| you knew that the realities of life, in happiness, in joy, in sadness and sorrow, in temporary | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| Be blessed. Be in God! 97. PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS Greetings, my dearest friends | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| you will give and receive. Your capacity for happiness depends on your capacity to accept imperfection -- | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| hope to be perfect, and finally experience perfect happiness, perfect love, and perfect relationships. This attitude is | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| is imperfect, he or she will prohibit my happiness. You try to push this constant fear away | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| fuller and happier life, and thus give more happiness. You will wish to override your resistance to | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| occasional glimpse of the great freedom and indescribable happiness of being a part of this eternal current | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| last analysis it is simply a barricade against happiness and freedom. So, my friends, realize for all | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| goal but to bring others meaning, help and happiness as well. If such a thought is sincere | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| form. QUESTION: I am confused about harmony and happiness. I always thought they were the same. Also | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| in a higher state of being harmony and happiness are the same, just as love, truth and | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| up with this new understanding. Your rejection of happiness, joy, pleasure, life, and love is in reality | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| error and deviation is bound to bring you happiness. But until you reach that stage, many areas | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| opportunity, and to derive the maximum benefit and happiness out of every experience of life. Needless to | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you will become aware of many opportunities for happiness that you ignored in the past. In this | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| this stage, do not expect immediate fulfillment and happiness in every respect. Do not expect it to | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| helpless and waiting for fate to bring you happiness. By now you must understand that in many | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you can bring about your own fulfillment and happiness. Again, this cannot be done by intellectual understanding | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| pleasure principle and rejection, as well as between happiness and selfishness. What can you suggest? ANSWER: Apart | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| confusion. By the same token, the confusion between happiness and selfishness is also based on the principle | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| give you the inner understanding and conviction that happiness and unselfishness are not incompatible. QUESTION: You said | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| that having what you want would give you happiness, when, in fact, happiness is an inner state | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| want would give you happiness, when, in fact, happiness is an inner state which can never be | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| your potentials. You cannot become happy and give happiness. You cannot unfold your creative abilities. You cannot | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| evolution and general spiritual development. The fulfillment and happiness of every human being is a necessity for | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| of the psyche that realizes that only in happiness can one contribute, and one loses out by | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| way, as I keep saying again and again. Happiness and love cannot be volitional processes, my friends | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| could occur. You superimpose because you strive for happiness, for recognition, even in the very process of | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| words: you cannot be in a state of happiness, peace, creativity without strife, if you do not | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| through difficult periods, and at others, you experience happiness and fulfillment. When man comes closer to this | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| to be happy. Whenever you feel undeserving of happiness, you need, my friends, to discover specifically where | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| Yet this is the very key to the happiness that can be yours, regardless of who you | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| with bad motives so often derive all the happiness and success in life? I know such cases | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| they can grow, fulfill themselves, experience, and reach happiness and liberation up to the limit commensurate with | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| destroyed so many possibilities for fully living, for happiness and meaning. Finding what is can never harm | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| not want to give up the belief that happiness, fulfillment, and security can come from others, so | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| then others are responsible for your needs, your happiness, and your safety. Again I have to admonish | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| God within does not mean to forfeit personal happiness -- a misconception that is often held even | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| into vicious circles and inner conflicts destroying your happiness and self-respect. Very few people are reconciled to | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| feels a void, for the deep longing for happiness is not wrong, but is in reality a | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| way that will give you and others immeasurable happiness. On the other hand, it is also important | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| point of view, which is concerned with personal happiness in this life. But I speak of something | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| is as though nature constantly showed that the happiness of self-fulfillment is a part of life which | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| to full relating and living, to that immeasurable happiness which every individual human soul so desperately yearns | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| stream, it cannot help but be benign, bringing happiness, fulfillment, and meaningfulness. Distrusting this stream and therefore | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| look at the feelings that keep you from happiness at this moment. If you look at your | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| may be a feeling of not deserving this happiness. It may be any number of further reasons | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| one. When misconceptions of not deserving all that happiness are found, they are often connected with the | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| with life create false strength, false security, false happiness -- or, for that matter, if it seems | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| have to disappear before genuine strength, security, and happiness can become a part of the self. How | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| who does exist knows no limitation in squandering happiness that is all yours for the asking. You | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| stops me from all that could bring me happiness. I no longer wish to reject all that | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| The beauty of creation is that reality is happiness. This happiness is easy; there is no struggle | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| of creation is that reality is happiness. This happiness is easy; there is no struggle about it | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| beings is that they so arduously struggle against happiness by fearing truth and holding onto misconceptions. Liberation | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| contact with the life force and, therefore, from happiness. A deep misunderstanding for many comes from the | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| breath, you are told that God wants your happiness? Is this not another contradiction? The greedy child | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| this not another contradiction? The greedy child wants happiness, too. The great power of the life force | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| human being has every right and possibility for happiness. You see, my friends, the desire for magic | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| being in the life force. You greedily demand happiness in order to have your way and avoid | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| and vital new insight fill you, unhappiness and happiness become one. Because you cease struggling against the | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| is your attitude to an event that causes happiness or unhappiness, never the event itself. This discovery | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| To correct this, I advise this meditation: My happiness cannot possibly detract from another person's. However, my | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| to develop a strong, full yes-current for your happiness. It is often so difficult for humans to | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| the fulfillment of a particular wish can bring happiness. In the relaxed giving up lie all the | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| in a less than perfect way, until perfect happiness becomes possible. When you desire the utmost self-expression | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| you desire the utmost self-expression, for the greater happiness of yourself and others, it must occur in | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| coddle a weakness. When you no longer desire happiness in order to avoid unhappiness, you have reached | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| effort is bliss, movement is no chore but happiness itself; such people do not fear death because | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| that only a limited degree of fulfillment and happiness exists. You have to choose between either this | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| or that wish. You also believe that your happiness or fulfillment takes away someone else's, so you | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| and you feel the inner freedom to express happiness, to fully desire it, without tension, without urgency | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| will know that you can have all the happiness you wish, that your happiness does not interfere | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| have all the happiness you wish, that your happiness does not interfere with any constructive issue in | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| reach the state of expressing a yes-current for happiness when one fears its opposite. It makes no | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| fate, your immediate life, then yours is a happiness you cannot imagine. It is in the fearlessness | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| and the bliss of effortlessly, steadily growing. This happiness cannot be described. All this awaits you. It | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| others to reward the self for the sacrificed happiness. Since the loser does not go out to | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| indeed possible to say yes to your own happiness without saying no to consideration of others. The | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| on a deeper level, on people's fear of happiness, fulfillment, and fullness of living. In order to | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| allow for constructive living and the possibility of happiness, which is all too often regarded as unrealistic | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| far you can go in expressing beauty, wisdom, happiness, fulfillment, productivity -- for yourself and for others | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| their lives in accordance with their personal inclinations. Happiness or unhappiness is the result of the personality | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| you have been conditioned to believe that personal happiness is selfish, will extract from you a price | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| are incapable of paying, or which seems excessive. Happiness must further not only individual self-expression, expansion, and | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| contact, the greater the effect. This applies to happiness of every kind, not just to some socially | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| fulfillment. You may ask why you should fear happiness. You may fear the abandonment to it, or | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| the creative powers is the wholehearted wanting of happiness, that is not always as simple as it | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| possibility, even in this earth sphere, is indescribable happiness. Once this is envisaged, vast and beautiful possibilities | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| is the element of fear. If you want happiness because you fear unhappiness, happiness remains unreachable. If | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| If you want happiness because you fear unhappiness, happiness remains unreachable. If you want happiness for its | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| fear unhappiness, happiness remains unreachable. If you want happiness for its own sake, and not because you | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| be aware of the fine differentiation between wanting happiness for the sake of happiness, or wanting it | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| differentiation between wanting happiness for the sake of happiness, or wanting it in order to avoid unhappiness | 130 FINDING TRUE ABUNDANCE BY GOING THROUGH YOUR FEAR |
| the light of truth -- the truth of happiness. For in truth you must be happy. When | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| The concept you are impressed with is that happiness is attainable only in the distant future. You | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| distant future. You strive toward the future, while happiness is in the now. I have said this | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| are, the truth is the opposite. Truth is happiness, even if you cannot experience it at the | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| you from the highest self. Wisdom, intelligence, strength, happiness, love, abundance -- everything good that exists in | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| and the highest source of all wisdom and happiness. It dwells in-between. It is not completely outer | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| combines loving with receiving one's full share of happiness, instead of mutually excluding either love or happiness | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| happiness, instead of mutually excluding either love or happiness, as seems inevitable when love is attempted by | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| the possibility of experience. If you believe that happiness is impossible, how can you experience happiness? This | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| that happiness is impossible, how can you experience happiness? This is as logical as any physical law | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| all its truth and light and relief and happiness, but it just never occurs to you that | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| the strong feelings without which pleasure, joy, and happiness cannot exist. The tremendous strength and intelligence contained | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| experience, which moves eternally toward further unfoldment, greater happiness, more inclusion. You do not stop this movement | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| fear these powers. You fear the possibility of happiness. You fear that you may not be able | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| find a greater fear of constructive unfoldment, of happiness and fullness, than of confinement and pain. This | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| and the tremendous fear of joy and relaxed happiness. Everything tenses up when things go well and | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| is outwardly constructive activity, it is destructive to happiness. I would like to know if there is | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| you issue into yourself the desire for constructiveness, happiness, fulfillment -- and express the knowledge that this | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| is unconscious, and therefore cannot be given up, happiness cannot be embraced. When you comprehend your deliberate | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| 142. THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| ingrained longing for and its simultaneous fear of happiness. This fear is at a very deep level | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| harbor in their unconscious minds. The fear of happiness is directly related to the fear of letting | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| faculties. By the same token, the longing for happiness must also be a longing to be released | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| between the longing for and the fear of happiness, which is the same as the longing for | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| and actually desirable. The deep longing for the happiness and harmony that comes from letting go of | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| as the ego's hold is not loosened, true happiness cannot come into being. Any overexertion of the | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| the tremendous struggle between longing for and fearing happiness and the healthy letting go, although it affords | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| ego. You will understand clearly why you fear happiness, why you fear letting go of outer control | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| partly because it is an unconscious yearning for happiness and fulfillment. But let us understand precisely what | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| the real self says, Your birthright is perfect happiness, freedom, and mastery over life. When you fight | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| the moment you strive for any kind of happiness, you must fear its opposite. In ever-changing rhythm | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| up what you believe is personal fulfillment and happiness. Nor can you fully commit yourself to a | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| transformation you will be strong enough to stand happiness. You can claim the best when you are | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| character, your fulfillment, your sufferings, your state of happiness or unhappiness, the reactions of other people to | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| are intense insistence, rigid demands, or renunciation of happiness and fulfillment. Both extremes are equally erroneous, leading | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| as vaguely dangerous as any other kind of happiness. Fear of the smaller happinesses is a minor | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| minor manifestation of the fear of the major happiness. When individuals fear fulfillment, they block it, so | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| nothing would stand in the way of their happiness. But total happiness is possible immediately as you | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| in the way of their happiness. But total happiness is possible immediately as you are now. Humanity | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| out even: to the exact degree self-liking exists, happiness exists. When self-liking is missing, the psyche is | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| yourself. Psychologically this refusal manifests in denial of happiness and pleasure. This is why it is so | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| measure you become capable of experiencing delight, pleasure, happiness. There is a direct relationship between the two | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the old way that refuses life, love, feelings, happiness, unfoldment, giving forth of what you have to | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| can be tackled: the fear of pleasure, of happiness, of fulfillment, the fear of being in the | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| constriction. You will then see that acclimatizing to happiness and pleasure is not as difficult as it | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| yourself makes you unable to receive pleasure, delight, happiness -- often even material success, which does not | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| such intentions into practice, you will permit yourself happiness, you will not cringe away from the delight | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| humanity's potential for realizing these infinite possibilities of happiness exists in the inner depths of each person's | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |