in guilt, fear, uncertainty, anger, resentment, helpless rage, and confused fluctuation between giving in | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| unwelcome consequences. In both cases the result is resentment, defiance, and hostility. None of it may be | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| Then you do not breed guilt and therefore resentment. This is infinitely better than speaking out of | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| see that a great deal of anger and resentment exist not only in connection to what you | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| are frequently on a layer below hate and resentment. Hostility and other negative emotions may have been | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| is too much blind adoration, or too much resentment -- more than the occasion may warrant. Such | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| the result of natural growth -- brings disharmony, resentment, self-pity, and invites unjust exploitation. A good example | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| he emasculates himself. His weakness causes self-contempt and resentment toward others, whom he blames for the unpleasant | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| layer. As a further result, there must come resentment, dissatisfaction -- the fourth layer. As a fifth | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| layer. As a fifth comes guilt about the resentment. As a sixth, there is confusion because all | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| ward off disapproval, or just to survive, creates resentment and fatigue, and thus causes greater resentment by | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| creates resentment and fatigue, and thus causes greater resentment by making every further effort even more laborious | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| part of you resists? If this is so, resentment against life itself must be much stronger than | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| to want to put in sufficient effort, without resentment, is possible only when it is understood that | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| misconception, and the results of both are loneliness, resentment, self-pity, self-contempt, and frustration. When two people involved | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| bad. Ungenuine love is always connected with self-pity, resentment, hostility, and conflict. There is in it always | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| and tense struggle, in a mood of complaining, resentment, and self-pity. Meanwhile, you ignore: a) the intensity | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| is unhampered. The destructive forces of hate, hostility, resentment, anger, and cruelty that the individual fears may | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| grudges, one's old ways, which exclude others in resentment or censorship, or to allow a new spontaneous | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| is love, when inwardly you are seething with resentment and vindictiveness? You claim that your possessiveness and | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| want to remain separated, keeping my anger and resentment. When you can acknowledge this, you will instantly | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| clearly aware of them or of her seething resentment when they are not fulfilled. Healthy, openly expressed | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| parents are not finally responsible for your misconceptions. Resentment against them violates the law of self-responsibility. Similarly | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| natural that such a predicament induces feelings of resentment, frustration, anger, self-hate, guilt? And is it not | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| fear and creates greater fear, leading inevitably to resentment and hate. You try very hard to conceal | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| others for the lack. This in turn elicits resentment, bitterness, anger, and defiance. The resulting confusion is | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| the often strong temptation to indulge in self-pity, resentment, complaining, and accusing -- overtly or covertly -- | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| mother. In the blind, semi-aware state of this resentment he could not examine why he really felt | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| have created this condition. Thus the anger and resentment you feel against life will decrease. Anger, fear | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| you feel against life will decrease. Anger, fear, resentment and self-pity create tightness and brittleness. They numb | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| the opposite, your reaction can often be panic, resentment, struggle, resistance, and at times even a cessation | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| emptiness wipe out hope, blacken vision, and induce resentment, hate, blame, and often spite. A venomous passive | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| a reaction of ill will, envy, or blaming resentment in yourself in spite of being aware of | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| confused. You will always fluctuate between guilt and resentment, between negation and rejection of self, of others | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| that others may have more, or on your resentment that they do. It would therefore be wise | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| means. You will sense something and fluctuate between resentment and guilt, as I mentioned before. Lack of | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| her, and your feelings of hate, blame, and resentment. You do not wish to open your heart | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| The moment one feels inferior to the other, resentment, fear, envy become inescapable, and that, too, closes | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| Instead of inferiority feelings closing the heart, creating resentment, hate, and therefore frustration and blame of the | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| and you are full of outraged rebellion and resentment, for which you often manage to find justification | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| in feeling victimized. It can also manifest in resentment, blame, hostility, and overt hatred, with many shades | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| that is demanded by life. Being full of resentment, he will do what he can't avoid, against | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| usually a great deal of anger, bitterness and resentment. These feelings are not directed toward a specific | 253 CONTINUE YOUR STRUGGLE AND CEASE ALL STRUGGLE |
| to keep yourself locked up in isolation and resentment. Desist equally from yielding to the temptation to | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |