| attitudes and reactions. It is important for your happiness. Though it is true that you can move | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| feel it unconsciously -- that whatever brings them happiness must be damaging to someone else. Hence, it | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| is bound to afflict your inner will for happiness. Your unconscious concept is that if you enjoy | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| desires. In the belief that all desires for happiness are selfish, you do not dare to desire | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| is the unconscious concept: since desires aim for happiness and wanting happiness is selfish, I must suppress | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| concept: since desires aim for happiness and wanting happiness is selfish, I must suppress all desires. You | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| in reality it is your wrong conclusion about happiness that is the cause. In the process of | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| It is a needless cost you pay in happiness and joy. You dare not wish for happiness | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| happiness and joy. You dare not wish for happiness simply because you fail to discriminate between actual | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| believe that to be selfish would bring you happiness, but alas, you are not allowed to be | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| should you give in to your desire for happiness, you would not be loved or approved of | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| so necessary for you, you would rather forsake happiness. The inner conflict can be stated in this | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| could do anything I wanted. That would mean happiness. On the other hand, I cannot be happy | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| reality of your hopelessness. Were your misconception true, happiness would indeed be an impossibility. You would be | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| cannot be loved when you are happy, for happiness is selfish according to this erroneous concept. There | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| happy person, you are better able to bring happiness and joy to others. You are entitled to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| to indulge in it. The other misconception, that happiness is selfish and is therefore forbidden, exists because | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| out of you. Each time the desire for happiness manifests, a little inner voice prohibits it so | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| yourself. God's ways, the ways of truth, bring happiness and liberation. If only humanity could feel that | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will come to the light that is eternal happiness. It is bound to be that way! Take | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| sense, immortality is to be understood as continuous happiness and joy. What is also meant by the | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| when you expect major changes to bring you happiness from without simply because you have made some | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| God within yourself if you are happy. But happiness at the expense of selfishness is not the | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| should, that it is expected of you. True happiness, therefore, can only come about by solving your | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be a temporary contentment, but not the real happiness that does not fear life any longer. There | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| very strong and this does not make for happiness. However, this has no bearing on the fact | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is that people always think the other person's happiness is greater than theirs, while their own unhappiness | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Reality, or truth, is bound to bring you happiness and freedom. Your resistance to facing your unreality | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| and thereby into a more secure state of happiness and serenity? If the forcing current is absent | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| It means freedom from fears, and therefore greater happiness and security. This can be only if emotional | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| fate. No one but yourself creates your own happiness and unhappiness. Again in the lecture on The | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| in the fact that you obstruct your future happiness by continuing to reproduce the situation and then | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| though you were also a happy one. Your happiness may have been valid and without self-deception at | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| A continuous situation of this sort cannot bring happiness. It is an indication of something being wrong | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| in the sense of what really counts: his happiness, his inner security, his inner peace. By the | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| do you have dignity and a chance for happiness. You also feel -- often unconsciously -- that | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| but one out of billions, and therefore your happiness is not important. Another illusion misinterprets the right | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| that you are fighting for your individuality and happiness when in fact you struggle to preserve your | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| a happier person. You have the right to happiness, and you have more rather than less dignity | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| old conflict that either you can have a happiness that is selfish, or, if you choose to | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| you choose to refrain from this selfishness, your happiness is unimportant. This inherent misunderstanding causes a deep | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| a state of unhappiness for a state of happiness and security! How foolish of you to fear | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| a previous talk I explained the fear of happiness that exists to some degree in every human | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| some degree in every human being. Fear of happiness is closely connected with the new state I | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| struggling against the unknown new state of pure happiness. Any real happiness must in some way be | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| unknown new state of pure happiness. Any real happiness must in some way be connected with the | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| that, though you might believe that the unavoidable happiness that results from purification -- after a certain | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| way: Only one who is happy can give happiness to others. I do not mean a cheap | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| do not mean a cheap and easily obtainable happiness, but the real thing that comes only through | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| see an unhappy person who can truly give happiness to others. That is impossible. One may do | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| distinct from prayer for others -- consider this happiness as a byproduct, as a means to an | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| pure as the one stated here, namely that happiness should be only a byproduct, a means to | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| has a lower degree of consciousness believes that happiness results from giving in to all the desires | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| emotionally not yet there. Also realize that secluded happiness is impossible. The separating wall must fall, and | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| of your fear of it. You all desire happiness and you all desire to make others happy | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| not mean that you should pray directly for happiness. What you should pray for is the strength | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| the obstacles you have placed between yourself and happiness. This removal must mean to go through the | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| child in you thinks that this prevents your happiness. You emerge from childhood with the rarely conscious | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| level that is real. You will know that happiness can be yours, but not always the way | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| aggression is the only means of getting the happiness they desire. Needless to say, the opposite effect | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| this case, people are convinced of never attaining happiness, and this seems to be such a tragedy | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| much as they now imagine. They could experience happiness and the joy they think they do not | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| everything or you have nothing. You will find happiness, but will know that not everything need go | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| overcome the obstacles to your childish concept of happiness. This may not only vary with each person | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| can be the judge of what brings you happiness. Let your big self, your real self that | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| of your being, you produce more and more happiness. In your fullness, you progressively attract more positive | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| unreal assumptions. They are supposed to bring you happiness -- beauty. But it cannot really be so | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are! For, the liberation, the true joy and happiness resulting from it is in your hands -- | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of finding that within you which blocks your happiness and joy. Keep up the work, each one | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| turn bring you more and more insight, liberation, happiness and growth. For the moment, the finding should | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| ones. The great opposites are life and death, happiness and unhappiness, love and selfishness, light and darkness | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| other hand, you are told that God is happiness, bliss, light, and the pleasure principle makes you | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| This underlying core is your longing for complete happiness, light, love, bliss, peace. The original longing is | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| love, bliss, peace. The original longing is for happiness supreme, but life on earth prohibits such fulfillment | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| something that is usually quite different from the happiness which you as human beings long for. You | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| the very presence of unhappiness is what gives happiness its flavor. Of course, this is not so | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| course, this is not so. Since the word happiness to most of you connotes such vague and | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| predominant. In the latter attempt, you sabotage the happiness that you could have because you are too | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| and give you a foretaste of what real happiness, pleasure supreme, and true security is, even while | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| to the longing for and fulfillment of the happiness that could be yours. Here individual inner problems | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| have become acutely aware of the desire for happiness, love, fulfillment, or -- to put it in | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| instinctual drive toward wish-fulfillment interferes with another person's happiness or if for other reasons you cannot at | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| to some degree. So the difficult choice between happiness and unselfishness exists only in the relative time | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| the relative time element. When your longing for happiness is not instantly fulfilled, this, too, appears as | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| that you are aware of your longing for happiness as well as of your fear of the | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| what he fears. He forfeits all pleasure and happiness by self-imposed hardship. In other words, he chooses | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| true proportions -- is inevitably equally afraid of happiness and fulfillment. A few times in the past | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| times in the past I mentioned fear of happiness and fulfillment. Many of my friends have since | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| have since found this to be true. When happiness is far away and seemingly unattainable, you can | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| are in reality one and the same, your happiness and pleasure are also connected to your attitude | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| that you should deliberately choose suffering and reject happiness in the false belief that pleasure and joy | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| cowardice and self-pity -- the outcome will be happiness to the degree you have grown from the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| death and suffering, and therefore from life and happiness. To begin by tackling the big general issues | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| sees life in terms of extremes, such as happiness versus unhappiness, with happiness standing for life and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of extremes, such as happiness versus unhappiness, with happiness standing for life and unhappiness for death. While | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| and allows one to achieve a maximum of happiness through developing one's inherent talents, leading a constructive | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| with punishment and unhappiness, goodness with reward and happiness. Hence to be good and perfect became an | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of attaining what you desperately wanted -- life, happiness, security, self-confidence. The awareness of this false front | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| in order to attain self-confidence and therefore, finally, happiness, pleasure supreme. The stronger its presence, the more | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| your life above and beyond your need for happiness, pleasure, and security, you will come to see | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| by this work. Proceed on this path of happiness. Gain more and more strength, and let our | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| give and receive, and to experience pleasure and happiness. In other words, your yearning for pleasure supreme | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| not to experience any longing for pleasure, fulfillment, happiness. In fact, you may be completely resigned to | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| feel your life is endangered. So you destroy happiness by the very process supposed to obtain it | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| is the obstruction to freedom and strength; to happiness, inner health, and peace. Now are there any | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| of the instinct of self-preservation, as well as happiness and pleasure through the distortion of the instinct | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| life-preserving, and as conducive to true pleasure and happiness as your inner truth. Be in peace, my | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| safety or pleasure. For, in order to obtain happiness, fulfillment, bliss, pleasure, a certain courage is presupposed | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| remains thirsty and barren. It misses not only happiness and beauty, but an integral part of the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| risk by submitting. You will try to obtain happiness by self-effacement and masochism, thinking to combine the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| looking for love and protection; craving pleasure and happiness; feeling vulnerable, submissive, insecure, and dependent. If the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| you know it or not. The freedom and happiness, the security and safety, the marvel of life | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| decrees of this powerful authority make safety and happiness impossible, cause frustration and unhappiness. Here you are | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| held responsible and I will be rewarded with happiness for being an obedient little child. Since God | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| is the only prerequisite for accepting life and happiness -- not accepting death with a wishful-thinking spirituality | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| to sacrifice something. Let us say, you want happiness in a certain direction -- and this is | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| seek and find how you have prevented this happiness so far and what you can now do | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| synonymous with the capacity to give and receive happiness. To the degree you shy away from any | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| also close the door to the experience of happiness. Moreover, the emotional side of your nature, when | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| touches you. Since your struggle is primarily for happiness, and since immature emotions lead to unhappiness, your | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| also true that you dull your capacity for happiness and pleasure while not really avoiding the dreaded | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| fullest. By withdrawing from pain, you withdraw from happiness and, most of all, you withdraw from experience | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| necessary conditions to get it. If you want happiness you must be willing to give it. How | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| and unfavorable aspects, acquiring thereby the ability for happiness, love and pleasure. Super-states of euphoria usually avoid | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| gets, at times, such inner peace and inner happiness, a borderline elation. ANSWER: Peace, calm, and happiness | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| happiness, a borderline elation. ANSWER: Peace, calm, and happiness could not possibly be called a euphoric state | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| have already evolved from the state of demanding happiness from life and others, resenting it when not | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| as an imperfect business. The ability to derive happiness from it even though it is not perfect | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| living an average life. If you can derive happiness out of the ordinary and out of being | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| -- while feeling that you do not deserve happiness but rather punishment because you are imperfect -- | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| bring about the result you wish; that is, happiness and fulfillment. You may then discover that your | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| However, the actual fulfillment will produce much greater happiness, in spite of its lack of perfection, than | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| and will produce further growth, in addition to happiness and fulfillment. You will discover that if the | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| healthy and legitimate need for self-assertion, independence, success, happiness, fulfillment -- all of which require a certain | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| have to be perfect in order to experience happiness and fulfillment. But this is not true, as | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| you believes it will provide you with more happiness. Only calm observation of what is true, what | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| another, which might have been more important for happiness and peace. It may appear as an imbalance | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| not only damage you and obstruct your own happiness, but are bound to affect others who are | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| Only by being yourself are you capable of happiness. This you can now easily see. Becoming aware | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| your specific inner problem. No real growth and happiness can exist unless a change in the personality | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| strength, reason, love, creativity, resourcefulness, joy, capacity for happiness that exists in you already. You do not | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| onward will mean further realization of growth and happiness. Be in peace, be in God! 96. QUESTIONS | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| the feeling, vague and hidden, that one's own happiness depends on everyone else being in truth. Still | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| Boredom is not. Life is joy and sadness; happiness and tragedy; fulfillment and frustration. The real self | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |