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compare this with the spiritual knowledge you are gaining now, and see where this knowledge may be 27 ESCAPE POSSIBLE ALSO ON THE PATH
the one courageous step of becoming yourself and gaining true security and the true appreciation of your 31 SHAME
little, certain adjustments will be made, and without gaining consciousness, birth will occur with the other parents 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION
all sexual experience. QUESTION: Homosexuality seems to be gaining wider exposure, understanding, and acceptance. Would you consider 53 SELF-LOVE
but it can only be the beginning of gaining inner proof through inner enlightenment and certainty. Outer 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
temperament to alleviate this insecurity by means of gaining power over others. This does not only apply 67 QUESTION AND ANSWERS
self and also life. This control comes with gaining a deeper and more meaningful experience of life 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED
you can rely upon deep within yourself. By gaining self-respect, you become less and less dependent on 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
that emotion. By observing this attitude and mood, gaining a little distance from it, you will experience 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
exercises. This is always the first step toward gaining the necessary clarification. At such time, you may 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES
imperfections which you can now observe calmly, while gaining more understanding about them and thus nearing perfection 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS
In such cases, the good foundation you are gaining on the path is lacking. And therefore, when 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures)
a question of preventing the struggling soul from gaining harmful and hindering knowledge, or helping the soul 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures)
in the ultimate sense, let down anyone else. Gaining this truthfulness with the self is, after all 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS
of survival -- or self-preservation -- aims at gaining, maintaining, and improving life. By its very nature 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
first step in growth and the process of gaining maturity is to become aware of emotions you 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION
of having a specific aim, namely that of gaining insights about your inner self in a meaningful 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION
error. However, the unconscious aim and claim for gaining love through success cannot be granted because approval 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
a misconception, and therefore it cannot work. By gaining the one, you do not gain the other 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
the need for approval, at the expense of gaining love, is an unhealthy need. Now, why do 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES
will not weaken you. On the contrary, through gaining deeper, fuller insight and thus coming closer to 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF
amounts to saying, I have no way of gaining understanding about my parents. I tell you, even 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
now. There is no other real way of gaining peace, but there are many false, illusory ways 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT
gain a little distance from yourself. Just by gaining more objectivity, you may become more at home 112 HUMANITYS RELATIONSHIP TO TIME
out of a healthy conviction and inner freedom, gaining sustenance from your inner resources, and using worthy 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF
of you begin to experience the meaning of gaining true independence through giving up childish, limited self-centeredness 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY
one's life, and feels losing ground, rather than gaining, because the old ways of coping can no 125 TRANSITION FROM THE NO-CURRENT TO THE YES-CURRENT
not least, you do it to succeed in gaining affection, love, approval, respect, and acceptance, without which 146 POSITIVE CONCEPT OF LIFE-FEARLESSNESS TO LOVE-BALANCE BETWEEN ACTIVITY AND PASSIVITY
and hidden way -- for the sake of gaining approval from others. You may express this state 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES
you believed just the opposite about your childhood. Gaining this knowledge first intellectually is the necessary preparation 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS
will see, as you grow in stature through gaining selfhood, that more of your real being is 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS
 
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more. Prayer is most constructive if one also gains a bit of insight about one's own inner 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
rejection of the loving parent. The child then gains the impression that the loving parent is weak 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF
which is our vantage point, one person who gains inner truth in the sense of this pathwork 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE
months prove a fruitful time during which the gains of this past year can ripen and come 116 REACHING THE SPIRITUAL CENTER-STRUGGLE BETWEEN LOWER SELF AND SUPERIMPOSED CONSCIENCE
energy become increasingly more vibrant and mobile. Consciousness gains in awareness; energy gains greater creative power to 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
vibrant and mobile. Consciousness gains in awareness; energy gains greater creative power to move and to make 189 SELF-IDENTIFICATION DETERMINED THROUGH STAGES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
be attained without investing effort, realizing that the gains outweigh the investment. The spiritually mature person has 205 ORDER AS A UNIVERSAL PRINCIPLE
for the sake of power or for outer gains in the eyes of others, or out of 210 VISUALIZATION PROCESS FOR GROWING INTO THE UNITIVE STATE
lookout for its own little advantages. These personal gains may be material; they may manifest in pride 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS
meets his own weakness, faces it and thereby gains his real strength. He realizes that his weakness 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
spreads and multiplies, so that the Christ force gains an ever-greater impetus. QUESTION: This lecture seems to 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
more independent he or she becomes. The child gains more experience and therefore more fulfillment. The fully 241 DYNAMICS OF MOVEMENT AND RESISTANCE TO ITS NATURE
 
 Game........................39
not fulfilled your job at all. Play a game, imagine your life depends on presenting a convincing 48 THE LIFE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE
taken for granted. So the individual plays a game, acting as though the possibility of a favorable 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
I can go on pretending. Because of the game, the fallacy of the no as well as 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES
awareness that you, in a sense, played a game and deliberately constructed the false feelings, let us 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE
self in reality -- it is all a game, how to get by most easily with a 164 FURTHER ASPECTS OF POLARITY -- SELFISHNESS
this structure a false, exaggerated hurt -- the game of, See what you have done to me 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL
against the injustices of life, and the masochistic game of harping on one's case against life. Yet 171 SPIRITUAL LAWS
of others. This is only one example. The game itself must be exposed not only to reveal 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
charade out of your life. The role or game you adopt in the illusion that it eliminates 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
more insight you have into the absolutely losing game you play with life when you hold on 176 OVERCOMING NEGATIVITY
succumb to the temptation to play the doom game with life, thus fortifying a negative chain reaction 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
feels as yet unable to relinquish this terrible game he plays with life. But he feels himself 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
embedded misconceptions responsible for wanting to retain this game. But now there is a new hope. The 179 CHAIN REACTIONS IN THE DYNAMICS OF CREATIVE LIFE SUBSTANCE
say, You are doing it to me. The game of making others guilty is so pervasive that 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
the puny, momentary pleasure. Those who play this game truly harm themselves and others, and I strongly 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
aware of your blind involvement in this guilt-shifting game. But how about the victim? How is that 180 THE SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIP
a recipient, leaving you out of the magnificent game of life. This is what really hurts and 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS
While you are involved in the subtle inner game of disassociating yourself from the causes you set 200 THE COSMIC FEELING
the dishonesty, the hiding, the projecting, and the game playing that exist on subtle levels in your 201 DEMAGNETIZING NEGATIVE FORCE FIELDS -- PAIN OF GUILT
the conclusion that human beings are victims. No game is deadlier and more painful. Yet no resistance 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES
devastates you and you exaggerate it, playing a game with yourself. Shame applies to your image, your 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD
without any real cause. Part of the dishonest game may be to aggrandize the suffering in order 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK
distortions of distortions of distortions and make a game of it. I give you this knowledge to 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN
is the positive origin of playing the victim game? ANSWER: The distortion is self-exoneration at the expense 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN
self will no longer get away with its game, because you will meet it with truth. Love 228 BALANCE
no sense at all and has become a game on the part of man, who does not 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
and blame male authority and play the victim game. Similarly, to the degree man does not face 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
guilts, and weaknesses, he will play a power game in one form or another and then resent 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
of losing her autonomy. Both play the same game but hesitate to see how they mutually create 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
He compensates for this by overemphasizing the power game. The woman hides the part in her where 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
apparent justification. The woman will use the victim game; the man will use the blame and superiority 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
the man will use the blame and superiority game. He will blame women for exploiting and using 229 WOMAN AND MAN IN THE NEW AGE
grow out of my obstructions. This is a game, a kind of deliberate but destructive playfulness, which 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
power without grave consequences. There is no such game that does not have a grave effect. The 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
have a grave effect. The power of this game needs to be made conscious. It can apply 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
You then forget that you had started this game in a spirit of superstition or perhaps in 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
superstition of pessimism. What was begun as a game then reinforces the negative belief. The vicious circle 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM
all know on your path how tempting this game appears and how unsatisfactory and constricting it really 240 ASPECTS OF THE ANATOMY OF LOVE: SELF-LOVE, STRUCTURE, FREEDOM
would entail giving up the victim and blame game. It would entail accepting part of the responsibility 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY

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