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| faults and comparing the faulty reactions to the ideal state. Thus you learn humility. The moment you | 31 SHAME |
| discover where your feelings still deviate from the ideal state. Find the echo within you to direct | 31 SHAME |
| you about erotic love, its meaning, its perfect ideal, and its deviations. However, that is not my | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| eventually result from such diversity throughout Creation. The ideal case would be that scientists, artists, or whoever | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| reactions of the child. That would be the ideal case, but as yet it happens very rarely | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| type is more difficult to detect. In the ideal personality, each of the three aspects has a | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| the Angel of Courage. QUESTION: Wouldn't it be ideal to have all three in balance? ANSWER: The | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| to have all three in balance? ANSWER: The ideal form is in balance, but that does not | 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION |
| pure love, they are also incapable of attaining ideal marriage. Eros seems in many ways similar to | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| and a semblance of love. Only in the ideal case do all three forces mingle harmoniously. The | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| even if you cannot as yet attain the ideal. In the ideal partnership of love between two | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| cannot as yet attain the ideal. In the ideal partnership of love between two people all three | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| the whole, is very far away from this ideal, but that does not change the idea or | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| that does not change the idea or the ideal. In the meantime you have to learn to | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| the personality gets a taste of what the ideal love could be. As I said before, many | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| best, even if the marriage is not the ideal experience that I discussed tonight. Few people are | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| what comes of it, regardless of whether the ideal solution can be found immediately or not, it | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| it. The fact that the manifestation of the ideal principle cannot exist on earth yet will not | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| yet will not confuse you any longer. The ideal, wise, good and understanding authority will remain a | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| ignored because hate does not correspond to your ideal and makes you feel guilty, the self is | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| tendency toward self-destruction. Moreover, the desire for this ideal, unselfish love can easily be distorted by the | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| make the best of them. That is the ideal time to find the wrong conclusions, and reactions | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| entity, ready to join another individual in an ideal union. As humanity stands today in its overall | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| distorted or ignorant in the self. In the ideal marriage this would always be kept in view | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| wrong. Ideologically, none of these two sides are ideal. But from the spiritual point of view, what | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| great eternal truth about love remains a lofty ideal you cannot possibly apply to your person or | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| not done that at all. As already explained, ideal love often appears deceptively similar to the wrong | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| fear and worry. This serenity sounds like an ideal impossible to attain on earth, and I do | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| entire psychic strength to live up to this ideal of yourself so as to force others to | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| that the person cannot live up to this ideal self. Such failure throws the person into fits | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| the defeat's negative impact. Beware of superimposing the ideal reaction that you are not yet ready for | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| idealized self-image pretends. Often, the goodwill to superimpose ideal standards is a mixture of the true good | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| measure of fulfillment, even if not to the ideal extent of your childish fantasies. However, the actual | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| frustrations, unfulfillments, that things always go according to ideal plans. On the contrary, if you adopt the | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| time goes on, she really grows into this ideal picture. Then, when one works on the path | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| path, one no longer knows what is this ideal picture and what is the real self. There | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| because part of oneself has grown into this ideal picture, so it is very hard to differentiate | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| destructive effects? Ask yourself the motivations of this ideal picture, which might very well be your idealized | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| or condemn, because you have given up the ideal, and therefore the outer standards. If someone wants | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| and healthily resistant softness. This combination produces the ideal conditions that enable you to go through life | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| self-development, but the pursuit of an idea or ideal, it falls under the category of love for | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| must create shame. This tendency completely contradicts the ideal which is superimposed and is presented to the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| -- human, universe, plant, or leaf. In their ideal creation and state, these energies and forces work | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| feel that life should furnish you with the ideal fulfillment without necessitating change, adjustment, and relinquishing on | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| right direction. People are always tempted into the ideal state they have not yet reached, so that | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| be. What you want to be is an ideal, which you pretend to be or to become | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| pretend to be or to become. But this ideal is unrealistic and unrealizable because it is outside | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| unrealizable because it is outside of yourself. The ideal is the apparently good alternative; the bad alternative | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| the so- called goodness is problematic. Since the ideal has always been unrealistic, it becomes unattainable - | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| nature is so much more wonderful than any ideal and false presentation of it could be. The | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| -- as you all know so well. The ideal approach is to use both alternately: instruct firmly | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| solution may appear. It may not be the ideal result; that may require you to overcome more | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| perfect, as evolved, as good, as rational, as ideal, as one wants to be and even pretends | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| personality cannot be put into words. You want ideal solutions, so you always agonize on the threshold | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| threshold of this total commitment. But what are ideal solutions? They mean nothing if they are not | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| and be loved -- not as a mere ideal, or an illusion, but as an everyday reality | 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED |
| for an adult to finally obtain substitute parents, ideal and perfect according to the notions of the | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| assume self-responsibility, or to deal with less than ideal circumstances. The origin of this negation of life | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| this potential always exists in you. The false ideal of a highly developed spiritual state is that | 203 INTERPENETRATION OF THE DIVINE LIGHT SPARK INTO THE OUTER REGIONS - MIND EXERCISES |
| it. The power of sexuality in its most ideal form can convey more fully than any other | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| full being. I repeat: This applies to the ideal instances of total task fulfillment. I hope that | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| the process of dying. In addition to the ideal case described above, other possibilities occur when the | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| of your humanness you cannot immediately be the ideal, totally fused individual. You know that it takes | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| destructive and erroneous. The attempt to enforce an ideal standard that individuals cannot possibly live up to | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| But when this is seen as the final ideal, it becomes as damaging as the suppressed and | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| relinquishing your passivity, your irresponsibility in wanting an ideal authority to do it all for you. You | 254 SURRENDER |
| possibilities of these capacities. Focused emptiness is the ideal state to be filled by the Holy Spirit | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
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| well to deceiving yourself into believing that your idealization is love and tolerance. You try to convince | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| great spirit doubt and fear? Human illusion and idealization would have preferred that Jesus died in a | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| have no realistic perception of yourself. Similarly, your idealization of yourself, when investigated closely, often proves less | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| and self-idealization must be the consequence. Self-glorification and idealization seems, from this point of view, the apparent | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| and deals merely with theoretical speculation or alienated idealization and not real live experience. Since you are | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
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| feel a compulsion to live up to the idealized image. All human beings are starved for love | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| forces the subject to struggle to maintain the idealized image, fearing that if they fail to do | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| she really is and not just as an idealized picture. Furthermore, realize your deeper and hidden reasons | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| own ability to love that you need an idealized version of the loved person. Your love is | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| are compelled to see this person in an idealized form. No, it is a weakness and often | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| also referred in some private sessions to the idealized self. You will now understand the meaning of | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| meaning of that term. Learn to analyze your idealized self, what your unconscious wants it to be | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| Why? It would destroy the picture of your idealized self. Your life seems at stake, for all | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| if you cannot maintain the picture of your idealized self. This behavior is the infant reacting in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| infantile concept of happiness, rulership, and perfection. The idealized self is always an expression of this basic | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| Be in peace, be in God! 83. THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE Greetings. God bless all of you, my | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| unpleasure, and death, is the creation of the idealized self-image as a universal pseudo-protection. They never realize | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| understand the creation and the function of the idealized self-image. I have occasionally used the term mask | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| in the past. The mask self and the idealized self- image are really one and the same | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| image are really one and the same. The idealized self masks the real self. It pretends to | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| pretends to be something you are not. The idealized self-image is supposed to be a means of | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| in oneself are interconnected. The creation of the idealized self-image serves to supply the missing self-confidence and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| interdependence. But since the self-confidence established through the idealized self is artificial, the result cannot possibly be | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| discover the links between your unhappiness and your idealized self-image. You need to grasp the significance, the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| damages that follow in the wake of the idealized self-image and to fully recognize its existence, in | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| preceding work was necessary. The dissolution of the idealized self is the only possible way to find | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| and harder to become this false self, this idealized self. You were, and unconsciously still are, convinced | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| In fact, you are desperately hiding it. The idealized self-image may assume many forms. It does not | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of recognized perfection. Oh yes, much of the idealized self-image dictates highly moral standards, making it all | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| imposed upon you by the dictates of your idealized self. You will discover the deeply hidden fear | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| And you will also discover what your particular idealized self demands. There are also facets of the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| self demands. There are also facets of the idealized self, depending on personality, life conditions and early | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| Aggressive, hostile, proud, overambitious trends are glorified, or idealized. It is true that these negative tendencies exist | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| true that these negative tendencies exist behind all idealized self-images. But they are hidden, and since they | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| contradict the morally high standards of the particular idealized self, they cause additional anxiety, in that the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| self, they cause additional anxiety, in that the idealized self will be exposed for the fraud it | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| be deeply ashamed of the goodness another person's idealized self insists on and would consider it as | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the general effects of the existence of the idealized self and some of the implications. Since the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| implications. Since the standards and dictates of the idealized self are impossible to realize, and yet you | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the impossibility of being as perfect as your idealized self demands, and never give up whipping yourself | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| The more you try to identify with your idealized self-image, the harder the disillusionment whenever life brings | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| proof to you that you are not your idealized self, and this robs you of the false | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| tried to establish with the creation of the idealized self. There are other personality types who know | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| perfectly well that they cannot identify with their idealized self. But they do not know this in | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| culminate in showing up the phantom of the idealized self for what it really is -- an | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| consequences upon yourself. When you act out your idealized self, you dread nothing more than that, for | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| is tantamount to saying, I am not my idealized self. A sense of failure, frustration, and compulsion | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| shame, are the most outstanding indications that your idealized self is at work. These are the consciously | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of all those that lie hidden underneath. The idealized self has been called into existence in order | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the superstructure which is this merciless tyrant, your idealized self. Yes, you could have self-confidence if the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| self. Yes, you could have self-confidence if the idealized self were really you; and if you could | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| supposedly whisked away by the establishment of the idealized self, steadily increases. It snowballs, and becomes worse | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| more stringent the demands of the superstructure or idealized self, the less you are able to live | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the devious, subtle, unconscious ways in which this idealized self-image exists in your particular case. Ask yourself | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| constantly increasing estrangement from the real self. The idealized self is a falsity. It is a rigid | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| death struggle. You still believe you need the idealized self in order to live and be happy | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| that makes the maintenance and cultivation of the idealized self seem necessary. Once you understand that the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| self seem necessary. Once you understand that the idealized self was supposed to solve the particular problems | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| step still further and recognize the damage the idealized self has brought into your life, you will | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| anxiety and depression, consider the fact that your idealized self may feel questioned and threatened, either by | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| between your capacities and the standards of your idealized self and how you deal with this conflict | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| come to understand the exact nature of your idealized self: its demands, its requirements of self and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| enables you to weaken the impact of the idealized self. Then, and then only, will you realize | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the very first steps toward giving up the idealized self, you will feel a sense of liberation | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| fringes that may have been free of the idealized self's dictatorship, but wholly and fully free in | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| different attitude will have new effects. Overcoming your idealized self means overcoming an important aspect of the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| not even aware of the pressure of your idealized self, of the shame, humiliation, exposure you fear | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| connect them with the fantastic demands of your idealized self. Only after fully seeing these fantastic expectations | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| longer have to hold on frantically to the idealized self. The mere inner activity of holding on | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| will know exactly when you have weakened your idealized self by fully understanding its function, its causes | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| word: The difference between the real and the idealized self is often not a question of quantity | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| Another important consideration is the time element. The idealized self wants to be perfect, according to its | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| are, the less self-confident you can be. The idealized self believes just the opposite. Its claims for | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| though it would seem much less than the idealized self, you will find out that it is | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| be interpreted to mean the duality between the idealized and the real self. The lack of peace | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |