| Unrewarding.................3 | |
| it was not true goodness that was so unrewarding but rather false and compulsive goodness. Drawing the | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| into isolation, unhappiness, alienation from yourself, and unsuccessful, unrewarding patterns that you repeat over and over again | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| fact that this kind of aliveness is painful, unrewarding, and limiting. This is his revenge. He wants | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| Unroll......................6 | |
| phenomenon after dying when one sees one's life unroll in front of one's eyes in a very | 12 THE ORDER AND DIVERSITY OF THE SPIRITUAL WORLDS-THE PROCESS OF REINCARNATION |
| you is actually worth accepting and appreciating. To unroll this entire process is painful at first, because | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| be even more frightened. But if they slowly unroll the processes of their emotional deviations, understanding them | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| and anger occurs only subsequently. Thus, you must unroll this entire process, layer by layer, until this | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| which makes it so difficult for you to unroll the whole process and become vibrantly alive. QUESTION | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| and effects? Little by little the personal connections unroll and reveal larger processes, gradually leading into the | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Unrolled....................4 | |
| consider it in the light of the links unrolled in this talk, the meaning will become very | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| can only come when the whole picture is unrolled, which, of course, is impossible in such a | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of course would not be necessary if you unrolled and understood the entire process. Once you have | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| your needs, the entire process has to be unrolled and brought into awareness. Then you will be | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| Unrolling...................3 | |
| emotions, bringing repressed needs to the surface, and unrolling the inner process, while observing the subsequent outer | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| and justice are not immediately visible, but the unrolling of time, in your dimension, makes the connections | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| is quite impossible to see the connections! The unrolling of time extends beyond the human vision. All | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Unruly......................5 | |
| various faults, which appear in your soul as unruly shrubbery and often as poisonous growth, instead of | 36 PRAYER |
| I can only pray and hope that these unruly currents will weaken with time. I cannot help | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| who would act and live out all these unruly feelings. Discover the difference between suppressing these emotions | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| will. This is truly the behavior of an unruly child who needs a parent to discipline it | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| is pedagogic and treats the individual as an unruly child -- though it is surely not your | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| Unsafe......................8 | |
| consequence you will feel safe. Whenever you feel unsafe, this is so because of yourself, never because | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| fixed is safe, and what is flexible is unsafe. Since truth is alive like anything else that | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| light and life. The belief that flexibility is unsafe is one of the great abysses of illusion | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| love, admiration, and approval -- not only as unsafe, but actually as death. All of you who | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| emotionally this is often true. Such one-sidedness is unsafe, yet you attempt to eliminate the danger not | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| hold on to these tools because you feel unsafe without them. You do not trust yourself to | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| in anything you do. It will be as unsafe to hide from yourself as it will be | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| temporarily convincing. He who builds a house on unsafe, sandy ground, may indeed erect a lovely-looking structure | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| Unsatisfactory..............25 | |
| your own behalf. If your present situation feels unsatisfactory in any way, or if you are not | 29 THE FORCES OF ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY -- FINDING GOD'S WILL |
| contact with other human beings proves to be unsatisfactory. Perhaps not enough love is forthcoming; perhaps fear | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| the entire universe to unity will be shallow, unsatisfactory, and temporary. It will not be rewarding and | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| based on untruth, can only lead you to unsatisfactory pseudo-solutions. Only if you free yourself of the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| as it has existed. Unfortunately, these attempts were unsatisfactory and were bound to fail, just as your | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| this is suicide. You are torn between two unsatisfactory and damaging attempts to negate death. These artificial | 81 CONFLICTS IN THE WORLD OF DUALITY |
| but emotionally -- that is equally shortsighted and unsatisfactory as a solution. Dependency on others creates fear | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| yourself and upon others and have seen how unsatisfactory these pseudo- defenses and protections are. All of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| to turn away from it and look for unsatisfactory solutions. But the pain you now experience is | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| child, there would be no conflict between two unsatisfactory alternatives: either letting all destructive impulses loose, or | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| between two alternatives. Of course, both alternatives are unsatisfactory and create a state of hopelessness, simply because | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| hopelessness, simply because they both lead to an unsatisfactory conclusion. Any one of my friends who has | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| living because you are constantly caught between two unsatisfactory alternatives. You react forever to your father and | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| combined a temporary way of life that proved unsatisfactory with this specific constructive trend. One individual or | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| receive. He or she is faced with the unsatisfactory alternative of either giving and resenting it or | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| recognize that they have a conflict between two unsatisfactory alternatives: weakness versus hostility. They cannot find their | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| a situation where you see only two equally unsatisfactory alternatives. This primary misconception distorts the harmonious rhythm | 135 MOBILITY IN RELAXATION-SUFFERING THROUGH ATTACHMENT OF LIFE FORCE TO NEGATIVE SITUATIONS |
| away from yourself, the more superficial, troublesome, or unsatisfactory such contact must be. Be in peace, my | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| you had to lose, that you had only unsatisfactory choices, as you grow in integrity and objectivity | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| in specific daily situations that are unpleasant or unsatisfactory. The conscious ego has to reach down and | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| widen the rift. If you are in shallow, unsatisfactory relationships which lack depth, gratification and intimacy, where | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| within your old possibilities must stay in an unsatisfactory condition no matter how developed you may be | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| consciousness, the sexual experience must be blocked, flat, unsatisfactory, mechanical and, in more severe instances, even totally | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| to force the sexual drive artificially with very unsatisfactory results. The person may resort to artificial stimulants | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| path how tempting this game appears and how unsatisfactory and constricting it really is. It makes you | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| Unselfish...................72 | |
| people often act as though they were already unselfish. But they actually are selfish, and feel the | 14 THE HIGHER SELF, THE LOWER SELF, AND THE MASK |
| practice the right kind of self-occupation, the more unselfish you must become, and therefore the better you | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| capable of giving real love, your act of unselfish giving will bring you a feeling of happiness | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| disciplined effort to concentrate on others and expressing unselfish desires, already creates a definite change in the | 36 PRAYER |
| habits of their erring souls. Love, well-meaning and unselfish goodwill, can be expressed in prayer, but only | 36 PRAYER |
| person may do a good deed, a single unselfish act, but cannot possibly make another person happy | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| selfish person will, while this feeling lasts, have unselfish impulses. Lazy people will get out of their | 44 THE FORCES OF LOVE, EROS, AND SEX |
| others. The more self-aware you grow, the more unselfish you must become, the more conscious of your | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| your personality and integrate with warm, loving, giving, unselfish feelings. Instead, it has remained childish in its | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| more immature you are. You may be extremely unselfish in the little outer things but the outer | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| certain degree. Hence the child is incapable of unselfish love. The mature adult grows into it provided | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| build a certain consciousness. You learn to cultivate unselfish thoughts. Your thoughts are elevated in prayer, thus | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| concentrate can be combined with cultivating constructive and unselfish thoughts, as in prayer. Certainly, concentration could be | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| with the choice of an obviously selfish or unselfish act. The other problem you bring up is | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| selfish, while the outer conscious motive may be unselfish. QUESTION: This question was asked by someone who | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| confused about what is selfish and what is unselfish. Suppose you desire perfect health. In your praying | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| toward self-destruction. Moreover, the desire for this ideal, unselfish love can easily be distorted by the unhealthy | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| to your fellow-creatures. If you are good or unselfish because of the compulsion based on this misconception | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it would be valuable to explore good and unselfish acts in this light. On the surface these | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the surface these acts certainly appear to be unselfish, yet they bring nothing but dissatisfaction. This is | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you cannot be selfish, but you will be unselfish in the healthy and free sense, reserving for | 63 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| your unconscious mind, how can you be freely unselfish in your actions day in and day out | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| day in and day out? Not doing the unselfish act makes you feel guilty, doing it seems | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| activate the free will to decide for the unselfish act rather than be driven to it as | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| make a choice between a selfish and an unselfish act. The unselfish act does not seem to | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| between a selfish and an unselfish act. The unselfish act does not seem to bring you benefit | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| made a full and wholehearted decision for the unselfish act. Decide for it only because you are | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| healthily selfish. I said before that performing an unselfish act for a reward turns the act into | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| confusions, by making independent decisions for carrying out unselfish acts, thus being at one with yourself, you | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| dealing with this subject? QUESTION: When doing an unselfish act and knowing that it doesn't come from | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| is a sign that you still do the unselfish act against an inner conviction, and really out | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| of compulsion. You want to be good and unselfish, but you still feel deep inside that the | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| be made only after you realize that the unselfish act is to your advantage, while the selfish | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| cannot bypass this stage. If you try, your unselfish action will remain compulsive and unfree. In other | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| that you do not want to do the unselfish act, and why. You have to become aware | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| aware of your rebellion in complying with the unselfish acts in the past, as well as with | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| self-search, you are convinced that you do an unselfish act and you hate it without being aware | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| especially because you wished approval. Therefore your apparently unselfish act was really selfish. The selfishness has merely | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| was pointed out that we often do the unselfish thing because we think it is expected of | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| so, thinking it advantageous. Thus you are compulsively unselfish. On the other hand, your true self yearns | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| true self yearns to be good, loving and unselfish but, then, it seems to you, the world | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| compulsively selfish. Hence you are both selfish and unselfish compulsively and in neither way act out of | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| one. Each trend -- the selfish and the unselfish -- is counteracted by the need to comply | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| being selfish, and guilty and ashamed for being unselfish. QUESTION: You said: To succeed, the outer will | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| definite effect on your own soul by the unselfish love and well-wishing, by the constructive desires that | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not the solution. Your aim is to become unselfish out of the conviction that this is what | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you when you submit that you are being unselfish and are offering a sacrifice. It seems to | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| a fog of confusion and unawareness. Even genuinely unselfish motives are not expressed clearly in your thinking | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| to help. This must be the dominant, clear-cut, unselfish motive, consciously cultivated, checked when it is diluted | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| may do a certain good deed, a single unselfish act, but cannot make another person happy. So | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| person on the one hand to be always unselfish, so as to gain love, and, on the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| be selfish, it is also human to be unselfish. Although it is human to have self-pity, it | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| and unreliable in another, both selfish and also unselfish? Yet the child in you does not perceive | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| whether they are right or wrong, selfish or unselfish, if you love. When you do not love | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| as you ignored the selfish motives behind your unselfish acts. Hidden selfish motives induce you to act | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| ANSWER: If you wish something purely loving and unselfish, it is the will of God. To want | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| of this temptation. The warm, positive, generous, loving, unselfish feelings must follow eventually, and the negative feelings | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| emotional climate of egocentricity. Regardless of good intentions, unselfish acts, considerate attitudes, this inner world of egocentricity | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| a loser. Being a loser means to be unselfish, self- sacrificing, good, kind, and considerate. Some people | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| characterized by the following conflict: If I am unselfish, I must suffer. I do not want to | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| to them. You do not dare to be unselfish; you cannot wholly want to be unselfish since | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| be unselfish; you cannot wholly want to be unselfish since it means giving up what you believe | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| give of yourself wholeheartedly, to love, to be unselfish, to be humble, to relinquish the egocentricity of | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| as though this were the more decent' and unselfish way to be. The other seems to be | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| unselfishness, through enslavement, through making myself feel so unselfish because I abdicate my rights. You cannot assimilate | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| that it is as selfish as it is unselfish. Unselfishness is selfishness, and vice versa. Sacrificial unselfishness | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| idea, intent, and thought you form, motivated by unselfish devotion to universal truth, love, faith, expressing a | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| times and that there are times to be unselfish, too. It is very important to apply this | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| real selfishness in order to help you become unselfish without sacrificing personal fulfillment. The lower self with | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| you are selfish, and unhappy when you are unselfish. That false belief is one of the first | 224 CREATIVE EMPTINESS |
| the word, has to want to give unselfishly. Unselfish giving must exist truly in your smallest acts | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| smallest acts. It is not enough to be unselfish in theory, while you continue to practice pettiness | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |