| Pretended...................13 | |
| on your own merits, rather than on the pretended ones. To begin with, you have to see | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| So the child begins a process of false, pretended, superficial adherence to certain standards without inner conviction | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| has to be covered with a sterile, false, pretended love. Hence, hate is due not only to | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| hurts, which may be just as illusory as pretended fulfillment or a denied unfulfillment. Anger, hurt, suffering | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| not know what I felt, only what I pretended to feel, and if I had felt as | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| feel, and if I had felt as I pretended then their reaction would indeed be unjust. This | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| the law of love. Now that the false, pretended love has been removed and disclosed as weakness | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| false divisions and false values so that untruthful, pretended and distorted attitudes prevail, that which destroys true | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| of what you believe you are. Yet the pretended role contains the same aspects you so busily | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| friends, how you need to give up a pretended state in order to regain it on a | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| domineering, fearful ego, so that perfection was forced, pretended, punitively dictated, in order to allay the fear | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| that is now the generally accepted rule and pretended necessity for political life and politicians. You do | 242 THE SPIRITUAL MEANING OF POLITICAL SYSTEMS |
| nothing to do with genuine giving. This is pretended giving, in more than one way. For example | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| Pretending..................31 | |
| that you may cover up the emotional reaction, pretending it is not there, until the feeling sinks | 7 ASKING FOR HELP AND HELPING OTHERS |
| view you suffer loneliness and you go on pretending in some subtle way. The wrong kind of | 31 SHAME |
| such a tragedy that they protect themselves by pretending they do not want anything from others, life | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| and are permanently permeated with the guilt of pretending to be something you are not. You strain | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| find themselves in truth and reality, instead of pretending to be something different. That is the only | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| the second by the self-deception and hypocrisy of pretending the opposite, and not making restitution for the | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| pretenses at once. To the degree you stop pretending to yourself, and face what you had regarded | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| Moreover, you foolishly seem to assume that by pretending it does not exist, it will remain tame | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| concerned for the other person, rather than merely pretending. When I am willing to like others as | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| to face so that I can go on pretending. Because of the game, the fallacy of the | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| self-deception which then may take the form of pretending that unhealthy anger is the healthy version. The | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| Dramatizing negative emotions is just as frequent as pretending positive feelings. Usually they go hand in hand | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| It exerts a subtle pressure to go on pretending. But there is always a point inside where | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| is it preferable to live a lie by pretending you believe in your worth, while underneath you | 162 THREE LEVELS OF REALITY FOR INNER GUIDANCE |
| you will not fall into the trap of pretending that one is the other. This trap must | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| exists. I will not deceive myself, though, by pretending that I feel the truth of life as | 168 TWO BASIC WAYS OF LIFE: TOWARD AND AWAY FROM THE CENTER |
| good in some way, even if only by pretending you are a victim. But you must analyze | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| soul currents, you cannot make them different by pretending, no matter how busily you try to make | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| is unwilling to abandon destructive attitudes and then pretending that what happens to you is really undeserved | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| being, you will no longer deceive yourself by pretending that this is unrealistic, childish magic -- which | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| from the heart. And it is no use pretending that you want to love, that you even | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| no right to make you feel guilty by pretending that this devastates me. This is the true | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| in the tendency to remove yourself, being cool, pretending to be different? ANSWER: The divine original aspect | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| who lead are genuinely fulfilled or are just pretending. Only those who are fully centered in their | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |
| conceal the true motives for your submission by pretending you are innocent and good, your only fault | 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM |
| subtly and indirectly. The secondary guilt lies in pretending and claiming that one is not participating in | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| is not participating in the evil, and even pretending to be good, when one's cowardice and self-serving | 244 BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD -- THE EVIL OF INERTIA |
| assumed -- and hence self-created -- poverty by pretending a false wealth, built on deficit. Your spiritual | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| that the government avoids temporary exposure by frantically pretending, coasting along, trying to cover one hole after | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| the lightness, and the freedom of no longer pretending in any way, are the direct doorway to | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| the world? Do not rationalize such projections by pretending to preserve your privacy. Look at the real | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Pretends....................10 | |
| belongs to God's world or whether it only pretends to do so. Although it would be impossible | 11 SELF-KNOWLEDGE -- THE GREAT PLAN -- THE SPIRIT WORLD |
| The idealized self masks the real self. It pretends to be something you are not. The idealized | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| harder time finding the pretense. For the second pretends an honesty in being ruthless, cynical, and out | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| being what you are. But the idealized self-image pretends. Often, the goodwill to superimpose ideal standards is | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| will would be very humiliating. Therefore the psyche pretends to accept these rules for the sake of | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| know, the idealized self-image denies all limitations. It pretends possessing all that the personality feels is lacking | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| and look behind the facade, beyond what it pretends to mean. Once you admit this, it is | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| fulfilled when one feels unfulfilled; the illusion that pretends the world is bad when one believes that | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| away with something underneath an outer sentimentality that pretends the act is good. It is always loveless | 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS |
| ideal, as one wants to be and even pretends to be, so that on the surface of | 182 PROCESS OF MEDITATION (MEDITATION FOR THREE VOICES: EGO, LOWER SELF, HIGHER SELF) |
| Pretense....................139 | |
| really are, with all your weaknesses, without any pretense, you make a great and generous gift; your | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| you really are, my friends, and without any pretense. No sickly exaggerations! No extremes! As in everything | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| on which to stand is to stop the pretense you have laboriously cultivated all your life. This | 31 SHAME |
| but who has the courage to live without pretense and act according to the real self. It | 31 SHAME |
| how much you hide behind a wall of pretense. This wall of pretense is not something easily | 31 SHAME |
| behind a wall of pretense. This wall of pretense is not something easily recognizable from the outside | 31 SHAME |
| down in your emotions, not superficially or by pretense, of having sympathy and an objective, undistorted view | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| consciousness. Unfortunately, humanity is made up of nine-tenths pretense, in one way or another. All your compulsions | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| are to a large extent the result of pretense. This does not only refer to the desire | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| this hidden reasoning process, you will realize the pretense and its complete futility, and you will shed | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| before, you discover that you have assumed your pretense in the mistaken idea that you will then | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| will give it up. You will shed the pretense of positive and negative attitudes, trends, desires and | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| The artificiality, in turn, is the result of pretense. The pretense is a result of a mistaken | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in turn, is the result of pretense. The pretense is a result of a mistaken view of | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| problems are always connected with this process of pretense, in one way or another. Needless to say | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| in one way or another. Needless to say, pretense prohibits real healthy strength because such strength can | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a similar set of chain reactions as the pretense. In fact, these two are often interacting. False | 79 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and spiritual pain. Jesus met it squarely, without pretense, without self-deception, without deceiving those who had faith | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| states: After having met my ordeal fully, without pretense and self-deception, having gone through it to the | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| as you are now, and above all, the pretense with its resulting shame, fear of exposure, secretiveness | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| to gradually work toward growth, and the ungenuine pretense imposed upon you by the dictates of your | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| what it really is -- an illusion, a pretense, a dishonesty. It amounts to saying: I know | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| you regarded as commendable is really pride and pretense, you will have gained a most substantial insight | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| other attitudes linked to pseudo-solutions. Pride, hypocrisy, and pretense are present in all of them when incorporated | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| type will have a harder time finding the pretense. For the second pretends an honesty in being | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| need to build false values with pride and pretense. You will no longer rely on an idealized | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| dignity and poise; without embellishment, projection, humiliation, or pretense. The pretense can go in either of two | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| poise; without embellishment, projection, humiliation, or pretense. The pretense can go in either of two opposite directions | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| from yourself. Usually you half-see the deception and pretense, and remain half unaware of the extent to | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| You no longer have to keep up a pretense. You no longer have to exhaust yourself senselessly | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| the demands of the idealized self. Therefore the pretense is prohibitive. It does not allow the truth | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| same. Actually, this wrong conclusion is also a pretense used to maintain a guise of decency, while | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| maintain a guise of decency, while underneath the pretense there is a need to battle against recognizing | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| with all the accompanying hostility, ruthlessness, pride, superiority, pretense at invulnerability, the underlying core may be the | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| ashamed and therefore hide it produces strain, anxiety, pretense, and fear of exposure. What makes this work | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| motivations; when you see the pride and the pretense, contrary to your belief in your goodness; when | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| real guilt of the intrinsic self-centeredness, pride, and pretense that all these attitudes really represent. If you | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the danger of your insecurity and of your pretense which you sense all the time and which | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| of exposure. Deep inside you know of your pretense, of your false maturity, of your idealized self-image | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| longer have to live with a cover of pretense that alienates you from the core of your | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| your real self due to your unreality, your pretense, your insistence on remaining at the periphery and | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| your individuality, when you no longer believe in pretense and illusion. The work you are doing on | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| no human being who does not operate on pretense at some level. We have gone into that | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| It is now important that you connect the pretense with self-alienation and with all its ramifications. Find | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| and with all its ramifications. Find the subtle pretense, for that is the only key to becoming | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| of a falseness, no matter how subtle; a pretense not only of how you wish to appear | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| of operation is often built on a subtle pretense. Once you are aware of it, you are | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| make the inner decision of dispensing with such pretense, taking what first appears like a tremendous risk | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| your real self. Only after risking insecurity without pretense do you find real security in your real | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| begin with, you have to see that the pretense exists; that you seek to gain something particular | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| you seek to gain something particular through the pretense. And then you have to be willing to | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| give up what you want to gain through pretense if you cannot have it solely on merit | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| are that only after you have relinquished the pretense, and whatever you think you cannot get without | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| and whatever you think you cannot get without pretense, will you find your real self. A new | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| lies a nucleus of self-alienation, inability to relinquish, pretense that does not work in this instance. Once | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| that answer your question? QUESTION: Yes. You mentioned pretense. Is it only pretense that clouds the real | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| QUESTION: Yes. You mentioned pretense. Is it only pretense that clouds the real issue? ANSWER: Not only | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| a very great extent. There is some subtle pretense in every single person. Everyone has pseudo-solutions and | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| self-image. Both are based on a form of pretense. Define this pretense clearly, and you have found | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| based on a form of pretense. Define this pretense clearly, and you have found a major key | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| to your real self. Rationalizing is also a pretense, for instance. Can you understand that? QUESTION: In | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| for something else. And thus it becomes a pretense. QUESTION: When I started working with you, I | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| strain, leads to such discouragement and rigidity and pretense, that growth becomes impossible. You already know this | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| self did not govern you. Perfectionism makes for pretense and rigidity -- and this excludes growth and | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| while you do not pretend in others. This pretense is not a crass outer falsification, but a | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| where there is such shame, there must be pretense. All this implies a fierce pride. The self-will | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| least to a superficial perfection. Again, this is pretense. Both pride and self-will lead to pretense. Or | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| is pretense. Both pride and self-will lead to pretense. Or, to put it in other words, they | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| by self- will and by the pride of pretense. Then there is the second fear which is | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| as you think you should be, that your pretense may be shown up. In order to guard | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| with, lonely. Since its nature is falsity and pretense, it alienates you from yourself, from life, and | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| you cannot help but hurt others. When the pretense of your idealized self is at work, you | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| truth, and therefore from yourself and from life. Pretense and self- deception, self-alienation and isolation must be | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| do is face yourself without resistance, without the pretense of being more than you are, without striving | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| is in you; and then, to remove the pretense between what is in you, and others. This | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| do, and more and more dissolve your pride, pretense and resistance, you will perceive what it means | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| and pride. Such inner nonparticipation is a passive pretense that hinders the quality of the discussions. If | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| Role-playing does not necessarily apply only to a pretense. It goes further than that. One's loss of | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| loss of identity, due to self-alienation, makes a pretense out of a truth, because you are not | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| your resistance, your barricade, does. It is a pretense of not doubting, it is not the reality | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| you start an elaborate system of self-deception and pretense which brings you into vicious circles and inner | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| to face. You cover these facets with a pretense that is the reverse of your specific shame | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| eliminated. Whatever your personal particular shame, and consequent pretense may be, varies. But whatever it is, when | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| such self-admission can exactly pinpoint their shame, their pretense, their self-deception. They have indeed reached a major | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| as yet unaware of their own shame and pretense and who therefore believe they are not hiding | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| the partial admission is not fully explored, the pretense continues toward the outer world, and even toward | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| accomplished to gain your freedom from shame and pretense? Come to terms with your restraint and inhibition | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| in your past life than to an emotional pretense, a falsification of personality. The latter is infinitely | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| all that the personality feels is lacking. The pretense of the idealized self is the crux of | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| self is the crux of the matter. The pretense not only hides what the child felt to | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| If you examine your idealized self, this double pretense must be found. Underneath lies its opposite. To | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| do not envisage the exact opposite of your pretense. It is this opposite which creates the deep | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| against the self, thus shedding your pride and pretense, and become willing to change, thus shedding your | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| the imagined threat. When the pathwork demolishes this pretense and the inefficient pseudo-solutions -- instead of strengthening | 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT |
| in the labyrinth of the mind is the pretense that you have what you want or could | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| there will be no unfair exchange, demand, or pretense on my part. Hence I will believe in | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| mentioned first: living in integrity versus living in pretense. Let us now look at the second either/or | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| are pretenses, because you fear that underneath the pretense there is nothing but the opposite of love | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| may be more in me than either the pretense, or that part which is so hard to | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| the big lie of the mask and the pretense must be given up. A battle rages in | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| want to, instead of deceiving yourself with the pretense that you want to but cannot. Once you | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| them builds up more fear, more guilt, more pretense, more neurosis, and therefore more loss of healthy | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| trust. This, my friends, is a very subtle pretense. It somehow seems easier to doubt your vital | 136 THE ILLUSORY FEAR OF THE SELF |
| subterfuge. There must be a total commitment, without pretense or playacting. When this is your total response | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| the idealized self. It is based on a pretense of being what one wants to be, or | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| people pretend. This is a different kind of pretense than the one that covers up lack of | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| integrity, destructiveness, and cruelty. This different kind of pretense is deeper, more subtle. You may pretend things | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| It often takes place under the guise and pretense of real letting go. When rigid over-discipline no | 153 THE SELF-REGULATING NATURE OF INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| freedom from those emotions. The former is a pretense. The latter is the truth. You attain it | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the business of living but makes appearance and pretense the criteria according to which one wishes to | 161 UNCONSCIOUS NEGATIVITY ENDANGERS SURRENDER OF EGO TO INVOLUNTARY PROCESSES |
| exist and thus live a life of strenuous pretense at the expense of all the vital energy | 166 PERCEIVING, REACTING, EXPRESSING |
| those hidden little games of deception, dramatization, and pretense with yourself and others, not daring to be | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| from pride, vanity, the need to control others, pretense, and, last but not least, fear of standing | 170 FEAR OF BLISS VERSUS LONGING FOR IT -- THE ENERGY CENTERS |
| of the famous and very frequent games of pretense that have been uncovered by many of you | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| hate and unjust accusations of others, in this pretense lies the hate itself. The front or the | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| Each objective acknowledgment of your pretenses -- the pretense of your role and the pretense of your | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| -- the pretense of your role and the pretense of your sustained injuries as the cause of | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| I use to live my life without a pretense? How does it feel to bring forth better | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| already exists now behind the false roles of pretense, beyond the grip of destructiveness. Underneath your outer | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| state, and pride always leads to and requires pretense of some sort. A relaxed, struggle-free and unpretending | 177 PLEASURE -- THE FULL PULSATION OF LIFE |
| unrealistic, childish magic -- which was only a pretense to avoid facing that you are not really | 181 THE MEANING OF THE HUMAN STRUGGLE |
| be that the world is built on deceit, pretense, negation. Even though such thoughts are hardly ever | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| and of the truth of the momentary state, pretense, dishonesty, self- deception, false ideas, negation of the | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| then lead a life of as if, or pretense, which then shifts your sense of identity to | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| to your mask. You struggle against exposing the pretense, let alone giving up the pretense, for the | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| exposing the pretense, let alone giving up the pretense, for the only other alternative is the painful | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| aspects, nor your the adamant self-annihilation, nor the pretense that covers everything up. Finding this real self | 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| the mask self. The mask self is your pretense, your hiding, your facade for the world. It | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| that I mean, give up the appearance, the pretense that evil does not exist in you. Give | 197 ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS IN DISTORTION: EVIL |
| way through your pride, your investment in your pretense, your cowardice. When you admit your negative intentionality | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| truth either. If you have to protect this pretense, which may seem desirable in order to whitewash | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| everything. But if you love falsely, as a pretense, it is much, much less loving and much | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| genuine peace and wholeness. Once the investment in pretense and hiding is given up, it is no | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| no longer function on the level of mutual pretense. Mutual projections and accusations are no longer needed | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| perfect state, without it having developed organically. The pretense of appearing perfect -- which may apply to | 234 PERFECTION, IMMORTALITY, OMNIPOTENCE |
| outer, temporary, unsound means to coast along on pretense and cherish the illusion that you can go | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| only in the illusory wealth acquired through scheming, pretense and greed, and not in the real wealth | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| refuses to expose his or her inner poverty, pretense, and deficit. When governments practice predominantly injustice, live | 250 INNER AWARENESS OF GRACE -- EXPOSING THE DEFICIT |
| countries. Such relations are more marked by secretiveness, pretense, and hiding than any other relationship. Openness is | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |