| Asserting...................8 | |
| seeing that one could yield sometimes, while still asserting a healthy independence. QUESTION: I wonder, could a | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| deep-rooted guilt prevents you from claiming your freedom, asserting yourself, feeling that you deserve to be happy | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| as meaning giving up or giving in, not asserting your rights. You feel you must become passive | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| he disapproves of his aggressive tendencies -- and asserting himself where reason indicates that to do so | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| right not to be rejected and hated for asserting this freedom. You do not even give the | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| link in this chain reaction is difficulty in asserting oneself, difficulty in taking one's inherent rights as | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| the outgoing movement of reaching, giving, acting, initiating, asserting. The feminine principle expresses the receptive movement of | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| it. This perpetuates the further illusion that by asserting truth, standing up for decency, and exposing evil | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| Assertion...................22 | |
| the wrong way, or a longing for self- assertion, also channeled in the wrong way. It is | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| person may think of healthy rebellion, or self- assertion; of the strength and maturity in real repentance | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| an attitude. An example would be demonstrating healthy assertion without deviating into unhealthy aggressiveness or hostility. Nor | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| continual evasion and therefore of continual misery, the assertion of the following statement will help greatly: I | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| can the ego-mind find the balance between self- assertion and giving in, between giving and receiving, or | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| they are not fulfilled. Healthy, openly expressed self- assertion and flexible giving in constitute a balance, which | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| Only then will you no longer confuse self- assertion with hostility, or flexible compromise with unhealthy submission | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| be? ANSWER: First of all, I recommend the assertion, Here I am in stress and pain. I | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| into love, cruelty into healthy aggression and self- assertion, stagnation into joy and pleasure. This is inevitable | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| without playing your negative games. This real self- assertion stems from the guilt-free state that follows the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| of your partner make this impossible. The positive assertion I speak of here is entirely different from | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| responsibility on the other person. The kind of assertion I refer to here does not blame the | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| the proper balance of everything: the balance of assertion and giving in, for instance. The spontaneous knowing | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| questions can be words of truth. Is this assertion of my value a defense or a real | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| becomes at times wrongly soft where confrontation and assertion would be appropriate and intolerant where acceptance would | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| courage lies in bridging the gap between the assertion of the faith until it bears fruit and | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| and in what life has to offer. That assertion of faith is a substantial step that needs | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| you be strong enough for real, genuine protection, assertion and confrontation. Only then can you be free | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| reject the infringement in a clear, wise, intelligent assertion, comprehending the deeper meaning of the choice. Again | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| softly. Conversely, your softness can manifest in strong assertion and determination. But what a subtle and yet | 243 THE GREAT EXISTENTIAL FEAR AND LONGING |
| their personal advantages by aggressive goodness and positive assertion. What happens when you are weak, when you | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| and displacement as about false surrender and false assertion. How do you become more aware of this | 254 SURRENDER |
| Assertive...................8 | |
| entire person. You may be weak, submissive, not assertive enough and thus encourage a negative situation in | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| And your sense of self makes you sufficiently assertive not to be stepped on and abused. The | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| it may learn when to be strong and assertive in overcoming resistance, in disclosing excuses and rationalizations | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| people say, It is right to be self- assertive, for example, when they merely cover up the | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| you weak and frightened, as well as wrongly assertive and equally inappropriately unassertive. In this state you | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| emoting, or a sentimental gesture. It is vigorous, assertive, and free. Honesty is the most needed and | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| experience a new freedom to be strong and assertive -- even angry -- without false guilt. You | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| about how much time everybody should spend being assertive or in a state of being as to | 228 BALANCE |
| Assertiveness...............3 | |
| all people who assert themselves, even for healthy assertiveness and not the kind that arises out of | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| There exists a proper and healthy aggressiveness and assertiveness. When aggressiveness is healthy and when not cannot | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| acts; it must cause weakness, anxiety, lack of assertiveness, and all the ills you would like to | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| Asserts.....................3 | |
| of self-awareness. On the other side, the psychologist asserts that reality is so dismal, so hopeless, so | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| adopt a twofold approach: one is activity that asserts its desire to transform the self-defeating aspects, leading | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| reality or content exists at all. Instead, it asserts that only outer form matters. True inner growth | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| Assess......................5 | |
| does not have. This will help you to assess your anger at other people's faults more objectively | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| whole of your being, to view it impartially, assess it objectively and infuse it with truth. You | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| Another good tool is to heed your reactions. Assess your feelings. If you are truly in joy | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| the mind will no longer be able to assess what need is real and what need is | 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION |
| be open. So be careful, friends, when you assess the results of your self-revealing. The key always | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Assessment..................3 | |
| its ramifications is clear -- which includes an assessment of the effect of negativity -- is the | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| with insufficient mental equipment to make a correct assessment. The wrong conclusion, as all untruth, creates negative | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| have a stake in keeping yourself hidden, your assessment of others' motives will be very shaky. Transparency | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Asset.......................15 | |
| because willpower in itself is a most valuable asset; without it, indeed, there can never be any | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| as we all know is a very important asset for your spiritual development. Those who are constantly | 38 IMAGES |
| is sometimes even more a hindrance than an asset. It may serve as a subterfuge and rationalization | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| so proud of has ceased to be an asset because of its extreme manifestation. This type must | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| of it and turn a liability into an asset by trying to enjoy unhappiness. Superficially, this may | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| span. Whatever can be accomplished remains as your asset. It is better to advance by degrees than | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| of finding the real trend or emotion. No asset can ever be detrimental. Impatience, however, will hinder | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| own weakness, when you do not make an asset out of your weakness, then you will become | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| forward. You will no longer consider this an asset for which you are unjustly punished by life | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| with a set of parents manifests as an asset. But when the negative involvement is still strong | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| to beautify your weakness and apparently make an asset out of it. Yet in following this reasoning | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| out one's strength, resources, abilities, resiliency, and any asset you can name, is pleasure. It could be | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| the weakness and thus attempt to make an asset of it. Others counteract the fear of a | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| creatively and constructively, it is obviously a wonderful asset without which a person would be incomplete. So | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| from the judgmental attitude you mentioned. Use this asset on yourself and others, but not with the | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| Assets......................34 | |
| a separate instance, with entirely different problems, conflicts, assets, liabilities and considerations. QUESTION: Is it necessary in | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| way. This means that even though the problems, assets and liabilities, unconscious destructive or constructive desires of | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| self- search brings inner liberation. Among many other assets, it also brings increased creativity. It means the | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| or even actually be, he, too, must have assets in his personality. Otherwise, he would not be | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| spirit or real self -- so that these assets have greater weight than the same assets in | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| these assets have greater weight than the same assets in a person of whom more can be | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is your aim will bring, among many other assets, patience. QUESTION: I would like to go back | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| your mind, to make decisions, to utilize your assets, to direct your life and, last but not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| Courage and honesty are perhaps the most important assets in one's development. If you face your suffering | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| only one or just a few of your assets rather than from a harmonious combination of the | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| private work that is one of the greatest assets you will not want to miss under any | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| needs as you are of faults, or of assets, for that matter. First you are not even | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| and develop all your potentials -- your individual assets as well as all the general human potentialities | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| spaces. They do not see the powers, forces, assets, beauties surrounding them. They close their eyes in | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| each one of you has so many wonderful assets which you neglect or only vaguely sense. And | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| does not occur to you to offer these assets to life. Once you deliberately do that, something | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| change from being an isolated creature keeping your assets for yourself, sometimes leaving them completely unused, never | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| them completely unused, never intending to give these assets for the benefit of life and evolution, except | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| then unable to make use of your personal assets because you are almost too frightened to find | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| union that allows others to partake of your assets. This is the nature of anything good. Good | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| The irony of course is that without these assets people cannot adequately live and cope with anything | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| of the good in you, your values and assets. This will give you greater strength to come | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| equipped, wiser. It will have more and better assets than you can imagine. But the separated ego | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| by nature soft and pliant, but use these assets in order to manipulate others and hide the | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| best suited to the particular entity, the specific assets of the total entity the life manifestation will | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| the opinion of others, on their knowing your assets and ignoring your liabilities. This creates a centeredness | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| fear that if you did acquire these desirable assets, it would only be by stealing, and you | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| transformation and giving over one's talents, energies, and assets to the greater cause, the Plan of Salvation | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| that you can begin to build on real assets and never allow your inner economics to become | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| They are sound when government is built on assets, not on deficit; on reserves, not on debts | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| glory. Only then will all governments run on assets. Only then can they function healthily with a | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| a sound basis of fullness and functioning on assets is established. If you keep this goal in | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| how to establish an economy that functions on assets rather than on deficit. You must understand that | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| aspect of hiding is dissolved, new qualities and assets that you have never known begin to take | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |