| for love, it does not know how to love maturely. The child is not supposed to take | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| has only the immature desire and craving for love, and wants to be loved and cherished, cared | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| by people the individual has no intention to love in return. And with those people who may | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| those people who may have the intention to love in return, to some degree, the proportion between | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| and compulsive motives, you may not get the love back immediately from the same source you invested | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| proving something. If the motives for the limited love you give are unconsciously based on the great | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| the great vicious circle, you can never receive love in return, even if by chance you come | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| a person who would basically be capable to love more maturely than it is possible in the | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| argument's sake, that all your needs in receiving love could be gratified while you invest only a | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| your inner suffering needs a different answer. The love you crave in the mistaken idea that it | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| remedy for your sickness, so your hunger for love will remain, never to be stilled. It is | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| and even preach, that you have to give love and not be so concerned with receiving. But | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| need to receive the child's utopia of perfect love and care. This may happen to various degrees | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| to take care of me. You have to love me. That is a temper tantrum without the | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| the wisdom, all the truth, and all the love, but it is covered up by these many | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| what God wants you to have: happiness, light, love. Be in peace, my dear friends. Be in | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| seek the kingdom of God, the kingdom of love. Yet, you encounter innumerable difficulties with other human | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the basic spiritual truths and the importance of love. These obstacles arise from the blindness in which | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| fundamental requirements for unselfishness and the capacity to love. The more you concentrate on how you have | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| dear friends. I say this with all the love I have for each one of you. I | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| your coworker. Take politics, religion, your idea about love and sex, or whatever it is that concerns | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| wider, longer-range outlook. QUESTION: We are told that love is something that grows. However, if we don't | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| We feel we should do it because of love. Is it then right for us to do | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| still incapable of having a pure motive of love. When you discover that your former motives were | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| yet incapable of having a pure motive of love. Besides, it is never your whole personality that | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| self manifest. That is the way to learn love: first, be honest with yourself about your past | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| right act for itself even though you cannot love yet. To do the wrong act is being | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| you will develop the force of light and love in your soul. Do you understand? QUESTION: Yes | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| the past lectures that no human being can love completely or be perfect. Then how much love | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| love completely or be perfect. Then how much love can a person expect to receive from another | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| with all our faults? ANSWER: The expectancy of love may be a hindrance to having it. For | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| deep down, Yes, I would be willing to love if it were safe. And it would be | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| sure to be loved as much as I love. It takes a great deal of searching until | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| people are capable of many different kinds of love. By such understanding, you will come to the | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| will come to the point when you can love without expecting it back from the same source | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| loved with your faults as much as you love others with their faults. That is the way | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| you yourself be judged, and you will reap love to exactly that degree. There is no other | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| that very often what we think of as love, in our terminology on earth, actually amounts to | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| It may contradict the idea of His infinite love. Neither is true. God, being all, is personal | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| most important aspects of your personal life. His love is not only personal in God-manifest, but also | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| the being of the laws. The apparently impersonal love of the laws that are -- understand what | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| determine their misery or bliss. This is the love in the law, as is the fact that | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| therefore, brings you closer to the aim. The love of the law -- and therefore of God | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| can if you wish. All this means the love of God. It is not easy to understand | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| feel that way, regardless of your simultaneously sincere love for God. Find out whether you fear God | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| out whether you fear God more than you love Him. If you do, you can be sure | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| safety. For instance, people's fears of life and love, of reality, of self-responsibility all lead to separateness | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| fate. People who are afraid of life and love often escape into the distorted idea of detachment | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| it is understandable that you fear life and love, but you cannot force fear away through the | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| inner, and possibly hidden currents of distorted self- love. First find the proper concept and see how | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| of your distorted self-love. When you do not love yourself as you should, you are bound to | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| yourself as you should, you are bound to love yourself too much in another direction. In other | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| connection between these two tendencies. If you would love yourself properly, you would not need to love | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| love yourself properly, you would not need to love yourself too much. In the lecture on the | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| a well-founded self-respect. From then on you will love yourself in the right and healthy way. You | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| is the sickly kind of self-admiration, being in love with oneself. This may manifest in various ways | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| obvious case when a person is just in love with his or her outer self. This is | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the crass form. A person may be in love with certain faults, as I have stated. She | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| reactions, she would find that she was in love with her way of life, with her manner | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| bring the reaction of a sickly being in love with one's life. There is no rule that | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| must have caused your self-love, this being in love with yourself or with your life, in one | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| you have, without the element of being in love with it, so to speak. The proper kind | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| your inner sickness, to that degree you will love yourself properly. For a long time humanity has | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| humanity has lived under the delusion that to love oneself in any way is sinful. This belief | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| will you ever find that you should not love yourself. Not loving yourself would mean that you | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| your proper functioning. It prohibits your capacity to love and to help others. So beware of the | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| others. So beware of the misconception that to love yourself is wrong. Therefore, distinguish between the sick | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the one hand and an overgrown, sick self- love on the other causes fluctuation between the two | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| There are many ways of punishing those you love, for instance, sickness. How many people develop an | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| life. To the measure that you do not love yourself properly you do overcompensate by misdirected self-love | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| in the obvious physical sense of being in love with one's outer person. Here, too, I spoke | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| of the mother, or female mother-substitutes, rather than love for her and identification with her. So no | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| inclination to bondage. The growing child strives for love, but it may not receive as much of | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| receive a different kind, an imperfect kind of love, leaving the child unfulfilled. Now, if the self-will- | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| subconsciously the person may think: I must have love; I desire love, yet my experience has shown | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| may think: I must have love; I desire love, yet my experience has shown me that I | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| because it does not want to forfeit the love it craves for. These contradictory currents, or apparently | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| or apparently contradictory currents -- the desire for love and the fear of losing the love or | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for love and the fear of losing the love or of not getting it -- put a | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you, or be approved by the people you love. The moment there is too strong a desire | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| little ways. If the need and desire for love is stronger than being true to yourself, the | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| submission in order to get something, such as love or approval. Sadism is the consequence of detesting | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| centered and egotistical; it is separated from the love force and the erotic force which include the | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the personality. Hence they cannot integrate sexuality with love feelings. This creates a vicious circle. The more | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the less can it mature and integrate with love. Whenever it manifests, the person feels guilty and | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| because of its self- centeredness and separateness from love. But the remedy does not lie in tearing | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it lies in mature growth into integration with love. No force, no principle as such can ever | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| or whether it finds union and integrates with love and the life force. This applies to all | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| endeavors, in everything you touch and do. Our love is constantly with you. Be in God! 55 | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| mass image, will change your life. Receive our love and blessings, each one of you. Continue on | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| is the demand for absolute approval, admiration, and love by everybody. The moment anyone seems to fail | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| do not strive for perfection in order to love better and give more. You do not strive | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| of happiness inevitably causes a wrong concept of love as well. Let me recapitulate briefly the wrong | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| moment. First let us consider the concept of love. The wrong concept of love, inherent in the | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the concept of love. The wrong concept of love, inherent in the wrong concept of happiness, is | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| courage to acknowledge them. The right concept of love, on the highest level, is always and necessarily | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the highest level, is always and necessarily, I love, regardless of whether or not you love me | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| I love, regardless of whether or not you love me. Indeed, very few human beings have come | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| self-destruction. Moreover, the desire for this ideal, unselfish love can easily be distorted by the unhealthy desire | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| are not loved and find it impossible to love in return, simply recognize it without guilt. If | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| toward the person who does not seem to love you. On the plane on which most of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| the plane on which most of you are, love is a give- and-take, a two-way-street. But contrary | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| a two-way-street. But contrary to the childish concept, love in its right concept does not demand a | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| of feeling according to the right concept of love and happiness. All of you, without exception, will | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| group. May divine light and strength, truth and love flow through you and lighten your burdens. Be | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| whatever your problems are. May you feel the love with which we come to you. Be blessed | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| into these conditions. They come to help spread love and truth. They do not only set an | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the price. If a person wants to receive love without wishing to invest in the risk of | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is inconceivable to believe in a Creator of love and justice and at the same time assume | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and healthy relationship to the eternal Creator of love and justice. QUESTION: You said in your last | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| development for all, by an act of supreme love as has never been witnessed on this earth | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| on certain tasks, but who do so in love and brotherhood, to help. By the same token | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| more profoundly, and your power and capacity to love truly unfolds -- not by force and compulsion | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| instrument of grace. The power of good and love is infinitely stronger than the power of evil | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you with blessings, with strength, and with my love for each and every one of you. May | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| so much better than in any other way. Love, kindled by eros and the sex impulse, can | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| more easily than in other relationships -- and love is always the ultimate aim! But the relationship | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| longing and searching for union, for companionship, and love with the other sex. It is also the | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| of these traits would cost her the man's love. This went on for so long and in | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| conduct according to the universal spiritual laws of love, truth, and justice are known to humanity in | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| deliberations by yourselves. Without the soul qualities of love, kindness, and intuition that open the road to | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| in any area whatsoever. On the other hand, love, kindness, and intuition, if not kindled by discrimination | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| an individual personality. Take the mass image that love is weakening and dangerous. Such an unconscious concept | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| reality, between people, or between man and woman. Love is the only key to eliminate this wall | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| the only key to eliminate this wall. With love, understanding is open. And with understanding, oneness or | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| understanding, oneness or union can be achieved. But love cannot be forced. Love can only be gained | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| can be achieved. But love cannot be forced. Love can only be gained by removing all blocks | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| soul. Ego-importance and preoccupation are directly opposed to love. But before the little ego can be removed | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| what the little ego seemed to need. Then love can truly unfold, and bring about union. This | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| true for all human relationships. In marriage, the love between two people makes the attainment of union | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| when eros is present as a bridge to love. On the other hand, a more casual relationship | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| retire again, my dearest ones, with blessings and love, with light and strength for each one of | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| in God. See lecture 44, The Forces of Love, Eros and Sex 63. QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS Greetings | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| all created spirits performed the greatest act of love. Let us think of Him with all our | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Let us think of Him with all our love. We cannot honor Him better than pursuing this | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| way, will have done this greatest act of love truly for all of you. For only by | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will you be able to benefit from His love, His truth, His presence. Only in this way | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| but the recognition should grow in you that love and truth make one free. Love should always | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you that love and truth make one free. Love should always be the key word. May it | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| that any act, even the greatest act of love, could be sufficient for them to be liberated | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| human beings possess an inner storehouse of faith, love, truth, wisdom, but these are locked away by | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| expected and demanded. It is the same with love. You cannot command yourself to love, but in | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| same with love. You cannot command yourself to love, but in this in-depth work, you eventually learn | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| understand why you have no faith or no love and what the inner wrong conclusions are that | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| door to your inner wells of faith and love -- unconsciously in most cases. However, before you | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fact that you have no faith and no love under superimposed levels of pseudo-faith and pseudo-love. Only | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| ramifications and chain reactions, will real faith, real love, real truth, real wisdom, and whatever all the | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |