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| especially when it is forced. So beware of forcibly assuming the states which I am describing here | 36 PRAYER |
| of one, or perhaps both partners -- is forcibly injected into a relationship that is not feasible | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| life. Yet these desirable experiences cannot be stuffed forcibly into a self, if they are to be | 165 EVOLUTIONARY PHASES IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN REALMS OF FEELINGS, REASON, AND WILL |
| would have to produce artificially, laboriously, and through forcibly contorting your very nature. But since you will | 174 SELF-ESTEEM |
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| is always more convincing than words, persuasion, or forcing one's will upon the other, no matter how | 3 CHOOSING YOUR DESTINY -- THE WILL TO CHANGE |
| Again, this kind of detachment cannot come by forcing oneself; it is the natural result of spiritual | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| to love. You can never learn love through forcing yourself, but love will grow and evolve as | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| path. Here, too, nobody can have faith by forcing it; it can only grow organically by self-development | 17 THE CALL -- DAILY REVIEW |
| these attributes. When you gradually understand this without forcing yourself directly to have love or faith, eventually | 25 THE PATH: INITIAL STEPS, PREPARATION, AND DECISIONS |
| certainly healthier to see this clearly instead of forcing it away; in that way it will only | 39 IMAGE-FINDING |
| progress is indirect. You cannot make progress by forcing yourself not to feel disharmony, but you can | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| thing you should overcome -- not necessarily by forcing yourself to do so, although that may help | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| seem possible to eliminate such trends by simply forcing them away. In reality you only cover them | 45 THE CONFLICT BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND UNCONSCIOUS DESIRES |
| cannot succeed. This must indicates not only a forcing of yourself -- and, as you know, emotions | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| therefore it cannot succeed, even apart from the forcing element. But if you want to rid yourself | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| which was withheld from me back then, thereby forcing me into the position of hating and creating | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| inflict hardship on others with the aim of forcing their will and their compulsive childish need to | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| means, by religious theories, theological interpretations -- thereby forcing themselves to live by misunderstood dogma -- they | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| not truly ready to pay the price without forcing yourself, it would not work anyway. But at | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| can jump over the period of growth by forcing your emotions and being impatient with yourself. Remain | 56 CAPACITY TO WISH -- HEALTHY AND UNHEALTHY MOTIVES IN DESIRE |
| yourself into something your feelings cannot yet follow. Forcing it may have a very bad effect in | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| fears and blocks are still unrecognized and unsolved. Forcing will not bring a happy solution. But in | 62 MAN AND WOMAN |
| Therefore, I say, do not force it, for forcing cannot succeed. Rather try to find out whether | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| it cannot be had as long as the forcing current is not dissolved. For the strong and | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| free gift of love as long as the forcing current operates undetected by your consciousness. Thus you | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| do in your frustration, and then of the forcing current in you, you will clearly see that | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| that due to the very existence of this forcing current you cannot help being subjective. You respond | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| which find gratification through the subtle current of forcing others to love you; 2) your subjective outlook | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| they are reluctant to reciprocate, you use the forcing current. In doing so, you refuse to see | 70 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| This urgent need for illusion comes from the forcing current of the child in you who must | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| with them; and then try to find this forcing current in you. You are bound to find | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| degree that you learn to give up your forcing current and become free of a great inner | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| do. Only then can you give up your forcing current and thus your self-created illusions, thereby becoming | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| either openly or subtly as a means of forcing others to comply. I repeat, this is not | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| disappointment. How then, does the absence of this forcing current bring you into reality, and thereby into | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| secure state of happiness and serenity? If the forcing current is absent, you are bound to experience | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you will not fear criticism or disapproval; your forcing current will dissolve. If it is not approval | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| you and further your maturing process. With the forcing current removed, you will see all that. What | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| reality is so bleak precisely because of your forcing current, because of your exaggerated need to have | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| fabricated in daydreams, are the product of the forcing current and of self-centeredness. Only when liberated from | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| around you at any given moment. Without the forcing current, you will not need to dream up | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| are directly connected. We also know that the forcing current reduces your capacity to love. This fact | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| others love you. For all these reasons, the forcing current works strongly, although in very devious and | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| what I am talking about here. Without the forcing current, you will give another person the freedom | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| as you learn to give up your subtle forcing current. You will feel as though a heavy | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| strong, self-willed current of subtly, emotionally, and unconsciously forcing others to submit, you construct unreal situations by | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| people. In not overestimating them, due to your forcing current, you will be able to see, observe | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| in being loved. Letting go of the self-willed forcing current results in your becoming objective in your | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| you consciously consult your intuition, free from the forcing current and free from wishful thinking, you will | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| way a paradox and may not lead to forcing the subconscious, instead of allowing us to realize | 72 THE FEAR OF LOVING |
| of growth that happens without direct volition, without forcing. If you relax and let your mind wander | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| should not and cannot be changed by constantly forcing yourself to occupy your thoughts and mind with | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| person, along with an even stronger self-will or forcing current which you are bound to resist in | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| both sets of feelings is a strong, grasping forcing current, loudly proclaiming, I want! In order to | 74 CONFUSIONS AND HAZY MOTIVATIONS |
| place automatically. You cannot tune in simply by forcing yourself to feel or think something, but you | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| to see this clearly instead of pushing and forcing it away. In that way it will only | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| this current, which I have also called the forcing current. It is based on a fundamental misunderstanding | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| which creates a tight, tense current -- the forcing current. It creates constant struggle, tension, and anxiety | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| moment you must have been free of the forcing current. Your real self and your real feelings | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| that these attitudes are the result of the forcing current. One such attitude is submissiveness. When you | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| to love. In truth, you just use the forcing current in the most blatantly self-centered way. You | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| freely. The stronger the submissiveness, the stronger the forcing current, which expresses your desire to get your | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| in your work. First become aware of the forcing current, the current of I want on the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| become aware and then let go of the forcing current, I want. This work is a path | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| are there any questions? QUESTION: I feel this forcing current in me. I know that I want | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| have them. How can I give up the forcing current? In what way do I work? ANSWER | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| cannot let go of the weapon of your forcing current. I cannot emphasize strongly enough that in | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| know, and even feel, that you have the forcing current in you. You have to find the | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| varies with the same person. One day your forcing current manifests in one way, the next day | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| at the moment to identify it as the forcing current. Only afterward will you see what it | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| say here. Unconsciously, you may think of your forcing current in different terms, so that emotionally my | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| forward-surging motion, with all the impact of the forcing current, and you will fully understand the inevitable | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| as the other extreme of childish craving and forcing. These are the two major distortions of the | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| of your intellectual knowledge all the while, without forcing it on your emotional reaction. Allow both to | 82 THE CONQUEST OF DUALITY SYMBOLIZED IN THE LIFE AND DEATH OF JESUS |
| very impossibility. They try to accomplish it by forcing themselves into states of elation that cannot be | 91 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| you with some advantage, or protection. Instead of forcing it away, rather set out to find in | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| but are only giving up an illusion, a forcing current, a false need. Ultimately you have to | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| could not be wrenched from life through inner forcing anyway. You will understand that by not relinquishing | 94 SIN AND NEUROSIS -- UNIFYING THE INNER SPLIT |
| goodwill. With this comes the urgency of the forcing current. Another reason may be the need to | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| but to acknowledge all emotions of pressure, impatience, forcing, intolerance, hurry, and learn from them. Why are | 96 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS; COMMENTS ON LAZINESS AS SYMPTOM OF SELF-ALIENATION |
| unrealistic fear, and a forceful will -- the forcing current -- play a role in establishing this | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| pseudo-solutions, your life problems, and so on. The forcing current comes from your strong repressed needs, all | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| of your feelings. It is a measure of forcing another. So observe this, my friends. All of | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| these misunderstandings and superficial interpretations. In this case, forcing and guilt make love and honor into something | 99 FALSIFIED IMPRESSIONS OF PARENTS: THEIR CAUSE AND CURE |
| the desired way and without guilt, without any forcing current, and fully accept yourself as you are | 101 THE DEFENSE |
| have some of it. Where there is a forcing current and a driving need, there is lust | 102 THE SEVEN CARDINAL SINS |
| a slightly different version. Thus you fluctuate between forcing on someone an overpowering love current that cannot | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| You know very well you cannot love by forcing yourself. You may believe you do, when in | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| But that is not getting rid of anything. Forcing leads only to self-deception and illusion. By letting | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| be reborn into your real self. Cutting out, forcing, disciplinary action, slaying, are all forms of resisting | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| it simultaneously cripples free decision and self-responsibility by forcing man to obey certain prescribed rules. Between these | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| strengthen your self-pity. Thus you subtly exert a forcing current upon the world. Furthermore, depression is unhealthy | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| until you bring about its dissolution: not by forcing away what you feel, but by first calmly | 106 SADNESS VERSUS DEPRESSION -- RELATIONSHIP |
| and understanding that the two alternatives of either forcing love or withdrawing from your natural feelings are | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| fear and threat. Their remedy is a strong forcing current. Needless to say, this remedy is unproductive | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| say, this remedy is unproductive, even destructive. The forcing current prohibits a free giving of love. In | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| conflict with one another. The demands and the forcing current frighten away the other person, even if | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| worth or lack of it. The subsequent powerful forcing current, employed to dispel the dreaded worthlessness, becomes | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| balanced position. Out of the overactivity of the forcing current, the wild struggling, a serenity is generated | 107 THREE ASPECTS THAT PREVENT LOVING |
| say so, or because some spiritual law prohibits forcing. Obeying an authority or a law is not | 109 SPIRITUAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH THROUGH RESTITUTION FOR REAL GUILT |
| observe yourself and perhaps, little by little, without forcing yourself, you will reveal more than you thought | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| wholeness. If the world spirit is truly mature, forcing still immature aspects of itself into submission would | 120 THE INDIVIDUAL AND HUMANITY |
| in wishful thinking and persisting in applying a forcing current because you do not wish to give | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| you looked at it, it would act up, forcing you into actions you have no way of | 128 LIMITATIONS CREATED THROUGH ILLUSORY ALTERNATIVES |
| elimination. People struggle by denial and flight, by forcing away and superimposing, as you all know. But | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| find yourself in. Outer pressure -- tension and forcing currents -- have not accomplished anything. So try | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| can we fight it? ANSWER: Fighting implies a forcing away by suppression, and this is not real | 141 RETURN TO THE ORIGINAL LEVEL OF PERFECTION |
| energy and debilitates you. Can you imagine yourself forcing with all your might, and with sheer outer | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| to overcome the no of this wall. Such forcing will remove you further from your real self | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| the desire to punish or to use the forcing current that says, If I am sufficiently unhappy | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| to abandon destructiveness. For one cannot succeed by forcing it away with the surface will, without a | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| way to eliminate the weakness is not by forcing the destructive feelings away. This cannot succeed. One | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| science of atoms, a revolutionary reorientation has begun, forcing human beings into recognizing that power is not | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| of an abstraction and contained the threat of forcing upon individuals certain actions that went against their | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| punitive, anxious, and pressing mind force -- a forcing current directed to your own unconscious. The forcing | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| forcing current directed to your own unconscious. The forcing results--sometimes alternately but often simultaneously -- in excessive | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| involved. Other people retract from this onslaught of forcing that says, as it were, You must, just | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| the artificial concept of life that accompany this forcing create self-perpetuating patterns, with many negative ramifications. On | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| try to become good by denying evil, by forcing yourself to be what you cannot yet be | 184 THE MEANING OF EVIL AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| fearful, small, controlling mind. When you substitute a forcing current -- I must not experience that and | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| the subtly forced hopelessness that results from a forcing current. The forcing current is a manipulative process | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| hopelessness that results from a forcing current. The forcing current is a manipulative process that expresses into | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| of the disunified, fearful being, who issues a forcing current into the world saying, I must not | 191 INNER AND OUTER EXPERIENCE |
| your limitations of will and let go the forcing current of your over-active will. Such redirection of | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| childhood. It is now your inner insistence on forcing your bad parents to become good parents out | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| unbearable, twisted, bitter pain that stems from a forcing current that says, in effect, Don't do this | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| without a must, or whether it contains the forcing current can be easily ascertained in yourself, and | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| surface, as it is when a strong, pushy, forcing current exists, but it is still there, hidden | 206 DESIRE: CREATIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE |
| with your spiritual self -- without untimely, compulsive forcing, but in a natural process. You will free | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| it is so badly that you create a forcing current which prohibits fulfillment because its tension and | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| people that they must let go of their forcing current seems to imply resignation to emptiness, suffering | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| must be no hard knots. Selfwill, anxiety, insistence, forcing currents and distrust create an energetic climate that | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| observe that the inner pressure of the subtle forcing current which says, You must love me, creates | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| instance humanity's conflict is between either using a forcing current, or resignedly accepting a negative state, becoming | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| you partially put into the service of the forcing current, then for a long time you may | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| the universe when your condition is a cramped, forcing, hopeless, negative one. Nor is the attitude of | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| on your part. Love and must are antithetical. Forcing does not allow freedom to the other, whereas | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| out of your own volition. Even if my forcing could affect you, I would not want it | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| be acted out. Not letting go implies a forcing current; forcing, no matter how concealed, amounts to | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| out. Not letting go implies a forcing current; forcing, no matter how concealed, amounts to stealing, because | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| said before that every kind of pushing, domineering, forcing, or manipulating amounts to cheating. The translation of | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| deserving of riches. The energetic form of the forcing, holding attitude is that of a tight prison | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| let go of what you acquired through this forcing attitude of selfwill and pressure. This means you | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| You must consciously desire this understanding without directly forcing it, knowing that it is a possibility that | 228 BALANCE |
| organically become. If you recognize the model without forcing yourself, you accept your human state. You know | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |
| without self-pressure, without self-moralizing, without discouragement. All these forcing attitudes are destructive and erroneous. The attempt to | 251 THE EVOLUTION AND SPIRITUAL MEANING OF MARRIAGE -- NEW AGE MARRIAGE |