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first layer underneath the fear consists of strong hostilities, which are particularly taboo. If they are allowed 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
all its distortions, negative emotions, pains, hurts, and hostilities, takes on many forms even while you are 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
 
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will not be gripped by anger, anxiety, or hostility. You will live more and more constantly in 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND
not want to acknowledge, a fear that creates hostility in certain aspects of your life, which again 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW
but variety on your earth means friction and hostility. In spirit there is infinite variety in everything 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS
image you will find inferiority feelings, guilt feelings, hostility, hate, aggression, ignorance, resentment, childish selfishness, fear, and 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME?
the right channels until they finally dissolve. If hostility and aggression are suppressed, if fears are suppressed 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME?
feel rejected, which, in turn, causes hatred, resentment, hostility, and aggression. This is the second part of 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
love that cannot be gratified causes hatred and hostility toward the very people one loves most. Generally 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
What happens to a child whose hatred and hostility breaks out in the open? Would such a 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
of the child. The mere fact that the hostility may at times break out in the open 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE
material level, and on the psychological level as hostility, overactivity, quarreling, destructiveness, cruelty, impatience, thoughtlessness. The principle 55 THREE COSMIC PRINCIPLES: THE EXPANDING, THE RESTRICTING, AND THE STATIC PRINCIPLES
it often serves to encourage her aggression and hostility; in man, his weakness and dependence. When healthy 62 MAN AND WOMAN
a woman, provided she does not use aggression, hostility, and rebellion as the supposedly male qualities she 62 MAN AND WOMAN
the woman may suppress and hide her aggression, hostility, and resentment for the man behind the facade 62 MAN AND WOMAN
illusion, disappointing you, and in turn creating unconscious hostility in you. Hostility is bound to affect the 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
and in turn creating unconscious hostility in you. Hostility is bound to affect the other person, so 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
the slowly growing child in you keeps producing hostility and aggressiveness, even if ever so subtly, when 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
your prefabricated situation will create disappointment, and therefore hostility. As I have said, the hostility cannot help 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
and therefore hostility. As I have said, the hostility cannot help affecting the other, even if you 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
is in reality. You will not have hidden hostility and resentments. The other person will feel your 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
next step is letting go of a certain hostility once you have become aware of it in 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING
give up something you want freely and without hostility, but also because then you will be able 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING
fear, your self-punishment, your frustration, your anger, your hostility, your withdrawal from giving out love and affection 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
the other? Is that why one feels the hostility emanating from the other person? ANSWER: Yes. That 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
allowing it to fester underneath and create unconscious hostility. This entire reaction inhibits your intuitive faculties, at 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
nearing perfection and maturity. In this way, your hostility will vanish and your provocations will too. Relapses 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
be assimilated on deeper levels of your being. Hostility exists in you because you are unaware that 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
so you suppress the real hurt. But the hostility has to be hidden, too, because it makes 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
Provocation is a result of unconscious and suppressed hostility, and the hostility results from unconscious and suppressed 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
result of unconscious and suppressed hostility, and the hostility results from unconscious and suppressed hurt. Go your 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
different. While the seeker for power glories in hostility and in an aggressive fighting spirit, the withdrawn 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
theirs. This creates additional guilt in you. The hostility flows in two directions, toward others and yourself 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
in the last lecture. These tendencies include aggressiveness, hostility, power drive, a need to triumph over others 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
power may predominate without any apparent aggressiveness or hostility. The possibilities are manifold. Integration and self-finding can 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
order to be safe, with all the accompanying hostility, ruthlessness, pride, superiority, pretense at invulnerability, the underlying 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
battle to find this level of rebellion, bitterness, hostility, and aggression. This battle is caused by resistance 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
In one case you hide the rebellion and hostility; in the other, you hide the helplessness and 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
not only definite individual negative emotions, such as hostility, resentment, aggressiveness, and envy, but also certain psychological 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
benign circle, negative emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and resentment are bound to decrease until 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
evil. That such a situation creates tension, anxiety, hostility, and discontent is only natural. To a degree 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
from the same greed as childish rebellion and hostility. It is always the same: When a truth 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
accepting your human limitations will the aggressiveness and hostility vanish; because underneath you will discover and become 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
activity of correcting life in fantasy removes aggression, hostility and destructive impulses. Another benefit is daydreams act 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS
primary reaction -- and you substitute anger and hostility for it. You begin to allow your defense 101 THE DEFENSE
nothing that creates more disharmony, more untruth, more hostility, and more friction, in personal as well as 101 THE DEFENSE
really feel. Whether you call it resentment or hostility, anger or hate, makes no difference; they are 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
and the impatience, and the imperfect feelings of hostility will be less harmful than the compulsion to 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
both cases the result is resentment, defiance, and hostility. None of it may be conscious in you 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
impatience, nervousness, anxiety, tension, frustration, boredom, apathy, and hostility -- all these emotions and many others -- 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
any other emotion or attitude -- fear, doubt, hostility, or whatever -- the principle is the same 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
from flowing. These other emotions may be manifold: hostility, humiliation, pride and shame, hurt, arrogance, self-importance, self-pity 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
is the same as his unhealthy aggression and hostility -- the result of an accumulation of hurts 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
The real, healthy male aggressiveness is confused with hostility for which he feels guilty. So he feels 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
such rules and they acted out their pent-up hostility by following the existing value system. In recent 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
This does not mean that the parents' pent-up hostility does not communicate itself to the child. They 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
indulgence and permissiveness to compensate for their latent hostility. Conforming to the new rules may outwardly appear 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
degree it is diluted by guilt for the hostility which is not recognized, as well as by 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
what one once had causes hurt, anger and hostility. The insistence on having the protection, and the 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES
part blindly wild, manifesting, for example, in uncontrollable hostility, and in part paralyzing the best faculties of 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
When a person is ashamed of hate and hostility, of envy and vindictiveness, these trends fester in 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
frequently on a layer below hate and resentment. Hostility and other negative emotions may have been difficult 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
one feels insecure and helpless. Often aggression and hostility are taken up by the pleasure drive and 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE
a conflict between two unsatisfactory alternatives: weakness versus hostility. They cannot find their way out until they 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
progress in self- awareness. Tension, frustration, discontent, inexplicable hostility, overreaction -- where one sees that the intensity 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
service of the no-current: fear, guilt, anger, frustration, hostility, etc. These feelings continue to smolder, but they 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
I no longer wish to embrace isolation and hostility. When you meditate in such a way, enlisting 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
of difference. Let us take the example of hostility. First, in the stage of blind automatism, it 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
other factors, one will either impulsively express such hostility and lash out at others, often without even 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
so. Or one will suppress and repress the hostility and turn it against oneself. In neither alternative 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
neither alternative is there any awareness of the hostility, because the person does not wish to admit 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
to explain away. The moment they face the hostility fully, by becoming aware of it, they stop 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
does not yet mean that they understand the hostility they now know they have, though they might 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
how they react because of it. Understanding the hostility means understanding why it exists, what first brought 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
it and what conditions exist now, whenever the hostility flares up. What are the apparent and real 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
in reality? On what false assumptions is the hostility based? Understanding what one has previously become aware 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
healthy assertion without deviating into unhealthy aggressiveness or hostility. Nor will you be confused between the alternatives 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
will know when to assert your rights without hostility against unjustified demands, where compliance would be destructive 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
a host of negative emotions such as fear, hostility, separateness, self-pity, ambivalence, and vindictiveness. These emotions make 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
have to face your real emotion. QUESTION: My hostility? ANSWER: Yes. It is hostility, it is hurt 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
emotion. QUESTION: My hostility? ANSWER: Yes. It is hostility, it is hurt, and it is at times 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
Ungenuine love is always connected with self-pity, resentment, hostility, and conflict. There is in it always the 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
way or another attached to suffering, humiliation, or hostility. This is then called masochism or sadism. Do 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS
known to you. Suppose you find hate or hostility in yourself, and you fear its effect on 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF
that I want to discuss is not mere hostility. Hostility has become too vague a term, almost 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY
I want to discuss is not mere hostility. Hostility has become too vague a term, almost meaningless 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY
person, I immediately bring out the negative, the hostility and rage, and I am blinded by these 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN
iota less aggressive than the submissive solution, whose hostility always smolders underground. In whatever way you try 143 UNITY AND DUALITY
of an emotion, the acknowledgement of a momentary hostility; I mean an overall, pervasive, essential, lingering destructiveness 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT
force. Feelings turn from love to fear and hostility, from trust to distrust, and so on. Finally 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT
the desire to hurt expresses itself in quarrelsomeness, hostility, aggression. On the sexual level, such an individual 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION
not to give but to take, to harbor hostility and self-pity -- exists. Your discovery of this 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES
it is unhampered. The destructive forces of hate, hostility, resentment, anger, and cruelty that the individual fears 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING
often by an apparently opposite attitude of indifference, hostility, or compulsive and blind rebellion and over-aggressiveness. Few 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY
situation, in which I am caught in a hostility cycle with my boss. At least on my 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE
unselfishness becomes, the more the ensuing rage and hostility will build up hidden destructive selfishness. In your 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS
threatened feelings. Thus the expression becomes one of hostility and rejection. To recapitulate briefly: Wrong perception of 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING
way when his unconscious is still steeped in hostility, rage, and anger, because the activating principle then 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
both cleanse their activating powers of violence and hostility. Both need to learn to ascribe the cause 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
On the one hand they find false aggression, hostility, violence, overactivity, impatience, refusal to wait for the 169 THE MASCULINE AND FEMININE PRINCIPLES IN THE CREATIVE PROCESS
attitude changes from ignorance, fear, alienation, distrust, and hostility, to an open, trustful, truthful, and loving state 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
sexuality becomes therefore more and more permeated with hostility and rage. When people are subtly infused with 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
and hopelessness that result from such conflicts increase hostility, which compounds the justified guilt feelings. The loveless 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
is a result of error. Every state of hostility is a result of error and creates other 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION
avoid a great deal of fear and possible hostility. When you turn off your life centers because 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION
new gentleness and softness that does not need hostility or other defenses. Then you will know how 174 SELF-ESTEEM
may indeed unload a great deal of unjustified hostility on you, it is an illusion to fear 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
is largely a result of his own defensive hostility and rage. He seemed unable to move from 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
other party, which in turn creates fear and hostility for feeling let down when the other does 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
others, which is always a hidden form of hostility that whitewashes the self. One derives pleasure from 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
will you no longer confuse self- assertion with hostility, or flexible compromise with unhealthy submission. These are 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
serving as outlets for negative feelings, for repressed hostility, because the hostility is then dealt with in 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
for negative feelings, for repressed hostility, because the hostility is then dealt with in a much more 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE
may not even sense the actual presence of hostility in others. Their subtlety and indirectness confuses you 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS
have made a substantial inroad toward transforming the hostility and freeing the energy that has either been 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
the same energy that may now manifest as hostility, envy, hatred, rage, bitterness, self-pity, or blame -- 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
negation of life. Denial of anger turns into hostility, cruelty, spite, self-hate, guilt, confusion between blame of 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
the evil traits themselves, including spite, cruelty, envy, hostility, and selfishness. How can pride, selfwill or fear 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE
off the pain of other people's cruelty and hostility, the unjustified demands they make on the world 188 AFFECTING AND BEING AFFECTED
deny it, it will turn into cruelty and hostility, which in turn, as you well know, need 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE
as you destructively wish for it, motivated by hostility and the wish to escape. You can truly 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION)
comprises a wide range of feelings including faults, hostility, reality- distortions, envy, hate, fear, pride, and anger 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY
faulty attitudes; for instance, why your anger, your hostility, your jealousy, your envy, and your unfair, one- 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
and the conclusions inherent within spite, distrust, jealousy, hostility, and so on, because these conclusions are only 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY
of self-assertion, on the one hand, and covert hostility on the other? I could name many more 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS
and others, but not with the kind of hostility and negation you now practice still too often 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN
the negative manifestation of the lower development -- hostility toward the other, warfare -- can be used 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS
At this point a tremendous rage, anger and hostility is created in others by your very freedom 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION
victimized. It can also manifest in resentment, blame, hostility, and overt hatred, with many shades in-between. Love 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
come from truth and love, rather than from hostility and a desire to thwart you? Aside from 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
assume the risks of exposure, criticism, slander and hostility that those in the limelight must be strong 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS
same. Jews considered both inferior and hostile. The hostility existed, but instead of asking themselves how they 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY
untruth separates. Untruth and separation create evil, dissension, hostility, outer and inner warfare, mutually exclusive dualities. If 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY
you and you protect yourself against this alleged hostility with destructive defenses -- that you may or 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT

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