| this point of view, for the greatest inner pain is the cramped soul movement. Only as you | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| on its fulfillment is unrealistic and leads to pain and disappointment. At still other times, the desire | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| will feel helpless and incapable of assuaging the pain of nonfulfillment. You will teeter between self-pity and | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| fulfillment, of your fruitful life experience, or the pain, suffering, and frustration you have to bear. Unfulfillment | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| yourself in an unusually strong state of either pain or pleasure. Your states of tension have become | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| how fighting against your own creations augments the pain and tension in your being. This is inevitable | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| love, pleasure, happiness; to court decay, waste, and pain. The part of your universal self that has | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| universal self that has remained whole knows the pain is short and illusory, but the part of | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| wasting yourself and life, your hurt and your pain, are all direct effects of deliberately wanted negative | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| without hidden destructiveness. And can you perceive the pain of being torn apart by going into two | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| unconflicted pleasure that is within you. Accept the pain that you have created through your misconceptions and | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| disunity. Not learning to walk creates unhappiness, weakness, pain and limitation, which are all overcome when the | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| you have found misconceptions that equate love with pain and danger, pleasure with humiliation and shame, self-assertion | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| confined life leads to disunity rather than unity, pain rather than pleasure. Unification depends on your inner | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| pleasure rather than one of narrowness, disunity and pain. Pleasure is possible only in a unified, expanded | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| You become blissful where you are now in pain, in truth where you are now in error | 178 THE UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE OF GROWTH DYNAMICS |
| find yourself divided, and this always creates tension, pain, anxiety, as well as inner and outer difficulties | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| becomes. This then, is a different kind of pain -- the pain of loneliness and frustration. But | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| is a different kind of pain -- the pain of loneliness and frustration. But contact makes it | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| helpless indeed and brings about isolation, or unending pain and friction with others. It is only when | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| not leave a trace of inner confusion and pain. I mean the kind of disturbance that comes | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| One derives pleasure from doing this, although the pain that ensues and the insoluble conflicts that follow | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| limited, undesirable way, you become truly helpless. The pain of human existence is disunity within yourself. It | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| finding out. Wherever negativity exists, disunity -- hence pain -- exists too; this may seem strange to | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| that never open doors to the light. The pain of this disunity ultimately becomes an incentive to | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| The latter way widens the split and the pain of disunity. Fighting against the destructive side must | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| afraid to be involved and unwilling to risk pain and scared of loving, then detachment is a | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| readjustment, whether it appears in the form of pain, difficulties, upheaval, uncertainty, or merely the insecurity that | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| are painful and problematic. If difficulties, upheavals, and pain in the individual's life, as well as in | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| meaning of crisis would be understood and much pain could be avoided. I say to you now | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| crisis is going to be. The severity and pain of a crisis is by no means determined | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| inwardly have been much less agitated and in pain than in situations which are outwardly incommensurate with | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| avoiding the necessary change. Every negative experience, every pain, is the result of a wrong idea. A | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| truth and change, your life will alter drastically. Pain will become proportionately less frequent, and joy will | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| bunched up in stronger episodes. Utter darkness, loss, pain, and confusion alternate with heights of golden light | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| the assertion, Here I am in stress and pain. I am in a situation that gives me | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| instead of inwardly divided and racked by the pain of this division. But you cannot have it | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| in the cycle of death and rebirth, of pain and struggle, of conflict and strife -- physically | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| be carried by the stream of life. The pain and the confusion are often very profound in | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| in people trapped at this stage. But this pain and confusion will eventually lead to the full | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| meaning of this stage is rarely understood. The pain and confusion are there because the fluctuation's true | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| illusion of separateness which is the cause of pain and struggle. In reality all is one and | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| expansion and contraction create opposite experiences: pleasure and pain. Only when you transcend this sphere of being | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| I am indeed capable of enduring a little pain. Somehow, inadvertently, I must have created it. Therefore | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| you discover that you no longer find the pain so unendurable. You will ride with it, as | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| my friends. The ability to handle your self-produced pain gives self-confidence and strength. How can you not | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| often even quite fast -- the feeling of pain transforms itself into pleasure, the feelings of hate | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| even though at first this means enduring a pain or some other unpleasant emotion. This is truly | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| look at the opposite picture: your reaction to pain. As you react, are frightened of and angry | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| same approach is necessary toward both pleasure and pain. First, simply observe the previously hidden reactions. The | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| a matter of principle, and because you fear pain, and also, of course, because the longing can | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| a negative reason -- out of fear of pain -- you still bar the ability to live | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| correlation: to the degree you avoid and deny pain, refute it and rebel against it, repress and | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| for its own sake, but only to avoid pain. In that way it is impossible to come | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| reality of your present state, your fear of pain -- the loss becomes a tragedy and not | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| your capacity to endure all life, first the pain and then the pleasure. Only as you observe | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| concept to comprehend, my friends. Your reaction to pain -- the denial of it and the refusal | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| your soul substance. As you do so, the pain will no longer appear so frightening or so | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| longer wish to deny life, that by feeling pain you prepare yourself to sustain pleasure, and that | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| divine existence. Focus on your actual reactions to pain and pleasure -- and as you do so | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| the former obsolete. Lo and behold, the endured pain will transform itself, naturally and as if by | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| human beings suffer from a basic conflict and pain; whether individuals are aware of it or not | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| evasive tactics build the strife and conflict, the pain and confusion. Now, let us reverse the process | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| must battle with the opposites -- pleasure and pain, life and death, good and evil. You cannot | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| defenses are built is to ward off the pain of other people's cruelty and hostility, the unjustified | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| are you so vulnerable? If you heed the pain or discomfort that you suffer now and decide | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| you will need to defend yourself against the pain, and therefore against the bliss of life, the | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| will make you stronger, the acceptance of your pain will allow you to be more blissful. I | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| the denied experience, and thus increase the accumulated pain and hurt. More of this reexperiencing must still | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| even more frustrated because you deny it, the pain extends. This process is so significant because it | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| undesirable feelings may be. If you compound your pain because you deny feeling your pain, this secondary | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| compound your pain because you deny feeling your pain, this secondary pain must become bitter, twisted, and | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| because you deny feeling your pain, this secondary pain must become bitter, twisted, and unbearable. If you | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| and unbearable. If you accept and feel the pain, a dissolving process begins automatically. Many of you | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| surfacing of the self that often writhes in pain but denies the experience of the residual pain | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| pain but denies the experience of the residual pain of long ago. The first helps and guides | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| merely shame/pride and the misconception that the childhood pain existed because of personal inadequacy which the individual | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| go into the abyss of fright, loneliness, helplessness, pain, and the anger generated by the suffering you | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| and peace is right behind the sadness and pain. It cannot be activated by a direct act | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| your strength; through the gateway of feeling your pain lies your pleasure and joy; through the gateway | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| the terror of your fear, your shame, your pain. When you stop fighting this, you will become | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| denying often seems the only protection against unbearable pain and suffering. And yet, as many of you | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| they are denied. When you are afraid of pain, loneliness, or of a hurt to your pride | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| -- say, rejection -- will you experience the pain of it. So we are dealing basically with | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| we are dealing basically with the fear of pain. When you go into the fear, you can | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| go into the fear, you can experience the pain. Only then will the pain genuinely dissolve, and | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| can experience the pain. Only then will the pain genuinely dissolve, and you will have mastered a | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| avoid. When you blindly avoid your fear of pain until you no longer know that you fear | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| no longer know that you fear a specific pain and are not aware why you feel numbed | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| the very experience you wanted to avoid. The pain you avoid must come to you from outside | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| life circumstances in your early childhood again inflict pain and deprivation upon you, and you again protect | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| and you again protect yourself by denying the pain rather than experiencing it to its fullest, later | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| see. In protecting yourself against your fear of pain, or any other undesirable experience, you put yourself | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| In the last analysis it is always a pain you have suffered. You cannot, of course, go | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| you will remain open and vulnerable, experiencing the pain softly, gently, without inner fight, and fully knowing | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| fight, and fully knowing why you are in pain. This integration of your experience will make the | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| of your experience will make the wave of pain pass slowly or quickly, according to the nature | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| to the nature of the experience, and the pain will dissolve into the stream of life within | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| soul substance, you bring on crisis and more pain. The duality that characterizes human consciousness results primarily | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| violence follow. Rage dissolves when the fear of pain is given up and the pain fully experienced | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| fear of pain is given up and the pain fully experienced. The pain dissolves into its original | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| given up and the pain fully experienced. The pain dissolves into its original nature, the blissful, peaceful | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| an original experience -- say, of sadness and pain -- is denied, it becomes displaced. It will | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| of their inner truth, their real feelings, inflicts pain on you just as much as you inflict | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| on you just as much as you inflict pain on others by not allowing yourself to experience | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| or not you intend to do so. This pain can be inflicted every bit as much by | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| actual occurrence to which one can connect the pain, so that it is harder to acknowledge and | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| from your psychic system. Your initial reaction to pain with anger is totally normal and healthy. If | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| feel it and follow it through to the pain, it will dissolve, it will liberate you. If | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| directly, you proceed into other feelings, such as pain, despair, anger, and so on. Thus the way | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| you. When you can let a feeling -- pain, fear, disappointment -- happen to you and go | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| principle you hear expounded: that the acceptance of pain makes the pain pleasure. The less you block | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| expounded: that the acceptance of pain makes the pain pleasure. The less you block pain, the more | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| makes the pain pleasure. The less you block pain, the more and the sooner will pain turn | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| block pain, the more and the sooner will pain turn into pleasure. Thus you witness the process | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| stemming against the truth and so create unnecessary pain. The negation of your original pain in this | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| create unnecessary pain. The negation of your original pain in this life leads to greedy, insatiable demands | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| abandon these demands and go through the original pain, you will be caught in the see-saw of | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| a child is incapable of reacting differently to pain than by building its numbing defenses. This is | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| is true only when in previous lives residual pain was not experienced fully and thus eliminated. To | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| will be experienced in an undefended way. The pain will be endured and gone through until it | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| mark, just because it was fully felt. Feeling pain directly and fully strengthens resilience and the ability | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| laugh genuinely in the next, just because the pain has taken its natural course. It is only | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| taken its natural course. It is only where pain has not been experienced that defensive numbness occurs | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| words, if you wish bliss because you fear pain; if you wish life eternal because you fear | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| you have encountered your deepest feelings of fear, pain, guilt and anger, feelings which you first experienced | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| an adult. When the growing person denies the pain of an unfulfilled real need, this need does | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| disappear. On the contrary, the denial of the pain of its unfulfillment perpetuates the need and projects | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| a crippled state is the belief that this pain can only be eliminated when the person is | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| this suffering is the denial of the original pain and the consequent negative and destructive patterns of | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| by the child's unfulfilled need. The more the pain of the unfulfilled legitimate need remains unfelt, or | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| false needs that have accrued from denying the pain of the original unfulfillment. Let yourself go into | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| you see how you now avoid the long-forgotten pain of the past still festering within you, you | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| legitimate needs as a child created fear and pain which you were unwilling and unable to experience | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| guilt and self-hate for these make the original pain seem justified in your secret evaluation of yourself | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| now. The pursuit of false needs causes unbearable pain. It is tight, locked and bitter, with the | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| of hopelessness. It is very different from the pain of a real unfulfillment, a hurt or a | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| difficulties are not channeled into unreal needs, the pain can be dissolved and can transform itself back | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| into its original, flowing, life-bringing energy current. Hard pain is a result of fighting against what is | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| a result of fighting against what is. Soft pain is a result of acceptance. Once the covering | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| needs, you may get lost in the hard pain. For the hard pain coming from insistence on | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| lost in the hard pain. For the hard pain coming from insistence on the false needs contains | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| is therefore safe to test the kind of pain that you experience. Does it lead to bleak | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| prevents the real experience of the residual original pain. For in the case of experiencing real pain | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| pain. For in the case of experiencing real pain, an inner organic wisdom guides the rhythms and | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| you should not go deeper into this hard pain, because you are unwittingly and quite unconsciously punishing | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| unwittingly and quite unconsciously punishing others with this pain. The work should rather be directed toward recognizing | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| yourself is much less due to the real pain. Soft pain due to unfulfilled real needs may | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| much less due to the real pain. Soft pain due to unfulfilled real needs may momentarily result | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| into the world. The mellow sadness of real pain and real needs dissolves into its own streamings | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |