| you are aware of the real aims you wish to pursue with your desire for spiritual perfection | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| yourself, being at war with yourself, you nevertheless wish to attain heights of perfection and superiority quite | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you do not yet understand their significance. You wish to gain safety and pleasure through a strong | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| imitation of the real qualities. Because such people wish so strongly to avoid the struggle of life | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| try to find deep down in you a wish for the strong hand of authority that is | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| independence and self-responsibility essential to the God-creature you wish to become. If you understand these words, not | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| to provide you with things you do not wish to obtain for yourself. But the God-consciousness will | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| must not allow myself to feel if I wish to prevent the pain and the experience of | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| that has caused these reactions in you. You wish to ignore the fact that the crisis only | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| not want to be hurt, you did not wish to experience the pain of feeling unhappy. You | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| behind this manifestation. If you truly absorb it, wish to understand it, and go on from there | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| neglect of emotional development in general. I now wish to focus on what you may expect to | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| of yourself, moralizing is a necessary result. I wish to show you how such moralizing stifles the | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| have sufficient questions for discussion, and you so wish, I shall gladly put in a question and | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| your work you have found out why you wish to hold on to these superstitions. I do | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| life and still desiring development and progress. Many wish this very impossibility. They try to accomplish it | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| fact it brings you the very thing you wish to defend against, such promises to yourself would | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| longer need promises to yourself. You will not wish to do it, or feel it, or act | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and the urge for development because you freely wish it. Be blessed, all of you and your | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| that promises to bring about the result you wish; that is, happiness and fulfillment. You may then | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| painful and so humiliating that you did not wish to face it. Also, the experience made you | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| happens now is that because you no longer wish to use it, you hold it back forcefully | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| course is clearly destructive, and although you may wish to follow it, you stop yourself because you | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| it, you stop yourself because you do not wish to harm others. You are divided, which indicates | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| not have to grow up. But if you wish to grow and live a constructive and full | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| the effort have to be yours, if you wish to realize yourself. The state of self-alienation -- | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| result of an unresolved problem. Any way you wish to formulate it, helplessness, powerlessness, paralysis of your | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| weakened and humiliated. Since such fulfillment of every wish, such constant winning, cannot possibly depend on you | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| win and never to do without whatever you wish. When your real self masters your life, your | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| much more painful than the unfulfillment of the wish or goal itself. In other words, the pain | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| firm hold on your home ground, if you wish to utilize this time in such a way | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| subtle; a pretense not only of how you wish to appear in the eyes of others, but | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| the overemotionalism, perhaps because, quite unconsciously, you thus wish to bend life, and others, to your needs | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| repeat: Distinguish between perfection and growing. If you wish to grow, and if you realize that you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| stagnate. Acceptance of imperfection does not mean the wish to remain static. It means only that you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| you never become perfect in this life, but wish with all your heart to grow and change | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| yourself, the more you will realize that you wish to do it in order to live a | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| life, and thus give more happiness. You will wish to override your resistance to facing that which | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| facing that which you suspect is there but wish that it were not. It is not so | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| you get from the activity itself? If you wish to find meaning in your life, cultivate the | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| meaning in your life, cultivate the thought: I wish to serve not only my own shortsighted immediate | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| symptoms -- the daydreams -- and do not wish to recognize them for what they are; therefore | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| rather than the basic fear you do not wish to face: the fear of being yourself. Since | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| the puzzle will fall into place. If you wish, you can observe the nature of your daydreams | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| and correct your falsified impressions? If you truly wish to do so, you will succeed; of this | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| If you can acknowledge to yourself that you wish to maintain a falsified picture and that you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| a falsified picture and that you do not wish to know the truth, the rest will come | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the world, the pain, and all that you wish to avoid. When your pseudo-solution is a withdrawal | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| now life will always grant you what you wish. No, my friends. However, the reality is much | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| of these needs. This is inevitable if you wish to come out of your present state of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| affect the emotional plane. If you do not wish to love, and live in fear of being | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| fear of being hurt, if you do not wish to take the risk of living upon yourself | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| take the risk of living upon yourself, you wish to remain the child who waits helplessly for | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| have automatic reactions without having been taught. I wish to make one more important point: the more | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| often threatens to expose something you do not wish to face? Perhaps it is uncomfortable for you | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| inner causes of your not having what you wish to have. In your search for self-understanding you | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| whatever you lack in your life, provided your wish for it is a healthy one, is caused | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| may be even unaware of what you really wish for. Under these circumstances, you may envy others | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| of you. Blessed is this hour. I now wish to discuss another facet of love, will, and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| and is frightened by it, yet your frustrated wish to love comes out in a stronger force | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| right not to be receptive to what you wish to give. For you it is a question | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| or her to react differently from how you wish to be received. In this way, your life | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| refuse to grant the other the right you wish for yourself. Observe your innermost attitude and currents | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| a negative result. Why? Not because of the wish itself, but because of the reason that necessitated | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| the destructive result, not the quality of the wish itself, whether or not the wish is morally | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| of the wish itself, whether or not the wish is morally acceptable or not. It is the | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| rightness that you suppress, and ultimately repress, your wish capacity, your willpower. You may transform it so | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| hinders your self-expression. If it is an unhealthy wish, you cannot cope with it because you are | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| But it may well be a very healthy wish that you do not allow into consciousness because | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you do not allow into consciousness because you wish to comply with standards superimposed by your society | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| lectures and from your work. Therefore a productive wish proves to be unproductive, or even destructive at | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| of it. (2) Another reason why willpower or wish capacity becomes unproductive is that you have split | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| other person's reality; if the strength of the wish is stronger than reality warrants, then you defeat | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| relaxed steady flow of your will and your wish capacity. Much confusion comes from your tendency to | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| be no life and no growth. If you wish to fulfill yourself and your potential, the outer | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| that this is so. To obtain anything you wish, the will has to be cultivated again and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| that it is nursed by desire, by a wish. Isn't a will also nursed by experience and | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| you do not even get to the real wish, or the need behind it. If you determine | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| something else. Reality should fit into what you wish it to be. That is how such problems | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| terms about a higher state. They not only wish for this higher state because they are unhappy | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| Now, it may very well be that you wish to be without this tendency because you feel | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| innate desire, you have to separate your true wish from your dependency on public opinion. Then, in | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| good versus bad. The mere fact that you wish to be without your problem would not automatically | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| justification and condemnation. That only happens when you wish to live up to superimposed standards and ideals | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| someone wants to write, but cannot. The mere wish will not cause self-condemnation. If, however, society proclaimed | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| is inferior, then, in addition to the simple wish to write, this person would begin to condemn | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| the compulsion to compare will leave the genuine wish free and enable you to be open to | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| work. Before I turn to tonight's lecture, I wish to extend our thanks, from the world of | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| friends, let us turn to tonight's subject. I wish to discuss man's relationship to God in the | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| once gave you an experience and which you wish to recreate by holding onto it. If you | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| applies to many things, my friends. Again, I wish to emphasize that whenever you discover such erroneous | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| prayer is the sincere good will that you wish the best to another person; that you do | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| effect. Not necessarily in the exact manner you wish, but nevertheless, it has a very good effect | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| the candor I so much advocate. So I wish to remind you, once again, also as far | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| them clearly, you cannot gain the self-awareness you wish and which is so essential for your liberation | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| you suffer from certain emotions you do not wish to face -- be they hurts, resentments, envies | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| This is very important, my friends, and I wish you would think about it. Let us take | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| to be selfish -- if that's what you wish to be -- in your actions, while still | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| work in the past, almost everyone has the wish to be accepted and belong to a symbolic | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| but when it comes to practical living, you wish to absolve yourself from it. Subsequently, everything in | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| vegetate and do nothing; that it does not wish to overcome, to make efforts, to cope with | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| frustrations, criticism. It will tell you that you wish just to float. You see, as there is | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| pride of the timid ones who do not wish to expose their ignorance, and, second, the pride | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| facing your lower self. Question yourself: Do I wish to pamper myself? Do I wish to be | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| Do I wish to pamper myself? Do I wish to be in self-pity? Or can I just | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| with the constructive ones? If you cultivate your wish for self-knowledge daily and mean it sincerely, your | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| the knowledge. Sufficient awareness will eventually make you wish to go through the action that makes restitution | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| human terms would be to choose the word wish -- a strong, sincere wish. This is much | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| choose the word wish -- a strong, sincere wish. This is much more than you can, at | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| see. Imagine that you have a very strong wish that is absolutely unhampered by selfish motives, by | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| gnawing feeling of real or false guilt. The wish is a clear stream without the slightest selfishness | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| clear stream without the slightest selfishness. Such a wish is a blessing. Such a crystal-clear strength, undiluted | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| a human being were capable of expressing a wish for someone else in that way, the power | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| in that way, the power and strength this wish would have for a person who is only | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| But wherever walls do not exist, such a wish affects the person and works in the psyche | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| for further propagation of love. QUESTION: Isn't a wish self-will? ANSWER: Not necessarily. QUESTION: How does this | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| How does this combine with giving up your wish to the will of God? ANSWER: If you | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| to the will of God? ANSWER: If you wish something purely loving and unselfish, it is the | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| do the will of God must be your wish. Like with so much else it depends on | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| I have said so often. Why should a wish in itself be something bad? You must wish | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| wish in itself be something bad? You must wish to be truthful with yourself. You must wish | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| wish to be truthful with yourself. You must wish to love. Or, you might wish something destructive | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| You must wish to love. Or, you might wish something destructive. People often stumble over terminology. There | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| necessarily self-will. QUESTION: Do you mean, if the wish is fulfilled, it is a blessing? ANSWER: No | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| I said that if you have a crystal-clear wish for someone else, that is a blessing. Whether | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| QUESTION: And if there is fear behind the wish that it will not be fulfilled? ANSWER: Then | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| not a blessing. A blessing is a pure wish. It is an active current of energy. Fear | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| Fear denotes selfishness. Wishes are energy currents. The wish of a human being in a state of | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| direction, or predominantly in one direction, then the wish is strong. QUESTION: In our discussion the question | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| atonement is dutiful, something you do because you wish to be good, you wish to obey the | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| do because you wish to be good, you wish to obey the law, to be blameless. Restitution | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| have not come home. Now, I do not wish to imply that this is the only symptom | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| in the presence of different witnesses. Do you wish to comment on this? ANSWER: It is what | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| consciously the person may recognize its harm and wish to free himself of it. If one has | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| understand what is behind it and why you wish to preserve it. You have a right to | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| and more permanent. By this I do not wish to imply that feelings do not change. I | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| past or, at least, in the present. This wish generates two contradictory soul movements: one strains forward | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| the truth in some way. You do not wish to see all there is to see. The | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |