| Self-leadership.............1 | |
| for the freedom and the privileges which only self-leadership can confer. So you want others to lead | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| Selfless....................8 | |
| be a higher aim because it would seem selfless! In this connection you must understand how God's | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| judge whether your dilemma is based entirely on selfless motives -- another person's hurt, a higher cause | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| selfish motive will show you that the outer selfless ones are no longer valid. In other instances | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| In other instances, you will consider the outer selfless motives in spite of the fact that you | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| in a dutiful way to be dedicated and selfless, in order to collect desirable rewards of glowing | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| when you make your unique contribution in a selfless spirit, can you also feel entitled to be | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| you are led naturally to an attitude of selfless giving. It is never a sentimental giving in | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| self-serving, you are a step nearer to truly selfless giving. Why can you not claim your greatness | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| Selflessness................6 | |
| as to be unhappy because this would mean selflessness. In this connection you must understand that God's | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| can no longer be covered up by love, selflessness, or any other holy attitude. The submissive type | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| within. Or consider the proper balance of right selflessness and right selfishness, as opposed to wrong selflessness | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| selflessness and right selfishness, as opposed to wrong selflessness and wrong selfishness. All these balances and dualities | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| selfishness, and from there you come into true selflessness that is not at all contradictory to it | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| comes first, the channel is naturally blocked. With selflessness as the primary concern and focus, world politics | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| Self-liberation.............5 | |
| have and which you can have through your self-liberation. Be blessed, my dear ones, be in peace | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| later. It cannot be emphasized strongly enough that self-liberation, or the transition from the dualistic to the | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| this fear have made a substantial step toward self-liberation, for without being aware of the fear of | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| of the most important aspects of growth, of self-liberation, of purification, of self-esteem. The defense against admitting | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| from the initial emphasis on individual purification and self-liberation, through dissolution of false images, we are now | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Self-like...................1 | |
| if it cannot be helped. The self-respect and self-like that come from such an attitude are more | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| Self-liking.................14 | |
| are secure. When you based your self-respect and self-liking on standards that were unrealizable, impossible, and unfeasible | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| makes you grow; it inevitably increases your self-respect, self-liking, and gives you a sense of security in | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| my friends, be blessed, be in God! 150. SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS Greetings | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| always comes out even: to the exact degree self-liking exists, happiness exists. When self-liking is missing, the | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| the exact degree self-liking exists, happiness exists. When self-liking is missing, the psyche is inhibited from experiencing | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| unquestionable self-understood aspects of life. In this knowing, self-liking is established and, with self-liking, so is the | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| In this knowing, self-liking is established and, with self-liking, so is the capacity to partake in the | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| so. I began this lecture by saying that self-liking is the key to a state of bliss | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| will lessen and the feeling of acceptability and self-liking will grow. It will grow not only because | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| way -- without reservations, in joyful security and self-liking. When you act and move in life in | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| self-esteem, which is of fundamental importance. Self- esteem, self-liking, or self-value -- whatever you call it -- | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| split is healed and unification found, so that self-liking is no longer confused with self-indulgence, and honest | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
| reassuring sense of your own reality. Realistic, well-founded self-liking must result. When you see the truth in | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| To the degree evil is properly faced, self-acceptance, self-liking, new energy and deeper love and pleasure ensue | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| Self-limitation.............1 | |
| you wish to live fully and not in self-limitation and self-deprivation. The more you do this willingly | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| Self-limiting...............1 | |
| duality of the false, childish greed and false, self-limiting sacrifice give way, fullness of experience arises. The | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| Self-loss...................2 | |
| man puts up against his masculinity. He fears self-loss not only because the necessary discipline of fulfilling | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| she uses in order to prevent the dreaded self-loss, the weaker and more dependent she becomes on | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| Self-love...................59 | |
| is not so at all. The kind of self-love that everyone has is a sick and shortsighted | 6 THE HUMAN ROLE IN THE SPIRITUAL AND MATERIAL UNIVERSES |
| I say that this is only true if self-love is practiced by self-indulgently shirking the necessary pain | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| love others. The right kind of self-respect and self-love can only come forth if you pursue and | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| you do not flinch from unhappiness in distorted self-love, self-pity, and cowardice. If you learn from the | 37 ACCEPTANCE, RIGHT AND WRONG WAY -- DIGNITY IN HUMILITY |
| There is a right and proper kind of self-love. Cowardice is nothing but self-pampering, self- pitying self-concern | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| a certain humility and flexibility. It dissolves rigid self-love that cannot take life as it is and | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| attitude of fear and a sick kind of self-love. So the right middle way has to be | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| blessed. Be in peace. Be in God! 53. SELF-LOVE Greetings, my dear friends. God bless all of | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| I should like to discuss the subject of self-love. You all know -- I have said it | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| extreme point of nullification. It is so with self-love. There is a healthy kind that exists in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| wherever unconscious attitudes and currents are distorted, healthy self-love will be distorted as well. Wrong kind of | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| will be distorted as well. Wrong kind of self-love exists in many forms. The crudest is selfishness | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| in you which causes the wrong kind of self-love. There must always be a reason. As long | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| what way you have the wrong kind of self-love. Until you discover all the hidden, subtle emotions | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| You will usually find that a lack of self-love in the right sense is the cause of | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| right sense is the cause of your distorted self-love. When you do not love yourself as you | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| lack of self-respect -- the proper kind of self-love -- you try to substitute disproportionate self-love in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| of self-love -- you try to substitute disproportionate self-love in other areas of your being. You must | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| no longer will need the wrong kind of self-love that in the last analysis only contributes to | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| bargains. There exists also another wrong kind of self-love, whose existence is much more widespread than is | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| because you also detect a slight streak of self-love in this particular fashion. Separate the two without | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| joy in living. Find rather where you lack self-love in the proper way and it will automatically | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| way and it will automatically reduce your distorted self-love. I realize this is slippery ground, my friends | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| Find out what rejection must have caused your self-love, this being in love with yourself or with | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| whenever there is such a wrong form of self-love, rejection, imagined or real, must have played a | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the other pole of the current of wrong self-love. When you can find out where you have | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| it, so to speak. The proper kind of self-love is the natural attribute of the healthy soul | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| just as wrong as the sick kind of self-love. In none of the Holy Scriptures or in | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| healthy, that is, between self- respect and distorted self-love. People often agonize about making the proper decision | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the inability to make decisions. Lack of proper self-love on the one hand and an overgrown, sick | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| psychologically. You rebel against your own lack of self-love, your self-contempt, and choose the sick overcompensation. Actually | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| QUESTION: In connection with the right kind of self-love, would you care to elaborate on self-pity and | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| are the result of the wrong form of self-love. As far as egocentricity is concerned, I believe | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| one draw the line between healthy and unhealthy self-love? What would you call unhealthy? ANSWER: I think | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| love yourself properly you do overcompensate by misdirected self-love. QUESTION: What about narcissism? ANSWER: That is a | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| about narcissism? ANSWER: That is a form of self-love. It can manifest in various ways, not necessarily | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| too, I spoke without using this particular expression. Self-love is distorted when the life-force is directed toward | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| QUESTION: Is there any possible connection between excessive self-love and homosexuality? ANSWER: There may be. It cannot | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| the possibilities can be an excessive form of self-love. Other factors also enter. Another reason for homosexuality | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| factors may all play a role simultaneously. Excessive self-love, leading to homosexuality, or at least being partly | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| love- capacity. The basis of loving is healthy self-love. We have discussed this extensively in the past | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| can you love yourself? So you see, healthy self-love and inner security are directly linked. And since | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| since love for others is dependent on healthy self-love, the former is equally dependent on and connected | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| You claim that an arrogant, unhealthy pride is self-love, when inwardly you merely wish to be better | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| Instead, your trust in life, as well as self-love in the healthiest sense, will fill you more | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| the topic of approach to the self regarding self-love and self-honesty or, in distortion, self-indulgence and self-hate | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| attitude of total dedication to self-confrontation and self-respect, self-love and self-forgiveness in true proportion. You can now | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| godly attitude to be in a state of self-love in the healthiest, most divine way, without a | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| Christ. 240. ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM My most beloved friends, blessed are | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| to the very important aspect of loving yourself. Self-love and love for others are intricately connected. Here | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| than honestly look into your lower self? Does self-love mean giving free rein to the aspirations of | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| not aware, you seek the false solution to self-love, which is self- indulgence and blaming others. You | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| believe that this is the way to attain self-love and self-esteem. The true, guilt-free awareness of other | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| use it, you become further alienated from true self-love and self-esteem. Therefore, if you want to find | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| wish to pay in the hope of attaining self-love through others, or placating a benign authority in | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| your lower self and find more of your self-love. You no longer need to rebel blindly against | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| intense pleasure that permeates your total being. When self-love has not yet been completely established, you contract | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| love of the universe. Yet as long as self-love has not yet quite found a foothold in | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| cleansing and liberating process that makes room for self-love in the healthy sense. It is also true | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |