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at oneself, impatience. There will be no negative feeling. There will be an insight into one's tendency 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
produces a negation of life. There is a feeling of futility about life, of hopelessness, a fear 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
you feel about this peace. Account for the feeling. In other words, is the peace a result 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
actively does not include inner unrest. When the feeling of healthy peace exists, strength gathers and results 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
hand, the peace is a momentary, pleasant, relaxed feeling, but after it is gone, no strength remains 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
do I go in order to develop this feeling for God? ANSWER: As for the motives you 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
human, ordinary -- and thus enjoy life without feeling that you have to be perfect. This will 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
you use a whip on yourself -- while feeling that you do not deserve happiness but rather 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
something that could be yours -- and then feeling false self-satisfaction, as opposed to real self-respect. The 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
are unreliable and will never give you a feeling of security. Only the capacity to experience primary 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS
exactly what you are confused about, rather than feeling it only vaguely. The child in you resists 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
that his mother might have been incapable of feeling or demonstrating love. Now he is incapable of 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
unraveling this entire process can the painful inferiority feeling disappear. It is the feeling of being unlovable 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
the painful inferiority feeling disappear. It is the feeling of being unlovable that the soul resists facing 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
insight may only elude you again. Remembering a feeling will not recapture it. It is no longer 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
to compromise between the old and the new, feeling not quite ready for the new; yet another 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
distortions before you can recognize the predicament of feeling helplessly trapped between the only two dissatisfying alternatives 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
charity of giving material things; the charity of feeling with and for another person, which is compassion 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
compassion or pity is to notice whether the feeling gives you strength for the other person, or 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
this path, you will detect the kind of feeling that can best be described as an inner 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
to you. You feel attacked and threatened. The feeling in you, coming as a reaction to the 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
the instances just mentioned, is your defense mechanism. Feeling it is a great step forward; you will 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT
shortcomings, but this has nothing to do with feeling superior to them. You may observe in others 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
lack, but this has nothing to do with feeling inferior. The more you feel worthless and as 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
yourself if this is not due to your feeling that you have not realized all your potentials 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
the loss is felt as painful without a feeling of self-impoverishment, then it is purely healthy. QUESTION 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
people are held back from living by a feeling of tiredness and even apathy. This can make 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
you not? COMMENT: I can't overcome the rebellious feeling that God took my husband. ANSWER: Yes, my 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
this negative situation, you have arrived at a feeling of the real self. When you change inner 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
When you change inner direction by no longer feeling dependent on others, on circumstances, but actually comprehend 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
was no longer afraid. When I have that feeling, I feel hope. Now I don't have that 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
I feel hope. Now I don't have that feeling and I don't know what I'm afraid of 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
the superimposed self. It is a question of feeling and experiencing yourself in relationship to others, to 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
rather, regardless of what word you use, the feeling will be right. QUESTION: Can you give us 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
really convinced. Still another reason may be the feeling, vague and hidden, that one's own happiness depends 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
else being in truth. Still another is a feeling of inadequacy when not being able to reach 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
While the more real you become, the more feeling will quite naturally, and without effort, go to 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
own inadequacy and fears. When one achieves this feeling, there is still the human body one is 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
Sadness is healthy; it is a result of feeling and responding to aspects of reality. But self-pity 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION
derive the joy of experience, of growth, of feeling, to a much greater extent than you do 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
and disharmonies come into existence. The richness of feeling is prohibited and thus you impoverish yourself. You 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
emotions -- perhaps because you shy away from feeling a slight pain, or you think you should 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
have enjoyed. QUESTION: If you have an aggressive feeling and you don't like it, but it is 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
if you say to yourself, I cannot help feeling this way because I grope in the dark 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
discover and become aware of being hurt, of feeling rejected. Your shame and fear of these emotions 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
I don't know how. Sometimes I have the feeling my heart is still crying about all I've 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
others who were important to you. Analyze this feeling impression and compare it with your intellectual view 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
give the child an unreal, or perhaps real, feeling of rejection, the child feels unworthy of love 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
of this sort are asked, there is a feeling of letdown and disappointment with the answer. One 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
avoid. When your pseudo-solution is a withdrawal from feeling, from loving, and from living, it is a 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
rather welcome the pain than the self-alienation of feeling nothing, or very little. Continuing the work and 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
all evasion must have more unpleasant results than feeling the original pain. Unpleasant as the original pain 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
and from the apparent risk of living and feeling is caused by an original sense of inadequacy 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
love, and not only to receive. But this feeling goes away again. How can I learn to 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
a momentary experience of a new way of feeling. Then it goes away again. If, at such 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
discouraged and do not give way to the feeling that it is of no use because you 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
but persevere instead, the periods of healthy, good feeling will come more often and will last longer 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
knew that being in reality is not only feeling rejected, but also being in pleasure, one would 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
it again is necessary that your capacity of feeling be limited to the moment. Remember that the 101 THE DEFENSE
the danger is over you go back to feeling all the warm, good, outgoing, and outreaching feelings 101 THE DEFENSE
You are limiting your range of thought and feeling and you short circuit your creative processes. You 101 THE DEFENSE
They would not fear each other. The erroneous feeling that you are the target of an attack 101 THE DEFENSE
fear and dislike of others is the erroneous feeling of inadequacy when life and others do not 101 THE DEFENSE
annoyed at being unjustly criticized? ANSWER: The very feeling of annoyance is the proof of your defensiveness 101 THE DEFENSE
them -- not forcefully, by superimposition, not by feeling guilty that childish reactions still exist within, but 101 THE DEFENSE
acknowledge that you are not yet capable of feeling and reacting in the desired way and without 101 THE DEFENSE
to your thinking process, to your faculty of feeling, to your physical system, and to your spiritual 101 THE DEFENSE
always, in a sense, a lie. The original feeling is often one of hurt. If you owned 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
hurt. If you owned up to the original feeling, you would not need to be angry. In 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
setting you above the other person, rather than feeling your vulnerability, which seems an inferior place. Anger 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
hurt. In pride, you lie about your real feeling. Thus, anger and pride are connected. The lie 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
you may be utterly aware of the original feeling. Due to certain missing links, you may be 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
But when you are angry, you are not feeling the primary emotion. Only with awareness can you 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
Healthy anger will never weaken you. Any healthy feeling will give you strength and freedom, even if 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
you strength and freedom, even if the outward feeling appears to be negative, while an apparently positive 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
appears to be negative, while an apparently positive feeling may weaken you if it is dishonest, if 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
in which you may be utterly justified in feeling angry, that still may not mean that what 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
one loses out by not contributing. This gnawing feeling of missing out makes you strive, and if 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
even get on the right track. A destructive feeling may have a constructive result, just as a 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
may have a constructive result, just as a feeling, in itself constructive, may have an unhealthy effect 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
life circumstances. But the fact that a destructive feeling may produce positive results in certain cases does 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
results in certain cases does not make the feeling itself positive, healthy, or productive. The seventh cardinal 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
say on that topic. The difference between action, feeling, or thought is not half as great as 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
say, seventy-five percent mature and gets this wonderful feeling from giving love, then it seems that the 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
I'm becoming aware of a new kind of feeling. As depressions, fears, and repressions dissolve, there emerges 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
is a deep personal giving, a most interesting feeling. You feel as though you have lost your 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
it is as though someone else spread this feeling through you. As though some new being took 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
yourself begins to fill you, first with a feeling as though it were something else, and then 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
to accept yourselves as you are without a feeling of sin, and in this acceptance resolve the 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
it. You use your will to produce a feeling that as yet does not exist in you 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
yourself that you are as yet incapable of feeling love. You cannot properly face this condition which 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
overpowering love current that cannot be received, and feeling resentful and withdrawing. You are as yet incapable 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
You are as yet incapable of preserving a feeling of respect and liking if the strong force 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
weapon of turning a positive into a negative feeling. You feel resentment, rejection, pride, and you withdraw 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
again: If you are as yet incapable of feeling in such a mature way, do not force 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
absorb with your brain. This is an inner feeling that develops out of such a pathwork as 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
creative manifestation of the real self, a genuine feeling of love and profound understanding, as opposed to 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
profound understanding, as opposed to the superficial, intellectual feeling that merely recites and repeats -- either other 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
art, but also when a profound thought or feeling of love, or a new way of approaching 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
though you had another brain, another seat of feeling and reacting, within yourself. At the beginning, it 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
kind of thought and a different kind of feeling. QUESTION: I would like to ask two questions 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION
can say it. You cannot come to this feeling that God is, if you do not first 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
discover such erroneous ways in yourself, beware of feeling guilty, of being frantic, of feeling I should 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
beware of feeling guilty, of being frantic, of feeling I should not. This attitude is the greatest 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
This can, at best, be vaguely sensed, by feeling, rather than intellect. Furthermore, this question arises from 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
of uttered words or thoughts. It is a feeling of being in the eternal now; of flowing 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
When you cannot accept something with the simple feeling of sadness it is because the outer circumstance 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
truly sad -- and nothing else -- your feeling is due purely to this loss. Here is 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
to sadness, is a very stifling, frustrating, unhealthy feeling. Let us clearly see exactly what is unhealthy 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
who have no protective covering against experience and feeling. Therefore they love. They permit themselves to love 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
fear and an over-cautiousness about letting go to feeling and to being. Therefore manipulation prohibits love, even 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
on themselves and their perceptions. They may be feeling so inferior that they do not trust their 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
barriers, all the layers that prevent you from feeling, from living, and from experiencing life to the 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
-- in your actions, while still loving and feeling? Is it not much better and actually much 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
outwardly, because the inner no to loving and feeling has been removed. All this does not mean 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
if I were to say what the right feeling should be in theory, it would not help 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
feels pity instead of the much more productive feeling of compassion. Whenever you are crushed by the 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
aware of. A universal attitude is that of feeling a certain satisfaction at another's misfortune, not only 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
prevents you from claiming your freedom, asserting yourself, feeling that you deserve to be happy. Whenever you 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
an overreaction of despair, hurt, self-abasement, or a feeling of injustice. You forget, at least emotionally, that 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
lack of love, manifesting in deed, thought, or feeling, and the second by the self-deception and hypocrisy 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
relate, and assert your rights without the gnawing feeling that you have not really conveyed what you 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
by uncertainty or fear, or the slightest gnawing feeling of real or false guilt. The wish is 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
state of conflict is counteracted by a contrary feeling which makes the energy current weak. But if 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
the blessings which he experiences as a wonderful feeling of peace, of hope, and of joy. But 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
as faith, or any other productive attitude or feeling -- can grow on firm foundations, without any 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
attitudes may prevail: blindness, laziness of thinking and feeling, selfishness, egocentricity, cruelty, vindictiveness, and so on. The 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
may be more a question of attitude and feeling, rather than of actions, because you may be 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
is dullness of mind, laziness of thinking and feeling. Going through life blindly, as though wearing blindfolds 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
will be experienced as a role. Observing this feeling may give you a very good clue to 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
you use the words as material for thinking, feeling, and experiencing. Be blessed again, my dearest friends 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS
The wall is hard and brittle; it prevents feeling and experiencing and causes the first type of 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
kinds of rigidity: one dulls your capacity of feeling and experiencing; the other colors your views and 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
most immature, unjustified demands from others to avoid feeling guilty or fearing unwelcome consequences. In both cases 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
total of the inner personality: the thinking, the feeling, the concepts, the potentials, the attitudes, the patterns 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
of describing the difference would be that a feeling is deeper-rooted and more permanent. By this I 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
quality, in consistency, in character, in being. A feeling may truly change faster than an emotion, and 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
The real self sends forth feelings. Hence, a feeling is something much more substantial. This cannot be 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
be evaluated by the apparent worth of the feeling or emotion. You may have an unpleasant feeling 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
feeling or emotion. You may have an unpleasant feeling, yet it is based on truth, on reality 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
quality is true, you are dealing with a feeling, even if highly unpleasant. In another case you 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
an emotion. When you do not push the feeling aside, you will come to see that you 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
you should never push aside an emotion, a feeling, or anything else, for that matter -- you 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
in you that prohibit feelings and intuition. A feeling always reacts to reality, however temporary this particular 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
utilized subjectively, produces an emotion and not a feeling. Feelings are based on objectivity, emotions on subjectivity 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
correct in understanding that anything can be either feeling or emotion? Fear, for instance? ANSWER: Yes. That 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
further understanding. Try rather to deal with the feeling, or emotion, as it comes up. Try to 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS
with an influx of strength and inner joy, feeling that they are at one with life, I 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
has been derived from it, then this wonderful feeling of aliveness is bound to manifest. That the 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
lack of living in the now and therefore feeling real. The crassest symptom is not feeling that 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF

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