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to be irresponsible? Every issue demands a different attitude, a new accounting, and a thinking through. QUESTION 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
is that the experience influences one's actions and attitude to obtain improvement through one's efforts, courage, and 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
my friends, you have so often a wrong attitude in the hurried approach toward your development. This 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
to be perfectly happy. This includes the childish attitude we have discussed frequently of not accepting life 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
pray for help. You have to observe your attitude in prayer. This is a very deep and 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
thing. If you pray and find the hidden attitude that you expect God to do it for 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
it also indicates a more deeply rooted wrong attitude about life and your role in it. If 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
a fine distinction between such healthy and right attitude and the idea that you should sit and 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
success, it is due to a logically correct attitude toward both. So this is where the image 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
divine sense is relative and depends on one's attitude toward oneself and one's actions, rather than on 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
not so important, what counts rather is your attitude toward it. Many of my friends have already 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
giving up, but rather letting go of an attitude of emotional grasping. Be aware that the peace 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
tempting to pride oneself on having a positive attitude, thus covering up a negative one. Why is 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
Doesn't that show something vitally important in your attitude toward yourself? Do you understand, my friend? QUESTION 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
proof of your inadequacy. You can relinquish this attitude only through fully understanding that your worth, value 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
in the pathwork is permeated with this perfectionistic attitude, be it ever so subtle. Listen to its 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
perfect happiness, perfect love, and perfect relationships. This attitude is never conscious, never formulated with such clarity 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
truths about myself? Such reaction indicates exactly the attitude of perfectionism about your spiritual growth. Your unconscious 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
people are so often hindered by the either/or attitude. They feel either that they must strive for 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
both attitudes can the healthy, constructive, and productive attitude become an integral part of one's being. There 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
There is another subtle deviation in the wrong attitude of perfectionism; it is your unconscious emphasis on 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
superimpositions and with the hidden but nevertheless present attitude that you do what you do for appearance's 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
my personal human relationships, you express the very attitude that makes it so difficult. Only by accepting 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
what level you produce them and what your attitude is toward them. The more immature people are 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
But as long as I remain in this attitude, I cannot be fulfilled, therefore I need substitute 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
you want to see them with a mature attitude and understand them in their reality, you may 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
learn more about them, with an entirely new attitude. You may seek out a contact that will 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
I have this to say: Here the either/or attitude of the child prevails. The child in you 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
Even unjustified criticism cannot endanger you, provided your attitude toward it is mature and realistic. Is it 101 THE DEFENSE
it off, but to see the truth. This attitude will change your reactions. Your emanations will have 101 THE DEFENSE
of egocentricity or isolation. It is the childish attitude of I want to have, to get, without 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
it. A person who has a positive, constructive attitude toward life will not be slothful. Someone who 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
one level of the personality may adopt an attitude that is contradictory to another level. All of 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
The wisdom, however, lies not in the unhealthy attitude of making yourself a small sinner, of flagellating 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
without really being aware of it. With this attitude, you destroy potential relationships that could become very 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
other's incapacity, even if it were sick. This attitude would then establish a human relationship, whereas your 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
right you wish for yourself. Observe your innermost attitude and currents from this perspective and you will 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
particular success or that specific relationship. Such an attitude will enslave you whether or not it is 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
adapt to ever-changing circumstances and conditions. With this attitude you will have the generosity of spirit to 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
your problem when you approach it with an attitude of right versus wrong, good versus bad. The 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
inadvertently, as it were, you had the right attitude. Without it this experience is lost again. Instead 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
grows out of it. As man cultivates this attitude, he makes a genuine experience of God possible 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
and sense of it that facilitates the proper attitude toward one-self. This genuine God-experience is being. God 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
being frantic, of feeling I should not. This attitude is the greatest barrier, the very greatest of 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
half as frightening as his fear of, and attitude towards it. To a slight degree, many of 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
life would otherwise contain. So it is your attitude to suffering, to life, to your position in 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
that determines how you experience suffering. If man's attitude toward suffering were not as distorted as it 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
itself. Prayer will be adapted to the conscious attitude and concept of any given phase. In the 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
unpleasant. It is prayer because it contains the attitude that truth for the sake of truth is 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
truth, no matter how imperfect it is. This attitude IS prayer. Candor with oneself IS prayer; alertness 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
we are all members? What should be our attitude towards social problems? ANSWER: If you consider your 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
it. Moralizing with yourself (what should be our attitude? Is it a fault?), and moralizing with others 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
any true answer as long as the underlying attitude is thus colored. No, you certainly need not 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
would be, after discovering and removing the self-moralizing attitude, to ask yourself, is my anger truly an 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
you cannot change, if you have a healthy attitude toward it. You feel depressed only when you 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
change something in your life, in your own attitude, if you took the trouble to look inside 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
or relationship, is relative -- relative to your attitude. You may relate positively or negatively. But the 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
stone if it is approached with a constructive attitude. Now with all that I do not mean 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
of one's friends suffer, what is the proper attitude? ANSWER: I will be glad to give additional 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
something you are not aware of. A universal attitude is that of feeling a certain satisfaction at 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
This is, of course, entirely irrational, but the attitude contains considerations such as this: If others have 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
defenses; the harm of a self-righteous or moralizing attitude with yourself and with others; the harm of 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
by my friends: An action, a thought, an attitude is seldom good or bad, right or wrong 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
such. The value of an action, thought, or attitude can be determined only by finding out if 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
what is behind it. The same deed or attitude, coming from two different people, or perhaps even 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
have to. You will eventually change your inner attitude and thus go with life rather than against 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
You mean to say that when a person's attitude toward life is correct and positive, his feelings 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
and others? That all depends on this fundamental attitude? ANSWER: Yes, that is what I am saying 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
is a laborious path to establish this fundamental attitude so that it accords with the universal forces 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
to a calm observation of yourself. This very attitude is the prerequisite to creating the resiliency needed 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
them. By following the incentive, I mean the attitude of discovering your disproportionate hurt at any suggestion 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
hope? Does talking about God determine the inner attitude? Is that a yardstick for one's nearness to 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
and cope with life without them. The same attitude is responsible for an inner unwillingness to change 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
as well as faith, or any other productive attitude or feeling -- can grow on firm foundations 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
subtle. It may be more a question of attitude and feeling, rather than of actions, because you 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
me too much to face it. Such an attitude discloses an attempt to preserve the false picture 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
it -- where you believe that the destructive attitude is a necessary protection for you in order 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
ANSWER: Whenever an inner habit, a habit of attitude is difficult to shed, it would be an 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
habit. A habit is easily shed if the attitude in question does not serve a purpose. It 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
are overlooked. This may also apply to your attitude toward people and situations where you are not 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
to look for the key in your own attitude. Where were you oblivious of your own excessive 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
all its depth a distortion or a negative attitude in themselves. If all the benefit contained in 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
in a fleeting and vague way, that your attitude about your actions, thoughts, and feelings is governed 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
against a doubt or against selfishness or some attitude that hides a lack of integrity -- for 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
my friends, try to visualize each emotion, each attitude and response as a stream. If you barricade 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
same holds true for any other emotion or attitude -- fear, doubt, hostility, or whatever -- the 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
not barricaded; they create a healthy and constructive attitude toward yourself and toward your life. There are 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
knowing what is in me. What is my attitude toward myself in this admission? If I want 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
the awareness that causes the difficulty, but the attitude toward the fear and what underlies it. The 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
the fear and what underlies it. The wrong attitude is the unhealthy struggle against the fear. Struggling 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
psychological fear, but a physical one? ANSWER: Your attitude toward a physical predicament does not preclude psychological 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
as possible. I do not mean the ruthless attitude of certain spiritually undeveloped people who simply do 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
the lower self than the nature of your attitude toward it. Your shame and guilt are a 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
as such. Rather, begin by looking at your attitude toward its existence. Are you shocked about certain 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
unless you view it in relationship to the attitude that you have had toward your parents; the 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
had toward your parents; the specific emotions, their attitude toward you, as well as the resultant images 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
or relating to any other human activity or attitude, from the viewpoint of ready-made rules in which 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
and decision, any action or emotional direction or attitude, is dependent on whether or not the decision 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
on psychic conditions, as well as on the attitude to one's problems. Wherever you stand now, take 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
far, they will eventually reveal a basic inner attitude by which you are governed. This basic attitude 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
attitude by which you are governed. This basic attitude is always split in half, which means that 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
split in half, which means that the fundamental attitude that underlies your negative involvement fluctuates between two 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
fundamental attitudes, constituting your split, represent your basic attitude to your parents. One distorted attitude exists because 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
your basic attitude to your parents. One distorted attitude exists because of influence exerted upon you by 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
not inaccessibly hidden once you realize how your attitude to both parents governs your basic life situations 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
may also see how they correspond to your attitude toward each parent. When you present practical examples 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE
with which it is born subsequently influence its attitude toward the pleasure principle. Hence, when the baby 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
of degree. To the degree that this infantile attitude toward the world exists, the person is dependent 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
person, you adopt a way of life, an attitude to life and to others, in which you 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
talks, each emotion, each feeling, each thought, each attitude, each need is an energy-current. There are many 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
natural healthy aggressiveness -- problematic because his own attitude toward it is uncertain, either consciously or unconsciously 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
of self-realization can exist without bringing forth one's attitude toward one's own manhood or womanhood, and one's 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
own manhood or womanhood, and one's approach and attitude to the opposite sex. Many a different path 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
appears as undesirable, and vice versa. Hence their attitude toward themselves is distorted in this respect, and 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
and trust, born out of an objective, realistic attitude releases the tight grip of control that stands 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
of pride, self-will, and fear also influence one's attitude to death. Dying ultimately means giving up self-direction 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
them for their significance. Take for example one's attitude to this pathwork, professed and actual; one's attitude 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
attitude to this pathwork, professed and actual; one's attitude to the opposite sex -- again professed and 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
put it differently: not only is the surface attitude, but the attitude of your entire being undivided 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
not only is the surface attitude, but the attitude of your entire being undivided and in accord 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
very fulfillment you wish and consequently a subtle attitude of rejecting it. The fear may be based 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
adjustment, and relinquishing on your part? This prevalent attitude may be extremely subtle and require all your 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
consists of. Many people believe that a positive attitude toward life means ignoring the negative in oneself 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
-- not superimposed -- hope, and a positive attitude toward life. You will glean that what has 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
of discovery and change. Hence, a strongly negative attitude will manifest in any number of ways toward 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
derive from a truthful impression and a constructive attitude prevails, the soul substance is molded in such 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
the soul substance negatively, even if the positive attitude is stronger and conscious, while the negative one 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
fear was false, and why the new accepting attitude to life is entirely safe, is the final 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
aspects and by formulating a new outlook and attitude. On this path, you have learned to review 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
the same with feeling, experiencing, and expressing the attitude of I want to, regarding a particular fulfillment 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
a false one. You express it with this attitude: If I say No, life will not say 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
the self, and therefore with God, impossible. The attitude of acknowledging that you are in illusion at 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
The work of self-confrontation gradually leads to this attitude. If you take the additional step and assert 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
by the feared event itself, only by one's attitude. As long as one is tied to the 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
threat is not the event itself but the attitude to the event, one learns to let go 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
therefore from contact with the life force. Your attitude is either that of a greedy, self-willed child 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
now. You gradually experience that it is your attitude to an event that causes happiness or unhappiness 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
it is the outer event and not your attitude that produces the misery. Being in contact with 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE
own life, the result is a tremendously changed attitude to life. Usually preliminary work has to be 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
think and fear and wish, as though your attitude and behavior had no bearing on the desired 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
childish fears that cause the resistance. Another prevalent attitude expresses, I am afraid of being rejected. I 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
others to like me. After ascertaining such an attitude, it will be comparatively simple to declare to 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
evolution of a human being is a person's attitude toward effort. Free, voluntary and joyful effort is 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
to life always amounts to an arbitrary either/or attitude. This we have also discussed at various times 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES

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