| Withdrawn...................24 | |
| development advances, more of the curtain will be withdrawn. The higher developed you are, the more you | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| not wish to be loved. Some people have withdrawn so far and found a temporary, superficial contentment | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| the childhood situation decreases, you will become less withdrawn and you will hurt others less and less | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| where you are selfish and proud, fearful and withdrawn. Search deep within your inner conflicts for these | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| reaching the cosmos, and teaching others, they are withdrawn, held back, and made inactive. Your innermost nature | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| the edifice was indeed built on sand. The withdrawn type and the seeker for power seem to | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| hostility and in an aggressive fighting spirit, the withdrawn type is entirely unaware of such feelings, and | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| distorted independence of either the aggressive or the withdrawn type. You also have to find the cause | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| submissive on one occasion, domineering on another, and withdrawn on still another occasion. Do they perhaps fluctuate | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| it is possible that you are still self-involved, withdrawn, fearful, anxious, bound, and blind to the other | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| surroundings when you are no longer defensive, fearful, withdrawn, and falsely superior. You are then open to | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| strength to defend yourself. All other emotions are withdrawn at that moment. If you were at such | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| as a healthy ambition -- and is lethargic, withdrawn, apathetic, and indifferent. This person comes into contact | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| particularly to those friends who are not predominantly withdrawn, who are eager to give and relate, and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| friends, are you too fearful to love? Too withdrawn? Do you not dare reach out into the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| too little will, if you are resigned and withdrawn, become apathetic and are too fearful to want | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| different from the former. They are both completely withdrawn, live in outer and inner isolation. They can | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| self-searching will never make a person self-centered and withdrawn. If this is the effect, the work of | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the superficial level of manifestation -- the more withdrawn you must be from the world, the less | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| from the over-tension of soul substance makes you withdrawn, taut and immovable, no matter how frantic the | 151 INTENSITY: AN OBSTACLE TO SELF-REALIZATION |
| trapped in apathy. They are distrustful, negative, and withdrawn from life. They have a great resistance to | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| life is eternally moving and where life is withdrawn, movement stops. But from the inverted position within | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| from it. The spirit that is alive has withdrawn from the shell. An inanimate object is motionless | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| that matter is altered after their life is withdrawn. The entire process is heightening and quickening. The | 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE |
| Withdraws...................18 | |
| aggressive communication must be that the other soul withdraws, because the corresponding inner forces restrict, and seem | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| that, unfortunately, is very often the trouble. Whoever withdraws into a shell of isolation, or who aggressively | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| always be so crass that a person actively withdraws. It may be more subtle; you may unconsciously | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| other. And if he loves one, the other withdraws. He is constantly torn. I wonder if you | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| questions. QUESTION: Is the introverted person someone who withdraws from life, or do you consider the introverted | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| desire is rejected; the person in this state withdraws from desiring. As a compensation, the soul strains | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| union. B is frightened of it and therefore withdraws and rejects A. Consequently, A again becomes convinced | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| turn, is a precise indicator that the self withdraws from the challenge of relationship, thereby sacrificing personal | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| unjustly victimized, blames others or life, is resentful, withdraws good feelings in revenge and spite. The person | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| it were, what actually happens is that it withdraws from its shell into another time/space/movement continuum, which | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| and again, in an ever-rhythmic dance -- it withdraws itself at intervals from the life manifestation. As | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| reflection of your consciousness, but when your consciousness withdraws from the body, it remains exactly as you | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| body of matter. During the contracting movement life withdraws into the inner eternal realm that is its | 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION |
| main life pulse is weak. As the movement withdraws back into the inner reality of the spirit | 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION |
| forms pulsating outwardly. When the contraction occurs, life withdraws and matter disintegrates. Although I have spoken about | 246 TRADITION: ITS DIVINE AND DISTORTED ASPECTS |
| first only temporary, for after a while life withdraws again, only to reappear at intervals. But the | 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE |
| according to your outer measurement. When the spirit withdraws to the inner world, the relationship of measurement | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| physical death, the spirit, that which is alive, withdraws into the inner world, not as is often | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| Withdrew....................3 | |
| Perhaps the worst punishment was that your parents withdrew their affection from you; they were angry, and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| to avoid pain. From that moment onward, you withdrew from living, loving, and experiencing -- from everything | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| hidden from yourself and from life; why you withdrew from your own feelings; why you repress and | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| Withheld....................10 | |
| peace is always a sign that you have withheld from your Father in Heaven a part of | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| which I originally yearned for and which was withheld from me back then, thereby forcing me into | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| not extended to a few chosen ones and withheld from others. Grace is all around you. If | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the most desirable person for the child has withheld the love and the free giving of feelings | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| without love, as a substitute for the love withheld, your actions do not remove your guilt. This | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| given and as obviously objects when pleasure is withheld or when it experiences any degree of pain | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| Wherever there are misconceptions, ignorance, false ideas, and withheld emotional matter -- spite, stubbornness, rigidity, inertia -- | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| is forced and coerced, it will automatically be withheld. Your demand for love will be resented even | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| shaky ground. When that admiration and approval is withheld, or perhaps even reversed, the ground shakes and | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| is so, it is not because blessings are withheld from you. It is because you encounter parts | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |
| Withholding.................41 | |
| cheat life by hiding from eros and thus withholding from the soul a medicine, valuable if used | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| will risk expressing your positive feelings rather than withholding them from others, because enveloping the other with | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| and acceptance -- is confused with the parent withholding it. In the confused, immature mind of the | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| on the following wrong conclusion: Love is weakness; withholding love and affection is strength. Since you do | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| safe. The unhealthy soul experiences any rejection -- withholding of love, admiration, and approval -- not only | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| failure on others. Such failure actually results from withholding outgoing forces and being unwilling to risk giving | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| To simulate strength by betraying your real self, withholding love from the weaker ones whom you are | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| results, such as when, for instance, you are withholding and withdrawing, you will still find ways to | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| conscious desire and do not see the unconscious withholding of yourself from the desire, there must be | 131 INTERACTION BETWEEN EXPRESSION AND IMPRESSION |
| human beings must defend themselves against life by withholding the best they are and the best they | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| he or she does not cheat life by withholding from it. Hence, tight, anxious control becomes utterly | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| in your inner life is the pain of withholding what you have to give, rather than of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| such little incidents loosen up the block of withholding that causes more pain than any lack of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| of the creative process. They frustrate themselves by withholding from themselves the intense delight and pleasure of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| such ignorance, this tentative bargaining and petty, distrustful withholding of all the generous spontaneous moves of the | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| by grabbing for what you want and by withholding yourself you add to your advantage. This belief | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| Wherever life is now disharmonious, limited, frustrating and withholding, it will open up gradually and in its | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| and, therefore, resentments! You blame the world for withholding from you what you believe you ardently desire | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| will close the vicious circle by reinforcing the withholding of commitment. Because doubtful withholding makes liberation impossible | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| by reinforcing the withholding of commitment. Because doubtful withholding makes liberation impossible, the doubt itself is seen | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| to love, but fate is slighting you and withholding from you the person who loves you and | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| begun to admit some negative intentions, some deliberate withholding and spiteful attitudes, at least to some extent | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| exploring. Admitting your negative intentions, your spiteful, deliberate withholding. Then make the next connection. Investigate what you | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| Make the bridge between these two aspects: the withholding and the unfulfillment. This will give you an | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| rightfully guilty. For whenever you are negative and withholding, you are not only unloving, but you actually | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| to giving up the negative intention, the spiteful withholding. Now that you see it, do want to | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| me that is now locked into spite and withholding contains other, more natural and beautiful ways of | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| load of guilt. Feel the pain of your withholding, of your spite, of your maligning whether in | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| choose to see only the result of your withholding and spiteful or perhaps cowardly non-giving. You choose | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| caused by your unfair demands, your spite, the withholding of your love, and the compounded guilt caused | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| self, which is geared to protective negativity and withholding, will be set back considerably in this struggle | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| then seems to justify his or her caution, withholding, and negativity. The movement toward closeness is split | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| others without also giving to yourself. Conversely, by withholding from others, you inevitably withhold from yourself. You | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| in between your unfulfilled needs and your spiteful withholding? By more blame? By more demands? Certainly not | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| for that exists too. As you express your withholding, also express your giving, for that exists too | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| justification to become more bitter, resentful, punishing, and withholding of the best of your being. You lose | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| is as real and effective as your spiteful withholding in lack of trust. The venture you are | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| detach from self-serving, as you release the stingy withholding from life, the spiteful non-givingness, as you come | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| that the universe is no different: ungiving, stingy, withholding, hoarding, tight, ungenerous, leaving you poor. You expect | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| suspicion which you project from your own unmoving, withholding, ungiving attitude makes you fear life and see | 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE |
| it comes to your non- actions, your lukewarm withholding or not taking a stand, not actively searching | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |