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are challenged. And this they are, by the frictions and conflicts arising from the differences in outlook 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and advance faster in spiritual development precisely because frictions exist. Without friction, development can never proceed. It 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS
overlook this simple logic, and persistently take the frictions in your life as though they had nothing 43 THREE BASIC PERSONALITY TYPES: REASON, WILL, EMOTION
meeting. You might discuss how best to eliminate frictions; what you could do to learn from them 53 SELF-LOVE
Reach out for it, especially when disagreements and frictions separate you. Tonight I should like to discuss 53 SELF-LOVE
same with spiritual and emotional growth. Let the frictions and irritations be a lesson to you. They 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
contribute in this work by learning from the frictions in your everyday life. Do that, my friends 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
elements the separation is more difficult to overcome. Frictions cannot be smoothed over as easily as they 62 MAN AND WOMAN
has less of a chance to bring out frictions, therefore in that sense it is easier to 62 MAN AND WOMAN
what needs to be recognized, problems, illness, worries, frictions and other difficulties will therefore simply cease is 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED
of self-contempt, guilt, weakness, unfulfillment, and many outer frictions and difficulties which are the final result of 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
have already mentioned the helplessness. I mentioned the frictions and constrictions when the blame for the lack 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS
its effect, and one day the difficulties and frictions that are inevitable in such a venture at 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER
 
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you tell us the spiritual significance of Good Friday, please? ANSWER: The spiritual significance of Good Friday 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
Friday, please? ANSWER: The spiritual significance of Good Friday is to take the cross that you have 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
of my last lecture. On this day, Good Friday, Jesus Christ brought his life to a culmination 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
 
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a while; the scenery becomes a little more friendly and brighter. Then you go on again. Sometimes 36 PRAYER
conviction that the universe is good, loving, benign, friendly. There cannot be death, hate cannot win out 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
the destructiveness and turn to a constructive, inclusive, friendly attitude toward life and others. You still do 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION
 
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be true to some degree. The advantages of friendship, companionship, mutual respect, and a pleasant life together 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX
make such a journey together. QUESTION: How does friendship between two people fit into this picture? ANSWER 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX
between two people fit into this picture? ANSWER: Friendship is brotherly love. Such friendship can also exist 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX
this picture? ANSWER: Friendship is brotherly love. Such friendship can also exist between man and woman. Eros 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX
union easier than in other relationships such as friendship for instance. It is easier because it is 62 MAN AND WOMAN
to offer you genuine love and affection or friendship or help in some way, and for one 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
area of life, like professional fulfillment, marriage, or friendship. Indetermination may create tension and conflict in a 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS
for? Has anyone of you an idea? Giving. Friendship. Action. Taking. ANSWER: Taking and giving. Yes. All 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
give, take, receive; which can be extended in friendship. Hence, the symbol of the hand represents a 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
or in your personal relationships, like marriage or friendship, makes no difference. Your world here on earth 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
mere human beings who do. Neither are love, friendship, or help acknowledged as important. The pride in 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
such a case, not even one of casual friendship. Mature men and women will have understanding and 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
kind of relationship -- be it partnership, love, friendship, whatever -- they have to go through various 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
self-alienated states, you may have as genuine a friendship as your are capable of, yet feel yourself 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
perhaps it produces an overinvolvement with a specific friendship into which you shift all the feelings and 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION
you experience understanding, warmth, acceptance, love, and true friendship. You have learned to a considerable degree to 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF
spirit aims for rich fulfillment of love, abundance, friendship, communication, even for recognition and respect. But in 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
relationships: to man/woman partnerships, to every kind of friendship, and finally to the relationship between countries. Keeping 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
will always find more love, more respect, more friendship, more help, more recognition of your real values 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
substitutes, unless you open yourself up. The word friendship becomes a farce if you feel there is 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY
On the outer level you may not achieve friendship with them, for it takes both parties to 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE
 
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to detect, in your marital partners, in your friendships, or in other human relationships. In your subconscious 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
-- whether in partnership relations or in personal friendships -- that needs and wants to possess can 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
any kind of relationship: mates, parents and children, friendships, or business contacts. The tendency to make yourself 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
one mate, and the satisfaction of deep, open friendships. Pleasure will no longer frighten you because you 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE
increasing joy, love, peace, security, strength, creativity, deep friendships and unity. Even these first steps of transforming 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF
 
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fast as you would have it. Recognize your fright of every little hurt and disappointment. As you 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
more frightened they will be of you, and fright has never yet induced love. Nor does the 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
your integrity. All these defenses stem from your fright of being exposed to the possibility of danger 101 THE DEFENSE
nature, when faced with actual danger, feels only fright and anger. In the rare instances of real 101 THE DEFENSE
on the defensive, however, the predominant feelings are fright and anger. I hardly need to discuss how 101 THE DEFENSE
whole range of your feelings is reduced to fright and anger precisely because this enables you to 101 THE DEFENSE
in the criticism? Observe your inner reaction of fright. You will soon discover that your fright is 101 THE DEFENSE
of fright. You will soon discover that your fright is unjustified, even if the criticism is wrong 101 THE DEFENSE
In such cases the predominant emotions will be fright and anger. The people may be unaware that 101 THE DEFENSE
psyche resists such change; the recognition of your fright of such change, and the cause of it 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
a case is to detect the reaction of fright, or anxiety, or feelings of loss, or merely 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
simply a part of human communication, and your fright and refusal to engage are unjustified. Such reaction 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
calm observation to perceive truthfully, whether this concerns fright of what others might do to you, or 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
of what others might do to you, or fright of your own unconscious. In the last lecture 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
being peaceful becomes lifeless and finally ends in fright. False feelings always create problems on the dualistic 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE
-- whether it causes mild annoyance or stark fright or anything in-between -- remain inwardly relaxed. Observe 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS
by shrinking back from this fact in tension, fright, and contraction? Certainly not. This would only make 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS
not. This would only make it worse. By fright and contraction the person would express a refusal 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS
-- no wonder the system reacts first with fright and alarm. It requires a period of re-orientation 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
worsens the subjective experience. However, the fight and fright exist also in the less crass manifestations of 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
own metabolism, its own rhythm or turnover. The fright of meeting this person is due to the 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
touch you, you shrink back from it in fright. The fright is caused by a wrong conclusion 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
you shrink back from it in fright. The fright is caused by a wrong conclusion. Experience of 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
conscious, let them be, and observe them without fright. You will see how easy it is to 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL
you need to go into the abyss of fright, loneliness, helplessness, pain, and the anger generated by 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS
 
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weaknesses, but also all things that confuse and frighten you. Due to an unconscious wrong conclusion, you 47 THE WALL WITHIN
remains unknown, it will lose its ability to frighten you because now you admit to yourself, I 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING
which you need to go through will not frighten you anymore. It will make sense to you 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION
one another. The demands and the forcing current frighten away the other person, even if the demands 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
Your response to the demands of others may frighten you so much that you may withdraw more 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
if need be, the possibility that life will frighten you will decrease. Once you examine yourself and 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY
you will find that such knowingness did not frighten you. Quite the contrary. You felt warm and 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
and what motivates them, they will cease to frighten you, for you will be able to determine 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL
death manifestation. When this is understood, nothing can frighten and faze you. You can only understand this 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION
of sharing is possible. It will no longer frighten you, will no longer beset you with conscious 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
of deep, open friendships. Pleasure will no longer frighten you because you now know in every pore 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE
a sense of your own values rather than frighten you. It will motivate you to unfold all 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS

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