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| right -- is there karmic obligation outside of parental or husband-and-wife relationships? ANSWER: There is no such | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| of the human being to be incarnated. The parental genes are made to correspond to and affect | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| perhaps even in spite of atheistic and materialistic parental and other influences. In another case, it is | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| enjoy most, they experience authority as hostile. When parental authority indulges a child, authority will be felt | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| logic of confused emotions. With the confusion about parental rejection in the unconscious, the personality grows into | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| of being hurt and disappointed than by the parental circumstances disclosed here. It is important to recognize | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| psychological deviations that can always be traced to parental influences and early experiences. It is also important | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| soul and spirit. The bond of dependency on parental authority is cut. The healthy spirit will cut | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| duality is acted out, and his or her parental relationship reexperienced. If both, or more, persons are | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| it does, it is actually directed to the parental situation. Not being applicable to A, A often | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| way of life, first lived out in the parental relationship. Some of you have an inkling of | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| sibling relationship is always directly related to the parental situation. The parents express, symbolize or manifest your | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| parents and the behavior patterns deriving from the parental relationship, you will gain considerably deeper insight. This | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| you have grown up and no longer need parental permission or a parent substitute as your source | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| refuses discipline in any form, associating it with parental authority against which he continues to wage war | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| of soul stuff. The more you look for parental authority to take care of your life, the | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| the changes in the expectation of pleasing the parental authority who is supposed to give you what | 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE |
| is not trusted. It is confused with untrustworthy parental authority, which may often have proclaimed something as | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| but you have applied them exclusively to the parental situation: you, as a child, still want to | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| is as though you hoped for some idealized parental figure to assuage your doubts, to come forth | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| is true and what is false in the parental tradition, the stronger is the fear of finding | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| rebellion against such thoughts which seem to echo parental admonitions. You can see clearly that the mechanism | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
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| kinds, as well as for all teachers and parents. It will help a great deal. Perhaps you | 14 THE HIGHER SELF, THE LOWER SELF, AND THE MASK |
| some cases a person could remember hearing the parents talking while it was still in the womb | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| such memories. It may be close to the parents in this period. But it is even more | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| is there a karmic situation, as, for instance, parents, children, husbands, wives, sisters and brothers? Does it | 24 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| course takes considerable time. The proper choice of parents, nationality, religion into which to be born, life | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| made in the most practical way. For instance, parents may be chosen to afford an environment best | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| to the surface. At the same time, the parents may also be karmically linked to the entity | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| which you completely ignore. Conception by the future parents cannot happen unless it is the will of | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| then, according to the so-called genes of the parents, which of course have been studied beforehand and | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| the father. In one instance genes of the parents do not work at all, in another case | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| challenges are provided for in the choice of parents and other conditions in the incarnation. If faults | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| begin life may be more suitable, and the parents also fulfill the best conditions for a premature | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| father, may often determine a change. If the parents, or even one of the parents, should change | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| If the parents, or even one of the parents, should change their spiritual attitude, then the entity | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| attitude, then the entity first planned for these parents would not fit into those circumstances any more | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| spiritual attitude has changed for the better, the parents now deserve a higher-developed spirit as their child | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| be that the being first destined for these parents will not find the necessary fulfillment with parents | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| parents will not find the necessary fulfillment with parents having a spiritualized outlook. Enough parents are available | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| fulfillment with parents having a spiritualized outlook. Enough parents are available whose attitude would offer the limitations | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| also a task and a responsibility for the parents. They have to be worthy to rear a | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| of pregnancy. For instance, should the first chosen parents change enough during the time of preparation for | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| be that it is a karma for the parents, a test through which they have to pass | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| was known in the spirit world, and the parents with whom the baby would finally settle down | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| instrument of fate, so to speak, for the parents it so shortly visits. There may be other | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| too. The possibilities are numerous. For instance, the parents may not have lived up to certain promises | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| world. However, it may also be that the parents have fulfilled more, spiritually speaking, than was expected | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| such a thing may either happen because the parents fulfill less or because they fulfill more than | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| gaining consciousness, birth will occur with the other parents, chosen as permanent hosts in the first place | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| perhaps in response to similar images in the parents or others around the growing child. That is | 38 IMAGES |
| this misconception conflicts will arise. In youth the parents force the child to take a bath, and | 38 IMAGES |
| strongly influenced and dependent on one of your parents, something that is in itself nothing to be | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| a child lives with the idea that its parents are perfect and omnipotent. When the realization dawns | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| that what it used to believe about its parents, or the world as such, is not true | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| Thus the child will experience a shock because parents, the world, or life, are not the way | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| their conclusions onto all other situations. A child's parents are its world, its universe, therefore what the | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| all people have the same shortcomings as the parents; not all conditions of life are similar to | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| and also because you were ashamed that your parents were not what you thought they should be | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| your case was singular. Everyone else had perfect parents, perfect home conditions, and only you alone experienced | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| yourself, as well as, of course, from your parents or others close to you. The shame arose | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| the fluidal body. And according to these problems, parents, country, and life-circumstances are chosen, so that you | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| your childhood, it is because you have certain parents, and a certain environment. This was most suitable | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| while you help fulfill the fate of some parents who have to go through the hardship of | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| ANSWER: Of course it is possible. If the parents would be on such a path, they would | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| conclusion will alter with the growing process. Furthermore, parents who are on such a path develop a | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| it reaches a certain degree of consciousness. Elders, parents or parent-substitutes, and later on teachers represent authority | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| child grows up, authority merely changes: instead of parents and teachers, authority is now represented by society | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| in a somewhat different version. You love your parents, and yet they are your authority. The conflict | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| The child is often unconsciously jealous of both parents. Yet, if the parents do not love each | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| unconsciously jealous of both parents. Yet, if the parents do not love each other, the child suffers | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| exclusively; on the other, it suffers if the parents do not love each other. Since the love-capacity | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| the child misunderstands that, despite the imperfection, most parents are still fully capable of loving more than | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| bad, wrong, and sinful to hate, particularly one's parents whom one is supposed to love and honor | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| it is possible to receive now what my parents have denied me. But it will also show | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| all, then the child was right, and your parents, or whoever else it was who did not | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| child's own welfare; this the child cannot understand. Parents may also prohibit pleasure out of ignorance and | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| frustration. Let us assume that overindulging and doting parents fulfill the child's every whim. They do not | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| parent. Or you may even have two indulgent parents, but a severe teacher instills fear in you | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| analyze your emotional reactions to authority, to your parents, to your fears and expectations. Out of these | 52 THE GOD-IMAGE |
| youth. Hence, it certainly appears as though the parents had harmed the child, nevertheless, in reality it | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| recognize that he has blamed one or both parents for his unhappiness, even though this blame may | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| does not belong, no matter how much the parents were actually at fault. I might say that | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it feels more rejected by one of the parents than by the other. This need not be | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| the very opposite. But the situation between your parents may actually be somewhat as you see it | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| each other out. When the situation with the parents is not so extreme, it is harder for | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| subtlety and elusiveness of contradictory emotions in the parents as well as in yourself. To recognize this | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| the opportunity to observe the interaction with your parents. You may be transferring the same feelings to | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| if you had received such love from your parents, you would be without this problem of which | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| even a loving parent. More often, however, both parents are emotionally immature and cannot give the love | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| have some love. There are a number of parents who give great demonstrations of love. They may | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| call for authority on their part. There are parents who never dare to punish or exert a | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| is absent in their own immature personalities. Other parents may be too severe, too strict. They thereby | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| individuality to unfold. Both kinds fall short as parents, and their wrong attitudes, absorbed by the child | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| hurt and unfulfillment. In children of the strict parents, the resentment and rebellion will be open, and | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| No matter how much you may love your parents, an unconscious resentment exists in you, which prevents | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| adult human being you will see that your parents, too, are just human beings. They were not | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| your longing for a perfect love from your parents and your resentment against them, you are bound | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| demands. Important as it is to find both parents represented in your partners, it is even more | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| little or no love. So you seek the parents again -- in a subtle way that is | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| how he or she is similar to your parents in certain immature aspects. But since you now | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| you constantly sought to find your parent or parents again, which of course could never come to | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| and try to reconsider the situation with your parents: what they gave you, how you really felt | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| will learn to recognize the similarities between your parents and the people who have caused you hurt | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| The outside is the offending parent, or both parents, projected onto other human beings. They have only | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| understanding and insight, whereupon you will release your parents. You will leave your childhood truly behind and | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| approach in the home. This would mean that parents would have to be re-educated. The importance and | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| who is destined to be born with certain parents to find the conditions needed according to his | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| a child apparently inherits certain qualities from the parents, let us say a talent. That spirit had | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| inherit it. But the spirit was sent to parents with the same talent because in all other | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| influences the plan and the plan determines the parents, the country and circumstances into which the spirit | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| life. Some may be in accordance with the parents -- then one speaks of inheritance -- others | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| another. Perhaps the worst punishment was that your parents withdrew their affection from you; they were angry | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| the atmosphere or in the personality of the parents. This creates anxiety. The child sense an atmosphere | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| Your ignorance and the ignorance of educators and parents have created a distorted view that induces you | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| peace, be in God! 99. FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE Greetings, my dearest, dearest | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| come from its first environment, in which the parents or their substitutes predominate, including anyone who plays | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| is limited, its emotional experience gleaned from the parents is very distorted. In the crassest case, the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| crassest case, the child may emotionally experience the parents as either good or bad, strong or weak | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| only on certain aspects or tendencies of the parents, while the rest of their personality is not | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and your perception of either one or both parents, or someone else in your early surroundings. A | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| feel hurt or angry about one or both parents, do you, in your anger, perceive them as | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| this truth, particularly not with regard to your parents. Your emotional experience is always an either/or, and | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| not dissolved by seeing the reality of your parents, you will continue to have problems that could | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| distortions. Ask yourself: How do I experience my parents? Do I experience them as human beings in | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| You often resist revising your images of your parents. You may feel disloyal and guilty if you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| wonder you resist revising your image of your parents. By the same token, you may have an | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and meditation to see the truth about your parents, will your resistance gradually weaken. There is no | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| desire to see the truth about others, your parents and siblings, for instance. This is another way | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| not have the necessary information and knowledge about parents or parent figures to revise your image. They | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| aware that a hurt exists. What if the parents are no longer alive? Often there may be | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| of what you feel, how you experience your parents, and how you have been hurt, although on | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| there any questions regarding this subject? QUESTION: When parents give the child an unreal, or perhaps real | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| work through this, even if one sees one's parents in reality? ANSWER: It happens naturally and by | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| and by itself. The moment you understand your parents, the sense of rejection will disappear, even if | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| unworthy as long as you feel that your parents rejected you because of your unworthiness. Due to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| worthiness is reached. In the child's perception, the parents are powerful super-creatures. It does not occur to | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| way. It is exactly the same with your parents. The moment you experience them in their living | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the love. The mere fact of recognizing one's parents will not resolve this kind of conflict. ANSWER | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| have no way of gaining understanding about my parents. I tell you, even if you now believe | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the people who happen to have been your parents. QUESTION: Would you care to elaborate on the | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| When you squash the early impressions of the parents and superimpose artificial, compulsive love and honor, you | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| with children in neighborhoods where I saw delinquent parents, who were fallen, or drunkards, yet the children | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| to investigate what kind of human beings your parents were, as well as others in your family | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| really the frustration the child suffered from the parents, and nothing more? No, my friends, this is | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| are required to live out yours. Your imperfect parents and environmental conditions simply brought the problems to | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| a reaction, a neurosis against a parent or parents, regardless of how good or kind these parents | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| parents, regardless of how good or kind these parents happen to be? ANSWER: It certainly is not | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| will they gradually cut the ties to the parents by standing on their own feet financially; by | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| spirit will cut this bond, even if the parents do not encourage such severance, but possessively try | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| quick judgments. You unconsciously substitute others for your parents, who were the original objects of identification. Often | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| you cannot as yet fully grasp its impact. Parents are the most important influence in a child's | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| as determined by, the original relationship to the parents. Most of you need to realize to what | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| still carry the original relationship to both your parents into all your current life-situations. Once you perceive | 115 PERCEPTION, DETERMINATION, LOVE AS ASPECTS OF CONSCIOUSNESS |
| and acceptance by one or both of your parents, you elaborately build a defense against this hurt | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| the attitude that you have had toward your parents; the specific emotions, their attitude toward you, as | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| live up to the idealized selves of our parents as well? Is this correct? ANSWER: It is | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| makes him strive desperately for acceptance by his parents. In doing so, he believes he has to | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| he has to adopt the standards of the parents. As I said before, it does not matter | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| whether these standards actually are those of the parents or the child merely believes that. So the | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| appease, coerce and force, as it were, your parents or the parent-substitutes to belatedly give you what | 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE |
| child's psyche as hurts and frustrations do. If parents are not sufficiently motivated by love and are | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| common human failings, such as impatience or irritation, parents may overindulge and pamper their child. The child | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| but the guilt, confusion and conflict of the parents. The identical act may derive from overindulgence, or | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| to compensate for the negative currents in the parents that it unconsciously feels -- and sometimes even | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| GUIDE: This is a good example. PARTICIPANT: If parents are neglectful in some ways and, through their | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| a case of an adopted child where the parents gave the child too much leeway, continuously admiring | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| old, he became even more demanding and the parents could not gratify these demands. I think the | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| child was ashamed of not having his real parents. GUIDE: This may be so. These are partly | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| did not possess to the same degree your parents claimed. Or maybe you still think these qualities | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| intense and dramatic karmic relationships are those between parents and children. The unresolved confusions, conflicts and the | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| and healthy, the relationship with a set of parents manifests as an asset. But when the negative | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| when the negative involvement is still strong, the parents represent the two sides of the inner split | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| your split, represent your basic attitude to your parents. One distorted attitude exists because of influence exerted | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| twofold split before you entered this life. Your parents, or rather certain aspects of their personalities and | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| the unmended split within your psyche. Hence, your parents are not responsible for your problems, and yet | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| illusion. When you perceive how you represent your parents within your psyche, when you sense the subtle | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| The important thing is the discovery that your parents express and personify for you your duality, your | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| of the negative involvement you reexperience with your parents. When I say way of life, I do | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| to others as you once did to your parents, without your being at all aware of it | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| twofold split, symbolized in your attitudes to both parents. The child, starting a new life cycle, contains | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| once you realize how your attitude to both parents governs your basic life situations and expresses your | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| to the way you once responded to your parents. First it is important to understand intellectually that | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| it is important to understand intellectually that your parents represent your personal split, each parent representing one | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| split. As you had to respond to your parents according to your split, so you have to | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| not caused by the faulty ways of your parents, but are the manifestation of your duality, which | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| of your duality, which this particular set of parents could best represent and therefore bring out in | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| with which you were born, continues from your parents to the later, constant reenactments. Needless to say | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| intense relationships. The original traumatic relationship to both parents is repeated throughout a person's life, and reflects | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| of the split, and therefore relates to both parents. If only one person is negatively involved, then | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| in this life, reenacting their duality with their parents, and in their confusion constantly engendering each other's | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| does -- from the inner split, to the parents, to other people, and to life situations. If | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| is geared to the first response to the parents, you are unable to perceive what really is | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| situation, but to imagined persons and situations: your parents. You do not live in reality; you do | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| one's own duality and stops transferring from one's parents onto others will one be capable of withstanding | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| one's own split, to see the transference from parents to others with whom one is now involved | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| of life, the basic split represented by your parents, the more you will live in reality and | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| previous experience of yours. This so-called transference from parents to others also applies to your children. For | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| repetitive chain from the inner duality to the parents and so on to others. Then life becomes | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| almost as strong as the one exerted by parents? ANSWER: It is only a result of the | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| only a result of the relationship to the parents. Even if a relationship to a sibling is | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| always directly related to the parental situation. The parents express, symbolize or manifest your own basic split | 118 DUALITY THROUGH ILLUSION -- TRANSFERENCE |
| directed to its immediate environment -- to the parents. This phenomenon is completely natural, and only traditional | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| intense pleasure in contact with his or her parents. Whether or not of the same sex, each | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| become increasingly obvious that you relate to your parents in your other relationships, particularly with your mate | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| lectures, particularly those dealing with the influence of parents and the behavior patterns deriving from the parental | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| pleasure was given, or it was not. The parents had the power to give or to withhold | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| given more pleasure, the other more pain. Both parents may have given both. In any case, the | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| from the complete shelter and protection of the parents. Again it is a crisis. To the degree | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| can be maintained. Simply by insisting that your parents continue to care for you, you believe that | 132 THE FUNCTION OF THE EGO IN RELATIONSHIP TO THE REAL SELF |
| have misinterpreted; it was originally directed against your parents but now manifests toward life and toward anything | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| positive expressions have been prohibited, first by the parents and the environment in the ignorant belief that | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| grow up, you adopt the same attitude the parents had. You feel you cannot accept what they | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| truth. The child makes such demands on the parents, it wants to possess them and is thus | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| children truly are helpless and dependent on the parents. But in the childish corner of your being | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| true. The young child is dependent on its parents for all the basics of life: shelter, food | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| a big role. You are abandoned by your parents. Then, in your turn, you abandon life when | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| that which holds you back from life. Your parents are not finally responsible for your misconceptions. Resentment | 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS |
| to quite deliberately punish others for what your parents did to you or what you think they | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| whether the other people involved act like your parents or not. The four steps I explained in | 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY |
| attitude responsible for his illness: He hates his parents so much that he punishes them by destroying | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| is his revenge. He wants to make his parents feel guilty; he wants them to worry; he | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| pays for the doubtful satisfaction of punishing his parents is so horrendous that it cannot be fully | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| irrational. One of the things he blames his parents most for is that he was not allowed | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| to see that whatever actual emotional problems his parents had, the resulting lack of warmth and understanding | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| factors outside the control of the patient: childhood, parents, even hereditary factors. All these factors exist, but | 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE |
| this applies to any kind of relationship: mates, parents and children, friendships, or business contacts. The tendency | 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP |
| to the fore again. Thus a set of parents or a certain environment will seem to be | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| childhood. But, actually, the undeveloped state of the parents functions as a means to bring out images | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| possible for an adult to finally obtain substitute parents, ideal and perfect according to the notions of | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| responsibility. If you remain stuck on blaming your parents, making them and life responsible, you deprive yourself | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| on blaming. For no matter how much your parents failed -- for they themselves are failing human | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| suffering itself is a frequent weapon for punishing parents, projected parents, and life. It says, in effect | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| is a frequent weapon for punishing parents, projected parents, and life. It says, in effect: You see | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| now your inner insistence on forcing your bad parents to become good parents out of guilt, using | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| on forcing your bad parents to become good parents out of guilt, using your misery as a | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| myself, because if I do, I let my parents off the hook. Or I may be expected | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| Children suffer from them with one of their parents or with their siblings and peers. Adults suffer | 198 TRANSITION TO POSITIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| specific person or people -- let us say parents or parent substitutes or general authority figures. Or | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| and pervasive attitude of wishing to punish your parents. You do realize that this spiteful self-destructiveness has | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| the same example: I want to punish my parents by my own misery and spite and non-giving | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| or, I do not want to love my parents, so I cannot love anybody else because I | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| else because I want everyone to become better parents for me than those I really had. Once | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| needs can never be fulfilled, namely outwardly, from parents or parent substitutes, you will look inwardly where | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| has been inflicted upon you, first, by your parents when you were a child, and later by | 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT |
| how wrong those others may be, whether your parents, your peers, your associates, or life as a | 204 WHAT IS THE PATH? |
| as further road maps. Individual personalities choose their parents and environment on the basis of this principle | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| negative role models and hence to self-betrayal. All parents are prototypical figures to their children. Strong rejection | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| yet been recognized. To the degree that the parents and the child are healthy and purified souls | 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE |
| pleasant and unpleasant. Finding the most fitting environment, parents, siblings, friends, contacts in later life, and many | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| unwilling to do so, insisting that others -- parents or groups -- give you the sustenance that | 225 EVOLUTIONARY STAGES OF INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP CONSCIOUSNESS |
| is the groundwork for all new age education. Parents will not undertake the fundamental groundwork alone. There | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| groundwork alone. There is no guarantee that all parents are sufficiently developed to possess this knowledge and | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| their earliest age. You all know that. Usually parents and teachers become annoyed, bored and impatient. At | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| attach to it a mass image of boredom. Parents should start to respect children and rejoice in | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| again, and perhaps make note of the questions. Parents can also make a concerted effort to find | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| This is very important, my friends, for the parents who are here and for the teachers, even | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| this misconception on your own path as either parents or teachers. True freedom, with all its joy | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| reserve, of probing, not only with teachers and parents, but with other children too. All of this | 231 NEW AGE EDUCATION |
| it transference, of making this super- figure your parents. But terms easily become labels that lose their | 237 LEADERSHIP -- THE ART OF TRANSCENDING FRUSTRATION |
| against their early upbringing and the values their parents stood for. Christ has been presented to them | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| the truth in the tradition. All children need parents who are strong and right. This gives them | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| because they cannot bear the thought that their parents may have been mistaken. Rebelling Christians, on the | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| of finding out that perhaps, after all, their parents were right. In the childish consciousness everything is | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| to the self and, by extension, to the parents. Rebelling Christians can deal with the possibility that | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| Christians can deal with the possibility that their parents were totally wrong. They are then justified in | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| They are then justified in denying all their parents stood for. On a very primitive, childish level | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| dynamic way, can be expressed thus: If my parents were right about the reality of Jesus Christ | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| and bad for having denied Christ and my parents in the past. This I cannot bear, so | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| who deny Christ feel immensely threatened about their parents being wrong. If they are wrong in this | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| fear touches those who outwardly rebel against their parents and disagree with them on many issues. It | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| those who are overtly in agreement with their parents about almost all the important issues of life | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| has not grown up cannot accept that the parents can be wrong about anything, because this implies | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| is more important than justifying yourself, or your parents, or your forebears. The constant chain of cause | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| about the terror of the child that his parents can be wrong -- that the personal guilt | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| misconception. The Jewish mass image is: If my parents and forebears were wrong, and my ancestors killed | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |