| Disappointments.............33 | |
| the primitive reaction of blaming God for one's disappointments and the failures of others; the most primitive | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| the existence of God because of one's personal disappointments. The human being who does so has not | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| and happiness, periods of darkness, periods of light, disappointments in other human beings, and unwaveringly trust again | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| reactions repeat themselves throughout your life. Review the disappointments that apparently have nothing to do with your | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| face the world, their feelings, and the unavoidable disappointments, so they withdraw and use desirelessness as a | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| when you are completely fearless of hurts and disappointments is the time ripe, my dear ones, and | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| lies the very nature of your disharmonies and disappointments. The only way out is to have the | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| but they cannot succeed -- to avoid the disappointments of life in that way. As I often | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| the worst in you. You will take life's disappointments with a certain equanimity. You will become capable | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| begin by becoming aware of the many little disappointments that you do not allow to be conscious | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| it. By becoming aware of your many little disappointments, you will come to see how you reacted | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| cease to be one. When you suffer occasional disappointments, you will not be half as despairing as | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| made with life. They may protect themselves from disappointments and failures, which in reality would not hurt | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| in one variation or another, from your childhood disappointments. You still have not come to terms with | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| learn a lesson from one's own tiny insignificant disappointments than from another person's tragedy. As to the | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the very solution they undertake brings problems and disappointments, they try even more strenuously to pursue what | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| and disappointment are common. If such pains and disappointments are not experienced consciously, they are allowed to | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| life. Because of it you go through repeated disappointments. So we have to deal with the various | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| on repressing your needs, your hurts, and your disappointments. Perhaps you experience them to a certain degree | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| will occur. There will be setbacks and occasional disappointments in which you have the opportunity to observe | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| your knowing it. Thus, these outer relapses and disappointments are a necessary period of strengthening the new | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| from defense. Such people, in spite of occasional disappointments or setbacks, have a life full of fruitful | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| be followed through. All this takes time. More disappointments may come, but now they can be utilized | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| experience your capacity to cope with setbacks and disappointments, to relinquish your will if need be, the | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| pleasurable, advantageous, as well as your hardships, suffering, disappointments, unfulfillments, so-called bad luck, the repetition of unfavorable | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| them. You are not yet discouraged by repeated disappointments. The hopelessness, depression, and sense of futility are | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| nihilistic world view, they hide their private fears, disappointments, and suffering, their distrust in their own innermost | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| attitude, even if there are occasional difficulties and disappointments, which you more or less master whenever they | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| or inner obstructions prevent full mutuality. The consequent disappointments may lend even more justification to unconscious fears | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| that is not bound to wind up in disappointments and disillusionments. This hope slowly but surely grows | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| be trusted, while you despair about your constant disappointments, refusing to connect them with the fact that | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| about because I didn't want to deal with disappointments. But I also felt that I must have | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| to have any kind of expectations will cause disappointments which, in turn, set off a chain reaction | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| Disapproval.................32 | |
| is the connection, and the difference, between fearing disapproval and wanting approval, as against fearing public opinion | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| provided you are certain of yourself, that the disapproval, if it actually exists, is but an illusory | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| demands. Thus you are in a vicious circle. Disapproval strikes a chord in you because you know | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| less dependent on approval from others. If, then, disapproval still comes occasionally, you may search to see | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| moment you find it, the justified or unjustified disapproval will no longer hurt. In this attitude you | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| this attitude you will not fear criticism or disapproval; your forcing current will dissolve. If it is | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| souls will regard any minor rejection, criticism, or disapproval as such drastic danger that they will again | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| By the same token, any little criticism or disapproval may completely spoil your mood. It may plunge | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| think you should be. On the other hand, disapproval, criticism, or failure are also final. Now, the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| inordinately strong, it is in proportion to your disapproval of yourself. Because you cannot live up to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| of yourself as a whole because of your disapproval of these trends. This is the moralizing I'm | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| You are also confused because you think that disapproval of your immoral impulses means disapproval of yourself | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| think that disapproval of your immoral impulses means disapproval of yourself as a whole. Now you may | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| heed them out of a general fear of disapproval and a lack of belief in the validity | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are touched, or when you encounter criticism or disapproval. You will detect a hardening, a fearfulness, an | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| is born out of fear of loss or disapproval -- will you derive and give joy in | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| two sources of knowledge. They fear to risk disapproval if they follow their intuitions. This is a | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| they contradict one's idealized self- image and bring disapproval and rejection. But they are often more acceptable | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| up control by standing alone and risk the disapproval of others. When one ceases to manipulate one's | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| to conform, to get approval or ward off disapproval, or just to survive, creates resentment and fatigue | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| unquestioned standards. This fence seems a protection against disapproval or rejection. But you imprison yourself, and the | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| from the concern to gain approval, ward off disapproval, and not from a sincere concern for the | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| at least anticipate rejection and discrimination, slight and disapproval. Very often you think it already has happened | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| This morality is based on the fear of disapproval. People may fight it because in their minds | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| and betray oneself in order to ward off disapproval, censure, and rejection. The need to be accepted | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| shows openly, it will evoke great censure and disapproval and possibly even overt rejection. I invite all | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| fear of authority or of the consequences of disapproval. The ego strength of such healthy self-assertion makes | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| need to be strong enough to withstand the disapproval of the world to follow you own spiritual | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| governed by true considerations, not by fear of disapproval, by dependency on another's good opinion, by fear | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| ideas and thoughts and to risk disagreement and disapproval are basic. Mental fusion can only exist when | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| unresolved problem may be fear of ridicule and disapproval from the world around them; they lack courage | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| be obedient out of guilt and fear of disapproval, but will know this is right for me | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| Disapprove..................12 | |
| of your choice, because your environment seems to disapprove of your way. In reality, there is not | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| some people do not love you, or even disapprove of you, it will no longer be a | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| if your dear ones have shortcomings that you disapprove of, or if their opinions vary from yours | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| still are induces you to hide what you disapprove of and causes you to have a stringent | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| good or bad, right or wrong. Because you disapprove of the social or immoral instincts you still | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you are, in spite of the instincts you disapprove of, you cannot grow out of them. I | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| condition. If one part of you did not disapprove of these needs, you would not find it | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| It is your fight against the laziness you disapprove of. You do not know how to fight | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| perceiving the feelings of another. They do not disapprove or criticize. They demand a minimum of personal | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| to do, say, think and feel things you disapprove of. Awareness removes these symptoms and, while awareness | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| permit themselves to experience emotions they fear or disapprove of, and above all, do not wish to | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| want something that is destructive or that I disapprove of. And I say to you, again and | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |