| able to bear. That is the healthy inner attitude, without even thinking about it. QUESTION: My question | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| it is consistent with Scripture, both as to attitude and as to concept. The word communism is | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| a spirit of courage and with a constructive attitude toward what you can learn. And each time | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| in its own erroneous way, with the very attitude that is bound to make you less lovable | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| are not willing to concede to others. This attitude is highly subjective and unrealistic and affects others | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to see that the effect of such an attitude will not be in your favor. Thus, it | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| learn to love, for only then will your attitude affect others in a way that will result | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| can spoil the day for you. This black-and-white attitude causes you to dramatize yourself. You not only | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| unjustified disapproval will no longer hurt. In this attitude you will not fear criticism or disapproval; your | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| preposterous illusion of that emotion. By observing this attitude and mood, gaining a little distance from it | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| This is due not only to the either/or attitude of the immature part of yourself, but also | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| willing to see what is. With such an attitude, you can perceive the reality of the situation | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| the rest may be a question mark. This attitude promotes openness, a readiness for further observation and | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| each time anew what your conduct and your attitude are going to be. With flexible truth, the | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| innermost conflicts which make you adopt the wrong attitude to the actual problem that confronts you. The | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| and strongly brought to the fore by the attitude of the person with the unrecognized inner problem | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| explanations for his irrational, emotional, subjective behavior or attitude. QUESTION: At one time, you said that you | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| give constructively. You will not give in an attitude of self-hurt, submission, and masochistic self-punishment, nor will | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| do not choose adulthood by adopting such an attitude toward life, you will believe you are an | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| flow much freer. In such people, the natural attitude will be to grow from coping with problems | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| of being stultified by them. The more this attitude prevails, the more creativity will manifest. The less | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| rightfully keep what you earn with a mature attitude. If this mature attitude is lacking in any | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| earn with a mature attitude. If this mature attitude is lacking in any way, deep down you | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| enrich life, provided the right spiritual and psychological attitude is assumed. In other words, as explained to | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| Come as a little child? ANSWER: The childlike attitude that Jesus refers to is the lack of | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| or another, are so insecure that your warding-off attitude will have an effect on them. Then you | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| one. This does not mean a fatalistic, passive attitude in which you wait without ever doing anything | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the result of the forcing current. One such attitude is submissiveness. When you are submissive you cling | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| desire to get your way. There is another attitude, often chosen when people are more inclined to | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| trace. In fact, often the stronger the hostile attitude is, the more it is covered up. It | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| covered up. It is also possible that this attitude exists only in isolated parts of the personality | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| significance, until you find the existence of this attitude. When you find an attitude of battling in | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| existence of this attitude. When you find an attitude of battling in fear against annihilation, for instance | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| is obviously dependent, the one with a hostile attitude deceives himself or herself into believing that he | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| the basic will to be happy is the attitude I have so often called withdrawal. In this | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| life experience. Although a person with this predominant attitude may appear more cheerful and well-adjusted than another | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| must be afraid to let go of the attitude because it is supposed to be a protection | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| way, you have a very similar aspect or attitude. The stronger you dislike it in yourself, the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| affect your environment. People who live with this attitude will tackle any event coming their way in | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| remedy you need to change the underlying incorrect attitude. This, and this alone, is proper assimilation of | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| therefore not learning from life. It is the attitude in which you blame others, God, fate, life | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to make by assuming a defensive, wrong inner attitude has much stronger repercussions that you realized. That | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| little, in themselves seemingly unimportant events, and your attitude to them. The activity of the feet, however | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| These actions determine your spiritual stand, your basic attitude toward all major issues of life. I need | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| I need hardly emphasize again that one's conscious attitude is not necessarily the real inner and unconscious | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to keep this in consideration, and adopt the attitude that words are merely an expediency. This will | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| choice, you will learn that even if this attitude could bring you the desired result -- which | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| mistaken time concept. By this I mean the attitude of impatience. The inner child causes you to | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not really so. After this discovery your entire attitude changed. It will be the same here. Thank | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| feel rejected and insecure, you often assume an attitude of trying to please the very people whose | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| or words, but exists as a hidden, well-camouflaged attitude. You may even bend over backwards so as | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| bend over backwards so as to hide this attitude from others and yourself. Nevertheless, it exists in | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the interplay of submissive and domineering attitudes. Either attitude can be dominant in one partner, or they | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| darkness. Your confusion comes about because a certain attitude toward life, that is supposed to lead to | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| found on all levels. It manifests in your attitude toward less significant aspects of life, but is | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| not die many little deaths every day. Your attitude toward death in all its aspects determines your | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| to live and experience pleasure. The healthier your attitude toward death, the more the life force can | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| you give up instant gratification but retain the attitude of keeping alive, in principle, the wish to | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| honest facing of the self, and a relaxed attitude will produce the necessary strength. The lack of | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| same result, namely, negation. QUESTION: What is your attitude toward the ascetic? Is he running away from | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| death must be a pleasure. Doesn't the healthy attitude therefore deny the unpleasant emphasis? ANSWER: Let us | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| unpleasant principle, except in terms of an unhealthy attitude. ANSWER: Once you have arrived at that state | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| happiness and pleasure are also connected to your attitude toward death and suffering. As you accept the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| you rise and grow through the other. Your attitude toward suffering determines whether or not your soul | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| only much later. Even a blind and rebellious attitude toward suffering will eventually benefit the soul, and | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| feel and experience. However, a blind and ignorant attitude toward suffering will make you suffer more and | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| learned not to avoid it. Conversely, a healthy attitude that retains awareness will obtain immediate growth and | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| frustration of not knowing instantly by what particular attitude or action you have created it. Not having | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| too, has to be done -- but their attitude is much more relaxed and open. However, the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| one's own inner hidden causes with the relaxed attitude of accepting, for the moment, the unwanted pain | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| your own problems brought on by a faulty attitude toward life and death, pleasure and pain. How | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| fear. Only then will you learn the right attitude toward life and death. See how you run | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| it again, you are caught in the wrong attitude toward death I have outlined in the last | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| first. Only then can you adopt a healthy attitude toward death. Outwardly, you may not be aware | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| may excuse this untruthfulness by the seemingly commendable attitude that does not want to let down or | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| has this innocence and purity adopts the childlike attitude Jesus recommended. Jesus' advice to become as little | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| through development -- and the right and healthy attitude as described in these lectures, does not, cannot | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| and thinks one believes that determines a healthy attitude; that is only an indication. So you must | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| evaluation based on a person's professed belief and attitude. The desire to die, for instance, does not | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| is nothing more than dishonesty, self-deception, an ostrich attitude, and a lack of self-awareness. On the other | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| it difficult for you to discover the compulsive attitude that denies present imperfection, the pride and lack | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| You will fully assume responsibility for the faulty attitude, being willing to take the consequences upon yourself | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| things are also bound to change. Your different attitude will have new effects. Overcoming your idealized self | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| most often it is an inner quality or attitude. As you proceed in this new phase of | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| It makes the letting go of many an attitude impossible. It makes it unduly difficult to go | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| form a supposed solution, and how the dominant attitude creates dogmatic, rigid standards that are then incorporated | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| other solutions. The person with the predominantly submissive attitude will have a somewhat harder time discovering the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| up by love, selflessness, or any other holy attitude. The submissive type will have to look with | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| the fundamental selfishness and egocentricity prevailing in this attitude, just as much as they do in the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| self-centered, one-sided desire. The effects of this entire attitude are grave. The need for such love and | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| no wonder that a person engulfed in this attitude becomes estranged from the real self. The real | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| may be a more general and less defined attitude toward people in general. Artificially cultivating a toughness | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| This outlook is needed to maintain the submissive attitude. In reality, this type of person does not | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| permitted because in some specific area the prevailing attitude may be submissiveness. Likewise, the submissive type may | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| ever apply to the total person. The distorted attitude may be present to a stronger degree in | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| excluding the possibility of making mistakes. But your attitude to your failures and mistakes will be very | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| a distorted way? ANSWER: Again, a very contradictory attitude exists. The person may believe that love and | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| but the actual interference comes from the wrong attitude. Your own or other people's distorted thought forms | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| It also creates rigid rules of behavior and attitude; it freezes ideas and feelings as long as | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| many more, indicate the truth about what your attitude really is to defeat. Test how you fear | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| admit defeat without loss of dignity. This very attitude actually brings dignity. The child in you believes | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| setback may not be a defeat if your attitude is relatively mature in this area. You may | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| So when I invite you to question your attitude toward defeat, do not only think about what | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| disturbed. A distortion results from adopting a particular attitude and rigidly adhering to it. This happens when | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| happens when the personality unconsciously regards such an attitude as a solution to life's difficulties. The various | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| false serenity or into a domineering aggressive, forbidding attitude. This makes the attainment of love impossible. The | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| unwilling to risk giving of yourself. Such an attitude robs a vital part of the inner organism | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| strong, invulnerable will bring love and devotion. This attitude implies that you will not only ensure your | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| idealized self-image. When you find such a submissive attitude in yourself, look into what exists beneath it | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| advise you to ask yourself what is your attitude to this work. When certain painful points are | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| come back to this point with a different attitude. Spiritual knowledge, even spiritual action, is one thing | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| type of idealized self-image that you establish; this attitude represents your pseudo-solution. Your pseudo- solution, in turn | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is simultaneously counteracted by an equally strong submissive attitude. This is one aspect. The guilt is the | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fear most. In other words, it is the attitude discussed in the previous answer. There is a | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with danger, which is why the strong submissive attitude was originally chosen. But since the power drive | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| being as good and obedient as the submissive attitude demands; the false guilt of daring to rebel | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| carry. The tremendously damaging effects that this hidden attitude has on the personality can be discovered only | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| the tragic disadvantages of prolonged childhood. This soul-crippling attitude finally succeeds in really making you helpless, while | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| humans fell easily into this submissive and dependent attitude. False religion encouraged fear, dependency, helplessness, and a | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| but discover your own justice. With the wrong attitude, you not only fail to eliminate your self- | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| can realize. You cripple yourself with this hidden attitude. And you make a false crutch out of | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| true religion will be paved by your own attitude and effort. This is the only way you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| true religion is, as compared to the wrong attitude? Where does belief in God come in if | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| your own obstacles to fulfillment. The false religious attitude arises when you ask God to help you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| only if you let go of some damaging attitude, something destructive that, again, is up to you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| find. The strength and security coming from this attitude will give you an entirely different relationship to | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| after so many decades of learning the false attitude. Wouldn't prayer change too if we discarded this | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| will help to dissolve the God-image because your attitude will naturally change. You will, for instance, find | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| reactions with this God-image, with the false religious attitude. They are filled with their conscious right beliefs | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| another that has fewer may, in its overall attitude, be closer to truth. Apart from being dangerous | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| absorb what is being said to them. The attitude toward a person in this frame of mind | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| this clearly, you will comprehend how preposterous this attitude is. Your conscious or unconscious rationalizations in still | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| causes you to have a stringent, rigid, moralizing attitude about yourself whenever a crisis brings the negative | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| borrowing ready-made rules. This condition produces the moralizing attitude and all the rigidity that is tied up | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| itself, but in reality, it stems from your attitude about yourself. You will always want to find | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| be watchful. Detect where you have an unforgiving attitude that makes you moralize with yourself for falling | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you had been unaware of, like the moralizing attitude. You will also discover how you experience your | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| have not yet realized to what degree this attitude still exists in all of you, even those | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| made some discoveries along these lines. This either/or attitude is the basis for emotional disturbance, immaturity, and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| and ill-health, but it especially creates the moralizing attitude and the disproportionate emotional reactions, although consciously and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| quite evident. Both are based on an either/or attitude, as well as on your own stringent standards | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| the ability to take frustration with the mature attitude that unfulfillment is not an abyss. Only with | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| unfulfillment is not an abyss. Only with this attitude can you then find why and how you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| If you approach it with the perhaps unexpressed attitude that immediate improvement must occur in your life | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| share the common denominator of the childish either/or attitude. It is impossible to withstand the frustration of | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| actually self-righteousness because it stems from the wrong attitude we have just discussed in detail. It is | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| When it comes to feelings, your own emotional attitude toward yourself, the prerequisite of self-respect can be | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |