| manifold possibilities of life and of communication with people. Instead you isolate yourself with your busy defense | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| true, even though the truth may come from people who are, in their own way, as imperfect | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| own detriment, for it is never true that people reject a person due to a fault or | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| are at stake because you have imperfections. If people would learn to deeply probe within to find | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| much hardship could be avoided in day-to-day communications. People would not dislike each other so easily. They | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| defensiveness may be much stronger in calm, reticent people who quietly go their own ways than in | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| quietly go their own ways than in some people whose defenses are more obvious. For them the | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| constantly in flight from life and from other people. But whether the defense is outer aggressiveness or | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| your guard and be blind to life, other people, and yourself. Thus the harm you inflict on | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| is nothing more destructive on this earth than people unnecessarily defending themselves. There is nothing that creates | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| say again that I did not imply that people should take any injustice or betrayal without doing | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| sufficient material with which to work first. Even people whose approach is predominantly intellectual and who deliberately | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| predominant emotions will be fright and anger. The people may be unaware that these are emotions because | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| of the time of Lent was to give people a period of going into themselves, of purifying | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| can mature into a mutual state where two people recognize and express their own respective needs in | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| avoided. This is why you often see that people remain caught in their inner problems as long | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| that could be hoped for was to prevent people from destructive actions, even if the underlying causes | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| by dissolving the underlying cause. If you tell people, You must not fear because it is a | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| original need. Both contain the cowardice that prevents people from finding that need and changing the conditions | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| yourselves and in others. This is why mature people will never think of another person as either | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| like to know to what extent do mature people conform with the society in which they live | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| impress, or out of fear of rejection, mature people will not conform at all. But that does | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| is determined by the inner spirit, the motive. People living like those around them may do so | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| of life independently, because they like it. When people do everything differently out of rebellion, their underlying | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| Such rebellion is not free. It often makes people do the very opposite of what they really | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| reconcile this with what romantics say about two people coming together, and then, suddenly, this is it | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| true that a mature person can love many people in many different ways. For clarity's sake, let | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| understanding. These feelings can even be felt for people who do not actively love this mature person | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| understanding and warmth in different degrees for different people. They will relate to many people in different | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| for different people. They will relate to many people in different ways. But in marital, committed love | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| this becomes a process of growing between two people, without questions like who loves most. It is | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| Yet, I do not mean that if two people are in love, they necessarily overlook the real | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| a case as to the motivation in both people. This cannot be quickly and easily done, because | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| At the same time, you observe that some people, certainly with less genuine love capacity than others | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| It takes more maturity and wisdom than most people have, and, most of all, it takes self-awareness | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| relationship that is not feasible for these particular people. Another type of relationship could exist between these | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| Another type of relationship could exist between these people, but the strong will force pushes the real | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| But in the second half of this cycle, people have fully mastered this stage. They are supposed | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| it may appear so on the surface. Often, people are basically ready to enter the second half | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| Take a primitive example: Let us suppose some people are poor; they are not starving, but they | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| will become general. Until such time, many more people will have to find themselves in truth and | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| the spirit and the free will to two people -- one very religious, and the other a | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| I realize that this is impossible for most people to understand. Outside the mind, there is being | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| this still immature stage, rather than to drawing people out of it. You may rightly wonder why | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| Let us suppose we had a group of people here who have not gone through the development | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| in to self-facing, can the souls of these people begin to absorb more truth, even if the | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| cannot be changed unless a sufficient number of people are doing just what you are doing. But | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| like yours contributes more than vast masses of people who preach doctrines, who force away the emotions | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| from such goodness. A group of only five people, who face reality as it happens to be | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| how efficient, will work lastingly only when more people do what I advise you, my friends, to | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| friends, to begin to think about life and people from this point of view. If you meditate | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| the highest form of human beings. These are people who relate beautifully; who are deeply involved with | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| the inner willingness and readiness to do so. People belonging in this category love not only abstractly | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| love personally and concretely, regardless of risk. Such people are not necessarily saints, or holy, or anywhere | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| involvement. They have freed themselves from defense. Such people, in spite of occasional disappointments or setbacks, have | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| all that really matters to you? How many people do you know to whom you can express | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| your relationships. You will intuitively choose the right people and the right opportunities and the right manner | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| pursue this path of self-knowledge. Psychiatrists often diagnose people according to their ability to relate, and the | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| true that some of the more severely disturbed people can receive help more easily than those whose | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| healthy relationship can come into being between two people who have been tied together by a variety | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| only answer. One can never generalize. If two people grow together in any kind of relationship -- | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| with a person manipulating his reactions to other people? ANSWER: Actually, this question is already answered. Manipulation | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| person thinks that he relates instantaneously to other people is that not a projection of a kind | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| this respect, often proceeds in stages. At first, people may be so completely unsure of themselves that | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| disappear before its existence is acknowledged. Then such people would go through a certain process of growing | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| fear says always, But what about all the people who take advantage of such warm, loving feelings | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| feelings, for fear of being despised by the people whose approval you seek. This fear is especially | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| has the gravest consequences. Chances are that those people actually feel very differently from the way you | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| it is. Does this not mean that those people are just as immature in this respect as | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| dissolve some very crippling misunderstandings about life and people. The third aspect of the inner no against | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| no against loving may at first sound paradoxical. People who have this aspect predominantly have such a | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| starving need -- certainly a great difference! These people are as incapable of fulfilling other people's needs | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| you. I venture to say that with most people a combination of all these three aspects exists | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| compassion, and to give constructive help to suffering people will be possible, whether through action, or just | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| example, like murder. Let us assume that two people commit murder, even for the same motive. Yet | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| can see only one or the other. If people were to follow through logically and see the | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| of disturbances is great, one refers to these people as mentally ill; if the degree is less | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| The cosmic inner forces cannot flow organically because people do not dare to love, to let these | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| For the individual the same holds true. Often people become physically ill. They have trouble in their | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| same deed or attitude, coming from two different people, or perhaps even from the same person at | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| to overcome, to make efforts, to cope with people and their demands; to decide whether or not | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| ready now to proceed a step further. Some people may be very near the phase in which | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| carrying the burden of unrestituted real guilt. Certain people tend to compensate for their real guilts by | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| to love. Or, you might wish something destructive. People often stumble over terminology. There may be a | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| terminology. There may be a certain group of people who take a word and claim it means | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| others. Cross-currents go on constantly, not only among people, but also between them and beings of other | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| repeatedly said, the reason for that is that people invariably use God to get away from themselves | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| how can you repent? If you experience other people as you experience things your heart cannot feel | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| to those of others. You often speak of people who seem to have no conscience. Compare them | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| seem to have no conscience. Compare them with people who are overloaded with conscience. The latters conscience | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| the guilts themselves. We have discussed before that people often build a defense against being hurt. But | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| QUESTION: Will you tell us something about role-playing? People are forced to take on multiple roles in | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| role-playing. Unfortunately, it is true enough that most people do play roles. In this work, our whole | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| a role. The tragedy of self- alienation that people unconsciously and so arduously bring about, induces a | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| your dreams are an expression of your soul. People who are truly at home within themselves, and | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| there is no difficulty of communication. Even with people in the body, you will no longer find | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| less of an obstruction -- whether between two people in earth matter or between one in it | 110 HOPE AND FAITH AND OTHER KEY CONCEPTS DISCUSSED IN ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS |
| your perception of reality is narrowly limited. Often, people have both kinds of rigidities, alternately and simultaneously | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| This may also apply to your attitude toward people and situations where you are not personally involved | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| entire relationship out of balance. Since the other people receive what they really do not ask for | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| happenings in our lives. How is it that people with bad motives so often derive all the | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| limited. Whenever effect does not immediately follow cause, people lose the link and therefore become unable to | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| pointed out in a recent lecture -- if people are still so crude in their spirituality that | 111 SOUL-SUBSTANCE -- COPING WITH DEMANDS |
| great value, and the cosmic forces thank such people in their own way. Our thanks -- if | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| general climate and is therefore not easily recognizable. People strive toward the future mainly for two reasons | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| its movement, or even go backward into youth. People want two impossible things: the fulfillment of the | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| the individual, on the capacity and willingness of people to understand. I might add that the technical | 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME |
| I said, in essence, that very rarely do people live in the now. They push into the | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| too often you lack this. In fact, most people do not experience themselves in reality. This happens | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| see that the very opposite is true. Mature people stand, outwardly and inwardly, on their own two | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| as a substitute authority to identify oneself with. People may also identify with causes. No matter how | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| times. They are actually manifestations of the disharmony people have created in their relationship to time. When | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| is often sad for us to notice how people turn in the wrong direction to seek the | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| or ignore the resources that exist within you. People often say that life is difficult and painful | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| to the hurt child in you. Why do people resist becoming aware of these emotions? Let us | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| will the resistance manifest. This happens with some people at the beginning of their self-search. With others | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| rationalizations -- which exist even in the sanest people -- are much easier to cope with because | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| against the wave. The fear of drowning prevents people from swimming, even though they have capacity to | 114 STRUGGLE: HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY |
| meditation. These lectures can be regarded as meditations. People sometimes believe themselves to be in a growing | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| often bring this about. In such a case, people may be outwardly convinced of growing, because they | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| away from yourself. Ever since humanity has existed, people have searched for security. The lack of it | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Only after material security has been attained do people discover that there is a type of insecurity | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| cope with the difficulty of interacting with certain people, but you may dread relating to others. If | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| needs to learn. It may be true that people whose immaturity shows in stormy relationships are indeed | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| may indeed have a troubled soul. But such people, at least, are truly in the midst of | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| Some terms have a different meaning for different people or different schools of thought. The word introverted | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| thought. The word introverted may mean to some people introspection, looking within. To others it may mean | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| in relating and coping with certain types of people, avoiding them will not remove the problem, because | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| inner misconceptions and subsequent faulty responses to other people and to life. When this goal has been | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| and opposed to spiritual life often prevails among people who search spiritually but have not taken the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| mean the ruthless attitude of certain spiritually undeveloped people who simply do not care for others. I | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| your vanity overrules more important issues for other people. True, you do not often act by it | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| comes from the idea that you, of all people, really should have already completely overcome the lower | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| conflicts destroying your happiness and self-respect. Very few people are reconciled to the existence of their own | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| Quite a few years ago, I explained that people have two kinds of conscience: one emanating from | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| some characteristics of the superimposed conscience. When religious people speak about conscience, they think of the inner | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| becomes aware of these things and guides young people into the right direction, much harm will be | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| we treat as though it were not? ANSWER: People so often deliberately clog the channel of their | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| this may hold true with the most enlightened people as well who would never dream that they | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| woman her womanhood. But inner disturbances always make people fight against their manhood and their womanhood. All | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| but in thinking of the sex angle, when people are unmarried and unattached and are seeking a | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| other, for that matter -- is that if people do what they feel within their deep inner | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| would be a very different place if more people were to do whatever they do wholeheartedly, be | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |