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you sell your soul in order to get love. When this tendency is on the surface, you 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
tell yourself that it is your ability to love, your readiness and willingness for it. You may 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
this craving has nothing to do with real love, and that, while you are using it, no 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
need that is simply a withdrawing from life, love, and communication due to fear. That, too, is 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
is only fair and right that if I love a person, the person should also love me 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
I love a person, the person should also love me. Otherwise it would be much more unhealthy 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
if you believe that I advocate one- sided love. In a healthy state, you will never have 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
will cause you to direct your affection and love toward the person able to respond. Then the 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
on immature craving instead of free readiness to love and communicate. Since you are new in this 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
frees the soul of its fetters. A one-sided love is its own proof of distortion and deviation 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
of you. Be enveloped in the strength and love we bring you from our world. Be in 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
opposites are life and death, happiness and unhappiness, love and selfishness, light and darkness. Your confusion comes 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
core is your longing for complete happiness, light, love, bliss, peace. The original longing is for happiness 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
become acutely aware of the desire for happiness, love, fulfillment, or -- to put it in the 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
to distinguish between the healthy wish for mature love and the childish craving need to be loved 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
say that childish craving is one-sided, while mature love is willing to give and love as fully 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
while mature love is willing to give and love as fully as one wishes to receive. In 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
If I could only find such completely satisfactory love, I would be willing to give my all 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
the one hand, and the mature wish for love and pleasure supreme on the other, is not 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
blessed, each one of you. Divine strength and love envelops you. This love is a reality. May 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
you. Divine strength and love envelops you. This love is a reality. May you feel it and 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY
not getting it? you will come to the love you desire and to your fear of not 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
of not getting it. When you flee from love, fearful that you may not get it anyway 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
fear it. In a similar way, you reject love, fearful of being hurt, not getting it, or 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
to convince yourself that you do not want love. The same happens when you inwardly try to 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
honestly acknowledge to yourself that you really want love and life and that you really fear not 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
life and that you really fear not getting love and life eternal. This condition is unhealthy because 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
it. You may not get the kind of love you desire -- exclusive, limitless, guaranteed with absolute 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
of your wish is unbearable, you forfeit the love you could have by rejecting it altogether. So 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
you fear are death and suffering. Rejection of love signifies both. You run away not only from 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
Be blessed, all of you. Receive our strength, love, and blessings. May you take this strength and 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
dearest ones, each one of you, receive our love, our strength, and our blessings. Be in peace 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
blessings. Be in peace, be in God! 84. LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
would like to discuss three major divine attributes: love, power, and serenity, and how they manifest in 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal are the distortions of love, power, and serenity. I would now like to 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
the wrong solution. One of these pseudo-solutions is love. The feeling is, If only I would be 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
everything would be all right. In other words, love is supposed to solve all problems. Needless to 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
so, especially when one considers the way this love is supposed to be given. In reality, a 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
such a solution is hardly able to experience love. In order to receive love, such people develop 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
able to experience love. In order to receive love, such people develop several typical personality trends and 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
more self-effacing characteristics in order to gain the love and protection which alone seem to promise safety 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
their souls to receive approval, sympathy, help, and love. Unconsciously such people believe that self-assertion and standing 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
it can no longer be covered up by love, selflessness, or any other holy attitude. The submissive 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
or her own advantage. The need for protective love has a certain validity for the child, but 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
own worth. Then I may be willing to love in return. It is ultimately a self-centered, one-sided 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
entire attitude are grave. The need for such love and dependency actually makes you helpless. You do 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
the picture of a person who has chosen love, with all its subdivisions of compassion, understanding, forgiveness 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
is a distortion of the divine attribute of love. The idealized self-image of this type will have 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
always give in, never find fault with others, love everybody, never recognize one's own true values and 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
friends, it is but a caricature of true love, understanding, forgiveness, or compassion. The poison of the 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
is an actual weakness or an imagined one. Love and goodness are also considered as weakness and 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
to mere human beings who do. Neither are love, friendship, or help acknowledged as important. The pride 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
in this case dictates that one must not love. Loving, or at times showing one's true nature 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
are good or bad as long as they love, appreciate, approve, and protect him or her. All 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
their helplessness and forces others to give them love and protection, the seekers for power take pride 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
it were possible never to fail, or to love everyone, or to be entirely independent of others 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
a person's idealized self-image simultaneously demand one to love and be loved by everyone and to conquer 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
to be always unselfish, so as to gain love, and, on the other, to be always selfish 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
more you will combine the divine attitudes of love, power, and serenity in a healthy way, as 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
healthy way, as opposed to a distorted way. Love will not be a means to an end 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
therefore, cease being self-centered. Your own capacity to love will combine power and serenity. Or, to put 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
to put it differently, you will communicate in love and understanding while being truly independent. Love, power 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
in love and understanding while being truly independent. Love, power, and serenity will not be used to 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
with your missing self- respect. Genuine, not self-centered love will then no longer interfere with healthy power 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
from emotions, experience, life, and your own conflicts; love and power in their healthy forms will give 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
through them and find what is behind them. Love, power, and serenity can go hand in hand 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
there any questions? QUESTION: When a child forces love through a temper tantrum and as an adult 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
also exist in the submissive type who needs love as a solution for all problems. This one 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
all problems. This one is so convinced that love will be the solution, and is so dependent 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
combination here of the search for power and love. These two attitudes are constantly at war with 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
particularly humiliated and exposed by this dependency on love, who strives to appear invulnerable just as much 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
but actually they are byproducts of each other: love in the form of strength, and strength coming 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
the form of strength, and strength coming through love, and both together producing serenity. Now my question 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
contradictory attitude exists. The person may believe that love and strength can be combined, that he or 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
possess. It may come from a distortion of love: If I cannot have love, I want to 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
a distortion of love: If I cannot have love, I want to have things instead. The compulsion 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
often also motivated by the strong craving for love, pleasure, and ecstasy. So another one of these 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
and more strength, and let our blessings and love help and invigorate you. Be blessed, my dear 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
unhealthy soul experiences any rejection -- withholding of love, admiration, and approval -- not only as unsafe 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
non-self-centeredness. In self-centeredness, you need to be given love, admiration, approval. You have to get. This need 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
mentioned three main pseudo-solutions: (1) the quest for love, (2) the quest for power, and (3) the 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
procreation leads the soul to the quest for love. Yet either instinct may serve both ends, since 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
young child experiences insecurity, either from lack of love, from lack of understanding of its own individuality 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
that contradictory tendencies, such as the quest for love, are not also present. Also, I want to 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
pseudo-solution of submissiveness, compliance, appeasement. The quest for love is supposed to solve all problems. Being nonassertive 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
aggressive, forbidding attitude. This makes the attainment of love impossible. The venture does not seem worthwhile. So 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
of procreation and its pseudo-solution, the quest for love, predominate, vulnerability and helplessness increase until the soul 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
For instance, the quest for power aims at love and pleasure in the unconscious belief that being 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
belief that being omnipotent, strong, invulnerable will bring love and devotion. This attitude implies that you will 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
you so much admiration that your quest for love will be fulfilled. You never see that invulnerability 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
be fulfilled. You never see that invulnerability makes love impossible. The more you try to convince others 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
of you, and fright has never yet induced love. Nor does the superiority over others induce love 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
love. Nor does the superiority over others induce love, for other people resent being made to feel 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
Those whose predominant pseudo-solution is a quest for love to obtain pleasure will compromise by trying to 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
expected of them, they will receive not only love and pleasure, but protection from danger as well 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
people should give me special respect and should love me instead of taking me for granted. In 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
that just because these demands exist -- for love, protection, and nurturing -- the submissive solution has 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
core may be the helpless child, looking for love and protection; craving pleasure and happiness; feeling vulnerable 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
If the predominant tendency is a quest for love in order to receive pleasure, with all the 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
will try to gratify their needs for safety, love, and unconditional approval. I venture to say that 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
bless you and strengthen you with all our love. Be in peace. Be in God! Lecture 84 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
another manifestation while the person who does not love animals and nature is otherwise receptive and open 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
afraid of people than the former and therefore love and understand them better. However, it is equally 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
judge that just because certain people do not love animals, they automatically love people more than those 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
certain people do not love animals, they automatically love people more than those who do love animals 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
automatically love people more than those who do love animals. There is no rule, and every case 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
such a person. ANSWER: Those who do not love and understand the manifestation of creation do have 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
May you all absorb the powerful rays of love, truth, strength, and purity that are given unto 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
of work. Be blessed, my dearest friends, our love envelopes and penetrates you. Be in peace. Be 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
yourself. With this, my dearest ones, be blessed! Love and peace unto all of you. Be in 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
need others and this need may appear as love to you, but now you know that it 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
can you receive what you yearn for -- love, belonging, communication -- if you neither feel nor 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
living. For living and feeling are one. The love and fulfillment you must increasingly crave for makes 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
or spiritual philosophy or teaching you follow, that love is the first and the greatest power. In 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
feeling, reacting, and experiencing. Now, how can you love if you do not let yourself feel? How 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
do not let yourself feel? How can you love and at the same time remain what you 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
not risking pain, disappointment, personal involvement. Can you love in such a comfortable way? If you numb 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
faculty of feeling, how can you truly experience love? Is love an intellectual process? Is love a 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
feeling, how can you truly experience love? Is love an intellectual process? Is love a lukewarm matter 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
experience love? Is love an intellectual process? Is love a lukewarm matter of laws, words, letters, regulations 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
regulations, and rules you talk about? Or is love a feeling that comes from deep within the 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
to gain spirituality -- and spirituality, religion, and love are one -- by neglecting your emotional processes 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
people? Were they grown emotionally? Wasn't it just love they gave? ANSWER: Just love they gave? Could 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
Wasn't it just love they gave? ANSWER: Just love they gave? Could love be given without emotional 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
they gave? ANSWER: Just love they gave? Could love be given without emotional maturity? QUESTION: Is a 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
maturity? QUESTION: Is a faith in God and love without emotional maturity possible? ANSWER: That is impossible 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
That is impossible, if we speak about real love, the willingness to be personally involved, and not 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
and cherished which is so often confused with love. For real love and real, genuine faith to 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
is so often confused with love. For real love and real, genuine faith to exist, emotional maturity 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
to exist, emotional maturity is a necessary basis. Love and faith and emotional immaturity are mutually exclusive 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
are mutually exclusive, my child. The ability to love is a direct outcome of emotional maturity and 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
need to be protected. False faith and false love always have the strong emotional connotation of need 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
have the strong emotional connotation of need. True love and true faith come out of strength, self-reliance 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
only with strength, self-reliance, and self-responsibility are true love, involvement, and faith possible. Anyone who ever attained 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
that I mean it when I say I love a person? (A child asked this question.) ANSWER 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
Very many contradictory emotions are possible. You may love a particular person and then, perhaps in the 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
does not make it untrue that you also love that person. It is not true that if 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
that if you occasionally feel hate, you never love, or that you do not feel real love 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
love, or that you do not feel real love in other moments. Both are possible. You see 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
understand that your hate does not annul your love, you will not feel guilty. You will know 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
will be able to say to yourself, I love and I mean it, but I also hate 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
do so when you realize that you still love, even while you hate and that you hate 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
need not expect of yourself that you always love and understand. No one can do that. But 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
very gradually. Hurt will grow less and therefore love will grow more. QUESTION: In your answer to 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
at peace with yourself. Blessings with all strength, love, and warmth are given unto you. Be blessed 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
idealized self-image is created not only for winning love and approval from others -- as you believe 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
extent that you are incapable of giving mature love and affection, you will have a compulsive need 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
you will have a compulsive need to receive love and affection. Or if your need for approval 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
unfavorable aspects, acquiring thereby the ability for happiness, love and pleasure. Super-states of euphoria usually avoid all 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
reveal Himself. God is in you. Trust, faith, love, truth -- all these exist in you. No 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

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