| Demanded....................7 | |
| ascend spiritually. Such a task may sometimes be demanded from a person, but this is an exception | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| -- adopted merely because it was expected and demanded. It is the same with love. You cannot | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to love as if it were a duty demanded by conscience and obedience, the less does it | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| message that if life does not yield the demanded result, it is bad and unfair, which you | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| grudgingly and unwillingly because you pretend it is demanded of you, it cannot be called giving. In | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| called giving. In another sense true giving is demanded of you, for if you want the privileges | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| of rebelliously executed duty, resenting anything that is demanded by life. Being full of resentment, he will | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| Demanding...................42 | |
| to God's Plan of Salvation? You are always demanding something, not necessarily in direct prayer for the | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| miracle that will procure happiness for you without demanding from you all you have in honesty, willpower | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| knowledge creates fear, since the self-will is still demanding its gratification. If you meditate on these words | 30 SELF-WILL, PRIDE AND FEAR |
| life only by going with it, by not demanding that life follow their wishes, but following life | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| So when, with your insistent inner crying and demanding, you get the supposed advantage, you also get | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| putting yourself on another plane, separated from others, demanding more than you give, unconsciously, emotionally, psychologically. You | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| actually hear the inner voice shrieking for and demanding approval. You have to observe the occasions when | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| are wonderful, they are a hardship on you, demanding a saintly life that is not to your | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is as unreasonable, as void of understanding, as demanding and one-sided as all immature creatures are. Its | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| maturity you really need and want. In not demanding to be loved as a child, you will | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the more stringently you will moralize. The more demanding the standards of your idealized self-image, the more | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you have already evolved from the state of demanding happiness from life and others, resenting it when | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| further assume that this same mother was quite demanding as far as work in school was concerned | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| little. We speak here of a personal love, demanding love in return, not of a detached love | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| their affection is unwilling to receive the powerful, demanding force that they emanate. If you were less | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| Rather, see yourself as you extend this strong, demanding force and observe your reaction when it is | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| does not meet a love-power that is so demanding and so forceful. Only too often both distortions | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| about eighteen years old, he became even more demanding and the parents could not gratify these demands | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| from the childish voice within you that keeps demanding more, angrily and endlessly? Only when you know | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| extremes: either to remain the greedy, selfish child, demanding to receive exclusively and not being disposed to | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| conscious mind ignores the fact that a crying, demanding, angry, and helpless child still exists within you | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| If you are at war with yourself by demanding to be other than you are now, you | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| perfection. Perfectionistic ideals are, as you know, extremely demanding and rigid. Adhering to them stems not from | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| perhaps in a concealed way, she is too demanding. She may never openly express these silent demands | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| rigid insistence on one's own way, arrogance in demanding special treatment from life, and the exaggeration that | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| the self-esteem they could not feel when remaining demanding, resentful children. This is yet another step toward | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| everyone from doing this with ease. The destructive, demanding, punishing, and spiteful child usually manifests in a | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| needs that are by now false needs, on demanding that conditions be different, and that life now | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| face your incommensurate attitude -- your hatred, your demanding love -- and truly give it up, you | 194 MEDITATION: LAWS AND VARIOUS APPROACHES-SUMMARY (MEDITATION AS POSITIVE LIFE CREATION) |
| are unjustified; another part feels so deprived and demanding that it reacts as though the world ought | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| and you simply wish to be a greedy, demanding, and unreasonable child. On the other hand, you | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| is misinterpreted by the negative, greedy, ungiving and demanding personality, confusion sets in. The longing is then | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| itself inefficient: you become more forceful, more possessive, demanding, jealous, and domineering. Thus the energy system closes | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| are, for example, ready to follow such a demanding path of self-confrontation and growth, but resist your | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| you hear occasionally the voice of the childish, demanding, negative self. Then, of course, you are convinced | 220 REAWAKENING FROM PRE-INCARNATORY ANESTHESIA |
| on which the old attitude of taking, wanting, demanding and not giving is transformed into an attitude | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| enough to be capable of pursuing such a demanding path as this is also capable of immense | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| figure should give you all the privileges without demanding from you love, giving, a sense of responsibility | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| and change conditions. Instead, you are mostly busy demanding from others that they present you with the | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| abused, those who are unwilling to assume the demanding task of leadership are not right to rebel | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| other end of the scale, that the lazy, demanding personality wants to be taken care of, be | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| and His plan, and on the other as demanding a self-defeating denial of intrinsic human values, energies | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Demands.....................259 | |
| They go to God and make wishes and demands, but they are not willing to give anything | 1 THE SEA OF LIFE |
| of a less highly evolved being. Blind, impossible demands may rub him sore, so to speak. They | 5 HAPPINESS FOR YOURSELF OR HAPPINESS AS A LINK IN THE CHAIN OF LIFE |
| you to follow only that which your spirit demands and which your higher self longs for. The | 19 JESUS CHRIST |
| in the future. To compute all these data demands trained experts, working with unceasing effort, foresight, and | 20 GOD: THE CREATION |
| resistance to a person. To fulfill a task demands a great severity with the self and by | 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH |
| if you would test your emotions, examine their demands as to what they actually mean and express | 31 SHAME |
| to live according to the spiritual law that demands that you direct your efforts where they can | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| Only a perfect being could rightfully make the demands you so often make more or less unconsciously | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| into the depth of your soul. This work demands your best, my friends, for that is the | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| and you throw a temper-tantrum inside when your demands are not met. These demands are made on | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| inside when your demands are not met. These demands are made on very faulty premises. Therefore, you | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| passing the threshold into true love. True love demands much more of people in a spiritual sense | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| this force up into the volitional love that demands overcoming and working in order to pass the | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| I mentioned earlier. The compulsive second conscience makes demands that are impossible to fulfill. Each time you | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| not dare to look. This right middle way demands a certain objectivity. But do not forget, you | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| or sister who thereby suffers a disadvantage ultimately demands a much higher price from you than what | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| as on the part of the spirits. It demands an entirely different kind of mediumship than ordinary | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will eventually find that part in you that demands to be elevated to first place, that desires | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| to which a person goes to meet the demands of the image is usually completely unconscious until | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| His position was better suited to satisfy the demands of the universal rulership principle of the infant | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| knowledge, then it can be constructive. All this demands understanding and discrimination, judgment -- and certainly a | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| to guard against. The solution of this problem demands therefore that you recognize 1) your substitute emotions | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| with all its selfishness, egocentricity, one-sidedness and unfair demands. Thus you are in a vicious circle. Disapproval | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| be able to sense or recognize the childish demands of the other person. You will then be | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| discover and experience the existence of the unfair demands of the child in you, you can reason | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| fear it. If you do not make childish demands and are therefore able, gradually and little by | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| One part of your psyche sabotages the rightful demands of the other part. Since you are unable | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| deviate from it by your unspoken expectations and demands. If you are truly honest with yourself, you | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| parent who has come closer to meeting your demands. Important as it is to find both parents | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| the procedure, not by outwardly submitting to unjustified demands out of weakness and fear, but by constructive | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| at other times. And it is necessary. It demands a battle on your part to attain victory | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| only takes knowledge and experience, but it also demands a great deal of intuition, understanding, and talent | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| will also discover what your particular idealized self demands. There are also facets of the idealized self | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| of being as perfect as your idealized self demands, and never give up whipping yourself, castigating yourself | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| proven that you cannot live up to its demands. A sense of abject worthlessness comes over you | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| you whenever you fall short of these fantastic demands and engulfs you in misery. This misery may | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| more insecure you feel, the more stringent the demands of the superstructure or idealized self, the less | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| most particularly and in detail what your specific demands and standards are, and, further, you have to | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the exact nature of your idealized self: its demands, its requirements of self and others in order | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| not as yet connect them with the fantastic demands of your idealized self. Only after fully seeing | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| easy to see, but as you recognize the demands, the contradictions, the cause-and- effect sequences, the difference | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| wants to be perfect, according to its specific demands, right now. The real self knows this cannot | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| annihilation, they comply with the real or imagined demands of others, cringing and crawling to the point | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| the goody-goody type is. Since this idealized self-image demands such power and independence from feelings and human | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| has this effect. When one closely analyzes the demands of any idealized self-image, one finds that omnipotence | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| this light. You will then find what impossible demands your idealized self-image makes on you. You will | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| also begin to see that, because of these demands of the self, you need other people to | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| other people to help you cope with these demands. Unconsciously, you put pressure on others to give | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| feel they exist, either because they contradict the demands of your idealized self, or because everything that | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| of the intensity of the anger, the childish demands and claims, which are the real reason for | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| become utterly clear how outrageous and childish your demands are on others and on yourself; how you | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| I pointed out, an externalization of your own demands on yourself. You reason that if others were | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| mixture of the true good intentions and the demands of the idealized self. Therefore the pretense is | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| need to triumph over others, competitiveness, and excessive demands. The idealized self-image will be set up according | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| of a quest for power, with all its demands, aggressiveness, and power drive. The psyche thinks: If | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| but deeply hidden, you will also find excessive demands, no less than those in the aggressive, power-driven | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| person. You will find that just because these demands exist -- for love, protection, and nurturing -- | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| that this will make others comply with your demands. Yet the conscious acknowledgement of such demands crassly | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| your demands. Yet the conscious acknowledgement of such demands crassly contradicts the general character of such people | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| the general character of such people. Therefore the demands have to be kept under cover, causing additional | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| under cover, causing additional guilt. The greater the demands, the more you feel you must hide them | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| double guilt: one over the existence of your demands, the other over the insincerity of your modesty | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| a ruthless selfishness, self-centered pride and superiority, excessive demands and often even cruel impulses toward others. The | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| not be as striking nor as incongruent. The demands and standards of the idealized self will be | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| guilt feelings. It would also strengthen the exaggerated demands and standards of your idealized self-image. It would | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you cannot live up to these goals and demands, your pride collapses. You are crushed and feel | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| se. In other words, the rigid standards and demands of the idealized self-image not only serve the | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| as good and obedient as the submissive attitude demands; the false guilt of daring to rebel and | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your own endeavors. You will understand what this demands of you, and it will be up to | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| be up to you either to fulfill these demands because you decide they are worthwhile or abstain | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| humor yourself because you will see the preposterous demands of the child in you. This is the | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| with the idealized self-image, and with the excessive demands and expectations you have of yourself -- and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| well as on your own stringent standards and demands of yourself, which develop out of your nonacceptance | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| find what prohibits your true growth. This work demands that you discard the outer mask of appearance | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| do you tend to be irresponsible? Every issue demands a different attitude, a new accounting, and a | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| manner that cannot do justice to their real demands. The driving force to still the hunger is | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| should, by chance, appear similar to the world's demands, you are further hindered in your movement by | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| your own individuality. This is so because your demands are incompatible with reality as you know it | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| in your soul, that becoming aware of them demands your full attention and focused inner will. Yet | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| your great idealized self-image, with all its tyrannical demands upon you, with all the shoulds and musts | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| never be approached in a spirit of God demands it of me. Then it would be compulsive | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| self-indulgent, lazy self-pity of the weak makes stringent demands on their fellow-creatures. This becomes evident if the | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| There is a vast difference between the perfectionistic demands of your idealized self, and the productive life | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| He no longer acts because he feels God demands or expects it of him. He lives in | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| I may add that unconscious expectations, claims and demands cause havoc in relationships. This is not because | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| a mutual strain as they clash with the demands of the other person. Apart from the fact | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| other person. Apart from the fact that some demands are really unjustified and unreasonable, and they can | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| cannot reach out without grabbing and without urgent demands. You cannot give without fear. When you are | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| yourself against the excessive, and perhaps even childish demands of others is by curbing your natural feelings | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| on those around you. For instance, their excessive demands may immediately diminish when they sense a love | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |