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around, namely that a person has an acute guilt feeling and is not necessarily ashamed. QUESTION: Many 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
It can be self-destructive, life-defeating; it can be guilt or fear. But the negative in you must 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and disharmony is engendered, and a burden of guilt and inadequacy is added to it. In society 62 MAN AND WOMAN
she was quick to suppress them out of guilt. She was also thereby guarding her own interests 62 MAN AND WOMAN
to redeem us from the bonds of earthly guilt and earthly death and to awaken us to 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
It only creates harmful reactions, such as compulsion, guilt, resistance or rebellion. All musts create situations which 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
image is bound to cause compulsions, rebellion, and guilt for the rebellion. It causes all sorts of 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
desire, it is accompanied by a feeling of guilt. Yet the desire may be doubly strong -- 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
unhealthy one. The latter always creates compulsion. Thus, guilt and compulsion -- two contrary directions -- further 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
a slight feeling of doubt, scruples, a certain guilt and a question perhaps as to whether or 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
whether you were actually selfish or not. This guilt is bound to afflict your inner will for 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
in the past, as well as with the guilt of your selfish actions. This part of the 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS
you would recognize, without the slightest trace of guilt, how you personally contribute to and are in 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
out of a false sense of shame and guilt, as if to say, I should not have 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
would like to know how to handle a guilt feeling -- and also how does one make 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
an emotion, an action or a thought causes guilt, one has not found the roots of it 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
found the roots of it. Therefore, the gnawing guilt persists. It is as if the psyche says 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
that it often is a camouflage a real guilt. It is as though the psyche says: I 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
as though the psyche says: I produce this guilt so that I do not have to face 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
I do not have to face the real guilt. Do not be misled by such discoveries. Go 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
the problem. Then there is another alternative regarding guilt feelings: One often feels guilty when that feeling 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
I said some time ago, often the imagined guilt is actually graver than the real hidden guilt 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
guilt is actually graver than the real hidden guilt. But just because the real guilt is more 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
real hidden guilt. But just because the real guilt is more difficult to face, emotionally it seems 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
seems harder to bear than the unjustified, imagined guilt. The real guilt may be that you deny 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
bear than the unjustified, imagined guilt. The real guilt may be that you deny yourself in some 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
toward yourself, you have another clue to your guilt. By finding all this, you make amends. To 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
I have discussed at length with you the guilt and shame all human beings feel about their 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
ramifications. There is, on the one hand, the guilt of selfishness and self-centeredness which makes loving an 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
you realize. The betrayal weighs you down with guilt. It is the deepest of your guilts. Only 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
your guilts. Only the other day we discussed guilt feelings, and I spoke about how often people 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
shortcomings in order not to face their main guilt. For most of you, the betrayal of loving 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
you, the betrayal of loving is your main guilt which you keep locked away from consciousness. As 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
see because of your vague awareness and your guilt about the existence of the unhealthy motives? Would 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES
love you in order to atone for this guilt, as though being loved were a confirmation that 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
a confirmation that the hidden voice of your guilt is wrong. Find the emptiness within you due 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
a healthy authority. This failing is due to guilt because real, giving, warming, comforting love is absent 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
it will relieve the feeling of isolation and guilt you all are burdened with. You are constantly 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
burdened with. You are constantly fluctuating between your guilt and your accusation of injustice you direct at 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
may be full of inner unrest and unhappiness, guilt, and anxiety that you never know about, because 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS
good reasons for such a recommendation, because destructive guilt is in itself such a heavy burden that 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
thoroughly understand all that without a feeling of guilt and depression, but rather in a spirit of 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
is unimportant. This inherent misunderstanding causes a deep guilt in the human soul because you don't know 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
if only on a subtle inner level; (3) guilt: the feeling of I do not really deserve 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
a mature decision, there will be no such guilt. Whenever such a problem exists, one is bound 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
knowledge, or your decision is right, feeling neither guilt nor pride nor doubt. You will spontaneously be 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT
you were and are permanently permeated with the guilt of pretending to be something you are not 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
resulting shame, fear of exposure, secretiveness, tension, strain, guilt, anxiety. It will take some progress in this 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
will not throw you into depression, anxiety, and guilt, but will rather strengthen you. You will not 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
of failure, frustration, and compulsion, as well as guilt and shame, are the most outstanding indications that 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE
be! Whatever it does is wrong and induces guilt, shame, a feeling of inadequacy, and therefore frustration 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
at first, because the emotions of anxiety, frustration, guilt, shame, and so on, have to be acutely 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
on the other person. This, in turn, creates guilt because it offends the edicts of the idealized 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
becomes self-centered. Self-centeredness brings frustration, anxiety, tension, compulsion, guilt and insecurity, to name but a few of 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
on your life-force. It induces such a deep guilt and fear of exposure that its effects are 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
that your defeat becomes theirs. This creates additional guilt in you. The hostility flows in two directions 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
You will not only find the resentments and guilt, but deeply hidden, you will also find excessive 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
have to be kept under cover, causing additional guilt. The greater the demands, the more you feel 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
therefore not loved. So you develop a double guilt: one over the existence of your demands, the 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
daily resolution of intent. In this way resentment, guilt, anxiety, animosity, and other negative emotions will rise 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
never conscious of and that are connected with guilt and anxiety. But you will find that not 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
to pseudo-solutions. This should absolve you from destructive guilt feelings about the original pseudo-solution you have clung 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
take full responsibility upon yourself, without any destructive guilt, for maintaining the pretenses that are always linked 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
shadow of a doubt, without any wavering or guilt, without any need to get allies to confirm 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
good and bad. This would only strengthen your guilt feelings. It would also strengthen the exaggerated demands 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
disharmonious. ANSWER: The obvious answer would be self-punishment, guilt feelings, fear of success. But such answer will 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
idealized self-image. QUESTION: How should I regard my guilt feelings over the joy I feel about the 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
I will give you a personal answer. The guilt feeling comes from the unrecognized desire yourself to 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
strong submissive attitude. This is one aspect. The guilt is the reaction of your submissiveness to your 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
reacts to such self-effacing submissiveness with self-contempt and guilt of a different nature. On the one hand 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
glory about your own omnipotence. All this creates guilt, from whatever angle you look at it. It 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
you look at it. It creates the false guilt of not being as good and obedient as 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
obedient as the submissive attitude demands; the false guilt of daring to rebel and to hate whatever 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
obedience and goodness. It also creates the false guilt of not living up to your fantasies of 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
but actually cringing. And it creates the real guilt of the intrinsic self-centeredness, pride, and pretense that 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and therefore you will free yourself of the guilt, which is only one symptom. QUESTION: I'd like 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and partly unjustly treated. So you wallow in guilt and self-pity. This makes you more dependent and 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE
circle, negative emotions such as self-pity, helplessness, hostility, guilt, and resentment are bound to decrease until they 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
those most strongly afflicted with a sense of guilt. It may not show; they may displace their 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
It may not show; they may displace their guilt by even stronger acts of immorality. It would 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS
do you distinguish between this conscience and, say, guilt feelings? ANSWER: In a past lecture I discussed 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
artificially created needs of the idealized self create guilt feelings, but just as often the healthy, normal 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
of every healthy human being cause equally strong guilt feelings. This is due to the influence of 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
of your needs is lacking because an unconscious guilt prevails due to the belief that they are 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
letting go is the strongest cause of self-contempt, guilt, weakness, unfulfillment, and many outer frictions and difficulties 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
avoided the crass term of sin. Your self-destructive guilt feelings on the one hand, and your moralizing 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
false strength, defiance, and cruelty; of the unhealthy guilt and self-accusation in false repentance; of the self-indulgence 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
of knowing it, I feel guilty. ANSWER: Your guilt, my dear, has nothing to do with pity 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
and superficial interpretations. In this case, forcing and guilt make love and honor into something compulsive that 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
unhealthy and false. If it comes from fear, guilt, or wanting to appease so as to be 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
you will find that self-punishment is due to guilt. The self-destructiveness derives from a certain inability to 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
and reacting in the desired way and without guilt, without any forcing current, and fully accept yourself 101 THE DEFENSE
word sin because it encourages self-destructive and unproductive guilt. Instead I concentrate on the underlying conditions. However 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
to following such commandments, will produce fear and guilt, and therefore hate. Today it is no longer 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
these feelings and desires out of fear and guilt, the results are even worse. You will never 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
thing that will free you from fear and guilt. QUESTION: In today's Post, Harry Golden wrote something 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
your present reality. If you accept this without guilt and judgment, you will eventually understand why it 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
so as not to burden yourself with the guilt of rejecting what you also crave? Or are 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
you will encounter the problem of your own guilt. Also, this guilt has to become fully conscious 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
the problem of your own guilt. Also, this guilt has to become fully conscious. Such awareness will 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
in all of you. It increases fear and guilt all around. However, if you face up to 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
it -- which can only be done without guilt and without judging yourself or others -- then 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
as to be approved, as well as your guilt, and your fear. Until such time, you can 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
responsible for the ills of the world. No guilt, no self-flagellation, only the recognition of a fact 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
is directly connected with the departed one -- guilt, resentment, or what have you -- or whether 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
the truth. This truth will free you of guilt and of the necessity to accuse, to blame 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
but two such repercussions: one is a deep-seated guilt for this deliberate prohibition to loving, and another 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
love withheld, your actions do not remove your guilt. This proves, once again, how you cannot help 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
real feelings will get you into trouble -- guilt, resentment for doing what you now do compulsively 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
love, self-assertion becomes very difficult, because your gnawing guilt either paralyzes you, or, if you manage to 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
naturally arising feelings; this in turn results in guilt, fear, uncertainty, anger, resentment, helpless rage, and confused 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
All it can do is create self-contempt and guilt, which must rob you of the firm ground 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
too. This reaction often produces such shock and guilt that it is entirely repressed and overcompensated by 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
Be in peace, be in God! 108. FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS Greetings, my dearest 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
and therefore the real cure. A deeply permeating guilt gnaws at their soul. This is a different 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
their soul. This is a different kind of guilt than the more specific, often unjustified guilts that 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
little and unjustified guilts substitute for the real guilt of withdrawal, unlovingness, and isolation. In other words 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
the flow, as it were. This very deep-rooted guilt prevents you from claiming your freedom, asserting yourself 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
but even more to the deep and hidden guilt about it. It is not easy to unearth 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
It is not easy to unearth this particular guilt, but if you truly want to find it 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
find it, you will. As long as this guilt is not found, verified, acknowledged, and experienced, the 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
deeply ensnared in confusion and unrest, anxiety and guilt. Its messages become harder to decipher because these 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
how this process connects with your deep- rooted guilt for not loving, for disturbing the outgoing cosmic 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
truly want to. You must expiate this inner guilt, which is much deeper than all the little 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
you to set out to uncover your hidden guilt for not loving. I repeat this, because it 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
act them out, adversely affecting your surroundings. The guilt then may make you overly submissive, and lead 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
find behind all of them another kind of guilt. And now I would like to cover another 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
it. Because of them you harbor a deep-seated guilt, whether or not you are now aware of 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
see how both parts of it -- the guilt for not loving and the problem of obligations 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
I found out that I was hiding my guilt about my mother behind something else. Then I 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
a sudden that this might be the real guilt. When you came to the second part of 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
me that perhaps I am hiding my real guilt because I am egocentric? ANSWER: You are quite 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
you will ascertain the source of the real guilt that produces the unjustified guilt, as well as 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
of the real guilt that produces the unjustified guilt, as well as the perfectionism. My dearest, dearest 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT Greetings, my dearest friends. Divine blessings and love 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
fulfillment. In my last lecture we discussed real guilt. Quite a long time ago I explained the 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
time ago I explained the difference between real guilt and false guilt, but at that time it 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
explained the difference between real guilt and false guilt, but at that time it was not possible 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
face and come to terms with the real guilt that always lies behind the false one. However 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
to come face to face with your real guilt. In all the time we have spent together 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
in connection with the lower self that real guilt exists. You go to any length to avoid 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
that you would rather produce much worse false guilt, than accept the tiniest real guilt belonging to 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
worse false guilt, than accept the tiniest real guilt belonging to the area of the lower self 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
emphasize how dangerous perfectionism, self-condemnation, moralizing, and false guilt feelings are. You see, my dearest friends, to 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
is. Only then can you accept the real guilt and make up for it. Accepting the real 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
and make up for it. Accepting the real guilt makes it possible to accept your real values 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT

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