| Self-deceptions.............11 | |
| way to complete fulfillment, but the deviations and self-deceptions do. If you could but clear that up | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| a confused and disharmonious situation -- for your self-deceptions and confusions are bound to negatively affect other | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| provided one has no hidden selfish motives, no self-deceptions, and provided it is combined with action. The | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| man is sincere in spite of all his self-deceptions and evasions and has thus opened a channel | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| uncovering blind reflexes. All subterfuges, rationalizations, explanations, justifications, self-deceptions, serving to deny automatism, must be ruthlessly exposed | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| importance; for without recognizing the daily little dishonesties, self-deceptions, and erroneous assumptions, you cannot question them and | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| grasp comes from facing personal inner errors and self-deceptions -- then an entirely new approach to growth | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| of their existence and personal little lies and self-deceptions. This vaster intelligence manifests as inspiration, guidance, and | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| self; it can choose to disclose all previous self-deceptions. It can cast off all the illusions nurtured | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| and not give an inch to them. These self-deceptions have to be unmasked, my friends. Even among | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| you that, regardless of your conscious rationalizations and self-deceptions, knows with an inner wisdom exactly where you | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| Self-deceptive..............2 | |
| revolves around the same pointless thoughts, complaints, self-pity, self-deceptive ideas and subterfuges, it will, of necessity, result | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| a constructive or destructive attitude, a truthful or self-deceptive attitude. You have the power to find out | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| Self-defeating..............14 | |
| out of pain in a very wrong, unhealthy, self-defeating, and life-defeating way. Giving in and going with | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of one's limitations, facing wrong conclusions, destructive emotions, self-defeating devices, lack of integrity in the widest possible | 127 EVOLUTION'S FOUR STAGES: AUTOMATIC REFLEXES, AWARENESS, UNDERSTANDING, KNOWING |
| you still struggle against cruelty in the wrong, self-defeating way -- namely by denial and hiding -- | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| reality is impossible. Letting go does not mean self-defeating, sacrificial self-deprivation. It means merely that wherever you | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| to your real self than you realize. Moralistic self-defeating attitudes often induce you to reject whatever may | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| is now at the point of renouncing this self-defeating hatred, so that he can begin to live | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| all its destructive attitudes, its primitive reasoning, its self-defeating will directions, must become as conscious as your | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| and accepting can exist in both constructive and self-defeating, distorted ways. The latter way widens the split | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| activity that asserts its desire to transform the self-defeating aspects, leading the dialogue and calmly but firmly | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| outer mind. This often becomes meaningless, stilted and self-defeating. It breaks the real balance. The measurements of | 228 BALANCE |
| may be true on their level -- this self-defeating pattern can never be reversed and transformed unless | 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| plan, and on the other as demanding a self-defeating denial of intrinsic human values, energies and expressions | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| inflict the pain by passively standing by. Many self-defeating patterns are connected with pain you have unwittingly | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| unless exposure is infused with love, it becomes self-defeating. Show respect for the person who has the | 257 ASPECTS OF THE NEW DIVINE INFLUX: COMMUNICATION, GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPOSURE |
| Self-defense................2 | |
| natural anger about it, your anger may cover self-defense, but it is also a natural reaction against | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| to suppose that this unnatural, evasive way of self-defense is a more trustworthy protection than the way | 154 PULSATION OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Self-defensive..............1 | |
| you will unconsciously respond in equally destructive, falsely self-defensive ways. Then neither person really knows the intricate | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| Self-deluding...............1 | |
| calmly go to work on the obstacles, without self-deluding tactics that remove you further from the real | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| Self-delusion...............7 | |
| the wish for truth is greater than any self-delusion, wishful thinking, or anxiety. This has to be | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| What you have to sacrifice may be comfort, self-delusion, selfishness, holding on to various faults and weaknesses | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| off balance. The price is: no self-pity, no self-delusion, utter severance with the little ego, time, effort | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| be an expression of his innermost self. For, self-delusion is more harmful than the worst outer conduct | 53 SELF-LOVE |
| succeeded is not in truth, is suffering from self-delusion. He or she may make good efforts in | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| you in an entirely different position toward yourself; self-delusion is eliminated. Thus the destructiveness is lessened, no | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| self-confrontation without clinging to the old patterns of self-delusion and illusion, and therefore have attained a certain | 173 BASIC ATTITUDES AND PRACTICES TO OPEN THE CENTERS - RIGHT ATTITUDE TOWARD FRUSTRATION |
| Self-delusions..............3 | |
| tearing off your masks; tearing away all your self-delusions about yourself and your inner or outer motives | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| how much you cover it with subterfuges and self-delusions, deep in your unconscious the fact remains that | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| which come from your resistance to giving up self-delusions -- of what others should do for you | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| Self-denial.................14 | |
| the indignity inflicted on the individual by such self-denial results in self-contempt and self-dislike. Since this is | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| but in a very different sense: from continued self-denial and estrangement from the real self. This brings | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| receive pleasure, with all the accompanying self-effacement, appeasement, self-denial, and masochistic sacrificing, the underlying core may be | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| certainly come to the nucleus of your deliberate self-denial, which causes so much unnecessary hardship. You will | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| selfishness -- and its consequent wrong conclusion of self-denial -- would enable the person to understand that | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| unfair, the subsequent measure against it -- complete self-denial -- is equally unfair in the opposite extreme | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| not be done in a spirit of masochistic self-denial. It should be done with the open question | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| can be submission and a disguise for masochistic self-denial. Again, if self-assertion is healthy, the adaptability will | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| easily confused with negativity, resignation, and even masochistic self-denial. Religion's postulate that the good person must sacrifice | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| in a painful state of inner split, partial self-denial, and paralysis of vital forces within you. I | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| as far removed from it as is overt self-denial. You know perfectly well in your mind that | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| you are in this state of division and self-denial, you must feel pessimistic and fearful about the | 233 THE POWER OF THE WORD |
| may not like it -- will replace humiliation, self-denial, submission based on fear and on distrust of | 245 CAUSE AND EFFECT ON VARIOUS LEVELS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| figure who demands the same kind of distorted self-denial from all those who are to follow in | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Self-denying................2 | |
| does not permit you to abandon a self-destructive, self-denying attitude? State clearly that you wish to find | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| accepting negative emotions, I do not mean masochistic, self-denying, morbid attitudes toward negative experience. You are not | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| Self-dependence.............1 | |
| of the healthy, realistic attitude regarding self-responsibility and self-dependence, of knowing that there is no authority that | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| Self-deprecation............2 | |
| you because of this self- alienation. And this self-deprecation is then often projected on others. Your idealized | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| of self. In fact, real giving knows no self-deprecation, no martyrdom, no unjust treatment from the world | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| Self-deprivation............5 | |
| impossible. Letting go does not mean self-defeating, sacrificial self-deprivation. It means merely that wherever you recognize a | 144 THE PROCESS AND SIGNIFICANCE OF GROWING |
| The opposite facet of this same duality is self-deprivation for the sake of decency, honesty, morality: You | 159 LIFE MANIFESTATION REFLECTS DUALISTIC ILLUSION |
| question of morality versus pleasure, selfishness versus altruism, self-deprivation versus depriving others. The whole concept of good | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| what is on the scale does not warrant self-deprivation. Each loss will soon be discovered to be | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| to live fully and not in self-limitation and self-deprivation. The more you do this willingly, the more | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| Self-deprivations...........1 | |
| for the latter is constantly atoned for by self-deprivations which are supposedly doorways to heaven. Yet this | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| Self-depriving..............1 | |
| generous giving is, the less masochistic, suffering, and self-depriving the personality becomes. The more the false giving | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| Self-despisal...............2 | |
| state of loneliness, of insecurity, and of growing self-despisal is the one step that appears hardest to | 31 SHAME |
| yourself in some way. All this leads to self-despisal which is the true cause of inferiority complexes | 33 OCCUPATION WITH SELF -- RIGHT AND WRONG FAITH |
| Self-despising..............1 | |
| person slowly but surely further into darkness, depression, self-despising moods, and thus into separation from God. It | 16 SPIRITUAL NOURISHMENT -- WILLPOWER |
| Self-destroying.............1 | |
| the right spirit -- neither in a masochistic, self-destroying attitude, nor in an attitude of fear and | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| Self-destruction............9 | |
| you feel guilty, the self is destroyed. The self-destruction takes different forms and creates different symptoms in | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| a guilt feeling, or nurturing a desire for self-destruction. All this adds up to compulsion. Now, depending | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| in turn, would lead to a tendency toward self-destruction. Moreover, the desire for this ideal, unselfish love | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| you know how. It is often said that self-destruction -- that is, the desire for unhappiness -- | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| in a distorted way is martyrdom, self-effacing submission, self-destruction for the sake of the loved one. To | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| one's unhappiness, and even some form of deliberate self-destruction as a way of punishing them. This is | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| inevitable must not be confused with masochism, deliberate self-destruction, or hopeless resignation. It requires an unexaggerated honesty | 160 CONCILIATION OF THE INNER SPLIT |
| What underlying misconceptions are responsible for the overt self-destruction, the hate, the spite, the malice, the ruthless | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| is, there will appear a renewed urge for self-destruction in this halfway period in which more ability | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |