| Disappointing...............13 | |
| To turn to God because this is less disappointing and hazardous represents the first grade of elementary | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| Every indication of reality clashes with your illusion, disappointing you, and in turn creating unconscious hostility in | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| therefore never works. This is all the more disappointing because in reality the very opposite happens to | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| problematic, fraught with tension and, in the end, disappointing. It cannot be otherwise if one attempts to | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| which must let you down. Both alternatives are disappointing, because they are the result of misunderstanding, exclusiveness | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| they are so afraid their acceptance may prove disappointing. This is a very general situation. Have the | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| nothingness -- that may even be frightening or disappointing. Finally, the universal spirit will begin to manifest | 175 CONSCIOUSNESS: FASCINATION WITH CREATION |
| and errors. The result must be chaotic and disappointing. Unless a person is willing to make order | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| to some degree, the ensuing experience will be disappointing, and will leave a lot to be desired | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| from the inner being, the results must be disappointing. Willpower, the outer will, can indeed be effective | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| will turn out to be particularly costly and disappointing to the individual. The new cosmic force has | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| subjugation. This has turned out to be a disappointing, unfulfilling way of life for her. All misconceptions | 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE |
| be realistic -- because you already know the disappointing results of wishful thinking -- you revert into | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| Disappointment..............95 | |
| the other could cause me pain. Fear of disappointment is a sign of oversensitivity, and the oversensitivity | 4 WORLD WEARINESS |
| conflict must be entered. This will be a disappointment, for people, until they face themselves, believing that | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| that their reluctance is caused by fear of disappointment, that perhaps it cannot be this way, a | 12 THE ORDER AND DIVERSITY OF THE SPIRITUAL WORLDS-THE PROCESS OF REINCARNATION |
| the part desiring truth in order to avoid disappointment. The higher self and the lower self are | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| remains for you to do. If sadness, or disappointment, or any lack of understanding comes your way | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the rejecter's own fear of life, of disappointment, of inferiority, of insecurity, and any number of | 32 DECISION-MAKING |
| earth sphere there is a considerable amount of disappointment. Sometimes human beings turn to God only because | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| loving Him. From human beings I experience only disappointment and hurt. Now this, my friends, is the | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| it. If you pray to God in your disappointment, asking Him, Father, help me find out what | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| actually presents itself, your fears of pain and disappointment. To master your life you have to jump | 36 PRAYER |
| avoid what they fear in life: pain, suffering, disappointment. The error, the wrong conclusion lies in failing | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| search is started. Each time it is a disappointment that can only be understood when you grasp | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| to find out whether you fear love and disappointment. Isn't it more comfortable to just live for | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| But wherever fear of being hurt, fear of disappointment, or fear of life's risks exists, emotional maturity | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| price of living includes an occasional hurt or disappointment. The mature person knows this, expects and accepts | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| degree. Otherwise it must fail and therefore bring disappointment. It tends to be in a hurry believing | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| negative attitude because they are so afraid of disappointment; they try to avoid the disappointment by shielding | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| afraid of disappointment; they try to avoid the disappointment by shielding themselves with the negative attitude. So | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| the proper attitude to guard against failure or disappointment, it is an indication that failure and disappointment | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| disappointment, it is an indication that failure and disappointment are greatly feared. And if you fear them | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| and occasionally also later, when experiencing a hurt, disappointment, frustration, or rejection, wishes to die. When analyzing | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| few people who have not experienced grief and disappointment because they felt betrayed. They have displayed utmost | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| the injustice that hurts you more than the disappointment in a particular person. This may still seem | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| also in the sense that sorrow, unhappiness, darkness, disappointment, hurt are each a little bit of death | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| Recognize your fright of every little hurt and disappointment. As you focus your inner view in that | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the illusion that every slight, hurt, or disappointment is a tragedy to guard against. The solution | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the other hand, when it cannot, your crushing disappointment is equally unrealistic. The many repercussions and ramifications | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| other people's reactions toward you, you have felt disappointment. And you have to see what this unconscious | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| And you have to see what this unconscious disappointment made you do. Only then can you give | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| will not even think of this slight or disappointment anymore. This is the child in you who | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| say, no. If the joy is unrealistic, the disappointment will be all the more crushing. Hence, you | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| something that the child in you considers a disappointment. How then, does the absence of this forcing | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| something different from your prefabricated situation will create disappointment, and therefore hostility. As I have said, the | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| far as possible. As long as the hurt, disappointment, and unfulfilled needs of your early years remain | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| it never is! As time goes on, each disappointment weighs heavier and your soul becomes more and | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| very facet you were convinced had been resolved, disappointment and discouragement may be a greater stumbling block | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| longer need to protect yourself from hurt and disappointment when you do love, nor will you need | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| you want, or to protect yourself against the disappointment and frustration of not getting what you want | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| so, but when you examine your feelings of disappointment or frustration, you will find their true intensity | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| self-image. As a child, the human being encounters disappointment, helplessness, and rejection -- both real and imagined | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| implications. You are even unaware of the acute disappointment of now having attained a partial goal. You | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of this weakness, as well as of the disappointment of not getting their way. Unconsciously, they feel | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| complaints are often motivated by the inner subjective disappointment of not being taken care of. When you | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| that is utterly good to you, and your disappointment that you could not find it. It will | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| circumstances exist in every child's life; pain and disappointment are common. If such pains and disappointments are | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| That means remaining personally uninvolved, not risking pain, disappointment, personal involvement. Can you love in such a | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| such are not dangerous, but it is our disappointment in ourselves that makes them so powerful or | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| asked, there is a feeling of letdown and disappointment with the answer. One expects liberation from the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| be disappointed, perhaps unconsciously so, and in your disappointment, you become hostile -- perhaps again unconsciously. When | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| all, and so they guard against the dreaded disappointment by summoning their inherently childish claim for omnipotence | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| only due to fear of suffering, hurt, and disappointment. The three aspects to be considered can be | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| only exist due to fear of hurt and disappointment, but also due to the fear of having | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| scope for determination. Even if you experience a disappointment, you will be able to see other opportunities | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| will be able to see other opportunities. The disappointment will not paralyze your faculties and freeze your | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| expose yourself to. Any unfulfillment, hurt, rejection or disappointment causes an infinitely deeper suffering in the displaced | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| also apply to temporary situations. After a poignant disappointment, an individual may deny a hitherto accepted need | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| cannot possibly be expected. You will therefore avoid disappointment and frustration. I do not mean to imply | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| of one's own needs creates excessive one-sided demands, disappointment and fear must create a barrier of separateness | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| negative results, which then come as a double disappointment and discouragement. The only way change can come | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| any person or cause -- is feared because disappointment is taken for granted. So the individual plays | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| you may be punished, as well as the disappointment. You do not take a chance of being | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| chance is extended, in the false assumption that disappointment will then hurt less. Apart from the fact | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| from the fact that this is not so, disappointment is unavoidable when you deny before openheartedly trying | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| you overexert yourself, weakening your energies and courting disappointment and frustration. If you understand, however, that all | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| future, a beginning that will end either in disappointment or in a precarious fulfillment that you do | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| specific choice. The wasted energy produces failure and disappointment when you give in to the line of | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| that thus it will overcome the obstruction. Pain, disappointment, and complications follow. People are usually so shortsighted | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| be better than others, I must be separate, disappointment is inevitable. This belief cannot bring the desired | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| must always prove a way of error and disappointment. You cramp up against that which you fear | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| with the threat of new painful experience or disappointment. This shrinking from the life process numbs you | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| inner fight and self-division. When you fear hurt, disappointment, frustration, you fear experience per se. If you | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| the emotions that cause it: the fear of disappointment and pain which numbs the feelings, which in | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| fulfillment is unrealistic and leads to pain and disappointment. At still other times, the desire may again | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| must lead to unfulfillment and therefore frustration and disappointment -- which, in turn, produce resentments, bitterness, anger | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| must be made conscious. Also, your fear of disappointment, your lack of courage to be happy, hold | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| is, in effect: I refuse to suffer any disappointment. I must have what I want at all | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| When the small, momentary frustration or difficulty or disappointment is dramatized into a tragedy and induces a | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| that cannot be done and must prove a disappointment. This extreme reaction takes place in the innermost | 183 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF CRISIS |
| and hate. On the emotional level, longing and disappointment alternate with fulfillment in fantasy. This indicates some | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| Withdrawal and contraction also include anger and hate, disappointment and blaming. When self-acceptance makes mutuality possible and | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| breeds hopelessness. Hence, there is always so much disappointment -- and then the fear of the disappointment | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| disappointment -- and then the fear of the disappointment mars the good experience, so that the disappointment | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| disappointment mars the good experience, so that the disappointment becomes inevitable. Whenever you are in a blissful | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| based on unreality, it must lead to inevitable disappointment and to an apparently even more justified negativity | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| you can let a feeling -- pain, fear, disappointment -- happen to you and go to its | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| them, just as I can endure pain or disappointment. I now decide to no longer believe in | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| pain, together with its derivatives, such as frustration, disappointment, rejection, and believe that you must not experience | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| they are not. The conviction that pain and disappointment must not exist creates a very tight and | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| usually lead to a crash, to a severe disappointment whose origin cannot be pinpointed -- which is | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| the new consciousness so much that you fear disappointment, and yet you also fear finding this consciousness | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| leaves you empty. No wonder it is a disappointment, even if you do succeed in it at | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| When you fail to realize the daydream, your disappointment reinforces the superstition of pessimism. What was begun | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| potential and state, I can take a momentary disappointment and make it a stepping stone. I need | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| the ability and willingness to experience pain or disappointment and learn from it and use it as | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| fear of being less protected from hurt and disappointment without the secrets. This fear is an outright | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |