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| of view. You, whoever you are, may feel ashamed of something. Whether it be big or small | 31 SHAME |
| be without that something of which you are ashamed. This is the wall that separates you from | 31 SHAME |
| because of the things of which I am ashamed. Though you are wrong in that too, for | 31 SHAME |
| questions. I have already mentioned that you are ashamed of your faults. Most of them you wish | 31 SHAME |
| favor from someone more powerful. How many feel ashamed to do so and are even proud to | 36 PRAYER |
| do so and are even proud to feel ashamed? Isn't that a sign of pride? In prayer | 36 PRAYER |
| that is infinitely worse than what you are ashamed about, but since you discovered it a long | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| it by now; therefore, you do not feel ashamed of it anymore. You may even be able | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| something that is in itself nothing to be ashamed of. Until now you ignored how much and | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| what you unconsciously believe when you feel so ashamed. You have created separateness for yourself with all | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| of rational logic, and also because you were ashamed that your parents were not what you thought | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| or hideous. No! You may be much more ashamed of something that is merely silly. When you | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| formed this image, the reasoning that makes you ashamed now was in your childhood in accord with | 41 IMAGES: THE DAMAGE THEY DO |
| this talent. There is certainly nothing to be ashamed of if one does not have it. Not | 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE |
| psyche. It is self-evident that the child feels ashamed of these negative emotions, and therefore it puts | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| alone do not, you feel completely isolated and ashamed, with your guilty secret of not only hating | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| their ignorance, selfishness, and immaturity -- without being ashamed, and apply your conscious knowledge to them, catching | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| to be like other children and feel deeply ashamed about their imagined difference. The maturing of the | 51 IMPORTANCE OF FORMING INDEPENDENT OPINIONS |
| Whenever it manifests, the person feels guilty and ashamed, trying, erroneously, to tear out the sex force | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| self-honesty. Therefore, you do not have to be ashamed that this battle is going on in you | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| not self-produced. You do not have to be ashamed of it. You can make the out-picturing of | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| you mentioned guilt and shame. Could one be ashamed of something without guilt feelings? ANSWER: Yes, of | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| an acute guilt feeling and is not necessarily ashamed. QUESTION: Many times you stated that our psyche | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| on are valid qualities that you are often ashamed of. You can all find this element within | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| feel guilty for being selfish, and guilty and ashamed for being unselfish. QUESTION: You said: To succeed | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| clearly face it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Only by facing such doubts directly can | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| their true light, you will no longer be ashamed of them. They exist in most human beings | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| listen carefully. Strangely enough, people are just as ashamed of their faculties of love, humility, generosity -- | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| wanting to love is stopped because you are ashamed of it. Thus you feel guilty for not | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Thus you feel guilty for not loving and ashamed to love. Consider also that the child feels | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Such subtleties are at work when you are ashamed to ask for something, or when you detect | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| Or, for instance, you find that you are ashamed to pray. Does not that which you are | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| to pray. Does not that which you are ashamed of -- the need of your heart, the | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| to fear, you do not have to be ashamed. The fear comes mostly as a consequence of | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| thought erroneously that you must be guilty and ashamed of it. That you did suppress it so | 68 SUPPRESSION OF POSITIVE AND CREATIVE TENDENCIES - THOUGHT PROCESSES |
| longing for being loved is something to be ashamed of. Thus the longing is buried. Because it | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| is endearing, but people, in their distortion, are ashamed as much of these endearing and touching struggles | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| and touching struggles in themselves as they are ashamed of their faults -- and often even more | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| often even more so. Just as you are ashamed to show love or devotion, you feel more | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| Something in you senses the exaggeration and is ashamed of it. You know that something is wrong | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| admit moments of fear and doubt, would feel ashamed and afraid of losing face with the disciples | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| and independence, superiority and aloofness, would be deeply ashamed of the goodness another person's idealized self insists | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| come to the fore, the child feels deeply ashamed and considers any emotion as weakness, whether it | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| is suspected, the aggressive type feels as deeply ashamed as the submissive type is ashamed of the | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| as deeply ashamed as the submissive type is ashamed of the resentment and self-assertive qualities that smolder | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| to be covered up. Even if you are ashamed of something positive and constructive, the very fact | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| and constructive, the very fact that you are ashamed and therefore hide it produces strain, anxiety, pretense | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| the predominantly fearful and appeasing type, but are ashamed of this weakness, as well as of the | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| another person, and vice versa. You may be ashamed of not always winning in certain areas of | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| may subjectively constitute imperfection of which you are ashamed -- and where there is such shame, there | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| and unreasonably as it exists. Do not be ashamed of it. Pronounce it to yourself, write it | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| discover certain areas in yourself that you are ashamed to acknowledge, even to yourself. What you may | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| acknowledge, even to yourself. What you may be ashamed of may be faults, but not always and | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| always and not necessarily. You may be as ashamed of very legitimate needs as you are of | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| of those facets within yourself you are deeply ashamed to face. You cover these facets with a | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| path. Are you aware of what you are ashamed? If not, you will need to find it | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| and why you feel you need to be ashamed. The usual answer is that your are afraid | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| forthcoming. At the same time, he will be ashamed for using sickness to get love. GUIDE: This | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| good example, too. PARTICIPANT: You may also be ashamed when you are told you are loved as | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| gratify these demands. I think the child was ashamed of not having his real parents. GUIDE: This | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| any other human reactions. When a person is ashamed of hate and hostility, of envy and vindictiveness | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| particular needs cause you to feel guilty and ashamed. Ascertain which needs must remain unfulfilled due to | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| that you cannot really have it. You are ashamed to admit this, so you pretend you possess | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| come into being of which one will feel ashamed and guilty. One of the severest forms is | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| of a frequent phenomenon, that you are often ashamed of your higher self -- of the best | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| on the opinions of others and therefore feel ashamed of any genuine impulse to please others. They | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| less frightened of annihilation or danger, but more ashamed. The element of danger comes in when the | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| the very impulses you feel most guilty and ashamed about. Then you will no longer be frightened | 156 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not only helpless and dependent, but also deeply ashamed. The shame is due to the methods you | 157 INFINITE POSSIBILITIES OF EXPERIENCE HINDERED BY EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY |
| have explained it away because you were too ashamed to admit it. You erroneously thought that there | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| from within my own being? Do not feel ashamed of saying, No, I am not ready. I | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| of personal inadequacy which the individual is too ashamed to expose. Crossing the barrier of embarrassment, humiliation | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| do your bidding. You rebel because you are ashamed of and hate yourself for your submission, and | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| you are unaware of your mask, you feel ashamed and uncomfortable but you don't face this fact | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| do not become something that you need be ashamed of. Try to believe this. Those who are | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| when you hide that which you are most ashamed and afraid of. It is precisely because of | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| comes to your real greatness, you become inhibited, ashamed, afraid -- you hold back what you could | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| to be appreciated. You will no longer be ashamed of being the best you can be. Holding | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| concerned with vanity and appearance. Perhaps you are ashamed to expose something in front of others because | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| learn to take responsibility for and not be ashamed of your higher self. Admit where you have | 223 THE ERA OF THE NEW AGE AND NEW CONSCIOUSNESS |