| Self-fulfillment............23 | |
| real meaning of life and the way of self-fulfillment. Then came the next phase, in which we | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| blessed, be in peace, be in God. 122. SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN Greetings, my | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| fulfill one's life, one must fulfill one's self. Self-fulfillment or self-realization takes place on many levels and | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| true fulfillment. This is what is meant by self-fulfillment. All who fulfill themselves contribute something to life | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| others vanishes, and therefore true relatedness becomes possible. Self-fulfillment also means something much more specific. Humanity consists | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| of men and women. Human beings cannot reach self-fulfillment if they do not fulfill their manhood or | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| which is one of the important aspects of self-fulfillment. Relating to other human beings is always a | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| though nature constantly showed that the happiness of self-fulfillment is a part of life which cannot be | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| letting go, but in reverse, which necessarily impedes self-fulfillment. The same fear applies to a woman, but | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| in the wrong way and thereby prohibiting her self-fulfillment. When a man refuses responsibility, not only in | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| freedom, and love, the result is unity and self-fulfillment. Harmony with the universal forces is established; continuous | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| relating. So, my friends, let us briefly recapitulate: self-fulfillment is dependent on fulfilling yourself as a man | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| one another. On the one hand, I discussed self-fulfillment in a cosmic sense; on the other, I | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| as well as a new inner understanding of self-fulfillment. For only when you are fulfilled can you | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| will then know the truth of these words. Self-fulfillment depends on fulfilling yourself as a man or | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| whatever may lead you to your destiny and self-fulfillment just because it brings joy, since you have | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| harmony with oneself and with life, and thus self-fulfillment. All three depend on awakening and activating your | 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY |
| wrong reasons. That is, they hear that true self-fulfillment means the end of frustration. Now, although this | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| real need to remove the blocks to awareness, self-fulfillment, to intimacy and closeness with others, is expressed | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| the familiar ego habits of finding security and self-fulfillment in at least partially negative ways. I surrender | 221 FAITH AND DOUBT IN TRUTH OR DISTORTION |
| relationships; more sharing; more creative experiences; more meaningful self-fulfillment. Your spiritual self will manifest more and more | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| with you as part of your task of self-fulfillment. Consequently, as you do the transforming work, unification | 222 TRANSFORMATION OF THE LOWER SELF |
| service. And service can be executed only through self-fulfillment. In other words, the apparent contradiction proves, once | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Self-generated..............2 | |
| already brought yourself into the momentum, where the self-generated effort carries you and you no longer have | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| the healing blessing that can unite with your self-generated new energy, is one such manifestation that will | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| Self-generating.............3 | |
| the dynamic experience it otherwise is. Depression is self-generating. Since depression is the effect, it is its | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| quickly leads to a state where energy becomes self-generating. The effort becomes free-flowing and soon ceases to | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| strength to come out of vicious circles and self-generating negative attitudes and will make the understanding of | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| Self-generative.............1 | |
| last lecture, you are moving into a new self-generative process of positive creation and experience. But in | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| Self-giving.................1 | |
| surrender to those higher forces so that this self-giving may occur in harmony, in rightness, without strain | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| Self-glorification..........5 | |
| drives are connected with your idealized self-image, your self-glorification, your feelings of inadequacy and your lack of | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| make you fearfully overmodest or tempt you into self-glorification. Listen deeply into yourself, test various aspects of | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| more separation, and self-idealization must be the consequence. Self-glorification and idealization seems, from this point of view | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| whatever specialty you have chosen for your idealized self-glorification -- then I will receive the necessary approval | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| deep self-acceptance and determination to do away with self-glorification and illusions about the self. The claim to | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| Self-governing..............3 | |
| such positive desires, you will become stronger, more self-governing and less helpless -- and therefore no one | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| least retains a modicum of sanity. The exaggerated self-governing of an aggrandized ego condition is preferable to | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| of the vitality you need to be a self-governing part of the human family. You can become | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Self-government.............16 | |
| govern yourself. Once you realize your right to self-government, others lose their power over you. Once this | 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS |
| that love does not mean giving up dignity, self-government, and freedom, you will not fear it. If | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| That is an enormous difference. Realizing all this, self-government will cease to be a must, and will | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| Thus you are caught in a whirlpool, losing self-government. It is often the case that one resents | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| thing. Psychology also talks about the necessity of self-government and self-responsibility. At the same time, spiritual teachings | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| let God govern one's life. In awareness, however, self-government and accountability for one's actions, thoughts, and feelings | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| up so that the person can assume proper self-government. It is the same way with God's will | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| is the same way with God's will and self-government. Self- government does not mean self will. When | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| the greedy, childish self will is given up, self-government and entrusting oneself to cosmic intelligence become interdependent | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| become interdependent instead of mutually exclusive. Self-responsibility and self-government do not mean arrogant overestimation of the little | 126 CONTACT WITH THE LIFE FORCE |
| with that inner mechanism that affords you relaxed self-government and thus the capacity to build your life | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| without your allowing it. Your apparent lack of self-government is an illusion. How often you exclaim, But | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| is the way to achieve relaxed and truthful self-government rather than strained superimposition. This deep inner decision | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| lose the greatest power at your disposal -- self-government. You confuse this, my friends, with a false | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| at work in that you have given up self-government when you allowed yourself to be taken over | 140 CONFLICT OF POSITIVE VERSUS NEGATIVE ORIENTED PLEASURE AS THE ORIGIN OF PAIN |
| of your community, as well as in your self-government -- the government of the intricate and manifold | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| Self-gratification..........1 | |
| what is on the scale does not warrant self-gratification. At other times, you will waive altruism because | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| Self-hate...................55 | |
| QUESTION: Perhaps you might clarify in what way self-hate keeps one from accepting and loving? ANSWER: I | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| loving? ANSWER: I did not use the word self-hate, I used self-contempt. I explicitly said that to | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| it is too unbearable to be aware of self-hate, unless one unrolls this whole process and sees | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| all sorts. Anger, fury, shame, frustration, self-contempt, and self-hate exist for two reasons. They exist, first, for | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| be combined. Therefore, when submissive, such people feel self-hate, because they think they should be proud, aloof | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| avoid effort and responsibility, you cannot help feeling self-hate and self-contempt, and you become weaker and more | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| either self-acceptance and self- indulgence, or repentance and self-hate. On one level of your being this is | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| others, because you fear the whip of your self-hate. Once you can truly perceive that this dilemma | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| ideas have now a counterpart in self-indulgence and self-hate, both of which derive from cowardice, pride, lack | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| you are supposed to reject, produces the same self-hate you feel as when you lack courage and | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| whether or not you are still projecting your self-hate onto others. Then you will realize the truth | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| you will come out of the pain of self-hate. Be blessed all of you, be in peace | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| a predicament induces feelings of resentment, frustration, anger, self-hate, guilt? And is it not natural that such | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| affects you does not affect others as well. Self-hate, for example, always manifests also as the inability | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| When the misconceptions are being recognized, guilt and self-hate diminish proportionately. What are the consequences when for | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| much greater self-acceptance and understanding of reality. Unreal self-hate and self-disgust will go away. Equally unreal claims | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| one of hurried, impatient pressure. Both derive from self-hate. When you feel stymied and hopeless, take it | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| Denial of anger turns into hostility, cruelty, spite, self-hate, guilt, confusion between blame of others and blame | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| whatever you originally negated. Thus you compound your self-hate and widen the rift. If you are in | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| striving of the personality. The negative attitudes create self-hate, the self- hate increases hate for and distrust | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| hand there will be self-annihilation, self-punishment, and violent self-hate as a reaction to perceiving the self as | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| need to persecute yourself so mercilessly with your self-hate. There seems to be no way to avoid | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| cruelty, vindictiveness, and so on. The guilt and self-hate for these make the original pain seem justified | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| self suspects to exist and wishes to avoid. Self-hate, and a variety of other feelings which you | 217 THE PHENOMENON OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| about your present state -- only leads to self-hate, denial, repression, self-justification and projecting onto others. This | 218 THE EVOLUTIONARY PROCESS |
| its importance and you get stuck in your self-hate, which then makes you put the blame on | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| self; and you equally confuse self-devastating guilt and self-hate with honest admission of what is indeed wrong | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| it onto others, yet without a trace of self-hate. That attitude becomes available to the personality if | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| been eliminated. You are still stumbling over the self-hate in you. You often still stumble over the | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| still stumble over the defense against recognizing the self-hate and feeling its pain, because you secretly believe | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| you secretly believe in the justification of the self-hate, which makes the pain of it unbearable. The | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| self-love and self-honesty or, in distortion, self-indulgence and self-hate -- or, to put it differently, your need | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| the relevance. There is a direct connection between self-hate, fear of punishment, fear of death and the | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| in order not to feel and experience the self-hate and fear of dying, of death, of non-life | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| energy, and thereby creating a state of fear, self-hate, distrust and hopelessness. This is what I ask | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| that grow out of fear, lack of faith, self-hate, limited vision, pride, impatience, distrustfulness. You will learn | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| the unconscious process that makes you deny your self-hate and therefore your need to hate others. The | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| that you have to express and live the self-hate embedded in this aspect of your personality? This | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| due to your frantic attempt to hide your self-hate from yourself. The more you do this, the | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| more. The tragedy of this pseudo-solution to your self-hate is that as long as you use it | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| values, and that you are trying to eliminate self-hate through false means. The moment you can admit | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| acknowledge your lower self without becoming ensnared in self-hate. You will then see clearly that the more | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| self-indulgence at the expense of others and lacerating self-hate. The distortion is, to begin with, unconscious and | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| hate others in order not to feel your self-hate. The self-hate is a prison in which you | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| in order not to feel your self-hate. The self-hate is a prison in which you are truly | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| this and follow through consistently, an awareness of self-hate rises to the surface. At first, this growing | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| orientation of the outer path creates this growing self-hate. Of course it is not really growing; only | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| therefore hate others in order to deny your self-hate you rebel against others and wish for impossible | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| feel, and perceive has grown, but remnants of self-hate remain because a stake to hide them still | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| yourself? Where and how do you project this self-hate onto others and thereby increase the self-hate? Where | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| this self-hate onto others and thereby increase the self-hate? Where do you prevent experiencing your freedom by | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| how you try to talk yourself out of self-hate and into self-esteem on theoretical grounds, you will | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| fear, fear creates anger, anger creates self-doubt and self-hate, self-hate creates negative behavior patterns and self-destructiveness. All | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| fear creates anger, anger creates self-doubt and self-hate, self-hate creates negative behavior patterns and self-destructiveness. All these | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| could you ever overcome the hurdle of your self-hate that festers underneath all your defenses, if it | 258 PERSONAL CONTACT WITH JESUS CHRIST-POSITIVE AGGRESSION-REAL MEANING OF SALVATION |