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weariness can be found in an attitude of withdrawal, in which a person retires into a lonely 4 WORLD WEARINESS
risks, or out of a crass ego-centeredness. Such withdrawal into a self-created world may yield them certain 4 WORLD WEARINESS
used as a rationalization for the pseudo-solution of withdrawal from life because the negative unconscious is constantly 39 IMAGE-FINDING
which the child within still yearns. An individual's withdrawal from and refusal to love is often much 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
in the last analysis always create fear and withdrawal from life. When the illusions are gone, the 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
you can, the good and the bad, without withdrawal, without fear. For life cannot ever harm you 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
self-punishment, your frustration, your anger, your hostility, your withdrawal from giving out love and affection, all these 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
is the attitude I have so often called withdrawal. In this case, people are convinced of never 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT
rather than finding your own causes. It is withdrawal from life, or antagonism against it, due to 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
unresolved conflicts and problems, the motivation for such withdrawal will be unconscious and negative. In the relatively 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
of over-eagerness coming from an exaggerated need, and withdrawal. Strange as this may sound, sometimes you pursue 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
tentative feelers of the other soul back into withdrawal, or by insisting on your own isolation and 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
false detachment, which is nothing but fear and withdrawal into isolation, protection against being hurt. The hurt 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
life's problems. The attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal are the distortions of love, power, and serenity 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
had to be found by resorting to a withdrawal from inner problems, and so from life as 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
and so from life as such. Underneath the withdrawal, or false serenity, that soul is still torn 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
them because they violate the dictates of the withdrawal solution. These dictates are, You must look benignly 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS
and thus receive pleasure. The third pseudo-solution, namely, withdrawal, the quest for serenity, is secondary. It is 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
attempt at solving life takes the form of withdrawal from emotional involvement, a feeling of wanting to 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
category belong the attitudes of submissiveness, aggressiveness, and withdrawal. These three aspects, as well as the idealized 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
of feelings is connected with the pseudo-solution of withdrawal, false serenity, escape from living and experiencing. Both 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
the true sense, a manipulation. As for choosing withdrawal, which is connected with underplaying what you really 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS
wish to avoid. When your pseudo-solution is a withdrawal from feeling, from loving, and from living, it 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
it will then seem to you that your withdrawal was right. Only after plowing ahead will you 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
you reject the other person outright. In your withdrawal, you never give warmth, you never fulfill the 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
You choose either the pseudo-solution of aggressiveness, or withdrawal from life, or appeasement, which robs you of 101 THE DEFENSE
But whether the defense is outer aggressiveness or withdrawal and flight, both are equally damaging and have 101 THE DEFENSE
I just mentioned. Sloth represents the pseudo-solution of withdrawal from living and loving. Where there is apathy 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
produces more waste than sloth, or apathy, or withdrawal -- whatever name you give it. A person 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
from a frustrated need, while sloth is indifferent withdrawal and does not reach out. Yet both sloth 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS
relate. In reality this merely covers up your withdrawal, which exists on a much more hidden level 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
temporary necessity because of a reaction to previous withdrawal, and, as such, the seeking of variety may 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP
unjustified guilts substitute for the real guilt of withdrawal, unlovingness, and isolation. In other words, these little 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
theoretically and intellectually, but actually -- your selfish withdrawal from loving, regardless of how well you keep 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
emotional independence is often misunderstood as isolation, whereas withdrawal from involvement while frantically holding onto dependency is 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
introspection, looking within. To others it may mean withdrawal from the outer world. As to the latter 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS
real or imagined rejections. This must lead to withdrawal in one form or another. Yet, if you 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN
childish greed, the inability to stand frustration, fearful withdrawal, tension, the compulsive need to manipulate, the inability 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
contradictory. It is much more that your fearful withdrawal from life causes a lack of understanding and 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
Perhaps you could say something about the fear, withdrawal, and reluctance one has, although one knows there 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING
so reticent. Being overcautious about loving increases one's withdrawal and isolation. Many an individual is half-willing, but 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF
the false version of letting go, which is withdrawal, indifference, non-involvement, non-commitment, numbness of feelings, separateness and 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL
that it is impossible to completely want isolation, withdrawal, and separation. If it were possible to fully 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN
basic ones: the aggressive, the submissive, and the withdrawal solutions -- they are destined to triumph over 143 UNITY AND DUALITY
leads some individuals into temporarily withdrawing. Of course, withdrawal can take many forms: it can manifest in 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION
include compliance in varying degrees, passive resistance, spite, withdrawal, refusal to cooperate, forceful outer aggression, intimidation, and 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY
self. It is also important to remember that withdrawal can be very subtle and may be outwardly 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
of opening and flow, although without real mutuality. Withdrawal and contraction also include anger and hate, disappointment 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW
-- first perhaps partial, but then total -- withdrawal, that is, contracting movement. A short life span 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION
into surface consciousness. Old age is a slow withdrawal of the personality that lives forever. When you 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE
never be death, there can only be a withdrawal of life from the outer encrustations, leaving them 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE
phenomenon, each incarnation representing a pulse beat, each withdrawal from matter not as a dying of life 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE
as a dying of life, but as a withdrawal from matter, an inbreathing. In this vision you 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE
 
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toward spiritual progress -- which does not mean withdrawing from earthly problems. On the contrary: for earthly 2 DECISIONS AND TESTS
comes, God's world will help again by slowly withdrawing from the medium the occupation that was necessary 9 PRAYER AND MEDITATION -- THE LORD'S PRAYER
you tried to counteract the rejection by unconsciously withdrawing from life, shortchanging it, cheating it in a 53 SELF-LOVE
become willing to love others, often by quietly withdrawing and simply respecting them as human beings, even 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
and how guilty you feel, deep down, about withdrawing. Find also how you need to force others 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
further misconception is that the remedy lies in withdrawing from love altogether. So you fluctuate between the 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
superimposed lack of need that is simply a withdrawing from life, love, and communication due to fear 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION
to bear, they establish a false serenity by withdrawing from life. But what I would like to 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT
do not experience life at its fullest. By withdrawing from pain, you withdraw from happiness and, most 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
between the two ways, you may resort to withdrawing from life, from love, from reaching out toward 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
the self, as well as to others. By withdrawing, you reject others and withhold from them the 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS
that cannot be received, and feeling resentful and withdrawing. You are as yet incapable of preserving a 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES
the two alternatives of either forcing love or withdrawing from your natural feelings are not the only 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING
that too much perfectionism is a substitute for withdrawing from loving in one form or another. The 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS
as when, for instance, you are withholding and withdrawing, you will still find ways to make up 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT
out and obtain what you wish. Instead of withdrawing and pulling back from people, you will reach 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES
inactivate the live center are various: separating and withdrawing, toughening yourself, numbing your feelings, denying your real 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY
of such contact leads some individuals into temporarily withdrawing. Of course, withdrawal can take many forms: it 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION
can depend on yourself much more adequately without withdrawing, without becoming in any way defensive, without becoming 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
if one is inclined to use it. By withdrawing from this challenge and sacrificing the fulfillment of 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
a process of constant billowing, thrusting, expanding and withdrawing, pulsating forward and pulsating back. Pulling back is 238 THE PULSE OF LIFE ON ALL LEVELS OF MANIFESTATION
has already been totally fulfilled. Instead of life withdrawing, a new pulse beat sets in, heralding another 255 THE BIRTHING PROCESS -- COSMIC PULSE

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