| leading a constructive life, and entering into fruitful human relationships with healthy interdependence. But since the self-confidence | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| a rigid, artificially constructed imitation of a live human being. You may invest it with many aspects | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| security. Then you will function as a whole human being. Then you will have broken the iron | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of taking it upon oneself to punish another human being is a very different one from the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| a criminal? ANSWER: It is not up to human beings to punish. Your course of action should | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| in the idealized self-image. As a child, the human being encounters disappointment, helplessness, and rejection -- both | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| The next step is to cut off all human emotions. When, nevertheless, they come to the fore | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| and hypocritical, because such a person, too, needs human warmth and affection, and without these suffers from | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| feel the need for anyone, contrary to mere human beings who do. Neither are love, friendship, or | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| demands such power and independence from feelings and human emotions as no human being can possibly have | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| independence from feelings and human emotions as no human being can possibly have, it is constantly proven | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| of loving everybody and of considering all other human beings good. This outlook is needed to maintain | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| to be completely indifferent and aloof from all human emotions so as not to be disturbed. Can | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| You must look benignly and detachedly at all human beings, knowing their weaknesses and good qualities, but | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| if true, would indeed be serenity. But no human being is ever quite as serene. Hence such | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| that an exalted one can be touched by human weaknesses, such a person tries to rise above | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| Tonight I am going to discuss two basic human instincts as they appear in distortion: the instinct | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| includes more than the physical continuation of the human race. It includes every form of creativity at | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| not feel as though your value as a human being, your dignity, is at stake. However, you | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the world. This must put intolerable strain on human relationships, as well as bring out lots of | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| words, it may be through any of the human faculties used in communication. QUESTION: Many times people | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the dangers are imagined and unrealistic. When a human being feels threatened by not being loved, admired | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| both instincts exist in equal strength in the human soul, and since the distortion of one invariably | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| mask personality? ANSWER: Of course, the healthier a human being is, the weaker the idealized self-image. It | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of the real self. Since there is no human being who is entirely free of inner distortions | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| time. As you know, at one time the human entity was a whole being, completely integrated, in | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the picture. Nature symbolizes certain aspects of the human soul, art and artificiality symbolize others. You will | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| quite often. It is used even in traditional human psychology without any awareness of its spiritual significance | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| an actual concept of God, common to all human beings. The God- image may be life, the | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| grown-up world -- or God, or life, or human authority -- see the necessity of taking care | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| the same token, if you encounter in a human being overemphasis on independence, hostile domineering tendencies, toughness | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| They feel rejected by God, by life, by human authority, and this shame must be hidden at | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| grow up and become a stronger and happier human being, you also contribute much more than you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| completely incompatible with the idea that a free human being can attain divinity. Once blind obedience is | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| expect God's grace to make up for your human laziness and greed, you must be disappointed, whether | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| of you. This other being is often a human authority or church authority claiming to act on | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| are not yet far enough in their development, human law will suffice to protect society from their | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| be healthy as well as unhealthy. An integrated human being needs both companionship and solitude, and both | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| first be clear about the unity of the human personality. Human beings who function harmoniously have developed | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| clear about the unity of the human personality. Human beings who function harmoniously have developed the physical | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| is underdeveloped, it causes a disharmony in the human structure, and also cripples the entire personality. This | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| findings. Now let us further understand what causes human beings to particularly neglect, repress, and cripple the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| their emotional nature. This neglect is universal. Most human beings look mainly after the physical self. They | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| understand the function of the emotional nature in human beings. It includes, first of all, the capacity | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| Strangely enough, there is much less resistance in human nature to the necessary growing pains of the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| up and becoming a wholly integrated and healthy human being. You will soon discover the fallacy that | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| little son, I have this to say. The human being is not cut from one piece. Very | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| the crippling of an essential part of one's human nature. You have a wonderful opportunity here, my | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| this very unfortunate mistake that infects the entire human race. With this, my dearest, dearest friends, I | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| inward moralizing exists to some extent in all human beings. We have already discussed this in connection | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| However, if you cannot accept yourself as a human being, fallible and often confused, then this unavoidable | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| it is only because you cannot accept your human fallibility. I purposely refrain now from showing you | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| develop out of your nonacceptance of being merely human. Thus approval and compliments make you feel that | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to inner disorganization and mismanagement of the entire human personality, a false need will appear somewhere. Unreal | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| not necessarily so. To a certain degree every human being needs occasional approval, let us say, in | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| to your imperfection, to your vulnerability as a human being. Your perfectionism does not allow for this | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| humanity's insecurity, in the fear and denial of human imperfection, people borrow what was once alive and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| crass issues, but rather to the subtleties of human relationships where matters cannot be evaluated simply in | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| great relief to actually be approached by a human being who has the strength to face and | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Persevere, my friends, and you will grow into human beings who can love, respect and like yourselves | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| respect and like yourselves while you are still human, ordinary -- and thus enjoy life without feeling | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| healthy, normal, and legitimate needs of every healthy human being cause equally strong guilt feelings. This is | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| ignorance fails to recognize that which is intrinsically human, and even necessary. Once you free yourself of | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| other needs, reaching into a deeper layer of human consciousness must also be brought out, acknowledged, and | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| enslaved in what is called, in your present-day human terminology, a neurotic situation. All neurosis is built | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| When it comes to the subtleties of the human psyche, misunderstandings and misinterpretations are even more apt | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| occur than on the more superficial levels of human life. Beware of the false sacrifice which can | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| to a mate, to friends, or to general human contact, makes no difference. Perhaps with this example | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| and details that are relevant for an individual human personality. But the example may clarify a little | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| we do in this work we become less human and more like machines. I believe the very | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| a person is not selfish, he is not human, he is a god. This is not a | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| for instance, that at the core of every human being there is pity, indeed, self-pity. No, this | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| another symptom. Many attitudes and aspects in the human being are part of a chain-reaction. The core | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| core is flexibility and individuality. Although it is human to be selfish, it is also human to | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is human to be selfish, it is also human to be unselfish. Although it is human to | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| also human to be unselfish. Although it is human to have self-pity, it is also human not | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is human to have self-pity, it is also human not to have it. It is not that | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| have it. It is not that one is human and the other divine. Both are human. It | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is human and the other divine. Both are human. It is the same with selfishness as with | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| It is significant, and it applies to every human being, regardless of intelligence, that wherever one is | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| off fetters, become able to withstand what no human wants to withstand, such as another person's ill | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| your new insights. Let us first understand the human struggle as such. The very state of being | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| struggle as such. The very state of being human is a problem because you find yourself in | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| harmony with awareness. This in-between state is the human struggle, a struggle not only for those who | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| to find the self, but for every single human being, regardless of their state of development, their | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| inaction. You are often confused about this. The human struggle attempts to overcome the obstructions that come | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| mismanagement. The richness of your spirit, of your human individuality, will unfold with all its strength. When | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| be glorious or special. I am a simple human being, like many others, but as such I | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| are not alive. To a large degree, the human struggle exists because a part of you grows | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| This factor is an essential part of the human struggle. If you find growth and change pleasurable | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| then it is purely healthy. QUESTION: If a human being finds two conflicting currents within, if one | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| -- but nevertheless to everyone. There is no human being entirely free of this. I have never | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| of this. I have never yet seen a human being in whom there is not somewhere a | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| good faith, regardless of what some of our human friends may say. It is necessary. It is | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| a question of degree. The difference is that human beings, still in the human struggle, have their | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| difference is that human beings, still in the human struggle, have their reason impaired. Their intelligence may | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| Soon you may reach the point where the human struggle will be a source of joy and | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| will you unfold your destiny. There is no human being who does not operate on pretense at | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| specific guidelines adapted to the limits of a human being still held down by the physical body | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| of childhood. This, in itself, is a very human and universal stage to go through on this | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| ANSWER: Oh, no, not at all! In one human family you may have members of very different | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| one achieves this feeling, there is still the human body one is in and the human fear | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| the human body one is in and the human fear on recognizes. You cannot chase it away | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| of your emotional striving, from which not one human being is entirely free. So accept the imperfection | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| grope in the dark, and I, as a human being, often grope in the dark. I do | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| the answers concerning my life and my personal human relationships, you express the very attitude that makes | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| makes it so difficult. Only by accepting your human limitations will the aggressiveness and hostility vanish; because | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| first of all, you have to accept your human limitations; you have to dispense with the expectation | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| and has fulfillment on that level? ANSWER: The human entity is a deep, involved, complex being. Therefore | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| and your lack of self-confidence. There isn't a human being who does not, even consciously at times | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| need is a very basic function of the human entity. A need is something real, unless it | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| love. However, the two are entirely different. A human being can often be consciously aware of his | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| seem artificial, robot-like, lacking the complexity of the human personality? Think about the term human being and | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of the human personality? Think about the term human being and what it really means. Does it | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| not perceive the reality of your parent the human being. You may know perfectly well with your | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| touch with the living, dynamic complexity of the human being who was closest to you. It is | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| experience my parents? Do I experience them as human beings in their contradictions, their blindness, their often | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the second step, you can become a free human being. But how do these revisions take place | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| fears, and frustrations? Understand them as one mature human being tries to understand another, with as much | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| Your monster lacks the totality of the whole human being. You cannot understand those traits that have | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| seen or known, so that they become more human for you. Eventually, after you have freed yourself | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| with the detachment and objectivity of one uninvolved human being toward another. As you begin this process | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| not occur to the child that they are human beings groping to solve their own problems and | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| but was a result of their groping, pathetic, human struggle to live which, when viewed from the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| which, when viewed from the larger picture of human development, seems so valiant. Do you understand? QUESTION | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| important people of your early environment in their human reality, you will no longer need to practice | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| When you do so, you respect the basic human being in everyone, regardless of their many aberrations | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| is the real honor and love that one human being can have for another, no matter how | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| discussed tonight. Begin to investigate what kind of human beings your parents were, as well as others | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and needs. You reject that part of their human nature, and thus hurt them. By the aggressive | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| a previous lecture we discussed the subject of human needs. Before you uncover your various protective layers | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| lesser degree, this can be found in every human being, but to a greater extent it is | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| of the negative, distorted soul parts of a human being in the sense discussed tonight, you will | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| Any pseudo- solution is bound to reject another human being. When you submit, you do not experience | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| endangered. There certainly are realistic dangers, and the human system is equipped to deal with them. If | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| specific danger are used in other situations, the human psyche is distorted and put out of balance | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| your defenses. They are automatic processes in every human being. Even a child will have automatic reactions | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| mechanisms to preserve your status as a lovable human being. You use such heavy fighting equipment only | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| his or her own problems, or merely to human limitations. In such cases, it cannot easily be | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| in which our emotions flare up. How about human beings whose emotions are dulled and curbed, and | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| and who have no reactions? ANSWER: When a human being gets into that state, it is a | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| feelings, still have certain feelings. The more defensive human beings are, the more limited the scope of | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| that I have an inadequate concept of a human being. What is a human being? ANSWER: If | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| concept of a human being. What is a human being? ANSWER: If I were to answer that | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| thought, and the range of feelings in every human being. Every human being has, in both a | 101 THE DEFENSE |