| Failing.....................11 | |
| disappointment. The error, the wrong conclusion lies in failing to realize that by building these defenses you | 40 MORE ON IMAGE-FINDING: A SUMMARY |
| giving up the self is a very common failing, it is a frequent cause of sickness. But | 47 THE WALL WITHIN |
| a supposed sin, or even for a real failing. Neither imaginary sins nor real failings can be | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| do not want to let go of the failing. You will inevitably find that the failing is | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the failing. You will inevitably find that the failing is thought to be a defense against your | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| to punish or exert a healthy authority. This failing is due to guilt because real, giving, warming | 73 COMPULSION TO RECREATE AND OVERCOME CHILDHOOD HURTS |
| so advanced; if I could see an ordinary, failing human being work that way, that would convince | 76 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS (Compiled from Private Sessions and Earlier Lectures) |
| the seekers for power take pride in never failing in anything. In certain combinations of the pseudo- | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| your parents failed -- for they themselves are failing human beings -- they cannot be held responsible | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| failed you in the past and are still failing you in the present. Then you have no | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| reality, you produce neurosis as a result of failing to establish the connection with the inner self | 216 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE INCARNATORY PROCESS AND THE LIFE TASK |
| Failings....................13 | |
| one generation to another. He knew that human failings are still much too great not to let | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| church-organization which alone should be immune to human failings and thus to the influence of the powers | 23 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a real failing. Neither imaginary sins nor real failings can be atoned for by the artificial and | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| know by now, the way to eliminate real failings is very different and much more constructive. If | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| frustrated because of your own or other people's failings, you can accept it in a relaxed way | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| appropriately to your own humanness with all its failings, you build on a rock. When you deny | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| tolerance and lack of anxiety about your own failings and those of others. As you develop this | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| inner disturbance. To atone for having common human failings, such as impatience or irritation, parents may overindulge | 117 SHAME: A LEGACY OF CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES, EVEN FAVORABLE ONES |
| easy to accept the other person's shortcomings or failings. Otherwise you would not be involved in situations | 148 POSITIVITY AND NEGATIVITY: ONE ENERGY CURRENT |
| sin, because you punish others for your own failings, for your own negative intentions, lovelessness, untruthfulness, spite | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| that. Or you may even use others' real failings as excuses to punish them for not living | 202 PSYCHIC INTERACTION OF NEGATIVITY |
| counter-movement had taken over in which human beings' failings, poverty, illness, and insanity were chalked up against | 211 OUTER EVENTS REFLECT SELF-CREATION -- THREE STAGES |
| to the opposite extreme of whitewashing your actual failings and faults, those areas which you need to | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| Failure.....................84 | |
| and thus to happiness. When personal success or failure does not grip you inside -- and both | 13 POSITIVE THINKING: THE RIGHT AND THE WRONG KIND |
| Due to his loss of memory and his failure to believe what he is being told, the | 18 FREE WILL |
| this one respect. Needless to say, according to failure or success of the life plan--whether the spirit | 34 PREPARATION FOR REINCARNATION |
| them. QUESTION: In other words, one's expectation of failure or success in an undertaking has no bearing | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| it comes. And you will have success and failure. Life should bring both, and you will be | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| to have the proper attitude to guard against failure or disappointment, it is an indication that failure | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| failure or disappointment, it is an indication that failure and disappointment are greatly feared. And if you | 49 OBSTACLES ON THE PATH: OLD STUFF, WRONG GUILT, AND WHO, ME? |
| these standards, you feel disproportionately dejected. With each failure to satisfy the compulsive conscience, you feel more | 50 THE VICIOUS CIRCLE |
| holding up the unrealizable goal, so that each failure causes additional despair and guilt, increasing the feelings | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| want to assume the entire blame for the failure and so blames his or her surroundings. So | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| through in reality would increase your feelings of failure and guilt. This, in turn, would lead to | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| particular philosophy and hold it responsible for their failure and unhappiness. At first such a person embraces | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| often one feels guilty about a common human failure or fault. Upon further analysis you will find | 65 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| try to avoid the shame and exposure, the failure and grief by sabotaging the success at the | 75 THE GREAT TRANSITION IN HUMAN DEVELOPMENT FROM ISOLATION TO UNION |
| succeeding and unconsciously you labor to hide the failure from yourself. Thus a current is set up | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| from life, or antagonism against it, due to failure to understand life's real meaning. Resisting evil means | 78 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| misunderstanding is not the only reason for the failure of various religions to come together. If this | 80 COOPERATION, COMMUNICATION, UNION |
| whipping yourself, castigating yourself, and feeling a complete failure whenever it is proven that you cannot live | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| try to hide your reactions to your own failure, you use special means to avoid seeing it | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| common devices is to project the blame for failure into the outer world, onto others, onto life | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| whole life is permeated with a sense of failure, while the former type experiences it only on | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| am not my idealized self. A sense of failure, frustration, and compulsion, as well as guilt and | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| it can cause disease, accident, loss, and outer failure in many ways. When you make the very | 83 THE IDEALIZED SELF-IMAGE |
| cannot live up to this ideal self. Such failure throws the person into fits of depression and | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| anything. Contrary to the submissive types who glorify failure, because it proves their helplessness and forces others | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| anything. In certain combinations of the pseudo- solutions failure may be permitted because in some specific area | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| not faultlessly, not by being free of all failure, not excluding the possibility of making mistakes. But | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| to find what you experience as defeat, humiliation, failure. Search in this direction, my friends. For once | 85 DISTORTIONS OF THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION |
| to abuse and it is equally doomed to failure. People choose this solution in the unconscious belief | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| may unconsciously sabotage yourself and then project your failure on others. Such failure actually results from withholding | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| and then project your failure on others. Such failure actually results from withholding outgoing forces and being | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| means, is a venture bound to end in failure, for it is unrealistic. It is just as | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| the victory turns sour on you by its failure to solve your problems, by leaving you still | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| be. On the other hand, disapproval, criticism, or failure are also final. Now, the world is all | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| you will not fear criticism, nor frustration, nor failure as if they were a plague against which | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| perfectionistic standards prohibit making mistakes, receiving criticism, experiencing failure. They point to your fallibility, which you do | 90 MORALIZING -- DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS -- NEEDS |
| resulting in repression, discontent, anxiety, a sense of failure, and self-contempt. This is often projected onto others | 92 REPRESSED NEEDS - RELINQUISHING BLIND NEEDS - PRIMARY AND SECONDARY REACTIONS |
| accounts for the often disproportionate pain of a failure, a rejection, or lack of success in a | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| to schedule, so to speak. Your fear of failure is not so acute because of the failure | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| failure is not so acute because of the failure itself, but because it implies that you have | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| not so great because of laziness, but because failure to fulfill implies your inferiority. Fear of frustration | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| a much more subtle inner strain. Rejection or failure may subjectively constitute imperfection of which you are | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| long time, but anyway I now faced my failure and was at first very unhappy about it | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| there is a great exaggeration about such complete failure of everything you wanted. There are things you | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| you attained, so that you are not a failure there. You see only what you wanted and | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| unhealthy motivations contributed to the unfulfillment, or the failure. You chose the goal out of partly unhealthy | 97 PERFECTIONISM OBSTRUCTS HAPPINESS -- MANIPULATION OF EMOTIONS |
| The harm of daydreams, then, is in your failure to take advantage of the benefits they could | 98 WISHFUL DAYDREAMS |
| must understand everything. You cannot fail because your failure would affect me. The self-indulgent, lazy self-pity of | 100 MEETING THE PAIN OF DESTRUCTIVE PATTERNS |
| loving, because this is often responsible for the failure of relationships that you would want to work | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| be stymied in your efforts, and will experience failure and frustration. Often you may erroneously believe that | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| Often you may erroneously believe that such a failure comes about for moral reasons, but it does | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| common denominators. There is fear of exposure to failure and inadequacy, in other words pride. There is | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| if you love. Therefore you need not fear failure. If you did not fear failure so much | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| not fear failure. If you did not fear failure so much, life would not become so difficult | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| It is often the inherent, unconscious terror of failure that makes life so arduous. So here we | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| are not the same. Self-alienation comes from the failure of identification with the self. In other words | 113 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SELF |
| early childhood fixations of the pleasure principle, its failure to develop, and the effects this lack of | 119 MOVEMENT, CONSCIOUSNESS, EXPERIENCE: PLEASURE, THE ESSENCE OF LIFE |
| feels that his responsibilities are heavier, that his failure to be successful is much more indicative of | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| successful is much more indicative of his personal failure and that more is expected of him. Women | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| of relinquishing too tight a control and the failure to use those controls and powers you have | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| attaining a full, rich life. The imbalance this failure creates induces rigidity where flexibility should exist, as | 134 THE CONCEPT OF EVIL |
| This struggle causes more tension, anxiety, sense of failure and fear of defeat. But the exhaustion of | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| make this specific choice. The wasted energy produces failure and disappointment when you give in to the | 137 BALANCE OF INNER AND OUTER CONTROL |
| situation is not fully understood must result in failure and frustration. How can the present situation be | 139 DEADENING OF THE LIVE CENTER THROUGH MISINTERPRETATION OF REALITY |
| fields of one's life experience denote not only failure, but pressure, difficulty, wrong timing, and frustration. Things | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| they tend to blame themselves alone for the failure of a relationship. Since they experience only their | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| they count, they cannot share the brunt of failure when the relationship does not work. Nor can | 142 THE LONGING FOR AND THE FEAR OF HAPPINESS -- THE FEAR OF RELEASING THE LITTLE EGO |
| beyond your actual control and therefore doomed to failure. This futile struggle hardens your psychic material. The | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| and truth. It means more than denial and failure to ascertain an inner state. Even this failure | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| failure to ascertain an inner state. Even this failure to ascertain may be subtle, for a state | 147 THE NATURE OF LIFE AND HUMAN NATURE |
| to everyday accomplishments. The often experienced fear of failure results from fearing success. Success seems as vaguely | 149 COSMIC PULL TOWARD UNION -- FRUSTRATION |
| are bliss. It does not matter whether the failure to like oneself is based on valid or | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| chain reaction. The real human sickness is the failure to use your full potential to create good | 172 THE LIFE ENERGY CENTERS |
| necessary for the preservation of the ego. But failure in the relationship always indicates that the self | 185 MUTUALITY: A COSMIC PRINCIPLE AND LAW |
| cannot even want it, for the conviction of failure would drive home the powerlessness of the ego | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| energy to push others aside or withdraw into failure and passivity. Disconnectedness between cause and effect, that | 196 COMMITMENT: CAUSE AND EFFECT |
| trial and error, and the ability to convert failure into success. It means perseverance, patience, faith. It | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| the oneness of all in the universe. Your failure to distinguish between what is real and what | 200 THE COSMIC FEELING |
| from self, an avoidance of personal purification, a failure of fulfilling the task of incarnation. You are | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| having it. I was afraid not only of failure, but the meaning of failure. Is it something | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| not only of failure, but the meaning of failure. Is it something that I was not meant | 236 THE SUPERSTITION OF PESSIMISM |
| is obvious. The general fear of admitting the failure is as irrational and distorted as your fear | 247 THE MASS IMAGES OF JUDAISM AND CHRISTIANITY |
| or later you resent your helper for this failure. No matter how much you may have battled | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| as much as pain, success as much as failure. Out of this reverse unity a real unity | 253 CONTINUE YOUR STRUGGLE AND CEASE ALL STRUGGLE |